February: FEB FAST ~ AF ~ Week 1

[dill]

February: FEB FAST ~ AF ~ Week 1

"Settle for nothing less than what you truly desire, and do not be afraid to ask for what you feel will bring you joy and fulfillment." --Emmanuel

Greetings friends!
I'm feeling better today and grateful for my good health. Yesterday I was hit with little bit of a stomach/intestinal bug.
Red, I love logging on in the morning and seeing your posts. Again today you gave me something to think about which will help me through my own struggle.
Lode, I think Miss B gave great advice. I was thinking particularly of you when I read today's quote. Big congrats on your graduation approval!!! WOW!
Sky, be safe. This sounds like it will be a very emotional trip for you. I will be thinking of you. I come from a family of 4 boys and myself. Both parents have passed, Dad in 2002, Mom in 2004. I have lost two of my brothers in the last 2 years. My eldest brother died just this past September. It has been difficult.
Sky, I'm so happy that you are back to being able to shower and drive!

I want to drink a lot but with immunity and those days are no longer possible for me.

LBH, that is SO me! Your post said it so well, as always. Thanks for expressing those thoughts I have but can't quite bring to the fore.
Lav, no snow here yet, but it is expected soon. I'm looking forward to the white stuff. If it has to be winter, it might as well be pretty to look at!
Strength to all!

[Lavande]

February: FEB FAST ~ AF ~ Week 1

Good morning friends,

Snow expected to start at lunchtime Dill - oh boy! Sounds like it's going to be a lot too. Lucky us!

Lode, It's been nearly 37 years since I've thought of dating - I absolutely don't remember a thing about it :H
I would have to agree though - just be yourself, let things happen naturally!

Sky, now that all of your repairs are completed what are you going to do for fun & entertainment? :H

Miss B, you have a lot on your plate right now - my thoughts will be with you this coming week. Wishing you the best!

Red, congrats on your progress in all areas! Be proud

Wishing everyone a wonderful Friday - will check in later.
Lav

[ladybirdheart]

February: FEB FAST ~ AF ~ Week 1

Oh, Lode, nailing down the end of your Ph.D. and the wobbles from a new flirtation in a single day, your timing is priceless. You have given me a huge smile. Savor and take your time, small amounts of limerence (I love that word) should be far more intriguing sober, and I know you don?t want to alter the course of a relationship by drinking over it. Breathe. Often. My heart is with you, Miss B on your trip, it is a huge gift you are participating in, things don?t get more elemental than this. Hi everybody. Love, Ladybird.

[sooty]

February: FEB FAST ~ AF ~ Week 1

Well I missed signing on this morning cos I had to be out very early and its been busy busy all day till now. So good evening everyone!!
Friday went well for me and I'm so happy to be facing the weekend AF.
More rubbish tv and being lazy for me tonight now ~ cos I'm worth it!
See you all tomorrow I hope you all have a super day.
Sooty

[lodestar]

February: FEB FAST ~ AF ~ Week 1

Ahhhhhhh, safely aboard the bus...good stuff. Limerance ~ great word LBH. I had to look it up. Yeah, breathing is definitely in order Miss B, good advice indeed. Can't do much damage at Starbucks. I think I'm gonna stick to that or brunch or something if I even go at all. It's weird, people don't usually approach me for some reason but lately it's happening a lot! Maybe it is because I'm actually leaving the house these days! Yesterday, this man walked right up to me at the mall and started chatting me up. He thought I was much younger than I actually am ~ haha. The line didn't work so well, but it was hilarious nonetheless. "You dropped something, oh there it is, your smile." Gag. :H Dill, thanks for the quote...hanging that one on the top of my computer. Perfect! I'm going to a party on Sunday where the drinks will be flowing. I'm getting shirley temple ingredients to cart along, for sure. Also, I'm going to arrive late and leaving early, on the basis of too much work. If I don't feel strong enough, I just won't go. Plain and simple. To be sure, I've noticed some cravings in the last 24 hours. Upping my L-glut and keeping on.

Love to all.

[redhibiscus]

February: FEB FAST ~ AF ~ Week 1

Hey all, I am currently keeping very busy...Friday about 5:20...the witching hour and let's face it, for me the witching day. So, I am cooking, lurking on this site, cleaned the entire house, washed the sheets, towels, I mean, I will be able to relax tomorrow if I chose to. So, what are other's up to this evening?

I just keep thinking of how good I am going to feel tomorrow, how well I will sleep tonight. This is so doable, and I am doing it right now. Staying AF.

[Lavande]

February: FEB FAST ~ AF ~ Week 1

Hi Red,

6 pm here in PA watching the snow pile up - I'm hearing predictions of 2 feet - yikes :H
I'm not going to worry about it.......nothing I can do!

Stay online all evening if you have to........God knows that's exactly what I was doing last year at this time until I got a firm grip! Consider it time invested in your future

I'll be back a little later with a snow update :H

Lav

[Chillgirl]

February: FEB FAST ~ AF ~ Week 1

Hi Gang
Just checking in here to say goodnight.

Red I really sympathize, friday nights are the very worst for me but i have managed through another one and its 11.30pm here. Its wonderful to be going to bed sober and knowing i will wake up tomorrow the think "Yes! Its saturday and im completely hangover free!!"

I actually went out tonight with a girlfriend who is now getting used to me not joining her on the wine, instead I concentrated on the food which was tasty tapas, warm crusty bread, cheese in honey and almonds, rucola salad, baked beetroot, cured spanish ham, baked mushrooms stuffed with bacon then homemade chocolate truffles!!

So now I will have to spend most of Saturday in the gym working my butt off..........

[ladybirdheart]

February: FEB FAST ~ AF ~ Week 1

Hi Red. I wanted to let you know I am here with you on an AF Friday evening. Lord Bird Heart and I shared a fake beer and messed around with our picture puzzle (the kitty and parrot helped) while a new soup cooked (sauteed celery, onion, and potato, blended smooth, and then topped with caramelized apple, blue cheese, and toasted walnuts). We are going to listen to Rachel Maddeaux during dinner and then watch a French film ?The Man on the Train?. Things are going really well. Chill, your food list sent me right to heaven, and Lav, kick back and rest, I think you have some sort of millennial snow pile on the way and you are going to be home, warm and cozy for a while. Love, Ladybird.

[lodestar]

February: FEB FAST ~ AF ~ Week 1

Good night everyone. Red, so happy for you for making your way through witching day. Chill, I'm with LBH, that dinner sounds amazing and LBH's soup too. I had canned chicken noodle. Bleah! Stay warm, Lav. I think I read that one of the MWOers on another thread teaches snowshoeing. Maybe you could inquire about her services :H

Hope all are tucked in safely for the night...well, except maybe Soots and Sky who should be prowling around here soon, right?

Sweet pink dreams. :l

[redhibiscus]

February: FEB FAST ~ AF ~ Week 1

Thanks so much Lavande, chillgirl, LBH, and lodestar for responding to my post about making it through a Friday night. I am so glad I did. After a great night's rest I am up early and planning my unhungover Saturday. A free gift to myself. I feel physically healthy, and am just so grateful to be on my second weekend AF. Thanks so much for all your support.

I did not get back on the computer last night, my husband had upsetting news and we just hung out together and I was supportive. He lost his good job in 2008 and is currently employed but it is not comparable at all to what he had before....it is hard and humiliating to him and will probably be like this for the forseeable future. This economic disaster has devastated us. But we made it through last night at least.

Alcohol would not have made anything better or helped us at all. It would have just made everything worse. He did tell me, "I wanted to drink so bad," but he knows that I am freaking out about staying AF, I mean it, I have to, I want to, and I need to. There.
It is just that alcohol can take away the pain for a short time. I have been really verbal about my need to be AF. I talk about it, I say in the morning how wonderful it is to wake up bursting with energy. I say things like, "I am not drinking this weekend." Period.

I feel a little more confident (but believe me not prideful) now that I am again getting in the habit of planning to be AF. Knowing that I CAN BE AF. I think this is an important concept for me. I have to plan. If I don't I might just say "F*** It, and drink. Does anybody else have this experience?

LBH, your soup recipe sounded mouth watering...could you please give us the recipe if you have time? Where do you find these gourmet recipes? I am happy to hear that things are going well for you. You are a lovely person as is evident from your posts.

Dill, thanks for saying you like to read my posts first thing in the morning. I am just so grateful to wake up feeling good and have so many thoughts and plans for my life. So much is possible if I am AF. :l

[lodestar]

February: FEB FAST ~ AF ~ Week 1

Hooray for you, Red! I'm excited to be up to congratulate you while you are starting your AF Saturday. I got stuck on a gratefulness website and it was so interesting that I'm still up at 4am. Oops. Time for sleep here. Sorry to hear about hubby's trying night. It is wonderful that you have each other and can be supportive no matter what. Yes, I think a plan is essential! Without planning, I would be off the chain where al is concerned. So glad you didn't have a f*** it moment and get to celebrate your precious sober Saturday morning. I'm celebrating with you as I pad off to bed, to be sure.

Good morning to all who come along soon. Don't make too much noise, okay? :H

:l

[dill]

February: FEB FAST ~ AF ~ Week 1

Goodness, Lode, you stayed up so late! I was just thinking about rolling out of bed st 7 am when you were tucking yourself in!

Well done to you Red! Well done. Is your HB still wanting to quit, too? It sounds like you are helping him too, at any rate!

This is super bowl weekend, so we must be extra vigilant. We will be thinking of you especially, Sped. Let us know if you want to meet in chat.

Lots of beautiful snow here, but we are getting ready to get out and try the roads so we can do our Saturday morning shopping.

[Lavande]

February: FEB FAST ~ AF ~ Week 1

Good morning friends,

Blizarrd conditions out there - screw the Saturday shopping Dill :H
Glad I remembered to feed & water the hens yesterday..........probably won't get to them today!

Red, great to hear you conquered your Friday night - knew you could do it

Lode, hope you are catching up on your beauty sleep

Well, we'll see how this day develops......be back later with snowfall totals :H
Wishing everyone a terrific AF day!

Lav

[Chillgirl]

February: FEB FAST ~ AF ~ Week 1

Red I so admire you for not drinking last night. Its my biggest fear when I have a difficult situation to deal with that I say F**K it and reach fro a drink even although I know as you said it doesnt help the situation one bit. So far I havent been faced with any challenging situations and only hope I can stay strong when it happens.

Am I right from your post that you and your husband are both doing the Af together? Im on my own and although at times the encouragement would be a bonus the down side is having to cope with someone elses battle with AL too.

The reason I ask is that when I quit in Dec I did it together with a friend who id met through MWO and we have become extremely close and a daily support to each other. Anyway, last night he went out and got completely trashed... Im mad at him as well as being angry, disapointed, sad and a whole lot of other emotions. If it was one of you guys Id be completely sympathetic and tell you how to get bck up and start all over again but because its a much more involved relationship I want to scream and shout at him which is probably not helpful.

My biggest problem is in the understanding of why? He was doing so well and was like me finding it easier every day and was really so enjoying AF life and the positive changes it had made to him. He says he has absolutely no explaination for why it happened.

Has anyone got any insight into this and how we move it forward from here....?