AF Daily Sunday 9/5

[greeneyes]

Morning abbers near and far!!

It is cool enough for a long sleeved tee this AM! Wheeeeeee!!!
The red okra was nice, but I was suprised that the color faded with steaming. Usually that makes the colors pop out. I wanted to have whole fried okra but greenie doesn't know how to fry. :upset:

Here's a link to an interview replay with Wayne Dyer that was interesting. Wayne Dyer Ph.D. @ The Aware Show Expires tomorrow.

Today is FH's birthday. He is out of town for a bit. I'm sort of keeping an eye on the hole, getting the mail. I did make a move to leave that scenario and filed for unemployment and regisetered for work with the commission. BGPs in place. I know you're going to ask........alternative health care calls to me. I wish it would speak up a bit though.

Lav, while you're waiting to see what happens with (what are we calling him now?), don't forget to live your life. I think you should come visit greenie.

I got a newsleter -email from Colin Tipping and he's offering a free workshop retreat in Leicestershire, England at Launde Abbey. It's at the end of the month. It is free because he wants to expose some radical empowerment trainees to worshop situations (Colin will be teaching all the workshops). I'm actually looking at it..... Lav, lets go!

Have a super AF sunday! I've lots to do and for no time for you know what FOR SURE!

[Lavande]

AF Daily Sunday 9/5

Good morning Greenie & all Abbers,

I toyed with the idea of attending Colin's workshop Greenie - no kidding! Unfortunately I'm commited to a few important things here right now. That could be the beginning of a new & wonderful future for though......think about it!

I listened to Wayne Dyer with tears in my eyes - I didn't know he was sick. I've always enjoyed listening to him on PBS. I hope he's around for a long time to come.

I don't know exactly what is going on with YB, FH, Mr Lav lately. Something seems to be changing - he seems to be turning some corner. It would be nice if he could only verbalize his thoughts & feelings a bit. He's never been able to do that......I've always had to guess or attempt to read his mind
I'm doing my best to remain in the moment & trust that everything is OK.

Well, I need to get moving now but will be back later.
Have a great day one & all!
Lav

[greeneyes]

AF Daily Sunday 9/5

Lavande;951886 wrote: It would be nice if he could only verbalize his thoughts & feelings

Be careful what ya wish for!! :H:H kidding, really

[babysteps]

AF Daily Sunday 9/5

Good morning Greeneyes and Lav and all you abbers,
Hope all is good with your various concerns, and you relax and enjoy this Sunday. I'm on day 4 as an abber; no more modding for this one. Can't do it. Will take me awhile but that's ok. bye...

[momof3]

AF Daily Sunday 9/5

Good Morning All,

Greenie, A trip to England would be fantastic. Perhaps you could meet up with Marshy too!

Lav, I agree. Wayne Dwyer is fantastic. I believe he has been quite ill for some time. I'm hoping he sticks around on this earth fo awhile too. We could all use more of his love and wisdom. Also, regardless of whether Mr. Lav seems to be turning a corner. Please don't hold your breath waiting for him to change. That will only build disappointment and resentment in you. And, we know what that leads to. Plus, do you always want to be guessing what he is thinking/feeling? FYI I continue to be in awe of how hard you have worked to stay steady and in the moment with all of this.

Baby steps. Great name. Keep at it, one step at a time. All of us tried moderation many times before realizing that we had to be AF. Check out the toolbox thread in the Monthly Abs section. Lots of great info on staying AF. Keep close to this daily thread too. There are lots of people who are working on the same goal as you regardless of how much time we've been AF. We all learn from one another. September Serenity is also a really good thread. Lots of hard work (and fun) going on there too.

I'm stilll recovering from out evacuation from the Outer Banks and I have mixed feelings about school starting up for the girls. On one hand, it will be fantastic to have some semblance of a routine and to have some uninterrupted work time. On the other hand, I regret that the Summer ended so abruptly. Regardless, the change is gonna come anyway. I also feel like I left my mojo in the Outer Banks. Greenie, perhaps yours is there too. I'm just drained of any energy and a bit down in the dumps. Blah!

M3

[Lavande]

AF Daily Sunday 9/5

Welcome babysteps
Glad to have you here with us - the commited Abbers!

Greenie & M3 - I am enjoying seeing the beginning of some change in Mr Lav but that's it for now.
I have built up higher & stronger boundary lines during his absence. He has no idea - he just thinks I'm happier & more relaxed. I have no idea what his plan is because I no longer ask!!!!! My plan is to preserve my new found peace of mind - I missed it all the years it was gone

If everyone's mojo is in the Outer Banks maybe we should plan a reunion there

[greeneyes]

AF Daily Sunday 9/5

Lavande;952018 wrote: If everyone's mojo is in the Outer Banks maybe we should plan a reunion there

AMEN, sista!!!!

Hi babysteps. You keep building on that day 4! What is your plan, specifically? Got one? We'll be glad to help.

[Raven.joy]

AF Daily Sunday 9/5

good to be back

[greeneyes]

AF Daily Sunday 9/5

WB raven! How was the trip?

[greeneyes]

AF Daily Sunday 9/5

Looks like they've tweaked the miles rules a bit. I'd have to use that card about 5 more years to get enough miles for UK. Hell, I can't even get to CA and it used to be the same amount of miles anywhere in continental US.

[Raven.joy]

AF Daily Sunday 9/5

nice trip, lots of people drinking wine all around me, but I was fine with it, being sober has become the normal, it has taken a year.

[Doggygirl]

AF Daily Sunday 9/5

Hi Abbies! Thanks Greenie for getting us started. We must be sharing a weather pattern because I'm lovin' the cool temps here as well! So will you always have these ties to FH? (I'm such a nag! )

Mojo Meeting - Outer Banks. When? I'll be there!

Lav, I admire you greatly. That is all. You set a wonderful example for staying calm and SOBER amidst a storm in your closest personal life. If you can do it, maybe the rest of us can do it too.

Babysteps, congrats on Day 4. Hang in there. I DOES get easier. Stick with the groups who solidly share your goal. See what the sober people are doing and figure out what is going to work for YOU to stay sober, one day at a time. Hang with us any time here on AF Daily!

Raven.joy, good to have you back. How was the trip?

M3, it must be quite a shock to the system just making the transition from summer to "back to school." WITHOUT a hurricane to muck up the mojo.

I'm realizing I have some strange feelings about my family. (mainly Mom and Dad.) Not sure what they really are or what to make of it. A very....blank spot I guess where I think love should be. I suppose I knew this was something "out there" that I would get to explore more deeply at some point. I'm not crazy about the time being "now" but it's starting to feel like that. Gotta love my sponsor. I told her how I was feeling this morning and she said "you know, every family is not all sunshine and roses and it's OK to just feel how you feel about them. Keep your side of the street clean and let the rest be whatever it is." So maybe it won't be much "work" (I have already made my amends) but more just acceptance that it will never be Beaver Cleaver land for me.

One thing is for sure.....

DG

[greeneyes]

AF Daily Sunday 9/5

Doggygirl;952071 wrote: So will you always have these ties to FH? (I'm such a nag! )

Nag is right!! You act like I'm divorced or something!! Pants! (that's brit-speak) :H

Tonight I had an arch support for dinner. Package said "meatless, soy-free" naked chick'n cutlet by Quorn, but I know it was really by Dr. Scholls.

I really like sister's (sister IS still your sponsor, right?) saying about keeping your side of the street clean.

[Doggygirl]

AF Daily Sunday 9/5

Greenie, :H on your Dr. Scholl's dinner. :H He really should stay in the foot care business.

Yes, that is Sister. I just love her. She has such a great way of making me feel OK about things I would otherwise be beating myself up about. She is such a good friend for me. Who woulda thunk it.

DG