AF Daily - Thursday November 18

[Choochie]

AF Daily - Thursday November 18

Hi Everyone -

Wow, there's so much "content" here - not sure what to respond to. One thing I find interesting, though, is this concept of not praising someone for their progress on getting sober. That doesn't sound right to me either, Greenie. But, as Gaia says, it might be a difference in interpretation by the person who told that to her husband? Anyway, positive reinforcement from my husband has not made me want to celebrate by drinking. Quite the opposite - it has made me feel good because I can see that he likes the sober me better than the struggling, testy, tired, hungover drinking buddy. Well, Gaia, I'm giving you a huge pat on the back for your 6 months - and this is coming from someone who can really appreciate the hard work it took to get there. Big major hugs from me!:l

Greenie, I'll be interested to know if you go to the little "gala" and how you liked it. I'm finding it difficult to be around drinking people - not because I'm tempted so much as just bored. But, maybe the other stuff there will be interesting.

Am searching my armoir for my party undies - haven't worn them for quite a while but will ready them for Friday's celebration!

AA, don't know you but thanks for talking about your success - great to read about others doing well!!

BB, sounds like you were wearing yourself out and that pulling back is a very good idea IMHO.

Pride, LVT, Uni and everyone else who visits today - hope you have a super AF day.

Choochie

[Brigitte Bardot]

AF Daily - Thursday November 18

LVT, I agree..you really have to be committed. I know when my head and my heart wasn't really in it, it really was just empty words and empty promises. And that's not saying the person is still not going to have a relapse, but you know the difference and so do they. I hope that was typed out the way I meant it...?? I've been on the fence for a long time, not any longer.

Uni, have a great day shopping and enjoy the fresh air..and who cares what the weather is like, enjoy it anyway.

Choochie, I think that's fabulous you really have a great support system at home! I bet that really makes all the difference for you, and I'm like you in that way as well. It takes hard work and dedication to work at this everyday and I like to hear something positive every now and then.

Do we need a Friday theme song? Just wondering..lol.

[Accountable for Me]

AF Daily - Thursday November 18

Good morning!

A quicky for me. Although I was up at 4:30am, I am running late. Must hop into the shower!!!! The lazy arse I am!

It is freaking cold here!! Brrrrrrrrr.... but no rain. Chances of snow! Oh goodie!

Have a good day everyone!!

[choppersmom]

AF Daily - Thursday November 18

Good Morning Abbers! Quick check-in, again, for me today. I'm off to the dentist very soon, and I'm not looking forward to it.

Choochie & Lav, from your posts yesterday, I completely agree that quitting cigarettes is way harder than AL. I'm determined though and today is day 4 NF! I've got the mindset to do it this time, and there is no stopping me now.

To all others, I'm sorry I can't address you all individually. I'll try and log back in later to get to that! I wish you all a happy, sober Thursday!

Off to the dentist I go. Make it a good one!

[Pride before Fall]

AF Daily - Thursday November 18

Chop, congrats on Day 4! I also found cig cravings worse than AL ones. Lav & Chooch, after 2 years, I finally stopped thinking about them. Now the smell of cigarette smoke actually makes me sick. Never would've believed that would happen.

DG, have you ever done WW core plan? Ever since reaching 10%, I've blown the plan almost daily. I think I'm tamping down job resentment (and not with much success).

AFM, no using the "s" word (snow). Save me some hot water.

xoxo Pride

[Lavande]

AF Daily - Thursday November 18

Hey kids!

Quick hello before EB arrives. Thursday is my long day with him. By 9:30 tonight I'll be half dead

I haven't looked for any praise from anyone - don't want it. I'm happy to just finally be doing what I should have been doing all along!

I'll try to stop back Later.
Wishing everyone a great AF Thursday!
Lav

[Accountable for Me]

AF Daily - Thursday November 18

Pride before Fall;1006326 wrote:
AFM, no using the "s" word (snow). Save me some hot water.

:H Little one saw snow flakes when I was warming up my car this morning. You should have seen her eyes!! BIG and all EXCITED! She demanded she wear her toque, scarf and her snow mittens. Way too damn hilarious! It was 1 degree Celsius, though! So, ya, brrrr.... it is pissing with rain now. Snow predicted for Friday. My poor car needs new shoes! Must take car in for winter tires!

Hot water is abundant in my place! New hot water tank that seemingly never ends! So all the hot water you would like! Fill your booties!

[universal]

AF Daily - Thursday November 18

Hi guys,

Had a decent day - went and got a pedicure and went to Costco for some items - got a couple of x'mas gifts.

Going to go veg and watch a bit of tv now before I have to go get the little one and get dinner started. Then tonight it's my meeting and off to bed!

Glad everyone is having a great day!

Oh yeah, it's tighty whiteys in this house for the BF and I HATE them!!! LOL

[peacenik]

AF Daily - Thursday November 18

hi everyone,

i'm not too sure about this underwear thing, but i'm in trouble if they are required...i can't stand to wear the things!

i can never keep track of everyone's posts here!
i got an ultrasound today (liver looked normal!), but my enzymes were elevated slightly. doesn't explain the pain or other "problem", but i am feeling more at ease about it all...will go back monday for allt he results and consult with my extremely cute f.p doc.

well, i'm off to clean and walk my dogs.

no drinks for me today! yay!

peace

[momof3]

AF Daily - Thursday November 18

Hello All,

Checking in to say hello. It's been a busy, busy week with lots of meetings and the kids have been getting home earlier because of parent/teacher conferences.

Thanks to all of you who have been asking how things are going on this end. We are in week 6 with no kitchen. And, we have gotten into a routine of not having one! This translates to lots of take out (e.g., chinese food and Subway) and going out to the local Greek restauraunt. We will eat out for Thanksgiving too.

BB, I enjoy reading your descriptions about your day and your home. It feels very cozy and warm when you talking about the foods you make and the decorations you are putting up for the holidays. When I lived in the Northeast of the US, we used to put our lights up at this time of year and leave them up all winter. It was a nice way to put some light into a long and dark winter. Oh, and I can relate to the overcompensating/guilt thing. I think it was very much connected to the shame I felt about being an alkie. I don't feel that way anymore.

Gaia, Yep haircut for DH. I don't know if you read my posts from last week, but he sounds deserving of a line up with Lav,s LVT's and my husband for a good swift kick in the arse. Greenie, Haircut before or after? Seriously, you are such a smart and caring women. That comes across so clearly in your posts. You are deserving of respect.

A big hello to AA. So great to hear from you. I have missed your wisdom. Hope all is going well for you, your wife and your son.

Peacenik, I'm happy to hear that you got some good news about your liver. It is quite remarkable to me that the liver has such an incredible capability to regenerate. It is a good thing!

Universal, You are really racking up the AF days. How are you feeling?

AFM, I chuckled when I read about your little girl and her reaction to the snowflakes. It is those little joys that we can savor when we are AF. There was once a time when I was so hung over each morning that I could barely attend to getting my children out the door in the morning.

Pride, I have always found it quite hard to follow any type of diet in the Winter. My body just wants to eat and sleep. I guess it's the hibernation thing.

Choppersmom, Keep racking up the days and keep coming back.

Same with you Choochie.

Where is DG? I would like to follow her around one day as she zooms here and there. What I would really like is a Mary Kay makeover.

Hi Greenie, How is the mojo? Are you still walking around in flip flops?

M3

[Doggygirl]

AF Daily - Thursday November 18

momof3;1006571 wrote: What I would really like is a Mary Kay makeover.

M3!!! You said the Magic Words!!! The keys to The Kingdom are YOURS!!

Pride, I never did the WW core plan. I'm fairly new to weight watchers. And watching my weight go up at the moment. The sugar monster is trying to kill me. Have you got any preview info on the "new plan" (or modifications or whatever they are calling it) that is coming out later this month?

AA - AWESOME to see you.

Gaia, I suspect there might be an issue with interpretation. I can't say for sure. Just sounds to me like maybe there is some selective hearing going on. Witholding praise/support to the point it's hurtful to you sounds passive/aggressive mean to me. I too vote haircut.

BTC, sorry to read that you drank. Time for a plan modification. I hope you share with us what you plan to do differently this time.

Hello to all other fabbies.

Heard a very interesting speaker this morning at the Chamber breakfast. A local guy who served in the Navy "back when" was called back to active duty post 911. He most recently served in Afghanistan in charge of detainees. (he's a lawyer) Of course he is careful in his presentation to stick with unclassifed stuff. It was still very interesting to hear a first hand account of life and circumstances there. When asked if he thinks Bin Ladin is still alive, he said, "it doesn't matter, because to his followers he is still alive and giving the instruction to kill Americans." I guess there are some detainees that deny everything, but MANY who readily admit to placing IED's or whatever to kill Americans, and they readily say that if they are released they will do it again. I guess the opiate problem over there is just mushrooming. There is such poverty that the farmers are more than willing to grow poppies for 3X or 4X what they can get for growing food crops like wheat. There is just no industrial economy there at all. He showed a picture of a pick up truck piled high with bags of heroin. I guess there were originally two trucks loaded like that. They would stop until one of the trucks was "neurtalized." The street value of the heroin in the remaining truck was over $3,000,000. There is a long uphill climb to ever imagine this country as safe, and with an economy based on legal activities that can sustain the population. He also had his own snapshots of the Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders from that visit. :yougo:

Work at the Mission this afternoon was challenging. A young woman with a horribly bad attitude. That was a long two hours. I was reminded of my later drinking years when NOTHING made me happy. NOTHING was satisfactory. I saw no way out of my endless loop of drinking, hangovers and misery. I don't think this woman has substance abuse problems, but I feel bad for her with such a negative outlook on everything from the color of the towels to her belief that the Director of the program is a liar. :egad: I suspect she won't be there very long unless a miracle happens.

I really want to read around and catch up and personally say hi to everyone. But I need to get busy and go get packed for Soberfest. I'm going to my usual leads group in the morning at 8, then going straight from there to pick up my friend and off we go to Lake Geneva!

Greenie, I'm so sorry that I won't be here for your 29th birthday. I know it will be FABULOUS. :crowned::bday3::bday7::alloutofsmilies:

One thing is for sure...

DG

[breaking_the_cycle]

AF Daily - Thursday November 18

Good evening my dear friends! How you all doing?

[breaking_the_cycle]

AF Daily - Thursday November 18

Doggygirl;1006627 wrote:


BTC, sorry to read that you drank. Time for a plan modification. I hope you share with us what you plan to do differently this time.

It's a good thing. I no longer have any illusions that alcohol is even pleasant or fun.

[Doggygirl]

AF Daily - Thursday November 18

That's good. As Greenie mentioned, be prepared for that thinking (the AL voice) to return. Because it will. Part of the cunning, baffling and powerful part of alcohol addiction is how much we can loath it and still desire it all at the same time.

The most important thing is to stay sober today.

DG

[momof3]

AF Daily - Thursday November 18

DG...Soberfest? Lake Geneva? I missed this. Do tell...