AF Daily Tuesday July 6

[Lavande]

Good morning all!

Is everyone on vacation this week??? Wish I was :H

Nothing exciting here today. Temp heading to an excessive 100 degrees today so hiding in the AC sounds good to me

Wishing everyone a terrific AF Tuesday!
Lav

[LVT25]

AF Daily Tuesday July 6

Hello friends.

Lav, I wish I was on vacation too. But I guess my life is kind of like vacation since I can set my own hours--and I did get 4 days off from one book keeping job.

The weather did another number on our little town Saturday night. I may have posted about that already. The worst damage was probably the cemetery where I work. Thirteen big trees were blown down in the winds they are saying were in excess of 100mph. It broke my heart as we drove in to witness that site! It looked like a war zone! The worst part for me is feeling somewhat responsible, because all the trees lost were in the sections I was irrigating at the time. I'm pretty sure we wouldn't have lost so many if the ground wasn't super saturated. But, I had no idea the weather was going to do that. So I must move on. It still makes me cry to think about it.

My 15 year old son has me pretty depressed as well. Those of you that have kids may know the feeling of thinking you've done a good job of raising your kids, that they won't turn out like other kids. I think I know now, that no matter what I say or do, my son will say or do what he needs to do to be cool behind my back. It is a sad realization, but I guess it's one I must accept. Don't get me wrong, he hasn't done anything terrible. But he is not the kind young man I thought he was. He's obviously not too bright either. The latest incident also involved him texting something hurtful about us on his dad's cell phone, and somehow saved it in the drafts. He said we were a-holes. I guess it's just teenage boy stuff, but it goes to show how utterly spoiled he is, and it did hurt my feelings. I don't know what to do about it either. I told him how I felt. He saw me cry. Now, I don't even want to talk to him. Do I punish him? UGH! Sometimes I really dislike being a parent.

Wishing you all another great sober week.:h

[Doggygirl]

AF Daily Tuesday July 6

Good morning and thank you Lav for getting us started! I wish I could hide in the AC today - more specifically in bed today as I picked up some sort of bug while traveling. But life isn't stopping for me today so onward I go! I hope to get to bed early once I do the stuff that I have to do today.

LVT, Mr. Doggy and I have talked a lot about parenting - specifically the fact that neither of us ARE parents. While we know we miss a lot of joyful moments, we are also spared a lot of pain I think too. I wish I had some advice to offer but all I have is a :l. I suppose the good news is that they DO grow up eventually! And I think you are right that while hurtful, this sounds like a "teenager" phase. You wouldn't believe (I can hardly believe!) the hell I put my mother through during the later teen years. One would have never guessed that I actually DO love her. I hope this passes soon for you.

I am going to zoom zoom and water / dead head my flowers and check up on my garden. There were a few casualties during my absence in the flower department. But it's just some flowers so it's OK. The trip was awesome - more on that in the AA thread.

Good to be back among you my sober traveling friends!

DG

[Determinator]

AF Daily Tuesday July 6

Top of the short week ABenators!

Lavande, thanks for the kickstart

Doggygirl, hope you feel better soon. travel makes me dehydrated and your probably just needing some garlic

not much help on the teenager thing I'm afraid, except to say please don't beat yourself up LVT there's only so much you can do.

be well friends and all to come

[bear73]

AF Daily Tuesday July 6

hey all - mad day yesterday and was asleep in bed by 10pm so no time topost.
work has improved a bit - had honest meeting with manager and job share and some changes are being made and also I feel so much better for getting it off my chest.

I'm feeling good I was gonna skate tonight outside but it's cancelled now so I am staying in with pizza/bath and dumb tv - feel need to walk to work tomorrow - 2 days of driving and no exercise.Skating session tomorrow evening anyway so all good - I will do gym on Thursday straight from work.

After listening to my hypno tapes last night I feel much better today - calmer - like the cloud has lifted - even tho nothing had changed overnight apart from good sleep.

anyway enjoying a calmer sober day

[Gaia]

AF Daily Tuesday July 6

Hello,

Another AF day here for me.

LV what can you do about your son? What are consequences for his behavior? I think a lot about what it will be like in a few years for us when the kids are older. I just don't know what you do about it without driving them the other way. Somehow you want to get through to them, right?

Bear what kind of skater are you? Figure skater? Inline? Triple axels or paso dobles?

Hi Determinator and DG and Lav.
Well I'm off to bed soon, soberly and happily.

[Doggygirl]

AF Daily Tuesday July 6

Determinator;904325 wrote: Doggygirl, hope you feel better soon. travel makes me dehydrated and your probably just needing some garlic

Yes. Garlic. THAT is the ANSAWWWW!!!! Hi Det! Good to see you as always. You at home or on the road? Whichever, you and Dx enjoy the short week.

Bear I'm glad to hear things are a bit better at work. Honesty and communication are good things. Pizza sounds good. A great source of garlic.

Gaia, good to see you and congrats on another happily sober day!

I can't say I'm happy today but that's just this crud. I'm sober and that's always a good thing.

Hello to all other fabbie abbies today! Greenie, waving hello to you - you are on the road, correct? Where is everyone else? I lost track of things while out of town. Whoever you are, wherever you are, have a fabulous AF day.

DG

[Lavande]

AF Daily Tuesday July 6

Evening greetings Abbers,

LVT, been there & done it with the teenagers............
try to remember that they will grow up & out of the asshole stage soon enough
I always found it helpful to remove their favorite things when they acted up (telephone & other privileges). My kids are now 29 & 33 - I like them as adults!!

DG, glad you enjoyed your trip & have retuned home safely. I suppose Det's garlic Rx couldn't hurt

It's 8 pm & still 90 degrees outside - yuck.

Wishing everyone a cool & comfy evening.

[Cinders]

AF Daily Tuesday July 6

Hi Abberoonies and Abberooners,

It is great to see you here, Det. We have missed you.

DG, so sorry about the bug. That many people in one place can do it to you. I have gotten some strange ills on my travels.

LVT, they do grow up. Just stick by your guns, do the next right thing and he will grow out of it. btw, you can show him what an @sshole you can be. :H:H

I had to share something tonight. I got a call from my hubby this evening. We had spent most of the holiday weekend alone and together.

He told me how nice it was and how much he enjoyed it. Just us. Because "evil, drunk Cindi" wasn't there. Just the person he loves.

It was a nice moment.

Bear, Gaia, Lav, DG, Det, and LVT,
Have a wonderful second Monday evening.

Love,
Cindi

[Accountable for Me]

AF Daily Tuesday July 6

Ah, yes.... teenagers. I have a 16 year old daughter. Just developing an attitude. She calls her dad an asshole all of the time, which I think is disrespectful and she is indeed punished for it. He is pretty heavy handed with her.... It is a control issue going on. She thinks she is an adult and should be able to make decisions for herself. We think otherwise.

I am the more passive parent. But I won't tolerate disrespect. Geesh, when we were kids our parents would give us the 'beats' if we ever spoke of them in a disrespectful way.

I think it is just the teenage way. They are trying to break out of the 'child' stage into the 'adult' stage in life. UGH!

All in all my daughter is great! But sometimes, I tell ya! I just cannot believe it is her that spews out disrespectful crap!

[Determinator]

AF Daily Tuesday July 6

Cinders, you are too sweet, thanks. and what a lovely time with your hubby. makes life worthwhile to be healthy and aware of the beauty we have.