AF Daily - May 27, 2010

[Doggygirl]

AF Daily - May 27, 2010

Awww Gaia. So many decisions ahead for you. And things that only YOU can decide for yourself.

Here is how I would view those concerns in my own life and circumstances - only what is right for ME.

* I don't want to be married to someone I can't trust NOT to dance with other women (at least not inappropriately) at a party if I'm not there to "babysit."

* I can't imagine having to endure a lot of AL soaked events that *I* am really not having fun at in order to keep an eye on Mr. Doggy.

One thing I know for sure is that drinking is not and will never be an option for me. Everything and everyone else in my life has to fit into my SOBER life. I'm willing to be flexible but only to the point where drinking is still not an option.

These are just things to think about. Is it possible Mr. T might want to join you in leaving early and doing something else non-AL that would be fun for both of you?

These transitions are really hard when one chooses to stop the madness but the other one doesn't.

DG

[momof3]

AF Daily - May 27, 2010

Back again for a minute...

Bobby pins? Haven't seen those in years. And LVT, I hate hairspray too but I'm going to have to do something with this fuzz head over my yoga weekend.

Gaia, I second everything that DG and LVT said (even though they are only 29 years old and have enviable hair, they are both very wise)! Seriously, have a plan. In that plan, you should not be worrying about your husband. Do what you have to do to stay AF. Ask him to be part of your exit plan if needed. And, if he doesn't want to, bring your own car or ask someone else to take you home.

There is no better feeling than to wake up in the morning after being challenged by a situation such as this and to score a victory by remaining AF. It will boost your confidence and forge new pathways in your brain. This is a "fork in the road" moment in your path toward sobriety. You don't want to go down the wrong path and feel like shit about yourself the next day

Love Desparate Housewives by the way!!

Gotta get some work done today so I can start packing for my weekend. Zoom Zoom...

M3

[greeneyes]

AF Daily - May 27, 2010

What DG said.

Recently I read some of my first posts and some e-mails to family regarding being AF. I was terrified of discovering the sober me. I was afraid I wouldn't like me nor would anyone else, including my husband. (then husband) Our self esteem at that point is so low we are gripped by fear and uncertainty. It gets better. Really. You are so much better without the AL.

[momof3]

AF Daily - May 27, 2010

I was afraid I was going to be boring when I stopped drinking! Truth is, I now get bored very quickly at events where drinking becomes the central focus. Still worry about my dancing abilities as a sober person though (only kidding).

[Guitarista]

AF Daily - May 27, 2010

Doggygirl;868997 wrote: G - if I join you and Greenie, will you buy me a new bathrobe? With rhinestones on it?

M3 - hair spray and bobby pins. And if that doesn't work, there is always more hairspray. And bobby pins.

Hi Marshy! Are you going to grab your bathrobe and join the fun?

Oney, I hope you know that *I* have no part in this X rated stuff. It's these other people here on the daily thread. *NOT ME*.

DG

A new bathrobe with rhinestones, diamond's, AA coin's! Sure thing! Now, where's Greenie? Oh, she's run off.

I feel and i know i look and act so much more vital these day's, and this is an attractive quality Gaia.....
A safe, sober af evening to all!

[greeneyes]

AF Daily - May 27, 2010

momof3;869519 wrote: Still worry about my dancing abilities as a sober person though (only kidding).

me too (not kidding)

[Doggygirl]

AF Daily - May 27, 2010

Greenie, if you wear curlers while dancing nobody will notice what your feet are doing. Just a thought.

(hahahaha)

DG

[greeneyes]

AF Daily - May 27, 2010

Doggygirl;869545 wrote: Greenie, if you wear curlers while dancing nobody will notice what your feet are doing. Just a thought.

(hahahaha)

DG

They noticed I was eating oysters at Halloween.......

[momof3]

AF Daily - May 27, 2010

Okay, I wasn't really kidding either...dancing and sex sober are still quite novel experiences to me.

[Doggygirl]

AF Daily - May 27, 2010

greeneyes;869551 wrote: They noticed I was eating oysters at Halloween.......

Were you wearing curlers? Or just the bathrobe?

M3, I'm still trying to figure out the sober + menopause sex formula. Most of the time, it adds up to zero for me.

DG

[greeneyes]

AF Daily - May 27, 2010

Doggygirl;869585 wrote: Were you wearing curlers? Or just the bathrobe? DG

Actually, both.

Sober sex. I bet anything I'd have a spell of inappropriate laughter. :H