October Optimism - Week 2

[spedteach]

October Optimism - Week 2

Morning everyone,
Final running group this morning, followed by a potluck brunch. Scones, strudel, muffins. Tried to do portion control but kept going back for more. Wonderful friendships have come out of the months we've been running together. Everyone doing a marathon or a half next weekend.
Son #3 goes back to LA today. I'm in the process of moving all my house plants back inside before the first frost. Have given about a third of them away. Feel like downsizing, minimizing.

Dill, I have to say after 15 years in AA I learned the only way for me to stay sober was to have trust in myself. And that was not the AA party line. For me nothing external or outside of myself like a HP was going to get or keep me sober. It has all been up to me.
But whatever works...

Pay, sorry but had to chuckle just a little about your household. Your house is only 9 years old. Mine is 60 years old. Living in this house is just a waiting game, waiting to see what will need to be replaced next. I've had cars like that. Good luck.

Lav, I'm with you, girl on these non-talking men. My husband and I had long drive home from a friend's wedding last night. I tried several times to bring up my leaving this week and how I am viewing it as a separation. He still regards it as me going to Indiana to visit our son. He can't see (refuses to see) that we have a serious marital rift. Hair pulling time. Have you called a lawyer?

Cyn, loved "The Pursuit of Happiness".

Star, how far did you walk? I expect you to be out there every glorious fall day! Good plan for the week.

Chill, I love your expression "the devil's poison", spoken in a terribly creepy voice.

Rusty, photos from Paris s'il vous plait. Merci!

LBH, your news broke my heart. Hope things can be mended and forgiven.

Rustop, applause for you, staying on top of things

Happy Sunday, G.

[spedteach]

October Optimism - Week 2

Cross post, SD what a sports nut you are!

[Lavande]

October Optimism - Week 2

Week 4 Chick pics & the 'chicken portrait' I purchased yesterday at the craft fair

Chicks Week 4 pictures by elkmills - Photobucket

[Rusty]

October Optimism - Week 2

Lav-Love the chick pics and the wall hanging, too! So Mr. L has just one week left to make up his mind...what next for you, then?:l

SD-I am a Packers' fan as I was born and raised in Wisconsin and still live there. Brett Favre has really been ticking me off lately as I saw the photos of the pinup girl he was sexting...and the lewd photos of his, urm, organ, that he e-mailed her. And I always thought he had so much class. Not anymore.

Shelley-I am with you on the non-talking men situation. This has happened to me in my last 2 relationships, and then they wonder why we're so frustrated with them? So sorry your husband isn't listening.

[dill]

October Optimism - Week 2

As human beings, we know that we can only be trusted in certain ways. We can work to develop our trustworthiness, but it is never high enough, even with the strongest souls. All of us have weaknesses that can keep us from being what we know to be our best.


we should work to develop trust in both ourselves and others,

Sped, I am not in AA and I have trouble with the whole Higher Power concept. I say whatever works and to each his own! The above portions of the reading were what spoke to me. The reminder of our human capacity to disappoint, in spite of our efforts to be our best. I'm not trying to push a party line. I felt hesitant to post that reading because it might seem that I was.

Lav, great chick picks! I love the portrait, too. Thanks.

[Rusty]

October Optimism - Week 2

Dill,

I love this quote, but this is my favorite part: we should work to develop trust in both ourselves and others. When my drinking was at its worst...I didn't trust myself, and I let myself down many times. Now I know that as long as I don't drink, I am a trustworthy person and I can feel confident that I won't disappoint myself one more time. It's still a battle, though. Despite taking my Baclofen, I was haunted with cravings Friday morning and I don't have a clue why....I had to keep myself busy every minute to keep my mind off it. The beast is never far away and that's one of the reasons I love your daily readings!:l

[cyntree]

October Optimism - Week 2

Chill - so glad to hear the news about your date - sounds like a swell guy, respectful and cautious. Thanks also for the magical date reminder 10-10-10. Seems extra magical for you since your start date was 01-01-10....

Red- good for you for exercising! I'm sure I wouldn't do my walks except for my sweet beasts that will not do without them. You deserve an extra nice 'something or other' for yourself - you really have made it all happen for your family. Rusty - so good to hear from you, even on the road. Take care, and hope the work goes well.

Mr G - you may be a 'simple man', but your music is real and complex in the best way. I also encourage you to get things on itunes, that would be great - January 1, remember? PA - I think that your kitchen is missing you....houses are sensitive to energy -- I keep talking to my house, telling it that though we may be leaving at some point, there will be a wonderful new energy coming in -- I swear it 'hears' me. The armed forces wives that I know say that things start to break down as soon as their husbands go on deployment....

Rustop - you are right, I should live in Ireland. I've been there just once - for my 50th birthday, and it was a glorious trip. Sooty - I forget, are you in Cornwall or Wales? Either way, some more of my favorite territory.

LBH - thank you for letting us know you are there and OK. Sending you support. Sped - travel safely, and take good care of your heart.

RE: language, I'm sure I've said some outrageous things in French, but my all-time goof was in Colombia, singing with an orchestra...I tried to joke that the piece required 'big lungs'; turns out I said 'big breasts', (which is not an area where I'm well-endowed). I knew I was in trouble when everyone buried their heads in their music, trying desperately not not to guffaw.

Here's wishing all a wonderful new week, with trust in our best selves.

[Rusty]

October Optimism - Week 2

Bonjour Cher Amis,

Cyn-great to see you! I loved your story about the big breasts!:H

Star-You wanted your horses cut off? Hahahaahh!!!!

Chill-I am a day late....Cyn, thanks for the reminder! Chilli, congratulations on 9 months AF!:wd::yay::happy:

Rustop-maybe I'm partial to the Irish beause I'm Irish, but this was my first experience flying Aer Lingus. The flight attendants were resplendent in their beautiful green uniforms...they look so elegant and classy, and they were sooo nice! And the service people at the Dublin Airport were incredibly kind and helpful....I said to them, "You are obviously not from Chicago." How would you like to come and work at O'Hare Airport? They need you there!"

This WILL be a quick post this morning....I have a lot of work today before my day with my client. Hope the practicing I did on my French last night is reflected in my work today!

Everyone, have a great AF Monday!

[Rusty]

October Optimism - Week 2

Bonjour Cher Amis,

Cyn-great to see you! I loved your story about the big breasts!:H

LBH-you wanted your horses cut off? :H

Chill-I am a day late....Cyn, thanks for the reminder! Chill, Congratulations on 9 months AF!:wd::yay::happy:

Rustop-maybe I'm partial to the Irish beause I'm Irish, but this was my first experience flying Aer Lingus. The flight attendants were resplendent in their beautiful green uniforms...they look so elegant and classy, and they were sooo nice! And the service people at the Dublin Airport were incredibly kind and helpful....I said to them, "You are obviously not from Chicago." How would you like to come and work at O'Hare Airport? They need you there!"

This WILL be a quick post this morning....I have a lot of work today before my day with my client. Hope the practicing I did on my French last night is reflected in my work today!

Everyone, have a great AF Monday!

[Rusty]

October Optimism - Week 2

CHILLGIRL IS 9 MONTHS AF!!!inkele:inkele:inkele:inkele:inkele:

[Guitarista]

October Optimism - Week 2

Congratulation's on 9 months af Chilli!

Keep it going! x

[sooty]

October Optimism - Week 2

Happy Monday everyone, sorry I've been absent, nothing to worry about just busy and then laptop in demand by everyone else in the house!

LBH so sorry to read your bad news, I do hope you manage to resolve things very soon :l

Chill congrats on 9 months - very well done.

I'm out for a walk today with Mr S - weather is glorious and only predicted to last until tomorrow then its going to get cold and nasty.

Have a good start to the week - see you all later
Sooty

[Chillgirl]

October Optimism - Week 2

Good Morning Gang!

Cyn - funny that you mention houses being sensitive to energy, when I 1st split from my husband and was in an emotional mess everthing around me broke down within 24 hours! The dishwasher, the toaster & the hairdryer, I had a burst pipe under the sink and a week later a gas leak!!! I have been very careful during my recent troubles to keep more balanced and I keep thanking my home for being here.

Lav - the chicks are fairly growing! I really hope you get a answer for Mr Lav and at least at indepth conversation with him about how to move forward.

Rusty - Im in awe of you doing business all over the world!

Thank you all so much for your kind wishes regarding my 9 months AF, I love to celebrate these dates inside me but as the year approaches I feel very focused on that and almost nervous that i will screw up.

We live in a very close community here and every one knows one another so my date obviously knows my ex and his girlfriend. He told me he had chatted to her recently and their relationship was going very badly and she was thinking of going back to Holland (she's Dutch). As you know I still love him dearly and this was huge news to me but mulling it over I realize I really dont want him back.

Then last night I had a dream that I was in a plane which was crashing (these are regular for me, but I always survive!) my ex was a few rows behind me, we were both in isle seats but on opposite sides so I could see him. He fainted as the plane plummeted and I was trying desperately to reach him to get him upright in his seat. This has left me unsettled this morning as I see it as a sign that I still want to save him.

We have had much rain all weekend and my tv and internet keep going down, the sun is back today and a long dog walk beckons.

[Stargazerlily]

October Optimism - Week 2

I'm still trying to wake up. Why is it that I always feel I can sleep in on Monday morning? Yesterday I was up really early, when I could sleep in!

Chill, congrats on your 9 months AF. Another date to look forward to, what fun. Your dream was interesting and your interpretation of wanting to take care of and possibly rescue your ex. Lots to think about.

Rusty, sounds like you are making the most of your travels and work. Thanks for keeping us informed.

Sped, some men just don't communicate, leaving it up to their women. So unfair, and when you have had it, you've had it.

Dill, I liked the part about trusting yourself. I realize that when it comes to alcohol, I don't trust myself, yet. It has been a slow process for me, very scary and discouraging. Working on trusting myself this week.

Cyn, I took a lovely half hour walk after the sun rose. It was misty and lovely out. I live by a small lake and a creek, and loved seeing the ducks and swans out in the early morning, just taking their time, enjoying their beautful universe.

LBH, thanks for checking in. We are here if you need us.

Lav, Guitarista, Sooty, SD, and to all, have a great AF day.

[dill]

October Optimism - Week 2

Hi Sooty, I've been missing you! Glad you posted.
Chill, your dream was interesting. I agree that a huge part of you wants to 'save' your ex. It's been my experience in watching human relationships that the ones based on saving or changing one or the other members of the couple are usually either doomed to failure (break up) or misery (living together but dissatisfied and deeply unhappy). Big congrats on your 9 months!!
Cyn, I would have died of embarrassment if I had made the error you did!:H How did you come to know the meaning? Did you have to go home and look up the word, or did a friend gently enlighten you?
Bonjour cher Rusty. I feel like I'm traveling the world, following along inside your laptop.
Star, I do not trust myself in regards to alcohol. I have proven time and time again that I cannot be trusted. It will take a very long time to be able to trust myself. I hope to get to that point.
Enjoy the day, Optimizers.