AF Daily - Saturday September 25

[Doggygirl]

HEEEELLLLLLOOOOO FABBIES!!!!!


It's Saturday! It feels like fall is finally here! I'm making a choice to smile today and be happy. I have much to be grateful for and I am determined to keep my focus on that.

I planted some carrots in the garden way back when, and sort of forgot about them. They are HUGE now. But they still taste good. Mr. D loves carrot cake and I found a weight watchers recipe that is actually pretty good. Might make some of those today. no big plans other than puttering, and I'm happy about that. If I ever find that cord I will post some pics of the remodeling project.

Still hoping to find a couple of roomies who are interested in Sober Village to Ixtapa in February.

One thing is for sure....there is NO room for drinking and drunking, because that's where it always leads, in my world today.
DG

[Marshy]

AF Daily - Saturday September 25

Hello DG & all to come,

Definite nip in the air here. Slathering on the hand lotion. (Greenie, I just had to buy some in the shop without research, it says "against animal testing" on it. Is that enough? I spose you can be against testing but still test I'm going to look it up now. Made in Scotland so it's probably not on your list.)

DG - carrot cake recipe, please. I've never made it but I love carrots.

I'm at work so zooming but wanted to say thanks all for comments yesterday. Not sure I've reached any conclusions but it feels better to have just written it down

[Marshy]

AF Daily - Saturday September 25

Oh thank god - not only is it cruelty-free but I'm also helping Africans :H

Organic Surge - Best Organic Moisturiser on Channel 4's 'How to Look Good Naked'

[greeneyes]

AF Daily - Saturday September 25

Morning Fabs!!

DG I love carrots! Sometimes I cook them in apple juice (if you juice your apples and try this the fresh juice gets really frothy!) and serve with a dash of nutmeg.

I went on a non-date with the painter last night. He called and left a message about dinner and boating. I squirmed out of the dinner part, thereby securing the right to call it a non-date. (hush up, you in the back row! :H) He lives on the lake so I went to his house and out on the boat a couple hours. The moon on the water was spectacular!! Before we went out, his neighbor & friend came in off the water and introductions were made - brief chatting. Pleasant exchange. When we came back they were calling to us from the porch to come over. I was on my way home but we walked over mainly to meet the neighbor's wife. 2 hours of drinking can really make a difference in people! The wife mentioned being tired from work all day with a hangover and oh BTW, got stopped by police on way home from working the home show convention the night before and was the most sober of the car full of drunk friends and was let go. Then a 3rd friend showed up armed with a cooler which he had obviously had his head in for quite some time. Not meaning to I'm sure, they made my departure uncomfortable with the begging to stay blather. (Painter wasn't drinking. Well not that I saw & there was no behavioral evidence.)
Back to that a, b, c stuff marshy. Officially cross off the a and b parts. Sober is in no way shape or form a boring state of being. That is all.

OK, I'm going to hit the river and then go to the Okra thing. For you who are lucky enough to get some fresh okra, Fried Okra and about a dozen other ways to cook it.

Have a fabby AF saturday!!

Marshy I'm sure that lotion also enhances your karma even though it doesn't make the claim in print. :H

[Pride before Fall]

AF Daily - Saturday September 25

Warm hellos, DG and Marshy (and F-ABs yet to sign on),

Great, now I want carrot cake; the non-WW kind, frosted.

I just got off the phone with my fiance, whose traveling all week in the UK. I used to love when he went away--made it so much easier to get my drink on. Now I actually miss him! Can't help thinking what an ass I was to live with: go to bed, so I can drink. stay off the porch, so I can drink. working late? great, I can drink. With six kids between us, even with 3 grown, how could our marriage ever have survived that? I've been filling him in on the extent of it, gradually. Amazing, how well I had managed to hide it. Anyway, I'm just happy to find I'm marrying him now, not Sam Adams, Jim Beam, Johnny Walker, etc. etc.

My goal for the day is to nurture at least one relationship that have been good for me, despite my alcoholic neglect. This is harder for me than for some people; the risk has outweighed the benefits in my mind, if not in reality. I have to surf a wave of anxiety just to call a friend; I need to get over that.

Love, courage, and gratitude for the day ahead all,

~Pride

[Pride before Fall]

AF Daily - Saturday September 25

Oooh, moonlight and boats! That's a date!
:h:h:h:h

[greeneyes]

AF Daily - Saturday September 25

Pride before Fall;967276 wrote: My goal for the day is to nurture at least one relationship that have been good for me, despite my alcoholic neglect. This is harder for me than for some people; the risk has outweighed the benefits in my mind, if not in reality. I have to surf a wave of anxiety just to call a friend; I need to get over that.

Pride that is wonderful! I know what you mean, and it is so worth it.

it was a NON-date, I tell ya!!

[Marshy]

AF Daily - Saturday September 25

greeneyes;967281 wrote:
it was a NON-date, I tell ya!!

Greenie, I understand the nuances involved :H
Sounds like a fabulous evening. (And he sounds like fabulous dating material).

Hi Pride - did your fiance make it to sunny London?

[Lavande]

AF Daily - Saturday September 25

Morning Abbies!

Just checking in to say hello!
Must supervise the driveway guys. They showed up two days late but what the heck, they're here

Will be back later.
Have a great AF Saturday.
Lav

[Pride before Fall]

AF Daily - Saturday September 25

(Good morning, Lav!)

Yes, Marshy, he did get to London; one sister's in Crouch End. He's originally from Liverpool, so is getting to visit mum and much of the brood this weekend, heading up to Southport for his Auntie Marie's 80th birthday today. They love when "our Sean" is in town; he's oldest of five sibs, and assumed the role of head of the family since his dad passed. He loves that! Here, I just boss him around.

[Doggygirl]

AF Daily - Saturday September 25

Hello again!

Date. That is all.

I remember all too well laughing (while over drinking, of course) about drunken escapades of the previous night where we thankfully made it home in one piece. I shudder today to think of how very easily those nights could have turned out very differently with one slip of the steering wheel. Yikes.

Forgot to mention yesterday some important news. (:H) Main Contractor is a, well, middle aged guy who is not very tall, but has a "nice personality." He has two very wonderful pieces of eye candy with him during this destruction phase. Oh to be 28 again.

Pride, I too used to relish the days where I would have absolutely no pressure (from inside) about drinking unfettered. That meant home alone, with no reason to have to leave the house. I too wonder how we made it through the darkest of the years of that. Thank goodness it's different today. Wonderful that you will start your married life on much better footing being sober.

Lav, so glad that chicks had a snake free night! (and you too!) Any plans with YB this weekend?

Marshy, the carrot cake cup cakes I'm going to make aren't really the EXCELLENT carrot cake that would be made from scratch. It's a cheater version starting with store bought spice cake mix (Greenie, cover your eyes :H). For your first carrot cake experience (cooking it any way) you should consider trying a REAL recipe!! This one looks very good. Might want to read a few of the "comments" as it seems people are using less oil than the recipe calls for with good results. Mary Anne's Carrot Cake Recipe - Allrecipes.com

The WW version subs apple sauce and pineapple for much of the oil. It doesn't come out as moist and mushy as the real thing, but it's 4 points per cup cake instead of, like, 1,000.

I think it would be fun if Marshy and Greenie went out on a double non-date. That way we could sit behind them and spread the popcorn lurve amonst more recipients.

I'm going to run right out and buy some of that lotion that will make me look good nekkid.

One thing is for sure...

DG

[momof3]

AF Daily - Saturday September 25

Good Morning All,

Pride, I was very touched by your post about your fiance Sounds like you are falling in love with him all over again!

Greenie...love the story about the painter. Are you attracted to him? I like how he passed the test of not drinking in the midst of others getting shit-faced. It's funny, how I never noticed how others' behavior quickly changed after they drank because I was one of them. The changes are quite profound, aren't they? Also, I loved your story about not going out to dinner with him because that would make it an official date. That's what my husband and I did. For about 3 months we hiked, went to the gym together, bike riding, etc. But, never went to dinner. And, on our first "official date" over dinner, he passed a kidney stone (long story). I thought he was sweating and grimacing because he was nervous over being around me. We still laugh about that and our kids love the story.

Worked for 2 hours on kitchen design yesterday with a new guy who was much more competent. I will probably finalize the order next week. Knocking down of walls is right around the corner!

Busy weekend. We have old neighbors in from out of town. They are staying at a hotel but their kids will probably stay here--for a grand total of 7 kids ages 4 - 13 in our house. I don't mind at all. In fact, I rather enjoy it and prefer it over being around a houseful of adults.


DG. EYE CANDY!!!

[rebirth]

AF Daily - Saturday September 25

Good afternoon all,
Just saying hi. Feeling a bit Blah recently because of personal problems etc. That wicked demon is trying to make me drink again so I am struggling this week. But no worries cause I wont give into it. Still feeling grumpy!

It's still nice to read everyone's posts though.

[Doggygirl]

AF Daily - Saturday September 25

Greenie, carrots cooked in Apple Juice sounds YUM!! I'm going to try that if Mr. D can find more carrots in the garden. I just grated up all that are currently in the house for the carrot cup cakes. Will try to keep fingers out of batter.

M3, maybe you will get lucky and some eye candy will come 'round somewhere in your project to make the pain a little more tolerable. I think it's awesome that you are looking forward to spending the night with all the kids. There just aren't many kids around my life, but back in The Day, I would have never wanted to spend a night like that. Would rather get shit faced with or without other adults. (maybe that's why at this stage of life, there aren't any kids in it..)

rebirth, just keep not drinking. You can push through. You've got the tools and you've had rough patches before. This too shall pass. I laugh at myself now when I think back to how I used to drink (in high drama fashion) over any sort of personal problem. As if EVERYONE doesn't have personal problems. Only me. Oy. Good those days are behind us. YOU CAN DO IT!! What are you doing with your son this weekend per your AL savings plan? Whatever it is, I hope it's fun for both of you!

DG

[papmom3]

AF Daily - Saturday September 25

Hi All! Posted my good mornings on the wrong day :H!!

Yep-DATE Greenie!! but call it anything you want. He passed test number 1!! You are so lucky you are only 29 -it' hard to think about someone being attracted to an old fart like me (30). I'll just live vicariously through you and marshy and watch lots of movies from the back row. I'll have to look up how many carbs a serving of popcorn has :H.

Blood test results sort of came back. A1C went up, glucose was way up but I don't think they did the fasting glucose because she said this one said estimated average. Grrrr-I fasted for 13 hours!!! I'll not be happy if I have to do this one again. Good new I think-GFR (kidney) went up but that's a good thing and it's now just in the "normal" range (lots of controversy as to what is actually normal with this calculation but I'll take it!!). So, it won't be a happy visit with the nutritionist on Wed as I've been in denial the past 2 weeks with a horrible WTF attitude towards sugar and carbs. I'll be very surprised if I lost the measly 3 lbs she wanted me to lose in 6 weeks. and here I was so cock sure I was going to lose 10!! I think Sugar can stand right beside AL in the evil beast line.

Today is hot!! Going to be 85!! Then back to fall tomorrow. I think I will screw all projects that didn't get done and ask my neighbor if she wants to join me and doggies on a lovely hike on this wonderful property the next town over. If she doesn't, we'll go alone. Then food shopping for the low carb lifestyle that I just have to accept and laundry. Hoping to wake up Monday morning well rested and raring to go back to work. Yep. Happy. Grateful. Missed it. So much fun. Love the commute. :biteme:

Hey-have a great day everyone!!

PS: decided I didn't like my new phone because it isn't compatible with Blue Tooth voice activation so have an order in for the HTC Evo. Hopefully I can pick it up tonite. Then I cancel my internet and use the phone as my wireless hotspot. Then I ask for a new TV for my birthday and cancel cable as I don't really watch it anyway anymore. And if I want to, I can watch any show I want on my PC or phone. I will beat this financial mess, I will!!