AF Daily - Wednesday September 1

[Doggygirl]

GOOD MORNING FABBIE ABBIES!! HAPPY HUMP DAY!!

Well, somebody had to start things off.

I'm zoomin' but wanted to send healing vibes to Marshy's Mom, LVT's Sister, PAGuy for surgery next week, and anyone else who needs a healing vibe for today. And a little prayer too for Greenie's mojo. May the universe deliver it back to her soon! And safety vibes to M3 and anyone else that might be in the path of a hurricane or other weather thing today. I hope I didn't forget anyone!

Yesterdays thread was so busy that I lost track! It was the EB thread! So I'll just say hello to all and start fresh for today.

Today will be another busy one. This morning it's AA, Chamber Ambassadors, donate some stuff, return some stuff, mail some stuff, pick up some stuff, then work out. Then home to finish moving the odds and ends from upstairs and if it stops raining, go out and see what can still be salvaged from my neglected garden.

G - so are your going to be teaching employers? The prospective employees? Both?

One thing is for sure. I would be totally under water in a heart beat if I poured myself "a" (hahahaha) drink today. So I'm not gonna do it!

DG

[Marshy]

AF Daily - Wednesday September 1

Whole lot of *stuff* you've got going on there, DG.

Lovely sunny morning here, bit of a nip in the air. I cycled into work along the canal and saw a heron standing on the bank. I thought it would fly off when it saw me but it stood its ground. I suppose wildlife in London in used to people and noise. The foxes certainly never budge an inch when they see you and the little moorhens on the grass verge by the canal are totally fearless. Nice way to start the day.

I dreamed about the hurricane last night!

Mum is doing OK. The lung op seems to have eased her breathing so far, touch wood. She's had one blast of radiotherapy on bone cancer in her leg/hip so far. At the moment she's at home and has a bit of a breathing space between appointments/treatments hopefully. She's in a lot of pain and some of the drugs she has to take have a side effect of... pain. She's got a whole stash of different painkillers from the hospital (including liquid morphine as a last resort) but they have their own side effects. But she's a trooper. I'm going to visit on Sunday for a few days.

Yep, DG, I too would be totally lost if I was drinking through this. So I'm not gonna do it!

Have a good day all.

[greeneyes]

AF Daily - Wednesday September 1

Morning abbies!

Thanks for the start and generous spreading of vibes, DG!

Have an artsy GF coming by this AM for bathroom viewing. Meeting another for lunch and we'll piock a time for her to come view. That oughta cover the idea aspect. Need to review the ins adjuster's claim papers and compare to quote. And a bunch of other stuff sitting on the plate today, none of which involve AL.

I'm eating my way through the freezer. Not buying new stuff to cook until I eat what's in there. I buy sale stuff and put it in there and I need to eat it and start over every now and then. I need to fix the warped gasket but that needs to be addressed before I consume the contents. I guess I'll quit hoping for the day when nothing needs fixing.

DG, did I see pics of your phyllis diller bathroom once upon a time or did I dream that?

Time to move the sprinkler and check the hummus beans.

HAppy hump day!!

[greeneyes]

AF Daily - Wednesday September 1

x- post marshy! thinking about you... I've been there. :l

[momof3]

AF Daily - Wednesday September 1

Good Morning All,

Marshy, thinking of you and your mom. I am sorry to hear that she is in pain. I know from experience with my dad when he had cancer that it is important to keep a steady flow of the pain meds to keep ahead of the curve. How is your dad doing?

Well, it was good while it lasted. It looks like we will be evacuating the Outer Banks either today or early tomorrow. For those of you who are not familiar with the Outer Banks of North Carolina, it is a very narrow barrier island with one highway that runs the stretch. They have already issued a mandatory evacuation for Hatteras Island which is south of us. Once the storm gets close, that highway is likely to be flooded from storm surge.

We spent the entire day at the beach yesterday. The girls were out on their boogie boards riding the waves. The weather is still gorgeous but the ocean is getting rough.

M3

[LVT25]

AF Daily - Wednesday September 1

JACKRABBIT!

I have another busy day ahead of me, but today I am adding in some ME stuff. Starting back to yoga class and my bible study/book club. I also really, really need to work in some walking time because the Race for the Cure in Denver is only a month away!

Marshy, I think that bone cancer pain is supposed to be pretty bad. I feel for anyone having pain like that, I can't imagine my sis living in hip pain, day after day after day.....I pray the ortho doc agrees to do that surgery asap! I think most of her recent troubles were due to side effects (at least with her) of the pain meds. She's been on everything known to man kind, but now they are staying away from the narcotics. Best wishes for your mum.

Thanks DG for starting out with healing vibes. I am so grateful for the good health we have in our family!

Greenie, my bathroom is pretty feminine. Think victorian pink with roses and a claw foot bathtub and pedestal sink. I love it. It will be nice for you to get some ideas from friends. I am not an idea person. I have to rely on other's imaginations.

I am a little bummed with the realization that my new friend will be disappointed when she learns her brother is the only one that can get himself better. I'm pretty sure I can help her try to understand the situation, but even though she is an adult child of an alcoholic I don't think she has a clue about it. I'm afraid once I start talking to her she'll run away fast!!:H

Well, I better get my butt in gear. They weather man is using that nasty "F" word in our area for tomorrow night. Go figure. Frost the first of September. Great.

Happy sober hump day.:h

[Gaia]

AF Daily - Wednesday September 1

Morning Abbies!

Jackrabbit! Greenie I thought you would be the first, but I'm happy to be the second.

DG I want to see a PHyllis Diller bathroom too. Great plan for today!

Marshy hugs for all you and your family are going through.

M3 I hope the trip isn't too bad and I'm glad you are getting to safety. At least the girls had a few days to ride the wild surf!

Greenie I think eating your way through the freezer is a noble act. It takes longer than you think. Amazing how many meals we can have stashed there. But I think of defrosting old items and then cooking them as a sort of rescue mission - I am giving them a good home in my stomache! Do be careful if you have any salmon - I've heard that even frozen it can go bad and make you very sick.

LV you sound good this morning. I had to take a double on the F word, then laughed. Thanks for the jolly. I hope your new friend listens instead of running away. It could do her a world of good. Have you thought about how you would start the talk?

VERY busy today, one thing after another going on. No time to dwell on the negative, but there WILL be some self-care (I see ice cream and a good bubble bath) at the end of the day. Drinking emons are safely at bay.

XOXO,
T.

[Lavande]

AF Daily - Wednesday September 1

Happy September Abbers

LVT, I will send you all the heat you want to melt that frost.........it's been in the high 90's all week!

M3, pack up & get out of there friend! Earl is looking like a pretty big storm!!!!

Marshy, I really feel for you. I took care of both my parents during their illnesses. Making sure that they were comfortable was high priority. And yes, dealing with the side effects of the pain meds can be frustrating.

Greenie, I hope you have some decisions on your bathroom by the end of the day. Pick your fav color (and one or two to accent it) & go for it!!!!!! Keep the fixtures white, the countertop neutral........you can always change wall colors later if nedded.

Greetings to DG - the busiest woman I know I need to get to work myself.

Wishing everyone a wonderful AF Hump Day!
Lav

[Lavande]

AF Daily - Wednesday September 1

Oops! Hi Gaia

[universal]

AF Daily - Wednesday September 1

Hi guys,

Just checking in! Sorry, been so busy here. Things are still going well, I am getting a lot of emotions out in my recovery groups. I am still really liking the AA meetings (shocking to me as I was so against the thought of them before). I am happy with the rehab centre I chose, there is a reason it is considered one of the best in Canada.

I have already been here for 2 weeks. Can't believe it! 2 more to go and then I can really work on my life of recovery. Day 48 today for me.

Quote of the day - Unmet expectations build resentment.

That hit home for me pretty hard - I do expect too much from people sometimes and don't communicate to them what I expect - when they don't meet them, I get resentful. I was glad that was made clear to me.

Love and hugs,
Uni

[momof3]

AF Daily - Wednesday September 1

Back again,

Packing up and getting ready to head out. Gas tank in car is full. Currently dealing with 3 very disappointed children. It is hard for them to understand because the weather is absolutely gorgeous. Thanks for all of your well wishes for safe travels. This is going to be one muthah of a storm if it hits.

Universal, So glad to hear from you and I am happy you are getting the most out of your rehab. Two more weeks to go and you are sounding strong. Will you have any outpatient support when you leave? PS As you get more AF time under your belt, you will be amazed at how much steadier you become and how emotions no longer take full control of you.

M3

[Lavande]

AF Daily - Wednesday September 1

Good to hear your decision to leave M3. The kids will get over it when they see the storm news on TV.

Uni, glad to see you. You are doing great! I certainly can apply that lesson about resentment to my own life & circumstances right now. Keep up the great work

Having trouble staying focused on work today........maybe I need a nap??

[Guitarista]

AF Daily - Wednesday September 1

Greeting's FabAbber's!

Safe travel's M3.
Best wishes to you and your family Marshy.
Great to see you Uni.
Greenie, hope you're feeling centred and well. My point about exercise was that for me, after a gruelling say, boxing circuit session, or aerobic's style class workout, where i'm pushed, i alway's feel really great after it, and mojo is abundant. Just a thought.
DG, i trained to facilitate 8 weekly session's, of a pre-designed mental health issue based program, to assist folk wanting to work. I'll be co-facilitating with an employment consultant, and a peer educator. (person with mental health issues themselves). My role is of the mental health worker, which is what i do a few day's per week here. I like the mix of facilitator's, and we will sort of go by the book, really, as the program is fairly much already researched, and outlined etc, but of course, there's plenty of room for my own interpretation, improvisation, and we will all, including the group, bring our life experiences to the session's. It'll be a priveledge for me, and a great experience. I start the first of these session's in January.

Have a grand week everyone!

[papmom3]

AF Daily - Wednesday September 1

good evening everyone!! Wow-this day was crammed-didn't even get to see the first post until now!!

M3-hope you are off the islands by now and safely inland. I haven't seen the weather tonite but what I heard this morning was pretty scary. Please let us know you are OK

Marshy-i add my thoughts and prayers to everyone elses for your mom's pain to diminish and for you and your dad to continue to be as strong as your mom. PS: You asked if my sister knew I had stopped drinking. the answer is yes. I told my whole family back in March. Here is our emails back and forth today. I share because I think she and I have just entered a whole new relationship:

ME: I won?t be able to make the Labor Day party. Partly because I was sure it was on Monday (duh) and I made plans to go to CT with Cheryl for a sheepdog herding trial/clambake which is already paid for. Partly also because I?m feeling very vulnerable lately and don?t want to be around a lot of drinking as I?m not sure I wouldn?t cave and I really don?t want to start all over.

Sis: Why are you feeling vulnerable. You are doing so great and are so productive and healthier. I?ve told you before and I mean it ? I am very impressed and proud of you for identifying a problem (to you) and doing something about it. If you don?t think you can stop when you think you should then you are right to abstain. But you have to learn to live with it all around you and stand by your decision. As an aside, my coworker Brenda?s 25 year old son (who has had some drinking issues) had wicked bad pains one night about 3 weeks ago and drove himself to the hospital. Turns out, he has pancreitis most likely caused from alcohol abuse. He was told he can?t drink at all. So he is 25 with alcohol all around and a central part of young life and he has to abstain. But he is dealing with it. Not sure if this is an inspiration or a comfort or none of the above but just want you to know you are not alone.

Me: Thanks for the story-I do like to hear them. It?s all part of self esteem issues and other things that I won?t go into. Probably counseling might help so I?ll talk to my doc in Sept. I?m feeling kind of deprived right now and pissed that I can?t drink ?normally? and yet I know if I try I will fail miserably just because of how my brain chemistry is and I don?t want to take the chance. I am still very early in my sobriety and it?s not uncommon to feel this way after the ?shine? of being newly sober wears off. Eventually I will be able to handle situations such as these as I build up my tool box and self confidence.

Sis: I am certain people (me included though I get more insight each time we chat) don?t understand the depth involved in the decision you?ve made. If counseling will help you certainly should take advantage. Yes, I guess you are still early on but every day is a victory.

I still don't think she really understands that I am an alcoholic but that's OK because I myself couldn't even say that word until a couple of weeks ago. Anyway, the fear that she would be pissed at me for not coming to the party is gone and I can go away this weekend guilt free!!

DG-another busy day for you!! Hope you got it all done!!

Uni-HI!! You sound great! I'm so glad the rehab place is working out for you and that you were fortunate enough to get a spot. Keep up the good work!!

Greenie-I have told myself many times I need to eat through the freezer before buying anything else. Not an easy thing to do!! Let us know what creative dishes you came up with!!

Gaia-sure hope you were able to schedule in that ice cream and bubble bath! Hope whatever was going on has resolved itself. :l

Hi LVT and Lav-hope your day went well. Lav-can't wait to hear all about the chicks when they arrive!!

If I missed anyone, please forgive me. I've got to go and feed the pack and crawl into bed. Actually stayed late at work tonite (am I having a breakdown or what :H) and I think scored brownie points with my boss who started talking to me again about 3 weeks ago. I then went to Walmart to pick up my grill they assembled for me. It took 2 people to get it in the car. I was scratching my head trying to figure out how little old me was going to get it out and up the deck stairs!! I did it tho and did it with minimal damage (I think-it was dark out!!). Hope to fire it up on Friday nite. Good nite all!!

[papmom3]

AF Daily - Wednesday September 1

shoot!! Hi G!! You were right under my nose as I posted and I missed you! So sorry!!