AF Daily - Monday October 26

[Marshy]

AF Daily - Monday October 26

Oh dear, Sausage, 200 bottles of wine in the garage? I don't think I could cope with that - I'd be forever making excuses to go out there.
Try to check in here as much as you can - I found it helped to be "accountable" in the early days. (I know you know the drill).

[maslow23]

AF Daily - Monday October 26

Bad night all. I think AL may win.

[KateH1]

AF Daily - Monday October 26

Maslow....I have no idea how much AF time you have, but no matter what, drinking is never a solution!
You are in control....get busy, take a walk....drink some water.......you do not have to drink. It is your body and your choice!

[maslow23]

AF Daily - Monday October 26

It is your body and your choice!

Thanks KateH1-I will carry this with me for a long time.

[KateH1]

AF Daily - Monday October 26

There you go....Maslow.....you can get past this!! One minute at a time if you must!

[Lavande]

AF Daily - Monday October 26

Evening Abbers,

Just wanted to stop by & say good night! Monday's are good for me these days.......go figure!

Hi AAthlete, good to see you as always.

Cindi, wow, such a heartfelt post! You really do have a lot on your plate don't you? I'm sending you all kinds of strength, good wishes & a big dose of my nearly famous 'Lavan-ittude' to see you through

Marshy, I highly recommend cookies for mood swings (in addition to some good herbal antianxiety supplements)!

Prpl, congrats on your 3+ weeks - great job

peace, PNB & J cookies? Oh God, they sound good too. I'll look for your recipe. The nearest Walmart around here requires about a 40 mile roundtrip. I don't go more than once per month due to gas $$. I do a LOT of online shopping!

Well, have a good night everyone.
Lav

[Leelou]

AF Daily - Monday October 26

Hello everyone,

Sausage, I am thinking of your comment:
[QUOTE=SAUSAGE;745268] To answer your question Marshy, no sadly I haven't got a lot of support in "real life" because my husband thinks I am fine and do not have a drink problem - although he is a medical doctor and must be able to calculate the units I was drinking /week - he thinks I should just moderate. My friends don't think I have a problem either because I never really drank in public or when out - just the odd glass. Most of my drinking was at home on my own in the evening.

This was so similar to what was happening in my life too. Then my DH eventually realised my problem was out of control, but left it up to me to sort out. For years, he would try to help, but I always barked at him if he mentioned it. SO - he left it with me, as I requested. Over the last 4-5 years, AL was controlling my life SO much, that it was spiraling downwards until I hit rock bottom recently. DH found my hiding spots, realised that it was a bigger problem than even he realised, and explained that he could not do this anymore, that the women he married was gone, and he wants her back. He wants to see me happy and healthy. He wants a positive, happy and active future together, and if that can not happen, then this marriage is doomed.

I have had to take a serious look at myself. Sadly, everything he said is true, and my problem with AL has been the catalyst for the downward spiral of my life more than I ever thought.

I wish I realised the consequences of my habit before it had to get this low, and I hurt the ones I love.
I know I have to accept responsibility for my actions, and I have started.

I know that I have to create my own support in order to take control of AL, like joining MWO and posting here for example, and learning to be nice to myself again, feeling worthy of deserving a better life, writing a daily journal to listen to myself, committing to exercise, taking care of my creative side (AL killed that without me realising it). I am still creating new ways to support myself through this hard journey, but after 8 days AF, it's feeling really good to begin being in control.

Thank goodness for yummy tea though! Healthy support in a mug!
:l to everyone doing it tough
:thanks: to everyone who shares and cares

[KateH1]

AF Daily - Monday October 26

Oh! Sausage....so sorry to hear about Mr. Sausages' wine stash....yes, I can understand that this is an extra challenge for you. My husband is also an MD and it is true that they know very little about addiction. My husband agrees that "once in a while" I go overboard, but I know different! Although I will say this.....he has noticed and appreciated me living sober! I am also happy to say that he can enjoy his wine with dinner and the occasional glass of McCallan and I no longer have to white knuckle it through!
You can do this Sausage.......we are behind you!

[july232007]

AF Daily - Monday October 26

Good to read the posts. KateH1 you have a direct but gentle way to say the truth. For Maslow and others... Sausage I hope you find your way....DG strong, and smiling...

just a quick fly by to catch up and read a few posts.

July

820 days AF in the Mountains of Tennessee

[peacenik]

AF Daily - Monday October 26

wow, my husband is an md, as well...only he knows i have a problem and hates alcohol himself. he works with the lakota tribe and there is a high rate of alcoholism among the people, so he knows first hand the damage that this...disease, obsession, whatever! can do. he tells me stories of people with acities and advanced stages that just freak me out.

i watched "intervention" tonight. i don't know if anyone else has seen it, it used to help me because i never wanted to get "that bad" but tonight i felt a kinship with the couple they were focusing on. i almost felt protetive of them against their families good intentions because they just DID NOT GET IT AT ALL. these people who think "if they loved me they would stop" or "why can't they just stop" frustrate the hell out of me. do people really believe that alcoholics want to be the way we are? and when we say we want to stop, we mean it...we aren't lying about that, we just don't know how to do it.

i'm thankful for being sober today and i am sending out all my empathy for anyone (maslow, sausage) who feels like they are misunderstood or alone. we here get it...and that makes me grateful!

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