AF Daily - Monday 10/4

[greeneyes]

Swimmers Take Your Mark!!

Morning fabbie ones!

Does anyone esle feel like they are STLL catching up with the business of life after drinking? Not expanded horizons necessarily, just taking care of things. Not complaining mind you - I'd rather be busy digging ditches than drinking all day. I just keep wondering about it.

I might have an overnight guest and dog tonight so I'd best get at all my loose ends! This person can be high maintenance and I'll have to do a double grounding meditation or something beforehand. Smudge sticks handy!

I meant to tell you I bumped into a friend at the blues festival who had a long distance energy healing experience for a physical problem via a few prearranged sessions. I was fascinated. I'm calling him today to get the person's contact information. I'm itching to learn more about the process.

Lav, I'm with you on the Colin point of view. But geez, who knew a growth experience could last so long, eh? And I mean yours, not his.

Cindi..:l I trust you're doing the all good things for your body to recover.

Be well abbers and enjoy the gift of whatever the day brings! And......one thing's for sure!

[universal]

AF Daily - Monday 10/4

Hi Greenie and all to come,

I'm having some challenges with depression right now. I'm sure it's normal after quitting drinking (especially since I have been diagnosed with depression for years). It's frustrating cause I was doing better but I'm having a hard time getting my butt out of bed and being motivated to do anything at all right now. Just feeling incredibly sad. I go to my therapist today which will help - I am looking forward to that - although I don't have the energy to leave the house. Catch 22.

Had an okay weekend - busy - had to close the cottage. That part sucked. It was fairly rainy and miserable out which makes it hard to get moving! But the cottage has been closed for another year.

Okay, I'm off, I'm going to get moving or I will end up back in bed. I need to get ready to go to the therapist.

I will check back later.

[rebirth]

AF Daily - Monday 10/4

Hey Uni:l
I am sad too today. Sending you a great big hug. Hope tomorrow is a better day for both of us.

[Lavande]

AF Daily - Monday 10/4

Good Monday morning Abbers!
This is definitely a No Birthday Cake day around here :H I need to STOP treating YB with so much kindness & pretending that he's 'normal'. In other words - no more enabling him!!

Greenie, hope your overnight visitor is not too needy
Obviously we all heal our wounds in our own way & time but I decided enough is enough. That's why I put an ending date on YB's adventure. He is fully aware that time is slipping by.

Uni, I hope your mood & day picks up for you. Rebirth, sending a hug to you too!

Time to get myself in gear, been moving like a slug since I rolled out of bed this morning :H It's dark out, slightly chilly, ho hum!

Wishing everyone a great AF Monday!
Lav

[papmom3]

AF Daily - Monday 10/4

good morning fab abbers!!
It is a COLD dreary rainy day here in the Northeast. I woke up with a massive headache and couldn't drag myself out of bed (who could blame me all comfy cozy under my down comforter!!). I decided to call in sick and try to do some work from home. I'm sure this is related to sinus as i'm all stuffed up too and due to HBP cannot take any decongestants. It's always suspect when one calls in sick on a Monday but que sera sera. I'll put in a good days work anyway. Just from the comfort of my bed and daytime TV :H.

Cindi-I'm so sorry about your relapse. To be able to afford to go to a great rehab place so far from home is a great gift and I hope it will be your way out finally. Our thoughts and hearts will be with you. :l

John-you're doing so well and I know how hard this must be for you. Getting into the kitchen yesterday I'm sure was the best medicine for you. Just don't overdue OK???? I also sincerely hope that your partner will recognize that his drinking is probably bordering on a problem and certainly isn't supportive of you at the very least. I cannnot even imagine what it would be like to go on this sober journey and have a partner who is still drinking. My heart goes out to all of you in that situation. I realize that for now I am very lucky to be alone and to only have to be around members of my family who drink a few times a month.

Uni and RB-Your blue moods will shift soon. Closing up that cottage amidst rotten weather would put anyone in a funk. I bet after your therapist's visit you'll feel so much better. RB-:l :h :l

Greenie-good luck with your company tonite. I hope all the meditation and smudging keeps you on an even keel

DG-have a great meeting with the new MK recruit. I've started to wonder lately if selling MK or Avon might be a good PT job for me. I'm a great salesperson but I don't wear much makeup(allergies) or use perfume so it would be hard to sell something I don't use. I just keep looking!!

Hidy Ho to everyone else who stops by today. I'll check in at lunch.

Oh, I forgot-when I went to my sister's for dinner last nite, I was a bit late. They had all started on a glass of wine and there was a wine glass filled with something yellow looking with ice in it sitting on the counter. After about 10 min my sister told me she had poured me a selzter and nodded her head toward the glass. How sweet!! It looked yellow because of the yellow flowers on it!! They all ended up finishing 2 small bottles of red between the 3 of them so that wasn't too bad. Dinner was yummy and I took home leftovers. My wanting a glass of wine disappeared with the first sip of selzter. Magic!!

:l

[greeneyes]

AF Daily - Monday 10/4

time to light another candle for startingover's mum's peaceful transition which is near.

[Pride before Fall]

AF Daily - Monday 10/4

Yo' Bs! :ranger

Does anyone feel like they are STLL catching up with the business of life after drinking? >>

Greenie, I sometimes feel like I've barely started! All the sadness and anxiety and difficult relationships were just sitting there waiting along with the happiness, sense of purpose and calm. Glad I'm not the only one {{{{{{Rebirth, Uni, Lav, Greenie}}}}}!

Lav, good for you for controlling the only thing you can control: your own feelings and actions. If Yeti Breath is choosing misery, there's nothing you can do but not go down with him. I ended a marriage to a chronically depressed man after 14 years of failed rescue attempts. It was the hardest thing I've ever done--my kids were pretty young at the time--and also the best. Everyone's situation is different, but new directions in life can be just as good. Or even better. It's amazing how not-boyfriends and girlfriends can suddenly appear on the horizon, particularly when you're not looking (right, Marshy? )

Would love lobstah in Bah Hahbah with you, P3! But there's no way I can skip out on work and kid shlepping before our vacation to Mexico (wooot!) at the end of the month. I did something very radical though--took the day OFF today, just to take care of myself (Note the endless post!).

Will be practicing gratitude even for the ability to feel like crap today. Feeling anything is so much better than feeling numb.

Big ol' wet kisses all around,

Pride

[LVT25]

AF Daily - Monday 10/4

Hello friends,

Just a quick check in for me to give some :l:h:l:h love and hugs to all needing them at this time! Uni and Rebirth, I hope your moods lift soon. Everyone deserves to be happy more often than sad.

Lav--I highly recommend the Co-Dependent No More book for you and if we've already discussed that I apologize! I bring this up because I got a new book of Melody Beattie's called "The Language of Letting Go." It is a book of daily meditations for co-dependents. Sometimes I don't like the label, because there are a lot of us out there, maybe we are normal and everyone else is weird, but I also think we get this way from living with people that have problems. Part of yesterday's reading went like this: "Surrender to the pain. Then learn to surrender to the good. It's there and more is on the way." I feel for you, I know the feeling of hope and then disappointment. It sounds like you are handling things well though.

Cindi--my heart goes out to you as well. I'm so sorry you had the relapse and bad withdrawals. I hope and pray the rehab helps to give you the life you deserve!

With my busy week last week, and being gone for the Race for the Cure over the weekend, I am feeling overwhelmed and dis organized. The place was a mess, I didn't get a chance to clean out the car I'd been living out of for a week, so all that stuff got tossed in a pile. Hubby's aunt and uncle were going to make an appearance, so he and the boys "cleaned up" the house and now I'm missing some important papers (again). I have got to take a little time and re-organize! I do appreciate the fact that he will do these things, but always feel a little guilty that he has to. (THat is the co-dependent in me) Kind of feel for the boys though--he had to resort to hollering and cussing to get them to help. I'm glad things went ok here when I'm gone, I always worry a little that he will drink too much and then not be able to go to their aid if they need him. #1 son did put his car in the ditch Saturday, but it was early in the day, so he was sober enough to take care of it.

Ok, I really better get busy.

Have a good sober week everyone. Oh, and DG--can you share some of your Kale recipes with me? I have a garden full of that stuff! :h

[greeneyes]

AF Daily - Monday 10/4

P3

Takd deep breath, extend one arm out in front of you, palm up. Using palm of open opposing hand, smack extended armmoving from shoulder to wrist repeatedly for 5 seconds. Deep breath. Repeat with other arm. Deep breath. Should clear sinuses.

[Cinders]

AF Daily - Monday 10/4

Greenie,

Yes, I am taking good care. Vitamins, lemon water, healthy foods. (Okay, no healthy foods :H:H) Thank you. You are a blessing for me. :l

Uni,

You are very likely dealing with the loss of the "pink cloud." It is to be expected. Talk to your therapist about it. I am sure he/she will know what that means. It is the next stage of sobriety. Your mood will lift soon and knowing what it is will help. Many hugs to you, too. :l

Rebirth,

I responded to your posts on the AA thread. I understand your sadness. Relationships, even those that are destructive, are hard to let go of. Take care of yourself. That is all I can advise. :l

Lav,

I am thinking of you and what you are going through. See above. Take care of yourself. :l

Pap3,

What a sweet and thoughtful sister. You are blessed. :-)

Det, LVT, and all to come, I hope you have a happy and sober day.

Love,
Cindi

[Pamina]

AF Daily - Monday 10/4

Evening all,

Uni, Rebirth and Cindi, hope you're all feeling better by now.

Lav, thanks for your post the other day. The one about looking after your own health by not giving in to anger. I've thought of it often today when catching myself feeling irritable, with work, with my housemates... I know my mood is PMS related but I want to snap out of this general annoyance SOON.

Starty's experience does put things into perspective. Reminds me of when my mum passed away after 3 days of unconsciousness. Time just stood absolutely still.

Time to look up events on mindfulness, methinks.

Sweet dreams.

[Gaia]

AF Daily - Monday 10/4

Yo Babes!

Cindi how are you? I hope you are doing ok and working on a new plan. Scary about the wd's.

Rebith and Uni - hugs to you. Feel better. Keep telling yourself that you are what you think. I also hope your mood has lifted.

Hi everyone else I"m just running.

[Doggygirl]

AF Daily - Monday 10/4

Hi Fabbies! Greenie, thanks for kicking things off today and also thanks for the heads up about Starty's Mom. Special :l to Starty.

Greenie, I gave some thought to your excellent question before posting here today. I don't really feel like I have any lingering business, although it's always possible something might come creeping up. The Steps of AA guided me through a "clearing of the wreckage of my past" and a "cleanup of my side of the street." Took a lot of blind faith to take those steps, but I have to say upon reflection that I don't feel like I'm "catching up with the business of life." Or it's possible I did not understand how you meant that. Have fun with your overnight guests!!! Hope it's not a ball and chain.

Uni, I hope this is just a normal dip in mood rather than full blown depression (of the clinical sort). Good that you are seeing your counselor soon. Hope that will clear it up one way or the other.

rebirth, I hope your relationship stuff gets sorted soon. :l You are a beautiful child of the Universe and do NOT deserve abusive treatment, ever.

Lav, you deserve a beautiful life. I hope YB sees the light but if not...your ship will sail to fabulous places whether he is on board or not.

P3, I hope you are enjoying your work from home day. I think there are several really good companies out there for a home based part time thing. Lots of tax advantages too, and that would be especially good if you can tie that into stuff you are already doing. (i.e. if I went to a dog event, I would surely be talking to some women about skin care so....business trip.) Yep. Perfectly legal when documented properly. My Curves membership and Weight Watchers fees are tax deductible too. (within the parameters given me by my CPA). Skin care / makeup is probably not the right product set to focus on since it isn't stuff of personal interest to you. What about something like Pampered Chef? The Pampered Chef people I know speak very highy of that company. (a good strong company is important to me) Another company I would personally consider would be Premiere Designs in the jewelry segment. If you go for something like that, just really do your homework first to fully understand the investment and potential return - realistically. Mary Kay works well for me because I love the products, and I'm out and about in places where I run across a lot of women. My 2 cents! And I'll throw in a sandwich!

Cindi, just a repeat, but it's good to have you back. I agree with M3 over on the AA thread that it's time for your sobriety to be first for your family (aka husband) too - in addition to you. Your salary for your road job will stop pretty abruptly if you die.

LVT, I know that feeling of being ultra disorganized!!!! I hope you had a fun and rewarding experience at your Race for the Cure weekend. Kale? Let's see. I have two whole recipes in my Kale Repertoire:

1. Put washed kale in a microwave safe dish with some butter, salt, and pepper, and just a wee bit of water. Cover. Nuke until the kale is a mere fraction of it's former size in a little wilted pile. Eat.

2. Follow instructions for #1 up until the part where you are about to put the lid on it. Hold on that lid. Add some garlic. NOW put the lid on and nuke as instructed in #1. Eat the garlicky wilted pile.

(deter, did I do OK with that???)

Pride, I want to go with you to Mexico. That is all.

Hi Pamina. Not giving in to anger. Our Lav truly is an inspiring example of that. Myself, I have not perfected the technique as of yet. It's getting better though. Serenity prayer, serenity prayer, serenity prayer.

I am listening to Infidel as a book on tape. I've never listened to a book on tape before. I feel like I miss stuff while I'm driving around. But on the other hand, I'm almost half way done in less than a week and these days, with limited time it takes me forever to finish a book in print. What an interesting book it is. Anyone read it?

Time to get ready for my Mary Kay appointment. I'm grateful to be sober today.

One thing is for sure...

DG

[bear73]

AF Daily - Monday 10/4

hey all - sending positive thoughts from the UK to everyone needing them, cinders,uni,rebirth.
:l:l:l
I've still got this cold but it's easing - spent nice evening at spa as a month treat.
I swam (for 15minutes), lounged, ate yum food, steamed, saunad and jacuzzid. Lovely!

Then after relaxing - a 20 minute drive round finding nowhere to park within 10 minute walk of my house so ended up on a double yellow - positive vibes please for no ticket tomorrow for me please!

Not much to report really, work has been busy, am feeling Christmassy and snuggly.
I am a festive freak!

[Determinator]

AF Daily - Monday 10/4

Happy un-hung Monday ABeroooos!

Cindi, please check in when you can, always great to have you and my heart goes out to you dear. So glad you found a new facility, hope you learn lots and bring back some cool thoughts and knowledge to share.

amazingly...it's still rainy here in the desert. so weird, and wonderful.

be well friends