AF Daily - Friday May 28

[Gaia]

Morning everyone,
Just starting out with a brand new day. I was just now reading through yesterday's thread and thinking about all the comments, and the chat about the robes, curlers, desperate housewives, dancing and sex.
Hmm.
M3 I am thinking a lot about your comment that this is a fork in the road. I agree. If I cheat, I'm only cheating myself. It will be totally plausible to capture a glass or two when out of view. But if I can do this I WILL wake up on Sunday morning feeling really good, and closer to my first 30 days which I seriously want. Maybe I can play mental games with myself, like "Spot the Drunkard" but I don't think this is really positive - there's a vanity in this which is not healthy. This is what I mean when I say I am still "not right" about not drinking. That being said, have a fantastic weekend!
Greenie you have always come across to me as a lovely person. I'm sure your personality really shines through sober.
Guit you seem quite full of vitality and I take your comment to heart.
LV and DG - your ideas about planning and preparation are good ones. I must fill that quiver full of arrows, and be ready. GRRRR my mind is making flip flops GRRRRR.
OK now on to the fun stuff - sober D&S. I mean dancing and sex, not the OTHER D&S. Well I think I'll think on this for a while. I have issues of trust with Mr. T. which interfere, and until that goes away I'm not sure I'm ready to give in to him. Not that I withhold, I'm just not fully there. Anyone else have these issues?

[Guitarista]

AF Daily - Friday May 28

Morning Gaia, and all to come,

Cometh the bathrobe, cometh the man. Gaia, i reckon sober is very sexy. Not just because folk tend to dribble a bit less, well, i know i do, but there is a vitality about us, a walk, the way we hold ourselves is different to when we are drinking, well, for me this is true. I catch a glimpse in a mirror in a pub, or out somewhere sometimes and think, geez, is that really the same person. I've still got a long way to go, but there are obvious changes within me, but a real obvious one is.....shiny hair, bloated gut/face gone, toned, (through one thing that helped me get sober...exercise!) the walk, the attitude, the talk, head up, clearer eyes, a 'present' look and vibe.
You will have this same vibe about you this weekend for you, and all to see. Have fun with it, and revel in it. And it can be like this every day of our lives if we let it.........
I'm waffling!

A grand day to all!

[Chillgirl]

AF Daily - Friday May 28

I would like to 2nd that Guitarista - Sober is definity sexy!
When I think of the mad swaying I used to do which I thought was dancing I cringe.... and strutting through the bar thinking you were sexy and bumping into the wall is not a good look. Now clear eyed, hydrated skin, no bloating and in control of my co-ordination has to be better... shame i no longer feel like hanging out in the bar anymore, its full of stupid boring drunk people who think their fun and sexy! :H

[momof3]

AF Daily - Friday May 28

Good Morning All,

Off to take a shower and then to my yoga weekend. I am all packed up and ready to go. Hopefully, the traffic won't be too bad. It's a 6 1/2 hour drive with no traffic. I never would have done this in my drunk days by the way. This place does not allow Al on the premises (and the food is all vegetarian).

Gaia, you are doing a good job. One day at a time. And, of course you don't feel right about not drinking. Your body and mind are still adjusting. It will get better. Do something special for yourself today. And yes, I have LOTS of issues with my husband in the areas you mentioned.

My message from the universe from TUT's Adventurers Club::Welcome (thanks Chillgirl)..."You deserve all the love in the world." And, so do each of you.

Chillgirl, are you back from your adventures?

Guitarista...being AF is sexy. I see the wear and tear that drinking does to people. It does not look good on anyone!!

M3

[Chillgirl]

AF Daily - Friday May 28

Mo3 - Yes back safely from travels and thankfully AF although it has been my most difficult challenge and has left me a bit shaky, I will concentrate on the fact that I did actually make it AF and not worry about the "what ifs", im home and sober

A yoga weekend sounds absolutely wonderful! I did some yoga while i was away and have vowed to get back to a regular class. Last night was my 1st night home and without visitors since May 2nd and I had a hot shower and was in my jammies by 8pm and eating chocolate on the sofa..... bliss! However I woke up today with a cold and feel drained and exhausted, my plan for the weekend is to turn off my phone, put on my chill music, catch up on some spiritual reading & leave the house only to walk my dog :dog:

[Marshy]

AF Daily - Friday May 28

Hello all,

Sober sex. Hmm. Chance would be a fine thing. I'm still tackling the dating minefield. Have met a woman I like (again!) but I only see her in a group social situation and not very often at that so I dunno if anything will come of that. I'm working on, though - slowly! I've recently heard quite a few single women I know (gay and straight) in their mid-late 40s say that they don't want another relationship because it's too much hassle. That's definitely not me but it just seems to be a bit of a theme that's cropping up lately.

I've been for a swim on the way into work and my hair has gone strangely tufty on top so I don't think I'll be pulling today :H (Not surrounded by a bunch of guys at work anyway).

Gaia - can you talk to your husband about your concerns? Is he supportive in you giving up drinking? Can you say you only want to stay at the party until X o'clock and see what he says?

Guitarista - lookin' good

Chill & Momof3 - enjoy your yoga/chilling weekends.

Have a good day all!

[Lavande]

AF Daily - Friday May 28

Morning Ab Fabbers,

Happy Friday!
I'm seeing sunshine & blue skies today. Last night's thunder storms cleared out the massive heat & humdity we were stuck with for a few days.

Sober sex? Trust issues?
Don't get me started...........I could write a freakin novel about all that right now!!!!!

Chill, glad you are back in your safety zone Sorry about the cold though. I hear chocolate cures most anything

M3, hope your yoga weekend is fabulous!

No special plans for me this weekend, will be at home & safe, that's for sure.
Wishing everyone a wonderful, AF Friday!

Lav

[greeneyes]

AF Daily - Friday May 28

Morning gabbies I mean fabbies!

marshy, yeah, sex itself would be novel. So would a date for that matter. Maybe something will happen with the new robe come fig season. Whadda ya think, G? Figs are quite sexy, you know....
That's odd about the hassle theme. I dont' feel that way at all, even after the mess of my last one. :H

Gaia, I too am wondering about what husband's take is on your party anxiety? Does he know? I really hope you enjoy yourself and it gives you a good feeling in your AF navigational skills. What is the event anyway?

chill, sounds like a devine weekend. I'm babysitting both neighbor's dogs this weekend and going to do yard sale prep which means cleaning drawers, cabinets, closets, etc. Chill, great job on staying AF!

M3 have a safe trip. Maybe I'll deach little doggie downward facing dog in your honor. :H

Well..... 10 AM and I've already gotten a good bit of work done. House estimate guy should be here any minute.

Have a Fine Friday! Hi lav!

[LVT25]

AF Daily - Friday May 28

" I was afraid I was going to be boring when I stopped drinking! Truth is, I now get bored very quickly at events where drinking becomes the central focus. Still worry about my dancing abilities as a sober person though (only kidding)."


Me too, M3. I can't dance sober. Doesn't matter too much though, because hubby doesn't really like to dance anymore anyway. The sex thing....not so much either.

zoom zoom

[Guitarista]

AF Daily - Friday May 28

Greenie, i have a fig tree as it happen's......:H

[greeneyes]

AF Daily - Friday May 28

Guitarista;870129 wrote: Greenie, i have a fig tree as it happen's......:H

figures....... :H

[greeneyes]

AF Daily - Friday May 28

And the more I think about it...:H:H:H:H:H

[prancy]

AF Daily - Friday May 28

Starting out what I plan on being a sober Friday and a sober Memorial Day weekend. I feel so much better but those darn thoughts about how will I be able to be AF forever just keep skittering in there! I am already obsessed about how will I do a planned trip to Paris in September without drinking wine. Why is it so terribly hard to keep your thoughts and focus on the day you are in!! Any suggestions on how to keep those thoughts about FOREVER at bay?

[Chillgirl]

AF Daily - Friday May 28

Prancy - All I can suggest is that you just deal with now. If you can stay AF for the weekend thats wonderful and you dont need to concern yourself with something which is months off.
When I quit in Jan I was also thinking about Sept as thats when my birthday is, the thought of not drinking on a birthday was the most ridiculous thing to me but it was so far away.... I just dealt with what was immediately in front of me, the 1st dinner out, the 1st party, the 1st...whatever, they go on forever. All we can do is get through them one at a time and each is a huge achievement! Now my birthday doesnt look like such a big deal and I have already decided to go to a spa for the day and treat myself to the best pampering a girl can get.

Paris sober will be awesome but take it a step at a time

[Doggygirl]

AF Daily - Friday May 28

prancy;870293 wrote: I feel so much better but those darn thoughts about how will I be able to be AF forever just keep skittering in there! I am already obsessed about how will I do a planned trip to Paris in September without drinking wine. Why is it so terribly hard to keep your thoughts and focus on the day you are in!! Any suggestions on how to keep those thoughts about FOREVER at bay?

Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.

Repeat.

And repeat some more.

That really helped me a LOT. I was a HUGE worrier over the future. The ONLY thing I can do anything about is some (but certainly not all) of what's going on right now.

Hello fabbie abbies! I was all set for a relaxed weekend doing whatever I feel like doing. Mr. Doggy will be at a dog training weekend. I just got home from my workout and a trip (again!) to the plant place and there was a message on my machine. It's my brother. The one I have such a difficult time with in my head. He's in town. Didn't even say he was coming. So now you know why the serenity prayer was right there at the forefront of my mind! :H I took a deep breath (and said the prayer about six times) and then made some lunch. Now checking in with you guys. THEN I'll call him back. So we shall see what the universe really has in mind for me this weekend.

Dancing and drinking. Reading the posts from yesterday and today reminded me of a wedding reception I went to with an X boyfriend. I don't even remember who got maiired but my parents were there and also my boss at the time and his family and a number of my co-workers. I ended up so drunk that I fell down more than once on the dance floor. What REALLY makes me is that I was worried when I went to AA that somebody would find out I had a drinking problem.

:H:H:H

I hope you didn't just spit a AF beverage all over your keyboard!

Anyway... Gaia, are you able to talk to Mr. T about your issues with drink, sobriety, trust, etc.? I hope you end up having fun and looking perky and gorgeous at the end of the night rather than haggard and sloppy and bleary eyed like I used to look by the end of every party. (dang lights!)

Chill, you must be LOVING your privacy after so many weeks of traveling and company!!!

Greenie, I think you and Guitarista are :h based on fig and bathrobe commonalities. If G says he wears curlers too, I will absolutely fall out of my chair!

LVT, I think we should find you a sweet young side thing. But you can't have Johnny Depp because he is taken.

Marshy, the scariest thing to me about swimming would be my hair. Why don't you ask this woman for her phone number next time you see her???? (GO MARSHY!)

Lav, we will find you a sweet young thing too one of these days. Or you might be in that camp who would rather not bother?

My granny outlived my Grandpa and in her later years, there was a guy who lived in her apartment complex who totally had the hots for her. She would watch movies and hold hands with him, but that was it. We asked if she would ever marry him and she said "I've already taken care of one sick old man - I'm not doing it twice!"

Anyway...thank you for listening to me ramble. It has helped settle my resentment a bit. Now I am ready to make that call! The cool thing is that I used to drink over that sort of stuff and now it really doesn't occur to me to drink over stuff - especially small stuff like this.

DG