November Nuturing - Week 1

[cyntree]

November Nuturing - Week 1

Evening, nurturers! I can't believe how much has happened since I logged on early on the 31st!! I celebrate you all -

I am seriously looking forward to embracing the November nurturing theme -- I am just starting a little late. Yesterday - 7 a.m. to 1 a.m. (this morning) push to finish the house for showing. Was ready for the 9:30 Realtor open house, and had a showing this evening - another one tomorrow. Feedback is really good - now I need to Let It Go....is this sounding familiar? And about Perfectionism - naw, not me........UUUUUGH I have worn myself to a frazzle over this....OK, OK, live and learn and Let It Go.

I regret that I am too spent to thank you each for your individual gems of the past few days, but I've taken notes, so I won't forget.

Must congrat the anniversaries, though:
SD - a huge well done for your October, especially in the midst of such challenges. You are such a delight on the thread - so glad you're 'on' for November. Chill, poster girl, congrats on your 10 months. I remember that I started with you on January 1, and then was lured off the path a few months later. And for what? Now with my AF September and October solidly strengthening me, I feel confident and happy going into this new month. What a relief.

PA - what a timely passage you posted. I feel that something is calling me to a different level in my work, and that it has something to do with organic ways of seeking order...great food for thought...thanks.

Mr. G - what a brilliant sequence you described: 'recognise it, acknowledge it, let it be'. I might have to have Lav put that on a blanket for me. (Lav - good to hear you sounding better).

Sorry not to address everybody - more soon, I promise - you have all affected me so much, many thanks -

[Chillgirl]

November Nuturing - Week 1

Good morning guys

Lav - it's lovely to hear how proud you are of your Son, squeezing into his little house for thanksgiving sounds just wonderful, will Mr L be there?

Paguy - I hadn't heard of the Michael Mears book but I love the analogy of the funeral. I did a similar mental exercise last year.

It was at the end of Nov 2009 I finally woke up, after a horrendous 3 day binge I was in agony after another alcohol induced fall, I thought I'd damaged my ribs, yet again, my depression was rock bottom as was my self loathing and I was suffering from frequent anxiety episodes. I wanted out of this never ending spiral downwards. When I managed to get my head around actually attempting to quit I immediately felt liberated, I decided not to quit in Dec with so many social events going on but instead to use this time to say "goodbye" and thats exactly what I did. Every time I raised a glass I mentally said farewell to AL, he had been my best friend for so many years and it felt like I was loosing a limb. Like all divorces the process is painful even when the relationship has been nothing but destructive and a grieving process is necessary. By the end of Dec I had said goodbye so many times I couldn't wait for that final burial ceremony!

I was exhausted yesterday, had a long meeting with my new boss and was trying to take in info about investment trusts and tax funds which just hurt my brain, not to mention the computer skills I'm going to need! I'm absolutely terrified of this job but how I managed to get it is such a Godsend, I have to somehow make it work. He says the company will send me on a training course hopefully before the end of the year. I start work next tuesday! Mr Libra has been a fantastic help trying to explain certain things to me in laymans terms, isn't it amazing how certain people just show up in your life when you need them?! I then had a lunch meeting with some women I really don't know other than to nod too but I was honored to have been asked along and it looks like I have made some lovely new friends.

It's only 5.50am here and I really should try to sleep a bit longer! I have been awake since 5am with an over active mind....

[Lavande]

November Nuturing - Week 1

GM friends & Happy Humpday!

Super chilly here at 25 degrees - frost glistening on everything!

Chill, to be sleepless over good news is OK

John, I actually did a little ceremony myself when I quit drinking......pouring the last of the wine down the drain & saying farewell forever. I needed to do that to 'cement my decision' in my mind - really helped too.

Cyn, I think self control is fine. Just remember to be kind to yourself at the same time
Hope you catch up on some sleep.

Papmom, I think I'm going to have to manifest some extra $$ into my life as well. I need to let go of the thought that I've done all the hard work & the plan at this point was to kick back a little, do some coasting. So much for plans.......they're subject to change without notice - apparently!

Greetings to LBH, Dill, SD, rebirth, Rustop, Rusty, Sooty our bus driver, the ever handsome G. Hope everyone enjoys a terrific AF Hump Day
I need to go manifest some extra $$!!

Lav

[spedteach]

November Nuturing - Week 1

Morning everyone,
In the 20's here this morning. Chance of snow on Friday. Look at NM's weather and see it will be 70 today and I am happy to be in the midwest. 70 degrees in November just seems off. Meeting new people is fairly easy here, Having a meaningful conversation is harder. I am not used to chit chat/small talk. It is interesting to be the new kid on the block.

SD, going back a couple of days. Definitely spread the word about MWO. It's high time the health care providers and public in general realize there are more options in recovery than 12 step programs. The friend I visited in Michigan went to her doctor for help with her alcoholism. She got put on an antidepressant and was told to go to AA 3 times a week. I hooked her up with MWO forums at least.

Rusty, what is mystery shopping?

Rebirth, how easy was it to drink 1 day and then get back on the wagon. Know in August once I drank I ended up drinking for 5 days straight before I quit again.

Chill, your new job sounds daunting. Investment trust and tax funds. Words like that strike terror in my heart (and brain). My son, the economist, like Mr. Libra is very good at explaining those kinds of things to me. I am wanting to become more informed about my own financial affairs before I return to NM.

Sooty, when I met with my new walking group on Monday, there was a young woman there from Wales. She's living here while her husband gets his PhD. Know anyone with a daughter in Indiana?

Cyn, how is the real estate market in your area? When I was in Michigan last weekend, there were an appalling number of homes on the market. Think many of them were 2nd homes of wealthy Chicagoans.

Rusty, any chance of your being near the Needle Nook??

I have been thinking about drinking a lot these days, guess you could call it craving. Too much time on my hands. It's very hard for me to say, just sit and read a book for 2 hours in the afternoon. For some reason it makes me feel guilty or like I'm wasting time. I think this is called feeling squirrelly.
My plan for today is to go out and visit some off Indiana's covered bridges. Know there are at least 2 nearby.

Lav, Dill, G, Rustop, LBH, Pap, John,have a good day

About the control issue, the serenity prayer always sums it up best for me, especially the part about the wisdom to know the difference between things we can change and things beyond our control.

[papmom3]

November Nuturing - Week 1

Hey All,
Just a quick check in from work.
Chill, just wanted to let you know that whatever I can do to help you with computer skills just let me know. If there is anything I can do online with you I'll be glad too. Also, Techie is a computer guru and I'm betting he would be pleased as punch to help you out. Sorry I can't help you with the tax and investment stuff!! I'm clueless with that type of thing! :nutso:

Sped-yep, squirrelly just about sums it up!! I've felt like that often since I've gone AF. You're just going to have to find ways to fill up your time while you're in IN. It's very hard for me too to just sit and read during the day. Feel WAY to guilty!! I'm sure you'll find something that gives you pleasure and makes you feel useful at the same time. Volunteer work maybe???

Cyn-I couldn't sell my house right now if my life depended on it, the market is soooo bad where I live. I'm so happy you're getting showings and seem to have an aggressive agent. Lots of good positive vibes being sent your way.

Lav-freezing here this morning too! Frost on the windshield!! Ahhhhhhrrrggghhh!! Not ready!! But it sure was pretty to see it on the local golf club greens. Hope the chickies survived!! Let us know if you're successful with finding ways to generate extra moola.

Ok, gotta go grab lunch while I can. Check back lata!!

[Chillgirl]

November Nuturing - Week 1

Papmom you are such a sweetheart! I may take you up on your offer and bounce a few things off you next week once I know whats involved.

[Lavande]

November Nuturing - Week 1

eBay Papmom, eBay!

I'm tearing through my stock shelves today. I have lots of 'sample polo shirts', etc. that need to go, I have no use for them. I'm putting up listings this afternoon. Nothing wrong with a cheap Christmas gift for someone, right? Everyone is looking for bargains & I'm looking for some cash to throw back into the biz.

The chicks are 8 weeks old now, hearty enough for the cold weather, I think. Well, so far so good anyway

Shelley, there is a covered bridge just 1/4 mile behind my house. It crosses a creek & drops you off in MD. They are several old covered bridges in this county. I think they were built back when Washington & his troops were hanging out in these parts Have fun exploring!!

Back to my eBay listings......

[sooty]

November Nuturing - Week 1

Hi, another quick one cos internet keeps crashing. I have complained but to no avail.
No Sped I don't know anyone from Wales currently over there with you ... ask her what part of wales and I'll make further enquiries. Hope her surname isn't Davies, Jones or Thomas!!!!

Happy Humpday everyone, sorry can't mention you all cos time is of the essence.

I will be back as soon as the gremlins in the sky allow!

Take care gang
love Sooty

[papmom3]

November Nuturing - Week 1

Lav, what's preventing me from becoming a seller is the fear of scammers. Any tips on avoiding or IDing them?

[Lavande]

November Nuturing - Week 1

Just sent you some details by PM Papmom.........
Get creative with ebay - you really can haul in some extra $$

Sooty - we need to get you a better internet connection. Our driver needs to be connected

Need to head to bed earlier than usual - have an early AM appointment to get bloodwork done - oh joy!

[paguy]

November Nuturing - Week 1

Good Evening Folks:

Hump day is coming to a close here so that means the weekend is quickly approaching and yes, we (most of us in the States) will gain 1 extra hour of sleep on Saturday - Yeah!

Lav - you are off to have blood work done tomorrow and I will be off to the dentist once again - Ugh. Just doing what I have been neglecting to do for so long. It's catch up time.

We went out to one of our local restaurants tonight for a quick dinner to find out that it was 'customer appreciation' night for their frequent diners. We go there at least once a week so they included us in the celebration. It was an open bar and all you can eat type deal. I was very proud of myself - was not even tempted to have a drink. I stuck to my iced tea. This really does seem to be getting easier as more time passes.

It's been an unusually quiet week at work now that I am back in the office. I am sure that won't last for long. There has to be some type of drama brewing somewhere.

Greetings to all of you and hope you are taking the time to nurture yourselves....

[Rusty]

November Nuturing - Week 1

Good Early Morning Friends,

I am in a rush this morning so my apologies for not addressing everyone individually.

PA-congratulations for sticking to ice tea at the dinner. That would have been tempting for me!

Lav-good luck with the bloodwork.

LBH-always a sweetie with your compliments about all of us. A little delusional about me, aren't you?:H

Sped-I am going to be leaving Indiana before noon and heading towards Chicago as I have to work there tomorrow. Sorry! Mystery shopping or secret shopping as it is also known....is where you go in as a secret buyer at a fast food restaurant, a store.. all retail stores, and you pose as a customer and you are evaluating the server/restaurant/store on their food, product (if it's clothes...let's say) and customer service. It is a very effective tool and the people don't even know when they're being mystery shopped because the mystery shopping firm doesn't tell them. It's fun and you get a free meal out of it, or like with car dealerships, you get free oil changes, etc. I enjoyed it. You get to work on your own, make $50 for about 15 minutes worth of work, and there's no stress. Mystery shopping is not limited to big cities....when I was a mystery shopper, I was in a lot of podunk little towns in Wisconsin. But who cares....you get mileage and a free meal, right?

I haven't heard from that guy who said he would give me more information. GRRR-will try him again and gently prompt him. If not, out comes the titanium frying pan.:durn:

Must run...more later on tonight. Busy day!

[rebirth]

November Nuturing - Week 1

Good morning people,
Been very busy this wek but just a quick messgae directed to Sped

Hi Sped - I always thought that once I slipped i wouldnt be able to stop ( I am an alcoholic) so it came as a surprise to me when I had no desire to continue drinking the next day. I wasnt happy about drinking that night but I didnt beat myself up about it either. It's something i had to do but i cant really explain why. I woke up the next day just thinking "No".

I knew that if I drank again the next day that it would be over for me and I love my sobriety way too much. I dont want to relive the hangovers, the blackouts and the general obsession on drinking. So thats what made me not drink the next day.

And I feel GREAT for it!!!! A lovely thursday to you all! x

[rebirth]

November Nuturing - Week 1

Hey Rusty. have a good day. x

[Rusty]

November Nuturing - Week 1

Hi Rebirth-

Cross post. Great that you're back on your AF feet and you sound so positive. My friend has been sober for 8 years and is a counselor at Hazelden, an AL and drug treatment center in the US, and she said everytime you have a slip, you learn something from it. You obviously did and good for you! She said most recovering alcoholics do have slips...and her approach is, "ok, what did you learn from this?"

Ok, out the door. Great to see you, RB! :-)