November Nuturing - Week 3

[Lavande]

November Nuturing - Week 3

GM friends!

Everyone is in a rush this morning, myself included. Have deadlines & an appointment this morning.

Will be back later - hope everyone has a terrific AF Friday!
Lav

[Chillgirl]

November Nuturing - Week 3

Hi Guys
I hope you are all having a fabulous friday so far....

SD - Im dying to know how it went yesterday, all good I hope

Star - Im sending your Son some positive Chill vibes, i seem to have lots to spare at the moment

Rusty - Thank you so much for sharing that story with us about you starting out, i hope you get home soon and enjoy a restful weekend

Lav - a brother for EB! The older I get the more sentimental I get about new life, I think I more realize the value of it and how precious it is.

Dill - I read the link about the bubbles in the galaxy, does your husband have any theories on what this could mean?

Papmom - I have an ipad and I absolutely LOVE it!

I am still feeling high on life and even woke up tentively this morning wondering if the mood had passed. November is proving to be a very poignant month for me, a girlfriend came over the other day who is one of the very few people who knew my situation. We were recalling last Nov when she pointed out to me that I had two black eyes after an evening out and how that was a regular occurence.

[spedteach]

November Nuturing - Week 3

Back with some time to spend before work. Subbing today for my very favorite librarian. She always leaves me the best lesson plans, wonderful children's books and fun activities.

Everyone is rushing about this morning. That's the beauty of getting up at 4, plenty of time.

Star, hoping things are working out for your son. Had a long talk yesterday with my 24 year old niece. She has just moved back home, no job, extremely bored. Such an unhappy girl. Seemed like every suggestion I made got shot down. Guess you just got to let them forge ahead and figure things out for themselves.

Lav, exciting that EB will have a brother. My sons who only about 20 months apart grew up to be extremely good friends. Think there's something special about a same sex sibling.

Rustop, when you mentioned the midwestern loop you were going to do, Chicago, St. Louis. That's the part of the country I consider home. How often do you come to the States? And a stone equals how many pounds?

LBH, you'd better watch out. I know where you live and if you keep broadcasting your menus you may just find me on your doorstep.

Cooking and drinking, that was a hard one to get over. I love to eat way too much to settle for a protein shake though.

Rebirth, good luck with your diet. My weight seems to fluctuate plus or minus 3 or 4 lbs. depending on when I weight myself, what I'm wearing. Don't think I have a very high quality scale either.

Chill, what a happy person and lucky person you are. How is the new job?

Rusty, have a fun weekend at home. Morning John, Pap, Dill.

Guess I'll go walk that little dog.

[sdlovespackers]

November Nuturing - Week 3

Hey ALL!!!!!!

My Orals went FANTASTIC yesterday!!!! I couldn't be happier and more exited to be done with this program (well once this class is done on the 13th)!!!!!! YEA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thanks for all your well wishes!!!! I couldn't believe how confident I was when I went in there!!!!! Not to mention clear headed!!! Just so you all know...haven't had a drop since I had those two glasses when I went into the cities...and that includes my "celebration dinner" with my parents last night!!!

Chill-You sound amazingly happy!!! That so awesome!!!! Such a positive person on this thread!!:l

Sped--I would think subbing in the library would be pretty enjoyable. It seems most all kids love to be read to at any age, I've found!!!

Lav--I was going to ask how often meteor showers occur...and if you can see them there, would I be able to see them as well...is that a dumb question???? Forgive me, my brain in mush right now!!:H

Rustop---speaking of hairdresser---I actually got myself an appt after school for a pedicure...my mom gave me her gift certificate from last xmas...she can't stand people messing with her feet....so....I clipped my toe nails last night :H in preparation and am going after school!!!! Figured I deserved it plus it's nuturing month right!!??

Star--I've had some pretty intense cravings lately...but it seems mostly when I forget my topa or gaba in the morning...duh!!!! What scares me is I kinda know I don't just want one glass of wine right now...I'd want that buzzed, relaxed feeling...and once I get there, there is no turning back and I know that. SO, right now...I can't have any!!!

Choochie--Good to see yo!!! You have been doing FABULOUS!!!!!! Keep it up!!!!

Rusty--won't it feel good to sleep in your own bed again??? Traveling if fun...but nothing beats your own bed!!!!

To everyone else...A BIG HELLO!!!!! LBH, RB, John, PAP3, G, DILL!!!!! I'll check back in later this weekend!!!!! Have a wonderful FRIDAY!!!!!!!!!!!
SD:l

[Chillgirl]

November Nuturing - Week 3

sdlovespackers;1007072 wrote:
My Orals went FANTASTIC yesterday!!!! I couldn't be happier and more exited to be done with this program (well once this class is done on the 13th)!!!!!! YEA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thanks for all your well wishes!!!! I couldn't believe how confident I was when I went in there!!!!! Not to mention clear headed!!! Just so you all know...haven't had a drop since I had those two glasses when I went into the cities...and that includes my "celebration dinner" with my parents last night!!!

:yougo::yougo::yougo: SD you are a star!!!

Sped - All went fine last week with the job, i've had this week off as my boss is in the UK, if it all works out the extra money is going to be a life saver.

I have had a wonderful day and im seeing a good friend tonight who is down from Lisbon for the weekend. She was given the day off today as Lisbon is at a complete standstill because of Obama's visit.

[Lavande]

November Nuturing - Week 3

Oh yeah,

I heard on the car radio our President is visiting Portugal today........thought of you right away Chill
Glad that good mood is still with you!

SD, CONGRATS! Knew you would do well, Yay!!!

Shelley, I'm having a hard time picturing EB as the big brother but I'm sure he'll do a good job
I used to volunteer in the library when my kids were in elementary school - fun place

Here's a few pics of the kids playing outside:

Chicks Week 10 pictures by elkmills - Photobucket

They're getting so big!!

Hope the rest of the day is good for everyone!
I probably won't be posting until later in the day tomorrow. Have to be up & out early.......taking EB, his parents & my goofy spouse on 'A Day out With Thomas" train ride in honor of EB's upcoming 2nd birthday

[Guitarista]

November Nuturing - Week 3

Hiya folk's,

Just a quick check in. All's well here.

Congratulation's SD! You are a star! I wouldn't stop if i had 'just the one' drink either. So for me, now i understand this, it's all a lot less complicated. The consequences are obvious to me, so i just don't drink right now, or maybe ever, and you know what? Life is so much better for me this way. I'm having a lot of fun, and it's a far wilder, more facinating, and somehow more relaxed ride, than a life of grog ever was. Oh, and the people you meet!

Those chick's sure are big Lav. Thank's for the pic's.

Beautiful and a sunny 24 C here. Have a great weekend everyone!

[spedteach]

November Nuturing - Week 3

Sorry, this is going to be all about me, but feel in a terrible place right now.
Good day at work. Rushed out of there so I could walk that little dog I am caring for. After the walk I sat in their kitchen and thought, what's different. The wine rack was empty...then I started checking about, the shelf in the pantry where the hard stuff is usually kept was empty. They took out all of the alcohol. Guess this is a trust issue, does it ever get any better. I have drunk once in 15 months. These are people I have known for years, our kids grew up together, even dated each other. I'm having a really hard time with this.
Help guys, this feels so creepy, like I'm a criminal or something. Actually I am not a dog person and it makes me mad at their dog! Just kidding, Pap.
Am supposed to spend the night there tonight and of course I will. But Thanksgiving next week somehow it seems I can't do it. What should I say, thanks so much for removing the al from your house, it really helped me stay sober. This is the most I've wanted to drink since August.
Yuk,yuk.

congrats, sd, sorry I forgot you this AM.

[rebirth]

November Nuturing - Week 3

Just quickly checking in.
Sped I can imagine how you feel because i would feel the same way if my friends did that to me. But please please try not to drink on it. I think your friends were trying to help you out by not leaving any temptation around for you but the approach was very insensitive.

Please give yourself some time to simmer down. x

[Lavande]

November Nuturing - Week 3

Shelley,

Please try to remember that some people are just totally clumsy & do things in not so helpful ways. Back in May my daughter-in-law had a miscarriage. It was a sad event but I almost flipped when she told me that someone emailed her and said: 'Sorry your baby died'!!!!! Some people are just not big thinkers & have poor people skills. When your neighbor returns, confront her quietly & inform her that she didn't need to hide the booze, that's ridiculous, you're not a child!

Use a little Lavan-ittude :H
Just take care of yourself & don't worry about anyone else :l

[spedteach]

November Nuturing - Week 3

Lav and Rebirth, thanks. Guess people sometimes just can't see the other side. Lav, I don't think I can bring it up and go to Thanksgiving there. I wonder how out of control do they think I am. Do they think I will grab every thing in sight and slug it down.
And no worries about my drinking over this. Now am just sad about what I thought was a good relationship.

[Lavande]

November Nuturing - Week 3

Sometimes I'm afraid we really don't know people as well as we think we do............
Who knows what they were thinking? Remember, it doesn't really matter anyway. What you think is the only thing that matters, right?

I wish you were here for Thanksgiving. I'd take you with me & squeeze you into my son's little house that will be filled with too many people & 2 overgrown Goldens (The Insanity Twins) , EB & all his toys :H:H
All that craziness would take your mind right off of things

[Chillgirl]

November Nuturing - Week 3

Hi Guys
Late check in from me but just wanted to say Sped, i know you dont see it this way but your friends probably thought they were doing you a massive favor. I dont see it as an issue of trust that they think you would drink, could it not be that they wanted you to feel comfortable and did this out of kindness? Maybe they think you dont have AL in your own home and wanted you to feel at home there.

[Rusty]

November Nuturing - Week 3

Hey Shelley-

I hear ya!:l I would be royally pissed, too!:b&d: But like Rebirth said, they were probably just trying to be supportive and remove temptation. I don't know your drinking history, but maybe they knew you in the days when your drinking was out of control and when you were at you worst? In their minds, they knew you had struggled in the past, and they were truly trying to be the best friends they could be by trying to support your sobriety in an albeit misguided way. If they had left all their booze out in the open, and you had had a relapse, imagine how horrible they would have felt. They never would have forgiven themselves because they DO love you. My other thought was that they talked to your husband about your slip earlier this year, and then they felt compelled to remove all the booze. I would consider asking them.

I agree with Nurse/Psychologist Lav.... I would quietly confront your friend and ask her why she felt compelled to take all the booze out of the house, and how it made you feel. You felt like you were being punished, like a child...being put on Double Secret Probation (think of the movie Animal House:H ).

When my drinking for 30 years aunt finally was sober and stayed with my mom for a week, my mom hid all the booze and told the rest of my family not to drink around her, and all it did was make my favorite aunt feel badly and the rest of the family feel uncomfortable....as they were tredding on egshells. I knew it wouldn't help my aunt if suddenly, the rest of my family changed their routines to support her, but, my worry was correct...my aunt told me she just wanted to find a bottle to jump into like a fiend.

Like you, I don't like feeling like an outcast because I HAD a drinking problem and I am around people who still drink. When my mother tells me she doesn't want to have more than one drink around me because she's afraid I'll just drive home and dive into a bottle of vodka or wine, it totally hurts my feelings...makes me feel more anxious and is a HUGE trigger to drink....just like you wanted to!! Yet she doesn't have a problem when she and I are at my sister's house and she has 3 glasses of wine...then she doesn't feel badly. WTF..go figure.

Just one thought that popped into my mind....are you still taking the Antaubse? I know it doesn't take away the urge....I'm just inquiring.

All I can tell you is, that my family just wanted to see me in control of my actions, reliable, on time for family events, etc. I had to prove to them thay I could be trusted. Maybe these are signs your friends are looking for, my dear Marathon Friend. My friends distanced themselves from me until I could be reliable and not act like a goof again, in their eyes. My problem with alcohol was short-lived, compared to a lot of people. After bullying my friends and family into telling me the truth, they noticed it for about 2 years...enough to do enough damage that I had to prove myself all over again, but it was worth it.:l

You can do this...and you will find your way out! I have all the confidence you. Feel free to PM me if you need to, or want to !:l

[Lavande]

November Nuturing - Week 3

Double Secret Probation :H
Good one Rusty!

I agree - we are all adults & deserve to be treated as such! Nothing pisses me off more than being dismissed or controlled like a clueless child. Just ask YB :H

Maybe we should collaborate together on an etiquette book........how to behave around a newly sober person & not make them feel like idiots!

Just a thought