October Optimism - week 1

[Lavande]

October Optimism - week 1

GM kids!

Zero, zero cravings for me, honestly.

Yes John the Phillies rock although I didn't watch them

Uptight personalities???? You must all know Mr Lav. He takes himself so damn seriously it's not even funny. He's completely lost his sense of humor over the years..........he used to be fun to be around. Now all he does is elevate everyone's B/P.

Two members of my family have gone 'Christian' over the years. They became absolutely intolerable, nasty even. One was my younger brother & he backed off when I told him 'Don't preach to me you little fart'.:H The other is my SIL - she married a Mennonite wantabe preacher - I stopped inviting them over years ago, they're so depressing!!!

My daughter reports she's feeling a bit better & is now able to walk a little - geez! It's hormones that cause the muscle & skeletal discomfort........I remeber soaking my aching body in a warm bath from time to time too all those years ago.

Well, time to get some new chick pics - they're huge at 1 month old! I guess I should throw a party

Wishing a great day for each & everyone of us!
Lav

[Chillgirl]

October Optimism - week 1

Hi again Guys

Well I went to my meeting with my cynical friend who was brilliant! He basically sees this idea as a pyramid scam. Just so you all heard it hear 1st its called SITE TALK and is a social network like facebook where everyone gets a comission for recruiting other members, they are also trying to get you to get your friends to invest in share options as the co intend to go public in 2011/12. It will also have an online shopping mall where you also get bonus points when friends you have recruited spend money. So if in 5 years time its worth a few billion I will have missed out on a great opportunity :upset: Im only joking! I trust my friend's judgement implicitly.

Star - Im hopeless at seeing bad in anything! In my student days my room mates called me Miss Candy Floss as i always saw life as pink and fluffy and I guess little has changed... Many say I dont life in the real world but I guess its "my" real world as all our worlds are for each of us.

Rusty - You are a superwoman to me, as they say if you want something done give it to the busiest person and thats how I imagine you.

Paguy - I think you will be pleasantly suprised how much you will have progressed in dealing with the outside world including liquor stores. All the time we are AF I believe is reinforcing our strength against it.

Lav - You crack me up! :H Maybe you took over Mr Lav's sense of humor too?!

Lavande;975755 wrote:
Two members of my family have gone 'Christian' over the years. They became absolutely intolerable, nasty even. One was my younger brother & he backed off when I told him 'Don't preach to me you little fart'.:H

I also have zero cravings although I still get self conscious on social occasions and would love to have the effects of a glass of wine before my date on Sat. However as my good friend reminded me today, he can remember holding me up on the dancefloor 8 years ago when I was unable to stand and I have the cheek to think my drinking was only a problem in the last couple of years!!

[rebirth]

October Optimism - week 1

Lavande;975755 wrote: 'Don't preach to me you little fart'.:H Lav

:H That put a smile to my face too. Think I am going to try that one out when needed. I also like DG's reference to fanny warmer. That made me chuckle too.

Arnt we silly. We like to laugh at little things like that. Well at least I do..

Star I was thinking about my cravings ( I always think about my cravings) and they use to be strong at weekends. To me weekends meant letting go, having fun, not working, being wild...so drinking was part of that. When I moderated in the past I couldnt stop drinking on the weekends because my brain wouldnt let me.

Thank God that I dont have that weekend feeling anymore. I just get the odd craving to drown my sorrows whenever life becomes difficult ( like this week. Arghhh) Oh to be like Lav and have no cravings at all!

[rebirth]

October Optimism - week 1

John does it not annoy you when your partner gets drunk in your company? Just wondering. Dont need to answer. Just being nosey

[Lavande]

October Optimism - week 1

Rebirth,

As time moves on your cravings will change into just thoughts & eventually those thoughts disappear as well! Being grateful every day for all the positives that have manifested in my life since going AF helps!
You may find that statement a bit strange considering my ongoing spouse problems but it's true! He was miserable before I drank, miserable while I drank & still miserable when I quit. There is definitely no pleasing some people :H

Chill, keep looking!! There is a perfect position waiting for you somewhere

EB will be here from 6 to 10 pm tonight - I'm tired even before he gets here, oh well, I'll get through :l

[rebirth]

October Optimism - week 1

Lavande;976154 wrote: Rebirth,

He was miserable before I drank, miserable while I drank & still miserable when I quit. :l

:H:H:H Oh you are funny Lav.

I am guessing that he isnt a barrel of laughs then. Sounds so opposite to you?! What was the attraction in Mr Lav in the first place? Obviously not his sense of humour

[paguy]

October Optimism - week 1

rebirth;976145 wrote: John does it not annoy you when your partner gets drunk in your company? Just wondering. Dont need to answer. Just being nosey

YES, I find it very annoying...

[cyntree]

October Optimism - week 1

Evening, optimizers! Sorry I even brought up the word 'normal'...of course there really is nothing that fits that description. I think I radiated to that quote because of a talk I heard recently - she ended with a plea for everyone to really invest in who they are, and show that quirkiness to the world. She is a highly successful motivational speaker, quite off-the-wall, just my cup of tea, and I found it so refreshing to hear someone talk about cherishing one's true self. Maybe not cherishing that is what really does make life so tiring. Maybe drinking was a way to get away from pretending to be someone I wasn't.....dunno, have to think about that....
Anyway, Chill, good for you for taking your friend along today. Already here in the states there are pyramid schemes afloat with people forming their own online shopping 'malls' etc, so the timeline of this supposed venture seems suspect. PS, RE: McDreamy, he should be so lucky as to have you be interested in him. We love the real you.
Sleep tight, happy morning those on the other side of the world. ODAT on the craving; let's hang tough and be true to our own best, wacky selves.

[Chillgirl]

October Optimism - week 1

Good morning gang
I had an update conversation yesterday with my ex husband, he is still waiting to hear if the bank will agree to a "mortgage vacation" of 6 months for my house and the others we own as he has no way of meeting repayments but so far they are refusing. The winter is going to be incredibly tough as now his bar is empty of tourists. Despite this news I didn't fall into a black mood and I'm hoping my days of the dark side of the moon are over for a while, I think my mind has played out the worst case scenario so many times, nothing can really shock me now, I've already imagined being homeless and destitute.

I found this quote yesterday which feels quite appropriate - ?Optimist: Person who travels on nothing from nowhere to happiness?

Cyn - don't be sorry! I like the conversation about normal and the longer I live the more im convinced there is no such thing :H, I agree it's all about cherishing your true self, there's another quote I love "be yourself, everyone else is taken".

We have a rainy weekend forecast which I can't really complain about after so much sun, hopefully things will soon turn green again.....

[rebirth]

October Optimism - week 1

Good morning October optimists

Chill sending you a :l cause I am having the same worries in regards to paying my bills. My shop has been doing very badly the past three weeks. This week's turnover has been frightenly bad. I have had alot of thoughts about closing up, moving on etc. It's not what I want to do.

But life always plans for you no matter how you try to plan it.

Cyn dont be sorry. I love anything thought provoking. I am wacky and proud x

John- Thanks for letting me know as I was wondering how you dealt with it. I just cannot get with on my BF when he is in that state. He repeats himself, he is loud, he is selfish and he makes a huge mess everywhere. I shouldnt be judgemental because I am a recovering drunk but it's still anoying be in the company of a drunk...expecially when it's in your house and you have made the effort to avoid people like that in the outside world.

[Guitarista]

October Optimism - week 1

Hello folk's!

Here here RB. Tell him to shape up! Geez, i hope business improves. That would be stressful for me. Hope thing's will work out re the roof above your head too Chilli!

Life sure is too short to try not to be who we truly are.

A safe, sober, and magical day to everyone.

[rebirth]

October Optimism - week 1

Hi Guitarista,

At times like this I am determined not to get down and think AL is the answer. If i was honest I could very easily buy a bottle of cava (sparkling wine) and "relax" for the evening. But I know that I will just wake up with a hangover and feel even more miserable...and the business will still be doing badly.

[Chillgirl]

October Optimism - week 1

RB - I have the same thoughts frequently, now the days are shorter and Im alone early evening thats when I used to open the wine and it would be nice to escape from the thoughts in my head for a few hours.

However I absolutely wont go there! Im going through one of the toughest times in my life right now and there is no way I could be as mentally strong as I am if I was still drinking, I know for a fact that I would be a complete mess, drinking even more, if thats possible, Id be permanantly hungover and an emotional wreck.

One of the things I got really early on in my sobriety was the rawness of real emotions which I had been supressing for years with alcohol. This may sound strange, but even the painful ones are a blessing to me, they make me feel alive! I truly believe that the experience of being human is to feel all these emotions, good and bad. We cant just pick the good ones thats not why we are here. I remind myself that our capacity to feel pain is the same as our capacity to feel joy and thats what makes it worth it.

[Stargazerlily]

October Optimism - week 1

This work week has gone by so fast....

What is normal? Well, to me it's being able to pay your bills, having good health, and people to love. If I can't work, no money, no pay bills, not normal. Same with illness and relationships. But, within that there is a wide range of behaviors, hobbies, interests, etc. I love quirkieness, uniqueness, etc. I often find that the people who are doing their own thing are the most interesting and fun to be around. One thing I hate is materialism, getting more and more and more, just for the sake of having it and being able to show off. I value learning and knowledge, there are so many things to know about in the universe. Sometimes, I think of the afterlife as a huge university where everyone can learn about everything......there are so few things I am not interested in. The older I get, the more I realize the less I know. I mean, teenagers are so concrete, often know it alls (not always) and as people age they realize they don't know it all.

Chill, so good you did not get sucked into the pyramid scheme. There are so many out there and they take time and money. I always hate business pursuits where you have to lure in you family and friends. No thanks. Red Flag.

Lav, so sorry about your friend with cancer. Being there for her is everything, she is lucky to have you for a friend. I hate when people preach to me, but never had the nerve to tell them off. I have enough basic bible knowledge to point out that it is silly to take stuff literally. For instance, recently someone was using the Bible to justify the suicide of the young gay man by saying that being gay is wrong, according to the bible. I pointed out that slavery was justified in the bible, should we go back to that? Or, if followed literally, one man should have many wives. The person became thoughtful, of course having never thought of that. And backed off.

Rebirth and PAguy, I would find it incredibly hard if my partner got drunk in front of me. I would actually be a little b****!!

I am so happy the weekend is coming....I worked so hard yesterday, but it was fulfilling. A while back I was really stressed at my job, and miraculously the person I work closely with, we have made our peace and are gettng along. I am getting used to the extra paperwork, and seem to have found a pace I can handle. Let's hope it continues as there are so few jobs out there right now.

I am grateful for my loved ones, job, home, pets, and the gorgeous fall weather. Have a meaningful day full of peace and gratitude, AF.

[Chillgirl]

October Optimism - week 1

Hi Star - x posts! Lovely to hear you are in a good place and feeling gratitude, Im so glad work had turned out ok too.

Where is Papmom? Has she gone on her travels in the "coolcar"? A little birdy tells me that today she is celebrating 5 months sober!!!!!

PAPMOM you are an inspiration and your doggies are so happy to have a sober mommy!!!

:yougo::yougo::yougo: