AF Daily - Friday 2 Oct

[Pamina]

Good morning from sunny London

I decided to start the thread just because I can! I'm in an early time zone, it's bright and breezy, and I've resolved a conundrum of the past few days.

Perhaps some of you remember my wobble a few months back when an ex-BF wanted to meet up and I said no. Well, I found out on Monday that he'd been found dead in his hotel bed while on a work assignment abroad. This is after I'd just been to my uncle's funeral the previous Friday. Needless to say, the next few days were an emotional rollercoaster. I'm sure it's not over yet, but I've somehow managed to put it in a box so I can get on with living in the here and now. My immediate concern was whether to attend his funeral or not. He's of a different ethnicity and culture so the traditions would be unfamiliar to me, and I only know a few of the family members. The main issue, though, is that I've no longer been a part of his life, by choice, and, even now, I don't want to go back and revisit a situation that would bring up ambiguity and pain. So I'm not going and relieved to have reached that decision.

Instead, I'll immerse myself in the life that buzzes in London.

Wishing you all a peaceful weekend with sturdy AF plans in place.

[universal]

AF Daily - Friday 2 Oct

Oh Pamina,

I am sorry to hear that. Be careful of putting your feelings in a "box" though - the lids on those things have a way of opening when you least want or expect them to and flood you with emotion. You will have to allow yourself to grieve and deal with the emotions and feelings so that you can move past them. It's hard to open yourself up to what you know will be painful but it's the best way to heal and move on healthy.

Aberoos! Day 13 here - doing good, feeling strong. Fairly good day planned today and tomorrow - nice and relaxing day planned Sunday so I am happy - looing forward to a little bit of me time. Hot bath and a book. Watched a bit of tv last night - I am learning how to have a little bit of me time at the end of each day which is good - I am feeling better for it.

Hope everyone else is doing well! OH, and the word at work is that I got the promotion - I should hear on Monday - keep your fingers crossed.........

Love and hugs,
Uni

[Marshy]

AF Daily - Friday 2 Oct

Flying in, flying out. Or zoom, zoom as some might say...

Pamina - good to see you back in lovely London. God, you've had so many deaths to cope with... I'm glad you've reached a decision you're happy with about the funeral.

Uni - good luck with the promotion!

I'm doing well. Preoccupied with all sorts of things at the mo but trying to find ways and the courage to move forward.

Have a good day all.

[greeneyes]

AF Daily - Friday 2 Oct

Abberoooooossss!!!

Well, it appears that if I don't get to the stuff on my desk, it doesn't get done. Arent there elves or something that are supposed to finish up in the night? Ugh. Well it always seems bigger than it really is. "Git 'er done!"

PAmina, I agree with Uni on the box thing. That comment should be flagged. Really. I look out my kitchen window and there is a little statue of pandora. People think it's sort of odd, and it is when I dress her up, which scares the dog, but they don't see the box that is behind her (it's part of the statue) Pandora's box reminds me to not put stuff in there. Just keep airing it out. Box it up at night and sleep, but open it and sort it out. :l

Uni- 2 wekeies tomorrow!!! and a new jobbie! Woo Hooo!

Zoom zoom marshy!

Hey to everyone!

[Mstall]

AF Daily - Friday 2 Oct

Morning Pamina, Uni, Marshy and all to follow.

Pamina - i am sorry for your losses. I agree on stuffing those feelings in a "box". Sometimes it's best to just feel through them and then let them go. Big hug to you (((P)))

Uni - 13 days!! You sound marvelous!

Marshy - sending you some courage vibes! hope you can feel them.

one last busy work day and then i'm going to be selfish this weekend and do what I NEED to do. AA meeting, bath, do my nails, I need a couple days to take care of me instead of everything else. Feeling frazzled lately.

Have a great sober weekend all!

[Mstall]

AF Daily - Friday 2 Oct

Doh! Cross - posted again!

morning Greenie, i seem to be following you around this morning.

[AAthlete]

AF Daily - Friday 2 Oct

Pamina, thank you for posting here about how you were feeling about the whole situation. I often find it hard to talk about tough things as well, but usually find that if I can open the gate just a little bit the rest takes care of itself. Just stay mindful of how and what you are feeling, okay?

Happy Friday to everyone, and Greenie I can guarantee you that there aren't any work elves that come out at night - I feel like I'm bailing water out of a leaky canoe!! Nothing big on my side today to report, just trying to enjoy life and all it has to offer. It's funny to look back to the beginning of the week when I felt so off, as know I feel completely the opposite - fully focused and working out everyday. Just goes to show you that the old saying 'Rome wasn't built in a day' is true and that we can't expect miracles overnight. God, I feel like a freaking cliche machine this morning!

Have a great Friday everyone.

[Lavande]

AF Daily - Friday 2 Oct

Good Friday morning Abbers!

Waking up to an overcast, cool morning with rain coming later - oh well, at least it's Friday!!

Pam, glad you are back home! Focus on yourself now, take care of you, OK?

Congrats Uni, hitting 2 weeks tomorrow - nice! Feels great, doesn't it?? And congrats on the promotion too

Marshy, you sound busy! Keep moving forward friend!

Greenie, I have several small gargoyles in and near my kitchen (where I seem to spend most of my time). I count on them to scare off any & all demons

Mstall, enjoy your selfish weekend! Sounds good & perfectly justified to me

I have lots to do myself today, some work stuff this morning, then gathering what I need for a birthday celebration for Mr Lav on Sunday. Busy, busy

Have a great AF day everyone!
Lav

[Lavande]

AF Daily - Friday 2 Oct

Hi to AA,
We cross-posted again

[AAthlete]

AF Daily - Friday 2 Oct

And a very good morning to you Lavande!

[Preciouspinot]

AF Daily - Friday 2 Oct

Have a great day everyone!

[LVT25]

AF Daily - Friday 2 Oct

Hello friends!

A quick check in today to wish everyone a great sober weekend. Pamina, I'm so sorry to hear of all the sad stuff piling up on you. I think I know how you feel, as I went through similar situations with a couple of friends, my father in law, and then my parents. When I look back, my drinking escalated during that time, so I'm proud of you for recognizing your emotions and working through them without al!

I gave myself the day off yesterday to work around the house. Got quite a bit done, but still have a boat load of tomatoes to can. Sunday is the race in Denver, and my guys are going to the Broncos vs Cowboys game--if the tickets weren't so darn much I'd join them. Well, we'll see. I think it will be nice for them to do this as a father-son activity.

I've been wondering about our peeps that haven't checked in for awhile...you know who you are.....if you're lurking...pop in and say hi would ya!:H

Cindi--special prayers for you.

Everybody else.....take care! :h

[Raven.joy]

AF Daily - Friday 2 Oct

just feels good to still be sober.

[Doggygirl]

AF Daily - Friday 2 Oct

Hi AbLanders - it's always so good to come here knowing this thread and all of you will be here to share the journey. My heart goes out to everyone who is struggling today with AL or with other aspects of life. And as always, some big :yougo::yougo::yougo: to celebrate all of our collective sober days and other happy things going on!

I got some sad news earlier today that has me feeling down. I found out that my "step coach" from AA who helped me a great deal between sponsors has less than a year to live, according to the doctors. He recently found out he has lung cancer and it's hard to believe how quickly things went from "normal" to diagnosis to tragic prognosis. I am grateful that he has been part of my recovery, and I hope he finds some way to make the most of each day he has left - however many that might be. I hope all us can keep sight of the idea of making the most of each day. We never know.

I always love to post when I'm feeling on top of the world, but sometimes have trouble just posting honestly when I'm feeling blue. That is something I'm working on and I thank you for listening.

One thing is for sure. Drinking would not help any of this. Neither would smoking. (yes, he is a many years heavy smoker) I'm grateful to be alcohol and nicotine free today.

DG

[greeneyes]

AF Daily - Friday 2 Oct

Yeah, DG.. You know how important it is to be "up" but sometimes it's everything to put one foot in front of the other. But we can't grab your hand and pull you along unless it is outstretched. I'm worried sick for our good friend. My arm is heavy to hold up my hand.