Weekly AA Thread - 12/14 - 12/20

[Sheepish]

Weekly AA Thread - 12/14 - 12/20

Good Morning All
I don't post much here- but read every day and I just wanted to offer my condolences to CPN for the loss of your brother. Over the months- I have read about your journey and am moved by your strength in staying AF over what was undoubtedly a very difficult time.
To all of the others on this thread- Gyco said it best, so I will just say a sincere thanks and wish you all the Happiest of Holidays.
-Sheep

[gyco]

Weekly AA Thread - 12/14 - 12/20

thnx dog and teach,one of my pet peeves is how people are judged cause they go back out,even tho some have total sobriety does not give them the rt to judge,i dont beleive on this thread people do this,plus i cant see there eyes and make an assumytion on how they think,which i should not do,in AA meetings,my wife alway said how do u no how i feel,when she hadnt told me anything yet or they at AA havent said anything,,that to me is my greatest character defect,and since listening is one of the biggest parts of lerning how to stay sober,that is where i am,read,listen and then comment,if you have somethiing worth while to say,but as i said when im down,this a great forum to come to,thnx gyco

[gyco]

Weekly AA Thread - 12/14 - 12/20

hi sleep always nc to see newcomers

[gyco]

Weekly AA Thread - 12/14 - 12/20

sheep i cant spell rt how can i stay sober hahahaha merry christmas to u to

[Doggygirl]

Weekly AA Thread - 12/14 - 12/20

Hello Sheep! Always good to see you. And hi again Gyco and all!

Gyco, being judgemental is a character defect I am working on in ALL areas of life - not just judging people's drinking. It's just not up to me. And I sure don't like when I feel that *I* am being judged.

I mentioned here and there that I have used Mary Kay products for a long time and that I have decided to become a Mary Kay lady. There is lots I like about Mary Kay as a company. One of the things that impressed me was seeing a biography about Mary Kay herself. "The Golden Rule" (do unto others..) was central to her life both personally and in business. Even though she is no longer living, lots of company documents reference "the golden rule" even today. I took strong note of that in light of my own need to be better in this area. Anyway...sort of a random thing!

Went to the frightfully early Monday 5AM meeting and I'm so glad I went. I was tired after a long weekend with extra activities - cooking for family holiday parties, going to the in-law family party, starting a new workout program, doing some Mary Kay related stuff to get that going, etc. When the alarm went off at 3AM, I did NOT want to get up!

I'm glad I was there to be part of it when one woman who attends this meeting regularly got her 4 year coin. She said that as this anniversary approached, she thought she would take all her previous coins and give them back to the group so they have coins for other people without buying more of those. But she said as she went through the coins over the weekend, she realized that she has special memories about her progress in sobriety attached to each one. She recalled her 30 day coin and how MISERABLE she was, even though she somehow made it through 30 days without drinking. She reflected how far she has come since that time to a place where she has joy and peace of mind in her life. Her joy and inner peace shine through on her face every week - not just today.

She also went back through her journals and quoted something she wrote in there along the way. "My resentments did not cause my drinking - my drinking caused my resentments." That made me think. The in-law family party was actually fun yesterday. I used to think "I didn't like these people" and "I didn't have anything in common with these people." The truth is, I couldn't drink like I want to drink (heavily) around these people, and THAT is what I resented. It really was never about anything THEY did, although I didn't see that back in the drinking days. I believed my own bullshit.

I have many many opportunities for more personal growth LOL! But I'm very grateful to be where I am today, and not where I was in previous years.

Strength and hope,

DG

[momof3]

Weekly AA Thread - 12/14 - 12/20

[She also went back through her journals and quoted something she wrote in there along the way. "My resentments did not cause my drinking - my drinking caused my resentments." That made me think. The in-law family party was actually fun yesterday. I used to think "I didn't like these people" and I didn't have anything in common with these people. The truth is, I couldn't drink like I want to drink (heavily) around these people, and THAT is what I resented. It really was never about anything THEY did, although I didn't see that back in the drinking days. I believed my own bullshit.

DG
DG This quote rings so true for me. It's amazing to me how much anger, resentment, and moodiness was tied up in alcohol. It has been one of the most delightful surprises for me being AF. I experience these feelings from time to time but they are fleeting, I'm imagining like it is for "normal" people who don't have addictions.