AF daily - Sunday, December 13th

[Chillgirl]

AF daily - Sunday, December 13th

Well done Raven!!
It must be a great feeling

[crazyforwine]

AF daily - Sunday, December 13th

Chillgirl,

The sweats are a nuisance, for sure! I have had them many times, and here's what I do! I have a large stack of T shirts beside my bed, as well as a couple pairs of pj bottoms (boxers in my case). When I wake up saturated, I quickly throw on dry clothes, grab a dry pillow, turn the quilt around so the wet part, near my upper body, is down by my feet. Since I wear socks (yes, I'm a thing of beauty!) I don't feel it.

In the morning I marvel at the wet yucky pile, resolve never to do this w/d thing again, but feel happy I am sweating it out. Then I drink a lot LOT of water.

It's better than retching, let me tell you!

You'll get through it. At least the weather isn't hot, at least where I am!

Ann

[Chillgirl]

AF daily - Sunday, December 13th

Hi CFW
I appreciate your reply,
I do the t shirts by the bed and sometime sleep on a towel,
As im not sharing my double bed with anyone I can also roll over to the other side
The plus's of being single...!!:thanks:

[greeneyes]

AF daily - Sunday, December 13th

WOW!!!

I searching the top shelf of a closet for a humidifier filter and found an empy 1.75 L bottle! Wow, I thought I was surely done with that after all this time. Maybe there IS hope for my hidden purse! :H:H

[Marshy]

AF daily - Sunday, December 13th

DG - thank you for the kind words. You're right that alcohol makes everything 1000 times worse. And actually (although I know it sounds as though I freak every time I have to see my parents) things have improved between us since I stopped drinking. I am able to let more things wash over me than before. In fact, the last time I saw them, and my mum started having a go at me within about five minutes of my arrival, I actually thought it was quite funny for once.
I thought about the serenity prayer when I was writing this this morning. I'll get back to London on Thursday in time for my AA meeting and can go and splurge there, too, which I'm already looking forward to!

Greenie - thanks for that link. I had a look at the initial worksheet. The thing is, I understand the theory about looking at things differently, not repeating damaging patterns of behaviour and all of that stuff. But it's so difficult in practice, especially when someone's yelling at you about something that happened 20 years ago. I find it very hard to rise above that sort of thing. I always think it must take almost superhuman ability to really, truly, deep down feel that kind of forgiveness. I know people can and do, but I'm a long way off that. Anyway, I'll explore that site, thank you.

Leelou - wow, I can't imagine what would happen if we wrote letters to each other about past hurts! I think you might be able to hear the explosions from Down Under! I'm glad it's starting to help you, though, despite the turmoil you've had to go through. God, it's just such a difficult business and difficult to know what to do for the best. I'm certainly going to try to stand tall and proud, though. Thank you.

Lav - your comment about your parents being gone reminds me of a friend of mine whose father died suddenly and totally unexpectedly (he was 58, I think). She told me that after she'd got over the shock and of course grief, her overwhelming feeling was relief because he could no longer keep telling her she wasn't good enough. I was really shocked by that at the time but also had a horrible feeling of recognition about what she meant.

Thanks bear & mario & Cindi for the support.

OK, gotta do some laundry & pack.

Greenie - throw out that stash, woman!

[Determinator]

AF daily - Sunday, December 13th

Happy sunday ABerooos!

Marshy, at any rate, being AF will give you the most stable platform for seeing your folks. My folks know I quit drinking and are very happy for me, so things are easier even though I'll still need to be careful visiting my dad in Hawaii for Christmas since we used to do a lot of drinking together and he still drinks.

Chillgirl catch you on chat soon eh?

went to a sports bar last night and watched the fights with an AF friend. it was great, and I had my wits about me for the drive home in the snow/ice. I'd have been panicking all night if I had even 1 drink in me.

be well

[Chillgirl]

AF daily - Sunday, December 13th

:yay:
Hi Determinator - thanks for the chat last night!

[DO25]

AF daily - Sunday, December 13th

I like not drinking

Not just that, I LOVE not drinking. I feel better look better laugh more am less anxious and have more time. Coming up for 4 months now sober.

Still get very depressed but that's not cured by boozing anyway.

Have a good Sunday my dears.

[LVT25]

AF daily - Sunday, December 13th

Hello friends, old and new! :welcome:

I had to do a bit of catching up today, as this weekend has been a busy one. I could really use a nap, but I promised myself I would put up some Christmas decorations first. It's just the dog and I today and we are going to make it a good one!

I have been feeling stabby and a little down lately, and I think it's mostly due to these silly Christmas expectations I have every year. When I looked at things from a different perspective, it really helped me. I've decided that some of my issues come from the fact that my husband and I simply have differences. Such as: he doesn't really like surprises--and I do. So he either buys his own gifts before Christmas, or tells me exactly what he wants....and I like to make a list of things to make it easier for them, but also love a surprise--especially if it is something thoughtful and meaningful. So when I get upset when hubby needs me to help him with MY gifts--it is only because he doesn't understand that the element of surprise is important to me since it really isn't for him. Anyway, after speaking to a few friends this weekend, seems a lot of them are feeling stress during this time--when it should be nice, enjoyable--fun! So I'm going to pause in all the shopping and worrying and make time to remember the real reason for the season! I'm going to try very hard to keep some joy in my heart and not let what those closest to me say or do ruin that joyful feeling--ok????

I don't really have any family issues to deal with as far as holiday plans this year--which is nice, and I do feel for those of you that do. I really miss my mom and dad more during this time of family and tradition though. My mom died 3 days before Christmas 5 years ago--so if I think too much about that, I can get pretty sad.

I'm going to be getting even busier. I took on another part-time job to help out some friends (and the extra $ can't hurt) so my computer time will have to be limited--which won't be all bad. I will still try at least read this thread daily. I really miss it when I can't keep up with you all and the entertainment factor is priceless at times!

Time to get busy! Peace and Goodwill! :h

[Chillgirl]

AF daily - Sunday, December 13th

Hi DO25
It so encouraging to hear you say all that I cant wait to be feeling that good!
:thanks:

[com1]

AF daily - Sunday, December 13th

"I like not drinking".

What a simple but oh so true statement. Another little clipit for me.

I like waking after not drinking as well. A unique experience in my last several years.


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