AF August - Week 4

[sooty]

AF August - Week 4

Morning all, still raining here but not as bad as yesterday and drier weather is forecast for the weekend.

Chill that cycle ride sounds great and i know what you mean about pushing yourself when you are in a group. I'm off to zumba class soon and I'll work much harder there than when i am in the gym on my own.

Have a good day everyone. I got the dress yesterday, boring but fit for purpose or whatever the expression is.

Make the most of today gang, it will never come again
Much love
Sooty

[Rusty]

AF August - Week 4

Hi Friends,

Just a quick hello to everyone before I leave for the gym. I had a lovely chat with the MWO member who had contacted me. Our conversation was very uplifting. She feels very happy to be AF!

Must run now! Have a wonderful AF day, everybody!

Rusty

[Stargazerlily]

AF August - Week 4

Good morning to all. The weather here continues to be perfect end of summer weather. I am sleeping so well, Ijust have to get up so darn early.

Seriously, I have been feeling peaceful. Dill, you can post a daily reading daily, we all get alot out of them, they cause us to reflect wherever we are at in our journey.

Dill, I also go through wondering if I can continue doing my job, then I go through a period of feeling competent. I know that working keeps me sharp, I get to dress up which I love, I interact with lots of people (important to me) and I make money, vital to keeping up with my bills. Now, would I like to get off at 5:00, work part-time, of course. But that is not for me. I took a half day off before my daughter's wedding, to give myself time to remember everything. So, taking care of myself is something I am trying to do to not stress out.

Sped, so how are the plans going? Booked that rehearsal dinner, good job. As far as the dresses go, I tried on tons at the first store, found nothing, but I realized what I might like. So, go for it. My daughter is getting so stressed out with last minute planning and things to do. Any ideas for bridesmaid gifts? I can't really help as I am hours away, just give suggestions and tell her she is doing a great job, she's wonderful and I love her. Whew.

Rusty, working long hours always makes me crack up eventually. Hope when this job is over you can do something really nice for yourself, like a massage or something.

Chill, greetings and I like the self-care. I am trying to copy your efforts.

Hello to Rebirth, LBH, Lav, Papmom3, Sooty, Rustop61, and all on this thread. Let's make this an AF Thursday.

[dill]

AF August - Week 4

When we long for life without difficulties, remind us that oaks
grow strong in contrary winds and diamonds are made under
pressure.
--Peter Marshall

Remember that the next time you have a bad day.

Thank you for coming out of yourself and sharing that sunflower, LBH. Lav, thanks for the reminder to grant ourselves moments of peace and a quiet mind. I need tho do that now that I'm back in the rat race.

Red, Chill, Rustop, Rusty, Papmom, Sooty, Sped, Rebirth, have a peaceful AF Thursday.

[Rusty]

AF August - Week 4

Good Morning Friends,

Dill-thank you for the quote for today. I will be remembering it as I face this long and very stressful day. This will be the toughest of days this week and I need to remember to have a quiet mind.

Star-If your daughter is on a limited budget, maybe she could give the bridesmaids faux pearl (or some other kind of inexpensive necklace) necklaces that they could wear with their bridesmaids dresses and then keep as their gift, and as a remembrance of the wedding. When I was in my 20s, my friends did that, and according to some of my nieces, it's still a common gift, but one that is meaningful.

I must run....

Take care everybody and have a great AF Thursday.

xxooxo

Rusty

[Lavande]

AF August - Week 4

Hmmmm.........
Life without difficulties
diamonds made under pressure
guess that means I should be turning into a real gem at some point! Thanks for that Dill

Fell asleep last night with 'moon glow' on my face again but slept well anyway. I fired up my smudge stick for a while again last evening........it seems to be working quite well.

Rustop, I don't envy you in dealing with the teenager angst. But somehow you will live through it, we all do. I have to say that our kids were not bad, no one was arrested, no one became pregnant, etc. They both went on to college & are now happy, well adjusted, functioning adults. Hang in there

Red & Shelley, the pre-wedding stress was another difficult time in the kid's lives but you will get through all that as well. I handled it by stepping back as much as possible & allowing them to run their own shows. I figured they were smart adult people & had the skills to resolve their own problems.

I'm putting every effort into not becoming hostile about Mr Lav this week. Like it or not he is an integral part of my embroidery venture. He has the necessary skills to keep my machines running in top form. There is only so much I can do maintenance wise with them. I've asked him several times over the months for some assistance with them but he's ignored me. I emailed him 'nicely' Monday morning to please let me know what day he could come over this week to work on them & saud I would cook some dinner for us, etc. He hasn't bothered to repond to me but he has had time to play games & make comments to other people's postings on Facebook all week. He's an ass.

OK, sending greetings to each & every one of my friends & wishing you a terrific AF Thursday.
Time for me to kick my machines a little...........

Lav

[ladybirdheart]

AF August - Week 4

Hello troops, late check in. This day has been all over the place for the old. Our sweet slightly crazy elderly plumber who was supposed to replace our seventy year old floor furnaces with new ones tomorrow hurt himself inexplicably jumping joyfully into our crawl space and is now having a knee operation and months of rehab instead, poor fellow. Then I went to my water exercise class and one of the older ladies, a retired DC civil rights attorney from the sixties, brought a bag of large carrots and, ever persuasive, jollied us all (even the young stud lifeguards) into somehow stashing them in our swimsuits (no easy task for me, and Lord Bird Heart looked particularly scandalous). We were all supposed to all pull them out during the ?hopping? part of the straight laced instructor?s serious routine which I would explain but I don?t want to drive anybody to drink. It turned out be really funny, thank goodness, and I am sure will enter the YMCA legend book. Then I took my aging truck for a $1400 oil change. I have been driving it for eight years and have never put any money in it except for oil changes and tires so I shall not complain, it was all things that aid activities such as stopping, going over bumps, and holding all the engine parts together in a happy place. I thought of you Rusty, when you were waiting for the verdict and I was glad the water cooler was not filled with vodka. The truck is happy, the attorney has choreographed the most bizarre display in history, and hopefully the plumber is healing nicely, I am so sorry he won?t be able to do our work as he is a delightful guy. Love and peace to all, Old Ladybird.

[rustop61]

AF August - Week 4

Good morning everyone

LBH - You made me laugh, everytime I look at a carrott today I will have that vision in my head, what a great way to start the morning, thank you.

Both girls back at school today albeit briefly so this is just a quick check in to say hello. We have doctor and dentist appointments after school so a busy day ahead.

Wishing you all a wonderful and AF week-end.

Rustop

[Stargazerlily]

AF August - Week 4

Thank goodness it's Friday!

I have lots to do for the wedding...directions, calling people, last minute stuff. Picked up my steamed dress last night and it is lovely, I am excited to wear it. Need stockings and shoes. Lav, I have kind of stepped back for this event, unless specifically asked to come to something, or asked questions, advice. She is an intelligent adult who lives on her own, pays her own bills,and is independent. My main goal is to have a healthy relationship.

Interesting, my brother called me and insinuated there is a need to get drunk at the wedding. I told him I didn't think so, it's not THAT KIND of wedding. I will just lead by example, he loves to make a big deal out of things and get attention. Still, it was disturbing to me, I want AF for me and family. I want clear, wonderful, loving memories. Do you get that with booze? NO. So, maybe it was a good thing for him to give me time to think and reaffirm my committment.

I have been eating well this week, sleeping well, and handled something difficult at work yesterday. It went better than I thought, could only feel this way and manage AF. So. I just feel really strongly about it this morning, and wanted to share the waves of committment.

Will try to check in later. Have a good day, AF.

[dill]

AF August - Week 4

Getting the job done requires doing your work, not just talking about
it.--unknown

When we take things for granted we forget life is a gift.
--unknown

Good morning teen taxi driver, Rustop.
Thanks for sharing the wave, Star. I caught your wave and will ride it today.
Imagining the carrots in bathing suits will amuse me during my drive to work. I shall be wearing an inexplicable smile that will leave all the passer-bys wondering.

Have a fab AF Friday friends.

[Chillgirl]

AF August - Week 4

Happy AF Friday to you all

Rusty I bet your pleased its friday!

Lav - You seem to have your head in a good place re Mr Lav at the moment, Im struggling here with ex Mr Chill, I still cant bring myself to respond to his very impersonal dismissive email. I need to sit with a bit longer and get to that place of feeling only love for him, resentment is such a self destructive emotion.

LBH - The vision you have created in my mind is hilarious of middle aged women with carrots stuffed down their swimming costume :H

Star - I cant get my head around your Brothers philosophy either, having just attended my 1st ever sober wedding I have to say what a joy it was to be fully present for the duration and to remember leaving, being curteous and respectful to my hosts instead of a propped up on my way out.

I am feeling good today, woke at 6am and did some yoga before my spinning class, its the best practice for focusing on your breath and now I have found a great free class on itunes I must get into the habit of doing it more often at home....

[Lavande]

AF August - Week 4

GM all!
Happy Friday indeed

Just heard we are about to experience the 8th heatwave of the summer - groan! So it's sunny & dry for now, heating up later which means the AC will be going back on...............

Rustop, stay on top of those teens - one step ahead of them

Red(Star), I'm glad you've positioned yourself the way you have for the wedding. Allowing our adult kids to do their own thing is the best choice. The philosophy I adopted for my kid's weddings was 'Shut up & show up'! Tell your brother to F____ off & knock off the dramatics

LBH in an X rated water aerobics class...........I hope someone posts a video on You Tube......it will go viral, ha ha!!

Greetings to the hard working Rusty & Dill!

Chill, I have expended a LOT of energy this week trying to suffocate the resentment fire that keeps rekindling - you know what I mean! Like you, I resent being told what to do, how to do it & generally being dismissed!!!!! Who the hell do these men think they are?

OK, time to turn my attention to some work & also plotting a little revenge (just a little)

Lav

[Rusty]

AF August - Week 4

YIPPEE! IT'S FRIDAY!!!!!:bananacomputer::bananacomputer:

Time to leave steamy Alabama in just 5 short hours (not that I'm clock-watching):H
The week turned out better than I thought and I have lost 3 pounds in the process....oh, joy when I put on these pants this morning that I couldn't even button a month ago. I got very positive responses from the management team (my trainees) on my training ability.

LBH-I think stuffing carrots in your swimsuits is hysterical....especially the pic of Lord BH. Will that be in your Christmas card photo this year?

Star-I bet your dress is lovely! What did your daughter decide on the bridesmaids' gifts? That is disappointing about your brother. What an insensititve comment. I'm with Lav. Shut the f--k up, I would say to him. Think about the bride! I've been fortunate that we've never had that issue with our family, and when I was drinking, I never went to a wedding under the influence and I can't say I've gotten drunk or mouthy at any of the weddings I attended. I was always too caught up in the moment to care about the AL.

Lav-I feel so badly for you that you are still having to deal with Mr. Lav's moods. I guess now that he's moved out he doesn't feel like he should have to service the embroidery machines? I agree....indifference is the worst insult....because if you like someone or hate someone, they are taking up space in your brain and in your thoughts, but when you are dismissive, you are saying, "I don't give a damn enough about you to think about you."

Dill-once again, I pasted your quotes to my desktop this morning as a gentle reminder throughout the day.

Rustop-you were probably relieved to get the kids off to school?

Chill-Great job on attending your first AF wedding! You sound so at peace with yourself and that is wonderful!

Hello to Shelley, Sooty and Papmom....and anyone I may have missed.....have a wonderful AF day!

Thank you ALL again for your support, love and encouragement this week....couldn't have made it without you! (P.S. The cleaners found my blouse! )

[sooty]

AF August - Week 4

Hello all, I hope we're having a peaceful and sober Friday. The weather has been nice here today, sunny and breezy and the forecast for the next few days is good too - but nothing like your heatwaves Lav - I hope you manage to keep cool. Are you letting us in to your revenge plan or is it a secret?

Dill- thanks for sharing - it is so easy to take things for granted, I know that I'm guilty of that so thanks for the reminder.

Rusty good luck with your travels and well done on the weight loss ~ I'm envious!

Star you sound so busy, I'm sure everything will be perfectly lovely.

Chill I'm so sorry your ex is being distant - you will soon reach a good place in your mind about him I'm certain.

Rustop I hope the medical appointments went well - no fillings

Hi to Shelley and Papmom and to LBH the porn star - please keep making me laugh!

Love to all
Sooty

[Lavande]

AF August - Week 4

Hi Sooty of the cliffs!

Rusty, you nailed it right on the head about Mr Lav!
I just hate being ignored & have told him so many, many times. It just doesn't bother him. His head is buried so deep he doesn't realize how his behavior is affecting me, my business & the entire family.

I have thought about calling the service tech to fix these machines but it is so costly to do so. The last time I had the guy here he took the time to actually teach Mr Lav the process.

I have my TBGPs ready for tomorrow..............believe me :H:H

Safe travels today