AF Daily - Saturday August 28

[Gaia]

Wakey wakey!

Almost to the end of the month, and it's full of big fat zeros! Whoo hoo!

I'll be volunteering for a project all morning today, and think it should be interesting. Had dinner at the home of some neighbors and the woman didn't drink hardly at all the the guy seemed normal. Yeah! Big difference from last weekend. It felt great to have not drinking NOT be an issue.

I know one thing for sure...

[Guitarista]

AF Daily - Saturday August 28

Greeting's Gaia, and Abber's to come,

Great stuff Gaia re your af dinner! Cool. Am getting a lot better at it too. Volunteering is a great thing to do, and i'm sure you'll get a lot out of it.

Have a great weekend all! (I love Paris too, and will get back there, guitar under arm, oneday soon)

[Doggygirl]

AF Daily - Saturday August 28

Hello Saturday thread! Thanks Gaia! Good to hear about the AF dinner in less drinking oriented company. Your description of this one sounds more like Mary's (retteacher) friends where people might have a glass of wine but it's not a focus and no over drinking is going on. That would be much easier to deal with for me too than what you described last weekend. Tell me more about your voluteer project! I love those!

G - I want more G-Music!!!! Maybe you will have time to send some when your vacation starts???? Wow. A desserted beach and some fresh air sounds like heaven to me. Better than Paris. Lav, could we use Mr. Lav's credit card to go there?????

Rusty - car shopping sounds fun!! If you buy one you better post a piccy!

One of my AA friends who I really really am getting to like a lot went with me to farmers market. We had fun and laughed a lot and also talked about thought change along the lines of the current stuff in Sheri's thread. Very interesting stuff.

Once my coffee break is over I'm going to tackle my closet and all my stuff. I have way way way too much stuff. I hope to cull it down a bit and at the very least organize it better as I pack it up and move it.

Hello to everybody yet to come and also anyone I missed on yesterdays thread.

No time for this girl to drink today either. I LOVE LOVE LOVE my busy sober life! :h

DG

[Jewel]

AF Daily - Saturday August 28

Good morning to you all.

This has been a very long week. I cannot wait until school starts. I took a LOA from work to take care of my daughters.... and also have been looking after another young girl for extra money. To top it off my dear sister moved into her BF's place two weeks ago and he has since kicked her and her two small children out. ( he is a mental case and was completely sober.... he doesn't drink much at all! But acted like an out of control drunk on Tuesday evening!) So, I have had her two boys as well.

They are here until tomorrow.

I have remained sober. I almost went out to buy something to take the 'edge' off last night. The kids constantly tattle and fight. BUT I ate loads of spaghetti and went to bed after I put them to bed at 8pm.

eeeer. I am going to take them all out to the park today. Hopefully they can be good and I can have a few to read a book or something.

Anyway, it is good to be awake and sober though! I really don't need to be hung or agitated dealing with these monsters.

Have a good day.

[LVT25]

AF Daily - Saturday August 28

Hello strangers! Not that anyone missed me:upset:

My sil and bil just left. It was an ok visit. I had to work and had other stuff going on so didn't really get to visit much at all. But here is the weird thing. My sil wasn't drinking or smoking!!! She quit! Now, like I said I'm not sure the particulars or if this is a forever thing, but she has quit before and is not an out of control drunk. Her husband and mine are best buds and her hubby drinks more than mine! They are empty nesters and spent a lot of time drinking and smoking together. She talked about no more voices in her head or guilt and remorse and feeling like crap. So the time we did spend together was much more comfortable for me. She was kind of forced to spend more time with her mom and sister this trip--which was great for all of them I'm sure.

Hubby's birthday party went well. I tried very hard to remain calm, but I was a little pissed when he went to the bar after work and couldn't tell me. But, since it was his birthday I let it slide and focused on making ice cream and cooking burgers. Once again I didn't get to visit much, but it was nice having friends around and this gets more important the older we get.

***Oh, sorry, I should have warned you to make a light snack.***

Anyway, one of our friends came out the night after the party. He has been really sick and I think it is all alcohol related. He is another of the buddies that never married, but is a sweet guy--just drinks way too much. Anyway, we are very happy he is still alive, but not sure how long that will be, because he is still drinking. Just a little he says. He kind of looks like walking death because he has lost so much weight, but at least we got a chance to tell him how much we care about him. I often wonder what my hubby thinks when his friends either die or live pretty crappy lives due to their drinking. I imagine he will be taking it easy after this week though. There have been a couple of times when we ended up having cardiac tests and doctor visits after spending time with these in laws. I keep telling him it was probably withdrawal symptoms and detox. We have 2 weddings to go to tonight and I hope we don't go to either.

We had a couple over for supper last night and I just wanted to sit and read here on MWO. I got the word to get in the kitchen and be social. It was hard, I was tired and I was trying to let him do the cooking, and I don't know the gal. But I did, and it was ok. Like my sil said, conversations take so much more work when you are sober. I will admit it was nice to eat a meal hubby cooked and then the couple left, no one got real drunk and everyone else went to bed while I waited up for my son.

Ok, enough about me for now.

I'm sorry about the funkies going around. Greenie, I'm afraid I would have to read what the FH had to say in his 6 page letter. It would drive me crazy. I can't imagine what it would be like to have him popping in and out of your life. Lav--you too. I guess I should consider myself lucky in that department. Not great by any means, but it's ok most of the time. Especially now where I just do my own thing and am so much more focused on the boys than on him. I still worry a little about the role model issue. They see all the adults having so damn much fun when they drink. Do they notice their dad curled in the fetal position the morning after until 10 am? No. Everything has consequences and I guess they will learn the hard way like everyone else I suppose. (Oops, there I go talking about my life again) Damn!

Good news. Terry is home again, and may even get a new hip soon. Her pain is getting worse again, and the doctors don't want to take out the ostomy yet, but he said it was ok with him if it's ok with the orthopedic surgeon to do the hip surgery to get rid of that pain. The community where they live is having a benefit for them to help with some of the expenses and I so want to be there, but it just doesn't work to go that far for 1 day. I might go next week as my son has a football game about half way.

It's going to be another warm one here. I have some major weeding to do in the garden, I'm pretty sure there are some green beans in there somewhere. Have a great sober weekend everyone. I :h you all!!!:l

[Doggygirl]

AF Daily - Saturday August 28

Jewel, it sounds like you are great just taking things one moment at a time, handling what life is presenting you, and not drinking. That is what it takes. It really is that simple. Not always easy, but that simple. Stay in the moment. Yesterday is gone and tomorrow - who knows about that.

LVT, so wonderful to hear from you!!! Glad the family visit is over and that things went reasonably well. You are a saint to deal with the drinkers in your house! After a week of visitors, the last thing I would want to do tonight is go to TWO weddings. So I hope you get to stay home. Good to hear that Terry is doing OK and that she might get a surgery to relieve pain. I will ask Sister to keep her on the prayer list!

OK...enough goofing off. That over stuffed closet is calling my name. Maybe I will find a Mr. Lav and FH voodoo doll in there. That would be fun.

DG

[LVT25]

AF Daily - Saturday August 28

It seems we may be getting a little bad publicity out there. After reading the posts here about someone feeling unwelcome, I was so suprised, but then I ran across this today.


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Originally Posted by OverIt2007 View Post
Raising my hand to wrongfully feeling that you need to get some good sober time in order to move out of "Just Starting Out".
I kinda feel the same way with Monthly abs.... Isn't it suppose to be about people committing to 30 days? Well anyway, I just hope that some day I can be a part of their 'click'. I have been reading there a long time and was scared to post until two days ago. I am just thankful that Marshy acknowledged my post. Meanwhile the rest of them just carried on their conversation like I didn't exist.

Oh Well. Hopefully I can blend in somewhere on this site.

I've been thinking back to when I first joined, and I guess there was a time or two when no one responded to a post or a thread I may have started that I felt ignored or whatever. But I persisted and was welcomed with open arms by a few members here. I think it is the nature of a co-dependent to be a bit sensitive to things. I know I am. Like now I feel bad because I don't respond to each and every individual on our daily thread, but I do care and will respond if I feel I have something to offer such as support or a smart a$$ remark. I also try really hard to welcome anyone new to the thread, but I simply don't have time always.

I'm not sure where anyone got the idea you have to have 30 days to come here or how we've become a clique. But I want to reinforce what the others have said here that this is a daily thread for anyone seriously wanting to be sober. We offer support, advice and friendship. And yes, we have become close, I'm not going to apologize for that.

Have a great sober day ALL!!:h

[papmom3]

AF Daily - Saturday August 28

Hi LVT-Welcome back!! We did miss you you silly girl but knew you were busy with family. You're back now and we're happy!!

DG-oh how i wish I had a whole day or two to devote to cleaning out my office so I can set up the new desk. It's becoming a candidate for the Hoarder shows (just kidding!!)

Hi Jewel-wow your plate sure is full!! Have no kids myself so can only imagine what life is like for you right now. Hope the park turned out to be a relaxing place for you today

[Lavande]

AF Daily - Saturday August 28

Hey there Abbers!

LVT, I agree with your assessment of overly-sensitive personalities. I also try to acknowledge new posters even if I don't have time to address everyone individually each & every day. (That was a mouthful ). Good news about Terry, hope she coninues to improve. My social life is so non-existent these days I really don't have to worry about being surrounded with drinkers...........

Hello to Gaia, a good friend!!!!

Greetings to my favorite guitarist/singer/songwriter G

Jewel - so glad you're hanging in there. Blessings on you for dealing with all the kids AF!!!

DG, would you come help me get reafy for my Sept. 18 yard sale? I really could use a good organizer. I think queenie greenie has some good experience in that dept. as well.

I'm probably just a glutton for punishment but I've just ordered 25 new day old hatchlings to add to my disappearing chicken flock! I down to about a dozen hens, most of them are no longer laying, so.............
They will be delivered (by mail) between Sept 8-11. So, I have some time to prepare the nursery. They are soooooo cute when they arrive (all crammed together in a little box). My EB grandson will certainly get a kick out this project

Mr Lav just left. When I asked him about the nasty FB post from yesterday he said he doesn't remember it..........?????Senile dementia or what???? I refused that answer then he said it was just something he saw (somewhere) & he thought it was funny!!!! That remark was NOT funny & I think it shows that he is still operating in the negative mode.

OK, time to go do something useful.
Have a great day everyone.

Lav

[Lavande]

AF Daily - Saturday August 28

Hi papmom - cross post

[LVT25]

AF Daily - Saturday August 28

Hey again everybody. Thanks Papmom you guys can keep stroking my ego all you want!!!!
I keep taking a break after I deal with a row of weeds in the garden, so here I am again.:H

Very kind of you to help out your sister and her kids, Jewel. Not to mention the young girl and your girls. You must be a very kind soul. Family is so important, it's amazing what we'll do for them. Hope it doesn't stress you too much. After some time, our brains figure out there are other ways to deal with stress other than drinking. But we have to show it that--good for you for doing that. Spaghetti sounds delish!

Lav--are you sure your husband didn't have a stroke or something??

Farmers market sounds lovely, I was right, I do have a few beans in my weed garden, but not enough to can. I hope I can find some, I'm still waiting for the call saying we can come and get a load of sweet corn.

Better get back to it.

[greeneyes]

AF Daily - Saturday August 28

Afternoon abbers!

Just a flyby hello to everybody (and I want you to know I read all your posts) I'm dragging myself to the doggie park in a moment unless I talk myself out of it. I'd really rather not go. Grrrrr.....

Chickens come in the mail? Who'da thought! That's how they send ants for the ant farms. It didn't work out well for me or the ants - black mailbox in August is a bit like a crematorium. :H

Hope everyone has a nice AF night and thank each and every one of you for being here :l

[Doggygirl]

AF Daily - Saturday August 28

What LVT said!!

Lav, it sounds like Mr. Lav is more "ready" for the nut house than anywhere else :egad:..... I'm so sorry - this must be hard on you. Until maybe you reach that point where enough is enough and in your heart you can move on. (easier said than done - I think the heart hangs on longer than the brain does!)

Amazing what comes in the mail! Bees do. And believe you me, the second they arrive at the local post office you get the call COME GET YOUR BEES!!!! We've had two queens + harems delivered that way and both times the calls came well before 5AM. :H Do they call that fast for chicks and ants? Wow. Mail order ants. Greenie I should just send you some. (I know, different ants, right?) Oh I bet EB will LOVE the chickie project!

P3 - sounds like your desk is like my desk. (even though I just moved it) :upset:

Greenie - GO to the doggy park. I know that will make you feel better.

I am taking a break from moving my clothes and shoes and stuff to the basement. I have way too much crap. That is all.

I'm trying really hard not to eat ice cream and other various junk food as a stress releaser. I need a new stress releaser. An adult size "weebles wobble but they don't fall down" toy would be good I think.

One thing is for sure.....

DG

[papmom3]

AF Daily - Saturday August 28

Here ya go DG!!

[Lavande]

AF Daily - Saturday August 28

YEP - chicks by mail :H

The first time we ordered them I was skeptical, to say the least. But when I post office called I went right over & could hear rather loud PEEPING the minute I walked in the door. I told the guy behind the counter - that's my package making all that noise :H
The second time I ordered chicks the post office actually sent someone to the house with them. I never really know what to expect around here!

About my spouse - I just can't really figure out what is going on with him. He's been walking around looking like someone smacked him with a baseball bat - confusion maybe?
He is still functioning ok at work, as far as I know. He steadfastly refuses to take any medication although he kinda looks medicated. I just don't know what to say. He asked about my upcoming yard sale - said he wants to be here to help. I said ok! I'm convinced he needs to live out this drama of his. It's the not knowing where or when it's going to end that keeps me freaked out.

I need to atch up on some teleseminars, they're piling up.
Wishing a peaceful night to all.

Lav