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    AF Daily - Wednesday October 21

    So...um...WHERE IS EVERYONE???? I hope I did not scare you all away with that talk yesterday of toughness and bruising Deter, which I was totally only kidding about!

    I am unhung today and I hope you are too!

    It's a gorgeous day here - the sun is out for the most part and it is supposed to get to near 70!! I think this qualifies for Indian Summer. We may only get this one day of it, so I definitely don't want to stay inside all day! I want to get Mr. Doggy and Cooper the Pooper out for a walk and get some pictures. He is growing up so fast. He's not getting the potty training thing nearly as fast as his paws are getting huge.

    Here is a little video of Cooper doing some puppy foundation work with our trainer who is also his breeder last weekend. The trainer's wife is handling and Mr. Doggy is doing the video from his phone. Normally Mr. Doggy would be handling. With little bitty puppies it's all about prey drive and building their confidence that they can "win" the toy and keep it as long as they hang on to it. And the reason the trainer and handler are touching him some is so he learns that he can keep the toy as long as he hangs onto it - they won't take it - they are no threat to him and his prey toy. There really is a lot going on in this little game - that's just a summary. I find the training process facinating. They are JOKING about Mr. Doggy starving the puppy!!! They just told Gary to up his food a little but you can see how nutty these guys get. Anyway...here goes. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eK_993Eo7gQ[/video]]YouTube - Cooper

    I'm grateful to be sober today and just be enjoying the small stuff of life. A nice day weather wise. A cute puppy. A workout. Life is good without AL - and there will be NO AL in my life today. I have to go to a business networking event at a bar tonight. I'm not worried - I have a plan which is:

    1. Go to an AA meeting before hand
    2. Eat before hand
    3. I know what I will be drinking - water with lemon and then probably some coffee later on.
    4. Mr. Doggy and I are driving separately so I can leave early if the bar environment starts to get on my nerves.

    I still make a little plan for these things even after being sober over a year. It's like my security blanket. Once I spend just a few minutes thinking it through, I KNOW I won't drink. And that puts a smile on my face. Much better than being nervous or dreading it all day.

    Have a rockin' AF day everyone!

    DG

    ETA: From yesterday's thread... Maslow, good to hear you had a nice time with your kids. I'm sure it was a bit sad when the time was over. BUT - I think you are wise indeed to focus on the positive. I have something I call my "gratitude list" and I try to remember to write something in it every day. Even on the worst days, there is a little something to be grateful for. That helps me stay focused on the positive, which helps me stay sober. For whatever it's worth!!
    Sobriety Date = 5/22/08
    Nicotine Free Date = 2/27/07


    One day at a time.

    #2
    AF Daily - Wednesday October 21

    I'm still wierd. GF wants to go to fair. She has new BF. They don't do rides. r2d2 wants to go but can I handle that? Do I have the energy? do I have the money? Or will it perk me up and be worth it. So I sit on the fence and is starting to leave poke marks on my arse.
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    Thoughts become things..... choose the good ones. ~TUT

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      #3
      AF Daily - Wednesday October 21

      Greenie. You have no idea how "in" the tutu is for the season. And this, straight from Paris!! Getty Images - Unsupported browser detected The HEIGHT of fashion I tell you!!! (where are your sequins???)

      Anyway... is r2d2 = the non-rockstar formerly known as EO?

      DG
      Sobriety Date = 5/22/08
      Nicotine Free Date = 2/27/07


      One day at a time.

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        #4
        AF Daily - Wednesday October 21

        Doggygirl;740952 wrote: So...um...WHERE IS EVERYONE????
        Workin'

        It has been very quiet in these parts lately.

        Just popping in - now home and trying to cook dinner. Will watch Coop the Poop later.

        Greenie - why do they want to go to the fair if they don't like rides? What else is there? Shooting galleries, I spose. Candyfloss?

        Hmm. Gonna work on my avatar pic... looks nothing like me!
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        Real change is difficult, and slow, and messy - Oliver Burkeman

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          #5
          AF Daily - Wednesday October 21

          Thanks DG. I still miss my kids immensely, but I will see them soon. Life can be a real ______. I appreciate the support. I have a "consequence list" which helps me during tough times. I think I will start a grateful list as well. You rock.

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            #6
            AF Daily - Wednesday October 21

            DG, did you miss my flower blosom tu-tu? and the raindrop? Wait till you see the next one.

            MArshy ,,, It's the FOOD THE FOOD!!!!
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              #7
              AF Daily - Wednesday October 21

              Wednesday was abit hard for me, I was abit grumpy, its draining making goals, my mind hasn't been thinking this much for ages. I get a urge about an hour before I know I will drive past a bottleO, I noticed that I drive past without even looking at them this week, I guess I know that's a trigger, and was a previous plan.
              Wednesday = day 3 AF for me, whoohoo. Sleeping ok, feeling good in the mornings, drinking loads of water and tea.
              This goal for me has major strings attached, it's connected to another goal and another etc.., and quite franky, I really don't have an option to fail. So, although I feel mentally drained from making plans towards a positive life, I feel good that it's started.

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                #8
                AF Daily - Wednesday October 21

                :goodjob: Leelou - getting past the booze shops can be hard work. It's good that you're sleeping, that's often a problem for people going AF - it certainly was for me. Drove me nuts for the first week!

                Greenie - so did you go/going later? What's on the menu?

                DG - cute little Cooper!
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                Real change is difficult, and slow, and messy - Oliver Burkeman

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                  #9
                  AF Daily - Wednesday October 21

                  Well, after 77 days I decided to see whether I could moderate. As I write this I am cogniscant that that very phrase is loaded with implication. For 74 of the 77 days I did not think at all about alcohol, in my case wine. on reflection the thinking about it occurred in relation to attending a weekend course that I had doubts about.

                  I did not drink on that weekend but for some reason it awoke the thinking about it. It was five days later that I actually had a drink of wine. It's now just under two weeks and I am amazed at how easy it is to slip back into the old patterns. I am well aware of course in reading around this site that it is a common experience, however I do feel I needed to experience it consciously for myself.

                  Today is not another day 1, but tomorrow will be. I have always dealt with things on my own and find it very hard to reveal myself so to speak, perhaps that has been a factor in the problem.

                  Anyway, I hope you are all well.
                  I love you, I'm sorry, please forgive me, thank you.

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                    #10
                    AF Daily - Wednesday October 21

                    gold...we're here for you and you know we understand...i do all too well. :l

                    leelou...good work, that is hard to do.

                    greenie...i hate the fair, but love the people watching!

                    marshy, i like your avatar pic...but i guess i don't know what you look like!


                    i drank a glass of wine last night and my daughter discovered it. i felt like shit. this morning i told her that she is right i did say i was never going to drink again and i apologized for lying to her and we talked about how hard it is for an alcoholic to stop drinking...i told her i would never stop trying, but that if i did drink in the future, it isn't her fault, it's mine.

                    i poured out the rest of the 24$ bottle of pinot gris.

                    it's my husband's birthday...off to celebrate.

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                      #11
                      AF Daily - Wednesday October 21

                      maslow, i can't imagine...hang tough, ok?

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                        #12
                        AF Daily - Wednesday October 21

                        HI ..just brief...I told doggygirl (sweet person) I woudl ck in here today. Yesterday was Day 1 for me. I was shocked to tell you the truth that I did not have any withdrawal or discomfort. I couln't get to sleep right away but went to bed very early.

                        Truth, I am struggling with today. Trying to figure out if it is worth to stay AF. But I really felt good all day..so I think that is reason enough...I hate my mind

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                          #13
                          AF Daily - Wednesday October 21

                          Thanks Peace. I am hanging as tough as I can at this point. I sure miss them. Reality can be a real PIA ;-)

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                            #14
                            AF Daily - Wednesday October 21

                            Top of the evening ABeroooos!

                            just pulled into my hotel room and trying to figure out a good place to chow.

                            I see Several folks having struggles and/or returning from unsuccessful mod experiments....I feel for you all as I've walked more than a few miles in those shoes. Moderation just made me cranky even when I could grit my teeth and try to fake it for a little while. just landed me flat on my face in short order no matter what.

                            i don't think it's good enough to replace alcohol with something in our lives. we need to go even further and have something in front of us to look forward to that is undeniably good and positive. What are your reasons? health, son/s or daughter/s? spirituality? spouse? job? self esteem? there are so many reasons. and thankfully they are good and powerfully compelling reasons to be in the AF lifestyle.
                            so put something good in front of you. and walk into it every day, and enjoy the experience

                            much love and strength to you all
                            nosce te ipsum
                            (Know Thyself)

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                              #15
                              AF Daily - Wednesday October 21

                              Good evening Abbers,

                              Busy day for me today, but good!
                              Deter, You advice is wise & so true! For me it was (and still is) my new grandson!

                              Leelou, congrats on your 3 days, that's great! Keep up the good work, you'll love the results

                              Marshy, I can't find a picture of myself that I really like so I'm going to leave the big, blue blinking thing as my avatar - I think she's cute anyway

                              Gold, good to see you again! I'm sorry you attempt to moderate was difficult, so many people have said the same thing. I'm not even going to try, I already know that it won't be possible for me. I wish you the best!

                              Maslow, trying to stay positive is really difficult at times. I have been trying to incorporate Grattitude into my life to help in this area. You may want to take a look at this website: The ToDo Institute: Mindfulness, Procrastination, and Gratitude using Morita and Naikan Therapies
                              It has helped me quite a bit.

                              peace, sounds like your glass of wine caused you more trouble than it was worth??? Hope you are OK.

                              Hi chrysa, welcome! I hope day 2 turned out good for you. The early days are the toughest!

                              Well, wishing a good night to everyone.
                              Lav
                              AF since 03/26/09
                              NF since 05/19/09
                              Success comes one day at a time :thumbs:

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