af daily sat 2 October

[bear73]

hi all - I have 4 weeks today!
I am so pleased it's the furthest I've got for a long time and I plan to keep it up.
Feeling happier,calmer,clearer headed and more optimistic about life.

Work dilemma - chance I could be paid ?10k to leave job, or risk seeing what job may turn into (could be very different,location,pay and duty wise),risk waiting for redundancy and that maybe being less than 10k or same as 10k with additional benefits.part of me wants to take 10k if it's offered and run BUT would be worried about security (would be able to manage for about 6-8 months with cutting back).

Last night was a bit hard at times - some of group were very drunk and a bit over huggy/repetitive. I did feel a bit left out (we went to pub about midnight after the meal and very busy/full of drunk people). It's weird how that is almost quite intimidating now and not my idea of fun.On the whole though a good night.On days when I cannot feasibly drive I'm not putting myself into situations like that.
Pressure to drink last night - but only brief and I just didn't engage with it.

I smoked though to deal with the awkward feelings, despite having a bad cold.
I plan to knock smoking on the head in the next month - does that sound reasonable to you seasoned abstinence people?

Today is rollerderby day - helping set up a very big bout. I was planning to go back to skating tomorrow BUT I want this cold to go so will aim for next Wednesday instead. Fancy a gym and steam tomorrow anyway.

Goals for next week
1. Eat more fruit and veg
2. Go to the gym twice
3. Back to skating
4. Cycle to work twice

I'm not even putting no alcohol on the list as that is just a given!
Good day all to come.

[rebirth]

af daily sat 2 October

Hi Bear,

Hey you passed the test last night! Fab!
Four weeks is brilliant! Isnt it nice to not have to that obsession associated with drinking. I was either thinking about getting my next drink mor suffering from a bad hangover or feeling self hatred for drinking too much. At least you and I dont have that in our lives anymore!

You may be sitting on the fence in regards to your job but at least you are thinking with a clear head..

Your goals are the same as mine for next week. Except for the cycyling as I walk to walk. But definitely more exercise to get fit and tone up.

Have a lovely weekend and to anyone else who tunes in today. Got to rush off.

[Guitarista]

af daily sat 2 October

Hiya Bear, RB, and all Fab Abber's!

Congratulation's on 4 week's Bear. Good job!

Hope everyone's having a great weekend. It is so good to be sober, and living sober. Yeah!

[Lavande]

af daily sat 2 October

GM Abbers!

Ah, a nice Fall morning here

Need to prep for the arrival of YB - will be back later.

Wishing everyone a wonderful AF Day!
Lav

[greeneyes]

af daily sat 2 October

Fabbers!

Lovely here too this AM

Why does the cat puke all over the carpet when you already have too much to do?

Have a glorious day!

Zoom!

[papmom3]

af daily sat 2 October

Greenie-revenge for incarceration. Seriously. Have you ever really looked into their eyes? :H

Bear!!!! Congratulations on 4 weeks!! That is absolutely brilliant AND you passed last nite's test with flying colors!! Way to go-keep it up. It does get easier. It's just getting past the feelings of denial and "why me?" that make it a tad harder. Tough decision on the job. the $10K sounds really good at first glance but like you said, it wouldn't even carry you through for a year and with the job market the way it is.... I don't know. I would be very very tempted but would have to do very deep financial analysis. Good luck!!

Lav- Good luck with YB.

Beautiful day here today after all that rain yesterday. I don't know how much more of this Sat inside job I can take but so far all leads have gone no where. Grrrr.

I'm sure I'll be posting a lot today as suprising it's very very slow so far.
:l

[Doggygirl]

af daily sat 2 October

YO FABBIES!!!

Well, it's YF but who cares!

P3, congrats on your weight loss! :yougo: I know how much work that is and how much ice cream must be sacrificed. I forgot to mention that yesterday! Also, congrats on getting picked for Boot Camp! (well, is congrats the right word????) Our fall boot camp at Curves starts on Monday. We just have some "extra credit" exercises in addition to the regular work out. That will be nothing like your boot camp I suspect!

Lav, so what's YB up to today? Is he going to talk about the Big Decision? Or just mow the grass? And what is involved in "prepping for his arrival?" (I hope it does not involve any baking!!!!) Is this his birthday? (I missed a lot the last few days so all I know is that he has one coming up....I bet it's today....)

Greenie, I would go with P3's assessment on the cat. Either that, or "because I can" which is why I suspect cats do a lot of stuff. What else are you doing today besides cleaning up puke?

G, you keep teasing us with your avatar!!!! I distinctly recall seeing the Hot Stuff one, albeit briefly. :h Hope you are having a magical weekend. Does it seem like forever until January when you start teaching that class? (seems like forever to us!)

Hi rebirth! I've got to get back to my exercise routine next week too. I only went to Curves 2X and normally I go 5X. So I'm with you and Bear on that goal. And also eating more vegs, etc. Are you doing something fun with son this weekend?

Bear, thanks for kicking us off today with the great news about your success last night and your 4 weeks AF accomplishment! Your tone has really changed a lot with regard to your social life and pubs. You sound willing to not go these days which has a different ring than how it used to be. I hope that makes sense. It seems you have reached a place mentally where you are ready for sobriety. Love your goal list.

Well, I need to get some major administrative work done this afternoon so I'm gonna haul butt and get 'er done. One thing is for sure...

DG

[Lavande]

af daily sat 2 October

I'm back.

Today was a postive one with YB!
He sat down & WANTED to talk before cutting grass. Good thing I don't have dentures because I'm sure they would have fallen out on the floor (I was that surprised):H:H

Apparently the instructions I handed him last weekend - to poop or get off the pot made a difference! All of a sudden he realizes that he misses his home & life!!!
Well, that's good to know but..........I need a little more info, you know? His therapist has somehow made him understand that HE is responsible for his problems & that he has been projecting his crap on me & almost everyone else!!!!!!!! He actually verbalized this himself - impressive I think. His birthday is Monday but I'm not even going to mention it. He will be back tomorrow to fix some electrical problems that developed during the big storm the other day. So I guess the news I gave him last weekend made an impression afterall. We shall see

Nice day overall here!
Hope you all had a great day too!

[momof3]

af daily sat 2 October

Hello All,

Just a quick and late check in to give a


Big Congratulations to Bear on 4 Weeks!

[Determinator]

af daily sat 2 October

weeeeee, delirious late check-in for garlic breath. Had a good positive AF day.

Bear I really like what you related here:

Pressure to drink last night - but only brief and I just didn't engage with it.

absolutely brilliant.

Lavande, so glad to hear the positive developments. I hope they flourish.

well, I need to stop munching and teeter off to bed.

be well