AF APRIL 2010 - WEEK 4

[greeneyes]

AF APRIL 2010 - WEEK 4

Lav! I'm so upset over how you must be feeling!! What a shock! You have my complete support. I was shocked when my husband left me and Lav, it was good for me. Because I, just as you, deserve someone who nurtures my spirit and soul. :l:l

[cyntree]

AF APRIL 2010 - WEEK 4

Hi April Gang - sorry that I'm a day late posting ---

Lav - !!! - I add my voice to the magnificent chorus here that is creating a cosmic shout out for you...you have always been there for all of us. You absolutely deserve the best in life, and I am sending that energy your way. Thanks so much for keeping in touch and letting us know how you are as you 'find your bearings' (thanks LBH).

Chill - brave girl, hope more conversations are fruitful. Red - good job on the 'protective shield' sounds like just the thing; tiring, but you are treating yourself well. Sped - well done on the race! But we already knew you were a winner. Keep writing about how things are 'inside'. I need to hear them - each day I have many ups and downs, and it helps me to know others are having that crazy ride sometimes too. LBH - please don't stress about writing. Though we are much impoverished without your posts, it's good to know that you are able to be with us in spirit...I'm so sorry that the healing is taking so long. I've got my prayer rug out, ready to do extra time wishing you a good eye exam. Sooty/Panda take care, and keep on using that mobile phone! Dill - keep on smelling the lilacs. Raven - hope you got some sleep.

My goodness, what a time - volcanoes bursting everywhere right along with the flowers bursting open - stay tuned -

[Guest]

AF APRIL 2010 - WEEK 4

Love to all.

[Stargazerlily]

AF APRIL 2010 - WEEK 4

:h:l:hHappy Hump Day!!!!!

Lav, you sound good, almost as if you are getting used to the idea and reality of what is happening. When there is a crisis, there is always shock mode, and it takes time to take in all that is going on. Then, you can make plans and make choices. Isn't it great to be AF through this time, drinking would make it so much worse.

LBH, sorry it is taking so long to heal, we miss your daily posts and appreicate all you can contribute. Books on tape sound wonderful, I will have to try that sometime. I thought of getting an IPOD touch, but I am not sure I really want it and will use it. Also, any type of new technology always gets me frustrated till I figure it out.

Sped, passive aggressive individuals are the worst.....they get you thinking that you are imagining stuff, crazy, etc. They are real game players in the worst sense.Marriage counseling sounds like a good idea, it is always positive to get issues out on the table.

I have a busy day ahead and friends over tonight. I am so grateful to have slept well and feeling healthy.....impossible if alcohol is involved.

I have been on this particular thread since October and just want everyone to know I appreciate each and every one of you so much. I never knew how wonderful it could be to have online support and friendships. This is like an interactive journal, where we can be our true selves and not worry about being judged harshly. It has been and continues to be a safe haven for me and I hope others. Have a peaceful and AF day.:h

[sooty]

AF APRIL 2010 - WEEK 4

Morning friends. I'm off to osteopath again later but this fall has really shaken me up. I'm coming out bruises in the most peculiar of places - got a big one on my chest now (above the boobs) and I'm really aching everywhere now which i guess is a natural reaction but boy am I getting fed up with it all.
Lav I'm glad that you are finding extra strength to deal with stuff at the moment
I can't mention everyone by name cos its so hard to type but I'm so grateful for the messages and kind thoughts and I return them all in shedloads.
Talk later, have a good day folks - oops almost forgot - happy humpday
love Sooty

[momof3]

AF APRIL 2010 - WEEK 4

Lav,

I just read your posts about your husband. You have been so strong and such a great support to many here. I hope you draw on this strength within yourself and also seek out and get the support from others you need now.

I have been through this with two very dear friends over the years, i.e., their husbands all of a sudden walked out after decades of marriage. Even though it was devastating to say the least, I must say that they are both now doing fabulously well....better than if they if they had stayed in their marriages.

I have seen a part of them develop and shine through that I don't think that I ever would have seen otherwise. Even though they loved their husbands and were devoted to their marriages, they were being dragged down by them a bit.

M3

[Lavande]

AF APRIL 2010 - WEEK 4

Hello April friends,

I'm still in one piece
Just had coffee & a nice chat with my daughter, she was very supportive!

Sooty, poor Sooty - hope you are feeling better. Maybe you do need me to fly over & help you out. You know I would if you needed me

M3, thanks for your support! I have so many friends here - I do feel blessed. I'm just trying to relax my brain a bit - not over work it this week. His previous antics sent me right into the depression zone, I don't want to go there again because that's when I started drinking. Hell will freeze over before I allow that to happen again!!!!!!

Wishing everyone a good rest of the day & night!
Lav

[Draggy]

AF APRIL 2010 - WEEK 4

just read over this thread and lavande big hugs hun
draggy

[momof3]

AF APRIL 2010 - WEEK 4

Good for you Lav,

Another great thing about being AF...you don't get sucked into the drama as easily.

[sooty]

AF APRIL 2010 - WEEK 4

Morning one and all. another frustrating day in Sootyland made even worse cos the sun is shining and I can't go out cos I look such a fright. there's a yellow tinge creeping into the black eyes now - its not a look that i can recommend
I hope that we're all doing ok, I'm home alone cos Mr S gone to his welsh class and its quite exciting. I'm going to try and get dressed on my own in a minute but think I'll be bra-less today - what a naughty sooty I am :H
have a good day gang, see you later
love sooty

[rustop61]

AF APRIL 2010 - WEEK 4

Good morning everyone

Just a quick check in. I have to bring my daughter to a competition down the country so will be gone a day or two.

Lav - good for you, you sound so strong. Keep it up.

Sooty - Poor you, hope you are soon feeling better.

Everyone else big hello.

Rustop

[dill]

AF APRIL 2010 - WEEK 4

Good morning all,

Lav, keep on hanging in there. Things will get better. Hugs to you.

Sooty, when you are feeling up to it, I hope you can describe to us how your fall happened. Did you go face first on to the concrete? I wish you a speedy recovery!

LBH, thanks for the reminder about The Heart is a Lonely Hunter. I read that years ago and really liked it. It would be fun to listen to it.

Red, I am really glad you are on this thread, too. I feel the same way you do about it.

Sped, Rusty, Cyn, Pan, and all who stop by, have a wonderful AF day!

[Chillgirl]

AF APRIL 2010 - WEEK 4

Good Morning AFers!
Nice day here in the Algarve....
Today is in fact Earth Day, a day to take a moment and appreciate this glorious planet we live on, check out HeartMath - Connecting a Million Hearts

My orbit of the dark side of the moon has passed and I am fully back in my rightful positive place. Im still waiting to have that meeting with my ex but I didnt push for it as I knew my frame of mind was not at its best... I hope he calls today, I feel like I could take on an asteroid attack today! :H

Lav I wish I could come over and share a coffee with you, I think we could have such a great chat and put the world to rights.... You are made of sturdy stuff girl and I know you will come through this even stronger.

Sooty - You sound in great spirits despite your multi coloured injuries!

What I team we all make Afers... quite a force to reckon with dont you think......

[Lavande]

AF APRIL 2010 - WEEK 4

Hello all,

Couldn't let the day pass without stopping in!

My daughter, SIL, DIL & grandson came for a quick dinner tonight (my son is on a 24 hr shift). It was nice company, I think they know the old lady is lonlier that usual. I had a short email from Mr Lav Tuesday night, said he would be here Wednesday to pick up a few things but he never showed. Now I'm beginning to feel really ANGRY! No call, no email - just more non-communication as usual. I'm fantasizing about chaging the locks on the doors...........

Anyway - Sooty, I'm thinking going braless at this point in life is probably just fine. Hope you are feeling a little better.

Chill, I really do think we could accomplish a lot over coffee! I totally forgot about those dark side of the moon T shirts we talked about a week or two ago. Now would be a good time for me to stitch some up

Dill, you are doing well this week? I'm using a lot of Lavan-itude this week but I always have some to spare if you need a fix!

Greetings to LBH, Rustop, Red, Cyn, Pan, Shelley & everyone

Has anyone heard from Lil lately?

OK, I'm just going to read through a few more threads then try to get into sleep mode - not easy to do lately.
Wishing everyone a terrific AF night.
Your support has helped me tremendously.

Lav

[Guest]

AF APRIL 2010 - WEEK 4

Lav, my love, get angry and then get even, but nicely. Changing the locks could put you in trouble with the law. The best way for you to handle this is with grace and charm. It may sound easier said than done, but it can give you a lot of satisfaction to see the smug look wiped off his face.