October Optimism - Week 2

[paguy]

October Optimism - Week 2

cyntree;978110 wrote: I saw a bumper sticker that made me think that you should have it as a quote for one of your blankets: "Horn broken, Watch for finger".

:H:H Too funny. I think someone should start a thread named 'The Funniest Bumper Sticker".... I've seen some doozies...

[Chillgirl]

October Optimism - Week 2

Good morning guys
LBH - I'm stunned by your news! I can feel your hurt and a shock and I pray whatever the situation is that it gets resolved asap. You say it's the 1st rough patch in 13 years of marriage, surely that must count for a lot? Please don't make any rash decisions, is it really as bad that you would consider divorce? I'm sending you so much love and strength and I pray you stay well away from the devils poison.

Talking of which, I could have done with some last night for Dutch courage on my date. I was so nervous! I thought it went really well and that we got along, he picked me up and took me to a very nice restaurant then we went to our local on the way home. He dropped me back about 1.30am but never kissed me or asked to see me again :upset: I guess I read it wrong....

Wishing you all a peaceful Sunday guys it's 10.10.10 today

[Rusty]

October Optimism - Week 2

Good Morning Friends,

I have a layover in Dublin so I thought I'd pop in.

LBH-I hope LordBH will own up to what he's done today and will set things right.

Lav-great news on the new business prospects!

Chill-glad the date went well.

I'm exhausted here guys...it's 3:40 a.m. at home and I slept only an hour on the plane. I'm anxious to get to Paris.

Will post more later!

[Chillgirl]

October Optimism - Week 2

Oh Rusty how I wish you had a lay over here! I have a lovely guest room where you could get some sleep and I would make you coffee and bagels for breakfast :l

[Stargazerlily]

October Optimism - Week 2

Good morning to all.

LBH, sorry to hear your trust was shattered, sadly we are all human and capable of poor judgement and bad choices. Totally agree with you that drinking would just make everything more unbearable and anxious. Working outside is calming and soothing, soaking in the honest energy of nature. Will be thinking of you and sending you positive energy, peace and strength.

I too had a rather unsettled day, with family members who are just never happy, and really irritable. I try to please them and end up failing, as of course they cannot be pleased. I need to let go, not feel responsible for others' moods. Right now I live in a world of all men, and I just need some females to bond with. I am going to meet my daughter today in a female bonding ritual (baby shower) and so will get my emotional needs met somewhat. LBH, I too knew that if I drank last night I would be so sorry, so instead, overate. I know, not good, but remaining AF is the gift I am giving me.

PA, being housebound and laid up is so hard, you are getting through each day and will soon be free again. Thinking of you.

Lav, great you made money and networked.

Chill, you just never know, (regarding the date) and after all he is an accountant, maybe he is cautious and wants time to mull over and consider. How nice to have been taken out for a lovely meal and pleasant time. I really love the phrase, "devil's poison," how true. Can you imagine how different your date would have been had you drank? You have done so amazingly well this entire year, and experienced life so differently.

Rusty, thanks for checking in and letting us know where you are. Take care of yourself and try and have a little fun.

My goal for the week, in addition to AF, is to eat healthy and focus on portion control. I also want to start exercising a bit in the morning. Start out with 15 minutes and work my way up to half an hour a day. I have really not exercised for months, the first time in my life. The changes in my home have just made it a day to day struggle. But, we all have challenges and I can really feel the changes, all negative, from not exercising. So, this morning, as it is Sunday, I will start off with a walk as soon as the sun rises. Then stretching tonight. ODAT.

[dill]

October Optimism - Week 2

Walk In Dry Places

Putting our trust in people.
Trust
How much should we trust other people? This is an important question, because many of us have erred in both directions: we've trusted people too much or not enough.
We can find our answer in the spiritual side of the program. We do have a Higher Power in whom we can have absolute trust. We can have little doubt that the spiritual presence behind everything is infallible and supreme.
As human beings, we know that we can only be trusted in certain ways. We can work to develop our trustworthiness, but it is never high enough, even with the strongest souls. All of us have weaknesses that can keep us from being what we know to be our best.
In our 12 Step living, we should work to develop trust in both ourselves and others, but not be hurt or disappointed when things go wrong. Above all, our real trust should be in our Higher Power.
I'll work today to be trusting and trustworthy, but I'll not expect too much of anybody, including myself. - Recovery Readings

As you can see, the topic of honesty and trustworthiness was addressed today in the Recovery Readings. It seemed ironicly good timing and the reading serves as good food for thought. Sending you strength and peaceful thoughts, LBH.

Rusty, I hope you can send us a picture from Paris!!! Take care of yourself on your travels and keep vigilant.

Star, your self-care goals are excellent. I have been working on more self care, especially stress releases. For me that has included walking, especially at mid day for 10-15 minutes, and the Body Scan meditation (30 minutes). I have been noticing an up-tick in my desire for sugar, but haven't directly addressed it yet. In fact, I bought a bag of chocolate almond crunch candy from a woman in Amish Country and can't seem to keep out of it!

Chill, he may just be a very cautious fellow. Don't don't be too quick to count things out. Wait and see.

Cyn, I join G. in liking the bumper sticker slogan you posted. I wonder if I can get bumper sticker paper to fit in my printer. Would you mind if I used it?

Lav, I'd love to see that picture of hens you bought yesterday. If you have time to snap a picture of it and post it, that would be great.

Peaceful, AF Sunday, one and all!

[Lavande]

October Optimism - Week 2

GM everyone- yawn!

Trying to come back to life here. I think this old bird has been pushing herself a bit too hard lately...........oh well, it won't kill me.

Cyn, honestly some things (feelings, thoughts) just NEED to be stitched out, ha ha! You wouldn't believe some of the requests I've had over the years

G - sell your CDs on eBay! That way we can all buy them & you'll get your music out all over the world!!
I sell lots on ebay & have shipped many items to your homeland & all through Europe

Chill, you date sounded rather nice I think - perfect that you didn't feel pressured into getting too close too soon!

Ah Rusty, sorry I'm not with you! Hope Paris is fabulous!

Star, I have absolutely & totally given up trying to please lots of family members over the years. They just suck all the energy out of you & leave you feeling drained & confused. Screw them!! I am hoping for some female bonding time with my daughter tomorrow.

Dill, the topic of trust crtainly is a huge one!
I firmly believe I trusted & hoped way, way too much all my life. Now I'm learning my spiritual lesson!
BTW, Mr Lv has only one week left to make his decision.............you'd think he'd give me a damn hint!!!!!!

OK, time to go wake up the chicks!
Have a great AF day everyone!
LBH, thinking of you with love.

Lav

[paguy]

October Optimism - Week 2

Good Morning Folks:

Wake up Lav- or, maybe not. If you?ve been pushing yourself too hard lately, take the day off and have an ?all about Lav? day!

It?s another gorgeous fall morning here and my spirits are much better than yesterday. What a difference a day makes. I did get outside and relaxed in the sun for about an hour yesterday afternoon and I think that was the remedy I needed.

Yesterday we had our hot water tank replaced. Now, the furnace and kitchen oven need to be serviced. It?s amazing ? our house is 9 years old this month and all of a sudden 3 of our appliances have gone haywire all at once. Sort of like once one light bulb goes out, it seems like you have to replace at least 2 or 3 at the same time. Has anyone else ever noticed that?

TRUST ? what an interesting topic. I have to admit that at the onset of new friendships and relationships, I tend to be very trusting. However, once someone betrays my trust, there is no redemption. Especially in my work relationships ? if someone burns me more than once ? shame on me! In my opinion, especially in work situations, behavior patterns are very revealing of someone?s true motivations. And, unfortunately, I have learned the hard way that there really are bad people in this world.

Rusty ? I hope you have a great time in Paris. My sister lived in Paris for 3 years and I had an opportunity to visit her while she lived there. Although I loved studying the French language in high school and college, that was my only experience visiting France. When I was there, I was so determined to try to practice my French speaking skills, I couldn?t understand why my sister broke out into hysterics when I attempted to purchase a train ticket. When the attendant looked at me with a blank stare, my sister told me that in an attempt to purchase a train ticket, I ordered a duck! :H:H I spent the rest of my visit reveling in the sites and absorbing the culture rather than attempting to develop my French speaking skills!

Since our kitchen oven is on the blink, it looks like I?ll be making our Sunday pot roast in the crock pot today. Need to hobble on downstairs right now to get things going!

Hope you all have a great AF Sunday?.

[Chillgirl]

October Optimism - Week 2

Afternoon check in from me guys

Star - I love the positive goals you have for this week, whenever we feel this motivation we have to grab it while it feels right.

Mr G - Did you ever have any luck with itunes? I would love to buy your music! Ebay is another good option.

Dill - Great reading today! I need that reminder to trust my higher power.

Lav - Mr L astounds me! Do you think he doesnt realize you mean business?

Ok I jumped the gun in thinking Mr McDreamy wasnt interested, we have exchanged a few texts today and looks like another date for next weekend. We are both out of practice in the dating scene and Im very happy to take it at a slow pace. Playing over in my head our 5 hours of chatting last night, i like him even more. He is very honest, straight forward & open. Incredibly clever and has a wonderful sense of homour. :h

[Guitarista]

October Optimism - Week 2

Hi folk's,

Chilli and Lav, wow, thank's for the motivation and e-bay idea, not to mention you'd even part with your hardearned money for a simple man's music! Never considered e-bay for selling music, and will try once i've got some artwork to put up with the song's, which i-tunes require Chilli, which i don't have organised as yet, hence why my stuff isn't on i-tunes yet. Maybe by the end of the year.

Thank's Dill for that reading. Trust is something i do my best to give to someone straight up, to a large degree. I think we have to be prepared to take the leap? Unless our gut feeling is saying otherwise, then i listen to that.

A safe, sober, and magical day and week ahead to all.

[Chillgirl]

October Optimism - Week 2

Guitarista;978444 wrote: Hi folk's,

Chilli and Lav, wow, thank's for the motivation and e-bay idea, not to mention you'd even part with your hardearned money for a simple man's music! Never considered e-bay for selling music, and will try once i've got some artwork to put up with the song's, which i-tunes require Chilli, which i don't have organised as yet, hence why my stuff isn't on i-tunes yet. Maybe by the end of the year.

ok I want your cd available before the 1st of Jan.....

[Guitarista]

October Optimism - Week 2

Chillgirl;978445 wrote: ok I want your cd available before the 1st of Jan.....

:H I'll try! Though now i'm gonna really have to get off my backside! Thank's Chilli.

[Rusty]

October Optimism - Week 2

Bon Jour Mes Amis!

I have arrived in Pacy Sur Eure (northeast of Paris) to a glorious day of 75 degree weather and not a cloud in the sky. I am just learning how to use my new IPhone so I will try and take pictures. I will rely on the technical expertise of Dill to assist me in loading any photos I take into Photobucket so you guys can get an idea of where I'm staying. It's a quaint little village and I am staying in a 2-star B&B. Oh well....it's right across the street from a wonderful gym which I will use tomorrow night.

Paguy-I howled when I read that you ordered a duck in French! I can so appreciate how you feel. I started taking French when I was in 3rd grade and kept up with it in high school and college and when you don't use it, you lose it. I have not been diligent at all in practicing it because I've been working a lot of hours and the last thing I feel like doing after putting in a 12-hour work day is studying French! John, I bet that sun felt good....it always makes me feel good to be outside on a nice day, especially when I'm feeling blue.

Dill-thank you for posting the Recovery Reading on trust today. Yes, I have been too trusting in the past and I am haunted by it....especially since someone told me 20 years ago that I was too trusting and it took me another 10 years to finally learn my lesson.

LBH-thinking of you today and hoping LordBH will start practicing honesty....maybe this crisis will be the catalyst for a more honest relationship with you.

Lav-can't wait to see pics of the growing chicks!

Chill-that's great that you and McDreamy are going out on a second date. I've had a lot of first dates lately ;-) Remember what I said...if it turns into McSteamy, then I turn into McNaughty and I want to see da pictures (LOL)

G-I want to buy one of your CDs! And I want life-size photos, too. Can we put make t-shirts with them? Lav can add some embroidery and just imagine the money you'll make.

Hello to everyone I haven't mentioned....Star, Shelley, RB, Rustop, Sooty, Papmom, Cyn, Bear, SD....have a great AF Sunday!

[ladybirdheart]

October Optimism - Week 2

John and Rusty, on my first trip to Paris at age eighteen I enthusiastically mixed up the words for "fish" and "poison" and cheerfully asked in a salon to have my "horses" cut off. When someone said "quelle salade" he was talking about my brain. Thank you everybody for your sweet words of support and caring. I have sort of lost my voice both in the real and virtual worlds so I am just checking in. Even though I am by nature not a spiritual person, the quote about trust and what to do with it will help me today be more realistic about what I can and can?t control. May we each be well from whatever ails us and if we are just fine, then coast and enjoy. Eat right, exercise, feel love, be kind, Ladybird.

[sdlovespackers]

October Optimism - Week 2

WoW!
It hardly seems like I've been away from here and I already missed so much!! And if I don't take notes I get all mixed up on who said what!:H I'm still trying to keep everyone straight! Chill--I'm glad your date went well...I was wondering if when you first posted if maybe he wasn't nervous...it sounded like he must have had a good time...he stayed out until 1:30...I know when I've been miserable on a date, I've excused myself to the bathroom, told my mom to call me in 10 minutes and tell me I needed to come get my son, that he was sick and crying for me!!:H I'm rotten I know...but boy, I've gotten to the age I'm not going to sit around and "play nice" if it isn't working for me!! LOL!!!
Rusty--PARIS!?!? How lucky are you!!!?? I would love to visit Paris!! I went to Spain a few years ago and that was amazing....but that's the only overseas traveling I've done! I'd LOVE to see pictures!!!
Dill-I also enjoyed your quote this morning...trust is one thing I really have a hard time with!! I think both with others and myself...I hope by now I've grown up but I've made some pretty big mistakes in the past and sometimes worry (or don't trust) that I wouldn't do them again if given the chance...I'd certainly hope not...but I always wonder "if"....I think with that for me, goes along with forgiveness though...a whole different topic
OPPS!!! I'll have to check back in later...my timer for my banana bread just buzzed!! Everyone have a wonderful day!!!! Poor Twins!!! But on a happy note we have a FULL DAY OF FOOTBALL and BRETT FAVRE tomorrow night!!! YIPPEEE!!!!
SD:l