AF Daily - Tuesday Nov 3

[greeneyes]

Morning abberoosters!!

Greenie's got her groove back! I have moved into the phase of disengagement from FH. I agonized over it, stalled and got stuck. I have made the first step into the arena and got the adrenaline surge. I'm ready. I hate it for him, but this is about me, not him. Keep reminding me, if you would please

I worked all day at home until 1AM on "holework" :H. That included a cathartic tearing up of 3 stacks of personal mail and papers I thought I needed to attend to while I got tech support and computer fixes and cleanup from my next door neighbor. Some were dated 2007 :H. It felt SOOOO good to do that! I am on top of my game again. I was out of town a bit and FH didn't do a single thing. Go figure. I'm pondering my next career move in stead of feeling insecure and threatened. Man, this feels good.

I didn't read yesterdays thread so I hope everyone is well. I have a kick-arse day away from the hole but I have leftovers ready for dinner and a funny movie from netflix: Death At A Funeral arriving today.

Have a very happy day and make someone smile...... after yourself. Like the airplane mask. :H

[KateH1]

AF Daily - Tuesday Nov 3

Morning, Greenie....You sound "Fabulous Dahling"......seriously!! Funny how purging our physical space leads to purging our internal space as well! 2010 will bring you much new opportunity in every area of your life, I am sure of it!

I am always amazed how "perspective" is everything in life. How we choose to veiw, any situation or event can make all the difference between success and failure and joy or madness and depression! It is a bit of the old Peace Corps saying of "Is the glass half full or half empty".

I have been burried in work for weeks now.....it is always like this during this time of year....getting clients ready for Xmas! No complaints here about long hours....I am very grateful for the business! I have work to finish this morning, then I am meeting up with my daughter over at my sons new house. We will be assembling bookcases and getting his studio finished up! We are sure to have a lot of fun doing this and then he can get back to Spiderman!!

Life is Good!

[Lavande]

AF Daily - Tuesday Nov 3

Good morning Abbers!

Thanks for getting us started Greenie! You sound so much better now, I'm happy for you! It does feel good thing to clear out the old stuff - make way for the new!!

Kate, my perspective has much improved this past year, I am so grateful! I worked on a Habit Busting program to get rid of my chronically negative attitude before I went AF. It was something I really needed to do. I don't know how I got so negative because I never used to be that way. I think it was a result of unrelieved depression. I wound up dumping the SSRI and went with an herbal product this year as well, it's really made all the difference for me

I have lots of things lined up to do today so I'd better get to it!!
Wishing everyone a great AF Tuesday.
Lav

[KateH1]

AF Daily - Tuesday Nov 3

Morning, lavende,

Alcohol= chronic depression + anxiety! I never realized my depression level while I was drinking. Oh!my dog.....the energy it took to appear OK! We know that alcohol is a depressent.....it is written everywhere. But it is not just depression whilst we are actively consuming alcohol....it is all the time, even during those rare times when alcohol is not present in our systems. I also think that after long time drinking, drinking on a daily basis, we begin to become "conditioned", by this drug (alcohol) to react negatively and to maintain a consistent level of depression. So, we drink more...why? To relieve our stress and depression, to calm the anxiety! WOW! What a vicious cycle!

Lavende, you really got me to thinking about this again today. I think that this is the key to WHY we must learn to live differently and retrain our brains when we want to maintain a sober lifestyle. I am more convinced than ever that working on ourselves, our thinking, our perspective is equally as critical to our long term success as not taking that first drink!!

Carpe Diem All!

[LVT25]

AF Daily - Tuesday Nov 3

Well I must say it certainly is nice to have Greenie back again!:h

I had a really good day yesterday, which left me wishing everyday was that way. I guess we take what we can get and be grateful for it. Things are just so much more calm and peaceful when hubby is not drinking. Sigh....

I'm looking forward to today also, it is the first time I've had a full day off in a long while, I have lots of housework to get caught up on. Then hopefully the rest of the week I can get some outside projects done while the weather is still nice.

Peace, I hope you feel better today. :h