AF Daily Friday 10/23

[greeneyes]

Abberoosters!!!!

Geez, is it a competition to see who finally can't stand it and has to start the thread?

WELLLLLLLL I have my "winter" robe out. Big pink fluffy robe I go from Land's End on sale. I was so excited when I got it I called customer service and told the guy how happpy I was and mentioned that he probably didn't get many phone calls like that - more like complaint stuff. He said it really was a pleasure and then asked my permission to quote for marketing when I said I'm so excited I can't wait for it to get dark! :H:H:H Now it's kinda natty but I love it so.

That's all I have to contribute today. I'll let the rest of you say the important stuff.

[AAthlete]

AF Daily Friday 10/23

Morning oh great Green-one and thanks for starting the day off for us! Don't feel bad - I have a robe that I bought years ago that I still use everyday! Wonder what it is about those things that make us hold on and cherish them so much?

Well, it took me awhile but I finally gave credit to me wife this morning for how she handled last night. She was in a very crabby mood (which she admits) and was snapping at anything and everything. I quickly took offense to this and managed to easily slide into a bad mood of my own and was being sarcastic as well. I recognized it when I was doing it, knew that it was wrong, and knew that I should apologize but was having difficulty bringing myself to do it. Of course she then walks up to me, gives me a hug and apologizes for the way she was acting. $%^@#$@!! I was supposed to do that !!

Anyway, this morning I told her I was proud of the way she handled the whole thing and apologized for the way that I joined in. Am still mad at myself that she beat me to the proverbial punch but that's the way it goes sometimes. Need to remind myself that it is always progress that I am looking for, right?

Hope everyone has a great Friday!

[LVT25]

AF Daily Friday 10/23

Hello friends!

Great, a couple of topics I can relate to this morning! Greenie, how nice of you to call and compliment the guy at Land's End! It always makes me feel good to do something nice for someone or to take a couple of minutes to let them know you are proud of them, happy for them, just thinking about them....Years ago, we gave my mom a big fuzzy robe with bears and snowflakes on it, I never saw her wear it though--they kept their house at about 85 degrees in the winter so she probably didn't need it. Except for the morning when we took her to the hospital on the last day of her life. I grabbed it and put it on her because it was warm. Now I have it and I wear it A LOT. :h

AAthlete--the situation with your wife sounds a lot like hubby's and mine at times. If he is in a bad mood, I can't seem to not get dragged in there.....I'm trying really hard to make the effort to change his mood to a good one, however it can be tough. I know he goes through the same thing when I'm bitchy, and it seems that lately he is trying to handle that better.
I wish these relationships weren't so much work sometimes!!

I'm still trying to find the perfect avatar pic that reminds me of a time when I was young, carefree, having innocent fun and not so tense! I still feel like I'm always on guard.

Wishing everyone here a great af weekend! :h

[Doggygirl]

AF Daily Friday 10/23

Good morning! :yougo::blingSequin shoes!!!!!:yougo: That totally rocks, Greenie. Now I wish I had some sequins on my boots boots boots. There is a shiny little buckle though. Does that count??? Thanks for getting us started today!! That rocks that you called Lands End with a compliment! A great reminder to communicate the good sometimes too - not just complaints. I have an old Lands End bathrobe myself. Pink. Don't need it as much with hot flashes. But I'm keeping it around anyway.

AA, good for you AND your wife not letting the mood things drag you down for days and days. When I was drinking, I could "work" that sort of situation into my "excuse" for a good week's worth anyway. The last 24 have been very trying with Cooper the Pooper and me and Mr. Doggy are clashing a bit over it, mood wise. I'm really glad you posted as its' such a good reminder to try to get back to a peaceful place and not waste this precious day on a silly bad mood.

LVT - I love that avatar piccy! Yes, relationships are work sometimes. But it sure beats life alone. At least with Mr. Doggy it beats life alone. Hope the same is true overall for Mr. LVT!!!!

Hello to all yet to come. Strength and hope to anyone who is struggling today. Don't drink - just for today. Then we will have a shot at tomorrow. If we drink today, we might NOT have a shot at tomorrow.

DG

[greeneyes]

AF Daily Friday 10/23

By the way.... the fig robe was my mother's robe. I know she was laughing her arse off in heaven seeeing me poking out of the fig tree on the ladder. :H:H:H

And DG, you need to read The Sweet Potato Queens - or at least google it and check out the boots

[Lavande]

AF Daily Friday 10/23

Hello Abbers,

No great words of wisdom from me today
Just taking it easy after a late night.......babysitting!
Just for the record, I have no sequined shoes, no sequins on anything. Guess I need to update my wardrobe!!

AA, it's nice to hear that your relationship is a 'working' one. I've been married for 36 years, the last 15 have not been terrific. I've tried & tried but I just cannot pull Mr Lav's head out of his a$$! He refuses to treat his chronic depression so that leaves me stuck.......it is what it is!

I do need to get into my shop for a little bit of work this afternoon - but not too much

Have a great AF day one & all.
Lav

[redhibiscus]

AF Daily Friday 10/23

AAthlete, I appreciate you post about your relationship with your wife and snipping at each other. It must be a common thing when you are together for awhile. I've often thought it is the little things in life that count, though, so I will work today on creating a positive atmosphere in my home. Another thing you post brought to mind. Forgiveness and asking for it. It is part of all relationships that are good and lasting. Thanks.

[peacenik]

AF Daily Friday 10/23

afternoon kids!

marriage...whew. i love my husband so very much but i often wonder why we had to get married...i liked our relationship the way it was...hindsite is 20/20.

i spent the morning cleaning and "helping" my drama queen daughter clean her room...whew. she just melts down when she has to clean her room. anything else i ask her to do she is pretty good at just getting it done, but the room is another story altogether!
we made it through and she is outside running around with friends now. she's so good about coming to me after her freakouts and apologizing and we "hug it out". i'm not a yeller or a shit stirer, and i allow her to get mad, but i don't allow her to disrespect me.

she's a good kid!

ANYWAY

have a good one all.

i am going to enjoy the beautiful day and go for a run with my beagles...we ran almost 5 miles yesterday...we'll see how the old legs manage!

[greeneyes]

AF Daily Friday 10/23

DG... check these babys out

The Many Styles of Rialto Shoes

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OK LMFAO.. Iguess my fat pink robe sleeve was on the space bar but I give up. DG they are can cun sandals. I just cna't do this anymore but the are total sequens. Yopu MUST see them.

The Many Styles of Rialto Shoes fuck it i give up

[Cinders]

AF Daily Friday 10/23

Good afternoon Abberoonies,

I just got back from an all women's AA meeting and it was wonderful. We held it outdoors and the skies cleared up just for the meeting.

We are quite a diverse group, I believe the ages run from 20 to late 60s (guessing on that one..) and we all have our different stories but are dealing with the same issue. I learn a lot from those meetings. I will be sad next time I am out of town and can't go. :-(

Greenie, I am into warm, fuzzy bathrobes, too. Especially if they are cotton. I have this cotton thing going on. Last year my folks bought me this beautiful velour robe and I just can't quite get comfy in it because it is not cotton. I'd rather ugly and comfy than pretty. Hubby's the only one that ever sees me in it anyway and after 34 years, he doesn't notice a whole lot. :H

AA, I laughed when I read your post. I know we are supposed to work diligently on these things but you are right, progress, not perfection. I can also relate to the mood of the other affecting ours so much, especially if it is a bad one.

Otherwise, trucking along here today. Have to get to work but wanted to check in with my AF friends and shout out a hello.

Love to all,
Cindi

ps I, too, don't own anything sequined except a Christmas/New Year's dress my daughter made me get a few years ago. I am more a denim, khakhi kinda girl.

[greeneyes]

AF Daily Friday 10/23

[QUOTE=Cinders;742559]Good afternoon Abberoonies,


Greenie, I am into warm, fuzzy bathrobes, too. I have this I'd rather ugly and comfy than pretty. Hubby's the only one that ever sees me in it anyway and after 34 years, he doesn't notice a whole lot. :H

Everyboddy in the whole feckin neighborhood knows whatr my robes look like! :H:H:H

[Doggygirl]

AF Daily Friday 10/23

Cindi, you need some sequins for that denim!!

Greenie!! Are these the shoes you speak of?? Why oh why did I not see these this summer! Blingy Sandals at Kohl's! I would have bought those babies for sure!!

Cindi it sounds like you had a good meeting - that's AWESOME. I'm with you on comfort over style in bathrobes too. If Mr. Doggy wants to see a sexy bathrobe he can read the Victoria's Secret catalog like a proper gentlemen. (:H)

Lav we need to get you some sequins too. You guys are all :bling deprived.

Peace, where do you stand on the whole sequin business? Sounds like you have a great relationship with your daughter - that's awesome.

Now I'm going to be dreaming about those shoes.

DG

[Determinator]

AF Daily Friday 10/23

holy snot, I'm late and tired again AB friends. whew! 13 hours on my feet and I'm hurtin for certain. Day started at 5am with me knocking over the desk lamp in my hotel room. the toxic 'compact floro' tube shattering all over the place, me hopping around trying to avoid the broken glass in my undies. Picture a really lame version of the scene from Die Hard with Bruce Willis.

I was last guy back to the hotel after securing the trade show gear and by the time I got done showering I really didn't feel like going out to another company dinner so I crapped out and stayed here eating dinner alone at the bar. I had a few fleeting drinking thoughts with the normal rationale coming to mind: "I'm 400 miles from home". "who is going to care or even know." etc etc. but I realize that such crazy thoughts will come and go. so i observed as though I was a 3rd party and the thoughts departed.

clothing bling eh? hmmmm....I just splurged a few days ago and bought a silk shirt from Thailand in a traditional style....very cool! I very rarely buy clothes impulsively but in my defense I was under the influence of a very spicy basil/chicken curry

ok, you sequin-adorned AF love muffins, I'm off to check for chatters.....

be well

[hulagirl]

AF Daily Friday 10/23

Aloha All, and yes, I am still around. And no, I do not "do" robes. It has been so hot and humid and sticky and I'm am of that certain age where I feel like you can see the steam coming off my body. Just the thought of bath robes can get me steaming again! So today was my first furlough day (of 17). The real shock will come when I (and hubby too) get our Nov. 20 paycheck. Would any other state furlough it's public school teachers? There won't be any rocket scientists coming out of this state. Students will have 4 day school weeks for the next 2 years. A very sad and stressful time for education.

[Doggygirl]

AF Daily Friday 10/23

Wow Hula. 4 day school weeks due to budget? I'm sure that will be a huge adjustment for you and Mr. Hula. But wow - 20% less class time for the kids?? I sure hope for the kids sake I misunderstood that. I'm guessing this would also be a real challenge for many parents who work full time. (unless all the companies in the state are on furlough too!!??!!) On the other topic, I know what furnace you speak of I think!! Mine is in good working order and on some days works over time. :l

Deter, I've thought about that scenario being away from home and "who would know." The problem is that the last time I had "one drink" it took me 8 months to stop. So unless I ran away from home "everyone would know." So AF I stay. You are right about those thoughts passing. And with more AF time, they are less frequent and less intense. I am :H over the vision I have of you doing the Undie Dance. I hope you didn't end up absorbing any of that poison. We had a bulb of that type sponaneously explode in our basement. No telling how much toxic crap we and our dogs ended up with. GE was so remorseful over the situation that they sent us a $10 gift certificate to buy more toxic bulbs with. Now I'm going to google for that type of shirt and then post more in today's thread!

DG