AF AUGUST - WEEK 5

[sooty]

AF AUGUST - WEEK 5

Chill thank you so much for the meditation link - lots of interesting stuff on there to explore and explore it I most certainly will.

I'm sorry to hear about your ex's recent behaviour and really hope that he sees sense and draws from your strength to get himself back on track

love Sooty

[Rusty]

AF AUGUST - WEEK 5

Hi Chill, Rebirth and Sooty,

Chill, thank you so much for the meditation link. I really appreciate it. I pray today is a better day for you today.

Must get back to work,

xoxoxo

Rusty

[Lavande]

AF AUGUST - WEEK 5

Here's a little something for all the strong women here. It's an excerpt from the DailyOM:

When a woman can look back into her past, doing so without regret and instead seeing only lessons that brought her to her current strength and wisdom, she embraces the fullness of her experience. She helps those around her to build upon the past as she does. And when she chooses to create her desires, she places her power in the present and moves forward with life into the future.

I think we can all take a little from this lesson

EB is napping right now

[rebirth]

AF AUGUST - WEEK 5

Aw thats a great great post lav. Was starting to feel sorry for myself but you snapped me out of it!

[rebirth]

AF AUGUST - WEEK 5

Lav- What is DailyOm?

[Lavande]

AF AUGUST - WEEK 5

rebirth,

Go to the website & sign up for their daily email. I love it

DailyOM - Nurturing Mind Body & Spirit

[rebirth]

AF AUGUST - WEEK 5

Lav I have just joined. Cant wait for my first email!! I love stuff like that.

[ladybirdheart]

AF AUGUST - WEEK 5

Hello on this last day of AF August. Difficult people certainly can be unsettling so I appreciate the theme of this current conversation. In recent years I have been making an effort to think of them as other stressors, sometimes it is best to avoid a person if this is an option, sometimes to change our relationship with them if this is an option, sometimes to change ourselves, how we respond internally, which is always an option. When I was younger I tended to respond reflexively in a manner that was often equally dysfunctional, I would blame myself for their difficulties, and in a similar vein I would have rescue fantasies, I would think I had the power, ability, or heart to pull them into health and happiness. Every day I have to remember what is and what is not in my power and sometimes this finds me really confused, but I think somewhere in all of that lies emotional freedom. I appreciate that ?meditation? came up during this same conversation. I have never made an effort to meditate until very recently when I signed on for emails from the free ?21 Day Meditation Challenge? from the Chopra Center. We are now on Day 20 but I think it will be available for some time and one can start at the beginning or revisit things. It is led by a sweet fellow and has an overview and sampling of lots of things, very appropriate for a novice. I am enjoying it although I must say that quieting myself has let me know how sad I am, it is not a bad thing in itself, just another thing to be acknowledged. Very cool process, and somewhere I think all of this and not using alcohol inappropriately fits together:H. Love, Ladybird.

[Rusty]

AF AUGUST - WEEK 5

Hi Ladybird,

I used to respond to people the same you did when I was younger.....I blamed myself for people's negative/nasty/thoughtless responses to me, even if their response had NOTHING to do with me. I have that baggage from my father. Up until about 8 years before he died, he was verbally abusive to my mother and to me and my siblings as well. Now, I feel that if I don't HAVE to put up with it (as I do in a business situation), then I refuse to be treated that way by ANYONE in my personal life. It's part of me having a "quiet mind" from now on. My mind, when I'm not working, has not been quiet in a very long time. I dwelled on previous relationships/friendships that had gone awry, and now, through the help of my friends here, I have moved pass that descructive and non-productive behavior. Severing the ties with people who add little value to my life is part of my quiet mindset.

I haven't meditated, but I have these excellent relaxation tapes from years ago, and I listen to them before I go to bed, and when I wake up in the middle of the night, I'll listen to them and I can go right back to sleep.

Thank you for the link to the 21-day Meditation Challenge. I will certainly look into it....I've never gotten bad advice from anyone on our wonderful thread!