I'm back in doubt city once again, I might as well say for the record. In that in-between land - admitting there's a problem, but not entirely convinced that AA attendance is the vehicle to help me deal with the job. Hold on there though people ... am trying to keep that open mind's door ajar. I just need to express the difficulty in that. Have been to a few meetings this week -and realised that I need to get this whole recovery business a lot more balanced. I tend to OD on recovery stuff and maybe I'm AAing myself a bit too much right now. Hence the MWO balancing act, and my presence here.
Firstly, I wanted to pick up on R2C's question about IDing as an alcoholic. In my understanding, it's designed to deal with the startling amnesia that people with addictions have a great abundance of. I thought this quote might be pertinent, talks about the "problem" - hence the labeling of ourselves as A's:
"Clearly, to uncover from addiction, we need to to acknowledge or admit we have a problem. The purpose of admitting powerlessness is to send shock waves to our ego or old survivor. "I've got a problem. Get it? The old ways aren't working anymore - they could kill us." When a person's life has been under siege from an addiction, they need a sharp, clear, stinging reminder that they have lost control and that their addiction is messing up their life." From: Many Roads, One Journey - Charlotte Davis Kasl
I'm very much with that line of thought right now. There's a bloody huge problem - and I guess many people stick with AA so that they never lose sight of that. For me, right now, that's okay - I have clarity about why I'm going to AA - for that recovery community (like here). But the old issues are rearing their heads and hope it's okay for me to air them here. Don't want to rock anyone's boat though, so tell me if I'm getting in the way of your smooth AA ride. I've come away from meetings this week with irritations. Annoyed with people treating the big book like it's the bible. Bothered by the globalising language and perennially irked by tired cliches. I respect that AA saves people from addiction and given the choice between addiction/death and an AA meeting, well clearly it's healthier to be bored at a meeting than out there knocking back the wine/vodka/insert your own poison. I might add that I have actually managed a few laughs at meetings this week.
Maybe it's not okay to air this here, but one of the things that I need to deal with is my non-conformity - it is both my strength (critical thinking) and my weakness (self-sabotage/over-intellectualizing). Cruising alongside that is my resistance. So this is what I'm thinking: I'll hang in there at AA for a while - I'll listen and try to stop playing psychologist - but I do dislike my identity being reduced to just an alcoholic/addict - even though I see that (as above) it's necessary I don't FORGET "the problem". Have to say it guys. You can eject me from the thread if I'm out of line, I don't want to stir the dust or offend anyone. I'll balance some of what I've said by including a few AA positives: 1) A place to go with people who share the same, or similar, problems 2) a minutes silence - an example of beautiful compassion at work for the alc/addicts still out there in active addiction and 3) they have a beautiful serenity prayer that actually helps.
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