AF Daily Thursday

[universal]

Do you guys mind if I start the thread today? Been a while since I've been on, been struggling but still here.

Crazy stuff happening here - still trying to connect all the dots but need the support.

love you guys,
Uni

[Leelou]

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Hi Uni,

Hello Thursday... I have had a great run on my goal so far, today - well the 'urge' hit me! I didn't give in, so its AF day11 for me... so far (the days not over) but interestingly, yesterday, Day 10, not a thought about it. Today.... well, didn't it try to tell me what to do! Im a quiet spoken gal normally, and thanks to all the posts you all share, I was really aware of the urge that sneaks up on you. I had to giggle, cos I was in a shop, knowing I could leave work early, and that urge came up...

[Suni]

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Hi Universal,
You've got al the support I can throw atcha via broadband! Catch!
Jon the dots one at a time. You have the rest of your life to get this right today!
That way you'll have the perfect picture with no mistakes-eventually! But what a journey!
ODAT.
LeeLou,
Good work. Swearing - when it's in such a good cause- WORKS A TREAT ;-))
WELL DONE ON DAY 11

[Doggygirl]

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Good morning Ab Landers! Uni - you and anyone are always welcome to start the thread!! I'm so sorry that you are struggling, but proud of you for standing firm. Life is not always easy and sometimes it down right sucks the big one. But AL never, EVER makes things better. Looking back on my own life, AL did nothing but make things worse each and every time. I'm hoping for your the courage to change what you can, and the serenity to accept what you can't. For me, I have to work at that but it's the key to having any sort of peace of mind. And peace of mind is key to my sobriety in the long haul. Thinking of you today!!

Leelou I am very proud of you for doing whatever it takes to stay sober in the face of those urges!! Glad that the *F* Bomb helped scare AL away. :H That's a good story and I'm glad you shared it!! Bombs Away!! Congrats on 11 AF days! See how they add up one day at a time??

Hello Suni! You are sounding very cheerful today and that rocks. I have to say that every time I see your avatar I want to wipe whatever that stuff is off those lips! :H (I hope it's not a disease or anything!)

I am so grateful to be UnHung this morning. It's just now 6:30 and I've already cleaned up the puppy and his crate and played with him, and done customer statements and payroll and last minute house pick up for cleaning day. And emptied the garbage in my office. In the old days, I would be doing well to get all that done by bed time (and usually would NOT accomplish that much in a whole day!). NEVER would I have gotten even one of those things done by 6:30 AM. Well, I would have taken care of the puppy but I would have been VERY resentful about it. And immediately poured myself a Vodka and Anything to get the Pity Party under way.

Life is good AF. It's not perfect. It's not always easy. But it's good. Worth working and fighting for. I'm off to AA then a Personal Torture session then Chiropractor. It's a self care morning! This afternoon / evening I have one of those Chamber of Commerce events where AL will be there too. I'm not worried - there will be no drinking for me. And today, I'm working on doing this event with a better attitude than usual.

Strength and hope to all!

DG

[Suni]

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Hello Suni! You are sounding very cheerful today and that rocks. I have to say that every time I see your avatar I want to wipe whatever that stuff is off those lips! (I hope it's not a disease or anything!)

Thank you. Yes, cheerful and positive about the future. No-one is going to interupt that thought-flow thankyou!
Taking it one day at a time only.
Day thirteen here and each day feels a little more achievable than the previous one.
I love my avatar thanks! :h
BTW Last night I found a GREAT AF cocktail.

Tall Glass
Lots of crushed ice
Chunks of Lemon and Lime
One part soda
One part lemonade or tonic
Dash of bitters

So good I had it twice! :-))

[Marshy]

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Hello all,

Flying visit. Busy at work, and I've been putting time and effort into improving my social life. And guess what? Time + effort = results. Who'da thunk it? :H I even have a couple of dates in the pipeline. Sober dating? Eeek. That will be a novelty. Will report back!

Det - congrats on surviving your work ordeal with flying AF colours! We all know the pressure there can be to drink at those boozy work bashes.

Have a good day all!

[KateH1]

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Good Morning!
Well, the snow is still falling, we are in the midst of a winter storm! The city is all but closed down. I kind of like it! I am waiting to find out if my youngest son has to go to work today and drive in this mess! Dave is on his way to work, luckily he only drives three miles and on a main road. As for me, I will stay put and work from home again! I will get caught up on some administrative stuff that I never seem to find the time to do.....like clean out my emails! I will also go down to the gym and get some treadmill time!! (thanks for the reminder DG
Uni....your tenacity will get you where you want to be....just keep working at it!

Lealou....keep saying NO to the Beast!

Suni, nice to meet you......you do sound cheerful!

As for me.....I am grateful to have some long term sobriety behind me, it truly does get easier....and as DG and many others have said, life is not without challenges and ups and downs when we are AF, but we certainly are able to handle everything that comes our way in a more effective manner, without alcohol and all that it brings. In fact, when going through tough things, like my fathers stroke and death last year at this time, I thought about drinking. That time, forced me to deal with my sister the drug addict and my brother who is just plain evil again....of course all that pain from childhood and beyond all came to the surface again! Yep! I thought about having "just one drink".....I thought.."who would blame me?".....on and on......but then I told myself...."Go ahead.....take that drink, which you know will lead to many more, go to that pitiful, helpless place."......Well that did it, I am so grateful that I did not drink my way through that time........instead, I worked through it with a clear head, without the depression, anxiety and hopelessness that my long time companion AL would bring.

I share this as an example of how my mind worked through a tough, beyond tough time. If I can stay AF anyone can.....there is truly only one secret to this.......Do Not Take the FIRST DRINK! Do as Lealou did, scream....F--K! Come here and read and post, ask for some friends to chat.....do what ever it takes....just do not give in.....You will be happy that you fought through it!

Have a good day All!
Kate

[Lavande]

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Morning Abbers!

No sunshine here but also no snow

Hi Uni, hope today is good for you, hang in there!

Leelou, congrats on 11 days - love the way you battle the urges!!!!

Suni, 13 days rocks! Your AF cocktail sounds inviting!

DG, you have to be the most positive person on the planet, thanks
I've been working on incorporating more gratitude in my life, it really does help! Reading your posts leaves me feeling positive & empowered, thank you!

Kate, enjoy your snow day!! Make the most of it

I have work waiting for me, may as well get started.
Have a wonderful AF Thursday everyone!
Lav

[LVT25]

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Hello friends!

They did finally call school off, so I don't have to worry about the kids on the bus or driving today. It is blustery out there, but I don't think we got as much snow as you did Kate. I'm thinking Peace is probably snowed in as well! A little early for this kind of weather, but I'm not in charge of that, now am I?

LeeLou, your post made me smile.:goodjob: I'm still searching for my inner child, so anytime I can laugh or smile easily I love it!

DG- I have to admit, every time you talk about drinking vodka in the morning, I get nauseous and gag! I never was a morning drinker/smoker--except for all of those times I stayed up all night smoking and drinking. GAG!!!!

Had a bit of a "discussion" with hubby last night when I announced the kids were getting H1N1 vaccinations next week. I didn't realize he had an opinion (even though it is an emotional not a scientific one), but was proud I stayed calm and just asked him why he felt the way he did. When he went out to work in his shop and drink beer, I gave myself a little pep talk (yes, out loud) about how that is probably better than listening to him holler (he doesn't yell) at the kids, and then sleep in his chair. At least he is being productive and I refuse to feel guilty if I just sit in my chair and read the paper. I also announced to my kids, that from now on, they will eat what I fix or go hungry, or they can take charge of the meal planning. So, we will be having spaghetti every night for awhile.

Ok, I still need to decide what I will do today. I like it when we get some warning for these storms. I have my work in town done, so I can stay home. There is plenty to do for sure. Have a great sober day all! :h

[greeneyes]

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abbers!

Quick fly by. Busy day ahead Helllo to all and special note to uni: Are you at that 3 weeek point? You know to call me right?

Have a good day all.

[maslow23]

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Hello Everyone.,
NOt much to report here. Just getting ready to a make a list of things I'd like to accomplish today and see if I can get it done. Sleep is becoming a challenge. I seem to be sleeping too much. Probably depression, but hoping this to shall pass at some point. Have a solid day!!

[peacenik]

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hi dudes and dudettes!

so glad to be unhung today!
we do have a snow day here too...no school and the kid is out the door to the ONE hill in town that is decent enough to sled on!

im in a much better place today and am getting ready to get on the treadmill and get some cleaning done.

have a good one all

uni, hang in there girl...

peace!

[Suni]

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Hi KateH1,
Read your little story there with interest.
Good for you not giving in when things were tough last year.
And you're absoluely right. They key to it all is just never to have that first drink.
I hear a lot of people bemoan the fact that the're tempted, or that they think they might be slipping, or feeling that they aren't strong enough - whatever -
But it's OK to be tempted.
We are all tempted.
It about NOT GIVING IN to the temptation.
That's all that counts.
Riding it out and not giving in.

[Chief]

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Hi All,

I got home about 8:00 last night and a good friend of mine stopped by with a 12 pack. He and I have been friends since school and we've been spending alot of time together the past few months working on projects at my house. Of course, we have been drinking alot together. He knows he's also an alcoholic. We've been talking about quitting and last night I said ," well, when are we going to stop talking about it and do it?...."

We decided that today is the day. We are both quitting drinking and smoking. I think it will be good having someone here going through it with me. We can coach eachother and give support.......and there's no way I'm going to cave.

I will check in here often because I do need everyone's help and support. I've been drinking alot the past few months and it's killing me. I know this is day 1 AGAIN, but please stick with me this time.

I'm ready to do whatever it takes to succeed.

I'm better than this.

Don

[KateH1]

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Hi Suni, so nice to meet you

You got it! It is about NOT GIVING IN! The fact is, we don't "SliP"....we Decide to Drink and we know where that leads!

That is why I decided to share that small part of my story today....to let others know that for most if not all of those of us who are now enjoying a year or two or many years of sobriety, we still experience the same ups and downs that were once our EXCUSE to drink. The only difference is, that we DECIDED that drinking is not an option!

Best of luck to you Suni......you are already a valuable part of this community.....I look forward to learning from you!!

xx Kate