AF Daily - Sunday Nov 8

[Doggygirl]

Hi all! Just a quick hello before I run out the door. I love what Mentathalone posted at the end of yesterdays thread about taking it "one moment at a time." I think that's such a good reminder for us to break down our sobriety into manageable chunks of time - however small those might need to be!

We are worth doing WHATEVER IT TAKES to lead a sober life.

I will be getting my day off to a good start by going to an early AA meeting and then to the gym. Those are two important activities for my sobriety that will be done before I would have even been out of bed in the past.

The UnHung Life is good!

DG

[greeneyes]

AF Daily - Sunday Nov 8

Good morning abbers!

Hi DG, thanks for the start!

Today my sacrum is hurting. It has been creeping up on me and now demands attention. I guess I'll have to take it a bit easy which is hard when the rest of me doesn't want to. I really wanted to pack up FH's stuff. Grrrrr.

I doubt the hulahooping hleped but boy was it fun and a workout too! I learned to turn, spin-walk, put my hand into the space on rotations and touch knees with alternating hands and raise it up with one hand twirling around my head and bring it back down! Impressed? :H We laughed so hard.... Mistakes and flying hoops are hilarious! I'm picking up my "personal" hoop Tuesday. Wheeee!!!
I seem to be settling in to the idea of going back to school. Sign language has been whispering to me for a while and now it's talking.

None of this would be happening with a relationship with AL (or probably FH for that matter :H) How powerful it is to relaim your life!

Have a fabby day!

[Lavande]

AF Daily - Sunday Nov 8

Good morning Abbers!

Thanks for the early start DG! The sun is out again this morning so I feel energized too

Welcome Mentathaloner! Hope you are hanging in there moment to moment.........whatever it takes! We all have to find our own way but please keep reading, you may find the ideas of others to be most helpful.

I think I did track down the culprit in the chicken house yesterday...............it's one of our hens!!!! She's turned canibal or something.......We're not farmers so dealing with this isn't easy. I know she needs to be removed from the flock but I just don't have the guts to 'off a chicken', if you know what I mean. I guess I need to hire a chicken hit man Anyone interested????

Well I wish everyone a great AF Sunday! The UnHung life is good!

Lav

[Lavande]

AF Daily - Sunday Nov 8

Hi Greenie,
Cross post!

[greeneyes]

AF Daily - Sunday Nov 8

ME!! My grandparents had a chicken farm so I've seen many a chicken "offed" before we ate them! They really do run around with their heads cut off. How the hell does a chicken eat the egg?

[drylifeahead]

AF Daily - Sunday Nov 8

Good morning Abbers

Lavande I'm surprised to hear it was a hen doing the damage!!! Had just pictured a fox or raccoon.

Today is a finish the backyard cleaning/organizing before the snow comes day. Then off to a friends for another 2 hour hike in the woods along the lake. It's really nice and sunny, and I would imagine it's going to be warm(ish) this afternoon.

Feeling fantastic-hope everyone's day is excellent!!!

DLA:h:h

[peacenik]

AF Daily - Sunday Nov 8

good morning all...

one second at a time indeed. i can go for days not even thinking about drinking and then one minute of desire turns into me rushing to the"store" to pick up a bottle of wine and i'm gone in 60 seconds flat! if i can just jump through the hoop of wanting a drink, i come out ok on the other side!

good weekend here, was warm and sunny so i raked leaves until i got blisters, and then a bunch of kids loaded them up and out for me!

have a nice day all...my husband is coming home finally...been lonely around here without him!

peace

eta...canibalistic chickens!!!???
that's my new band name

[Doggygirl]

AF Daily - Sunday Nov 8

Hi again!

DLA you are sounding fabulous. Wanna come clean up my yard??? Mr. D is going to be mowing over our yard today to chop up all the leaves. Or at least get a start on it - that's a huge job this time of year. I am getting ready to head out and clean the camper - we are hoping to take it to Mr. D's dog trial next weekend. If I don't get it cleaned up today it will never get done during the week!

Lav, good luck with the ...well....culling of the flock. What's for dinner??? Both my parents were raised on farms so I spent lots of growing up time at my grandparents and other family farmers. I always wanted to "see how things were done" but "taking care of the chickens" was considered men's domain and "little girls" had to stay in the house during that stuff. Also during any breeding activities. :H Heaven forbid we learn where babies REALLY come from or anything like that.

So Greenie - this hula hoop business is like, a LIFESTYLE or something? You are getting your own special, personal hula hoop? You learned all those tricks? I am SO JEALOUS. OK - I'm definitely moving in with you. What color is my room? What chores will I have to do? I'll help you pack up FH's stuff. Out with the old, in with the doggygirl. I hope you are feeling better by the time I get there. :l

I'm looking forward to watching Mr. D trial his dog. He's worked for several years now training and getting ready for this. I will be way more nervous on the sidelines watching than he will be on the field. But he WILL be nervous to some degree - can't be helped really. So who knows how it will go. The dogs can always tell when the handler is nervous. Hey - where has Speedster been lately? Hope she's OK and Pupster too. Anyway...the only worrisome part of this trip is just the drinking that will be going on Friday night before the trial and to a much greater degree Saturday night after. I don't want to feel "stuck" but I will be "stuck" to some degree. I need to take plenty of stuff with me to do in the camper.

What are your reading recommendations? I want to take a novel or two with me of the fun reading kind that you can't put down. Something that grabs you RIGHT AWAY and just drives you insane until you finally get to the very last page. Ideally, they will not be brand brand new - in other words something I am likely to be able to get from the library. I love a good murder mystery. Any recommendations?

Still UnHung..

DG

[Marshy]

AF Daily - Sunday Nov 8

Save the chicken! Nah, just kidding...

Running in while I make a batch of curry. Love this cold weather - curries, pies and stews until spring!

Been to gym n swim. Bought some more essential oil before the sale ends at my health shop (Greenie, You've unleashed a monster!). Rose (relaxing) & ylang ylang (soothing).

DG- Not murder mystery but have you tried Elinor Lipman? Funny, clever. Oh, and American so should be in your library if she's made it across the pond to my library.

[KateH1]

AF Daily - Sunday Nov 8

Good Morning Abbers!
MMMMMmmmmmmmm...Curry! May I come to dinner, Marshy I love curry, must be my English childhood! Funny, I went to the Indian grocer and picked up a couple of things yesterday. We have quite and Indian population here and thus, fabulous Indian grocers!

Greenie, the thought of you in a bathrobe, curlers hoola hooping is driving me to crazy dreams!! LOL

Loved heraring all the stories and plans this AM. I am doing laundry and then I am going to relax and watch a movie and do some reading!! Yesterday I spent the day maternity shopping with my daughter, we had tons of fun and found some really cute things! She is tiny, size 0 and 5'4", very different from her mom who WW used to describe as a giraff.....LOL! But, try to find maternity clothing in her size is no easy task!

There is nothing better than waking up in the morning feeling great and ready to go!! I am so happy and grateful for all of us that are happily living life without alcohol!!

Have a wonderful day...All!
XXX

[greeneyes]

AF Daily - Sunday Nov 8

greenie practicing.....

I'm a quick learner!

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[LVT25]

AF Daily - Sunday Nov 8

Wow, that is a really good video of you greenie! I never was coordinated enough to master the hula hoop--now i'd probably throw something out!:H I'll be it is a good toning workout though.
I had a challenging, yet nice weekend. I'm a little tired of seeing hubby inebriated every night, but I'm guessing he'll take it a little easier for a few days at least. Yesterday my son's little league football team won their championship game--it was so fun to watch. I will miss the little league stuff as my sons grow up, but there is always something to look forward to. I am so grateful for my kids, they provide so much pride and entertainment--even though they drive me crazy at times.
After the game, I went with my sil and mil to some holiday craft shows and some shopping. It was actually quite enjoyable and it was nice to spend some time doing things with them that do not involve alcohol. Later we all kind of went separate directions to watch the Husker game--hubby and I went to the club where he continued drinking beer, and after he opened his 4th beer after he said we would leave I finally told him, I thought I had been patiently waiting for him to finish his beer, and that I didn't appreciate him ordering another. So, we left. I told him it had been a long day, I was tired, and when I get tired I get grumpy. It would be really easy to start fights at these times, but so pointless. I couldn't wait to go to sleep!
Today, I feel great, and they are all suffering from some degree of hungoverness--and that is what makes it all worthwhile.

I really appreciate everyone's comments and support--when you say I've handled a situation well, when I thought I felt bad about how I was feeling, well, it does help me. It's hard to explain...but thanks all the same.

I'm tired today, I am so envious of you all with your energy for hikes, and leaf raking, etc. I remember last year--this time change really messes with me. I just need to give myself permission to take it easy, and start back in tomorrow.

I bought some castor oil and looked at essential oils yesterday. I am going to look into that some more this week at the health food store. The castor oil I'm going to make myself look younger with!!:h

[Sarasmiles]

AF Daily - Sunday Nov 8

Hey Everyone,
Just wanted to check in and say hi. Also to report that I'm very grateful to Lavande for recommending Amoryn. I feel good! No side effects. I am definitely less anxious, and the dark clouds have lifted, with only occasional moodiness. I feel "normal"...So thanks, Lavande!!

A few weeks ago I drank wine with my mom when she came to visit. Since then I've waffled about modding versus abstaining... I've had a few nights of having 2 glasses of wine. But last week I over-did it with two big Manhattans, and I felt awful later that night, and the next day. It messed with my sleep, my mood, my energy, my focus. What's the point???? I'm feeling better after three days AF, and I have no desire to drink. But I know that won't last. I'll probably tell myself to try having a couple of glasses again at some point. It's such a long-standing pattern. I don't dare even suggest that it might not be that way again.

It's great to see so many people keeping to their AF goals. You guys are great!

Be well,

Sara

[KateH1]

AF Daily - Sunday Nov 8

Sara, it sounds like you are still caught up in the cycle of drinking. You take some AF days after over doing it, and feeling awful....then choose "modding" when you want to drink. It doesn't sound like you really give yourself a chance at ridding yourself of the vicious cycle, because you can put a "label" on your drinking times and call it "modding". Surprise! surprise! Yep....you make it through a time or two, perhaps a week or two....with nightly drinking, without getting totally drunk....but you day it yourself, you always end up back in the same spot!

Sara, "modding" is not a "get out of jail free card".....for alcoholic/problem drinkers. Modding is the ability to drink on occasion, without complulsion or fear. Remember RJ's analogy of "Butter". Of course you can continue this cycle, it is your life, your choice.

I hope you find what you really want and go for it!

Best Wishes,
Kate

[Doggygirl]

AF Daily - Sunday Nov 8

Hi Sara. For me, there have been several decisions along this path that made me feel like I did when I dropped my butt over the edge of the cliff the first time I went rappelling. Facing the truth within myself about my own [lack of] ability to "moderate" my drinking was surely one of those. (SCARY)

At the risk of sticking my nose totally where it doesn't belong, here are a couple of observations:

1. I know you have battled mightily with depression, and with coming off of a powerful anti-depressant, and the additional despression that brought on. Alcohol is a depressant and cannot possibly be helping matters, regardless of quantity.

2. The mighty struggle to let go of AL says something in and of itself. People not addicted to alcohol don't obsess over AL like that. My husband is a true "normie" so is my gold standard for how non-addicted people view alcohol. If he was battling depression, and someone suggested he never drink another beer again, because that *might* contribute to the problem, he would never drink another beer again and not thing anything of it.

Only YOU can know what's right for you.

For me, when I finally surrendered to the idea that I *am* and addict, and the ONLY solution for me is to not drink at all, ever, it was a relief. The real work began at that point, but it was still a relief to just end that debate for good. (not for temporary - for GOOD.)

Best wishes to you Sara. Especially to get out of the dark cloud of depression!!

DG