AF Daily - Thurs., Oct. 8

[Lavande]

AF Daily - Thurs., Oct. 8

Hey congrats on the promotion Uni, I'm very happy for you

DG, I made French Vegetable Soup au Pistou today.......yum, it hit the spot!!!!

Chief, hope you are doing OK..........please check in.

LVT, nothing wrong with a little quality 'alone' time.........sounds good to me

Have a good evening everyone!
Lav

[Sarasmiles]

AF Daily - Thurs., Oct. 8

Congrats, Uni!! Great to hear! :yay:

I had a weird evening...Couple's therapy, which was okay, and then out to dinner with my husband. It was the first time we'd been to a restaurant since I went AF. (I know, that's a little pathetic, but we're on a budget, and we have three young kids.) Anyway, I actually felt both sad and scared not having a drink. I had this weird thought, "am I ever going to have fun with my husband again?" It just wasn't fun. I know that we'll find new ways to have fun together, and that if we have to drink to have fun, that's a huge problem. But I was saddened and scared by the thought. He didn't order a drink, either, which I guess I should be grateful to him for, since he clearly abstained in solidarity with me. But again, it felt weird...As if I was somehow bringing us both down, with my choice. As if I was the party-pooper, you know?

Of course, now that I'm home, I'm very glad not to have had a drink. I will rest and sleep and recognize that tonight was just a step in a long journey.

Nighty-night, Abbers! :l

[greeneyes]

AF Daily - Thurs., Oct. 8

Oh sara...... I know that feeling. Hugs to you hun.

[Lovelygirl...]

AF Daily - Thurs., Oct. 8

Hello all...I am almost on my 7th day day.
At first, it was easier..after the 3rd day I whiteknuckeled it...I'm on 6 days now.

[Determinator]

AF Daily - Thurs., Oct. 8

Late night check-in for garlic breath. at my hotel room happily AF

big welcome to Lovelygirl and huge kudos on 7 days of AFreedom!

Hiddengoal, nice to see you back here.

Sara, I can also relate quite well to your fears. i recall sitting to dinner with my loverly Dx at a restaurant with this feeling of bleakness that I had trouble shaking. here's the key: it DOES pass and then it's fun and games as usual...no...BETTER than usual. less anxiety, doubts etc. it may take another month or two but it will start to 'click' I promise

be well everyone

[redhibiscus]

AF Daily - Thurs., Oct. 8

Sara, I also have been adjusting to going to restaurants with my hubby and not drinking. I am in the early stages of AF, 18 days AF, two slips since 8/27/09. We have big discussion about where it is safe to go. During one of my slips we went for pizza and I included wine. Big mistake.

However, last weekend we went to Chili's, (they have a $20 deal and we are also watching our money) and we had a good time AF. Lots of circuses there, we sat in the bar, lots of TVs, noise, etc. And we giggled and laughed like we hadn't in such a long time. Sitting in the bar was not a big deal as while looking around, tons of people were not drinking alcohol, although some were. Anyways, it is hard and awkward in the beginning, but how nice of your husband to be AF with you.
:goodjob:
We can do this, I think it is just making up our minds, planning where to go, and then getting used to being AF.