November Nurturing - Week 4

[sdlovespackers]

November Nurturing - Week 4

Hi all!
Sped-I'm the same way...thinking about people on here during my day when I hear or see things...just like you are all my "regular" friends! Proabably even more so actually...you more about me than most people I do know!!:H

Dill--good to hear from you!! Do you gus have school tomorrow? We do all day!!!! The kids get out early but we are here all day. Hopefully we won't be stuck in meetings all day and I can get some stuff done!!

Sooty--I'm not sure what you mean by cold?? It was like -10 degrees F here this morning!!! BRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!!! YUCK!!!!!!!! Not liking it!!

Lav--rain??? See Sooty's post above..:H LOL!!!

Chill---PLEASE forgive me...I think I must have missed something along the way somewhere...did you say husband in your last post?? Are you guys seperated or do you have an open marriage...please know in no way do I ask with any judgement...just curious? And again, I apologize if I seem to forward in asking. :h

I think I've decided with the help and wonderful advice of many of you, that I need to do what is best fo r my sonand I and tell my dad that we will not be joining them for Xmas..it's just not a positive place for me to be. Not to mention way to stressful and that's not what the holidays are suppose to be about...this decision feels right...as hard as it still is to make...I'm VERY use to doing what people want me to do! When I get up enough courage to send the email I'll let you all know what I hear back!

I better get busy! I'll catch up with you all later...sorry to not address everyone....thinking of you all though!!! Biggest Loser Make-overs tonight!!! Yippee!!!!
SD

[bear73]

November Nurturing - Week 4

hey everyone just popping in to say hi - and a special congratulations to Raven!
That's great - inspiring

[Guitarista]

November Nurturing - Week 4

Chillgirl;1009250 wrote: Good Morning Everyone!

Rav isnt it wonderful that you "got it" Im so grateful that something in my head finally triggered after so many years of lying to myself. I look around at others who are still in the miserable clutches of AL and wonder why I got it and they havent yet.

Paguy - I love your story about your dog being flaked out on the bed, they are such funny characters...

Sped - I dont know what cheesy chilli cornbread is but it sounds delicious!

Star - Our expert flyer is Rusty. I didnt know of any increased restrictions, maybe its just in the US. I hope you feel better soon, i know what you mean about feeling down, I think its natural when we feel sick and incapacitated. The thing about a cold is that we know its nothing serious but its so hugely debilitating. I find the best way it not to fight it and be extra nice to yourself.

Rustop - 18 months without a cold is fantastic! What do you put it down to?

I have a very close friend who lives in Libya, her husband is in very high up in the oil business and they mix in the international diplomatic and embassy circles. She knows of my finacial situation and is trying to strongly persuade me to go and live with them in Libya! Dog and all, they live in a huge compound for international residents. It is a part of the world I would love to visit but living there is something very different. It is wonderful however to know the option is there should I ever need it.

My husband mentioned to me yesterday that he is meeting with his lawyer this week to discuss ways of avoiding me being responsible for his debts as apparently there are some big ones coming his way. He told me he has some kind of bond in place for my home which will safeguard it for the next 12 months. There is so much to take in and once I know what he has in mind I will have my businessman friend in London look over it all before I sign anything. I was quite touched he is thinking this way and it breaks my heart to see him so broken.

Its my best friends birthday today and I have a lunch planned for her with some of our girlfriends. No wine of course for me im sure they will drink my quota.......

Hi all,

Yep Chilli, it is cool your husband is thinking this way. He sounds like a good bloke. I really hope he find's a way out of all this. I know that there is alway's a way out of these sort's of situation's, maybe not so much financially, but in the way that it never has to be the end of our world.

To those who are struggling, ramp it up, get back in the game, and keep yer eye on the prize!

(lol @ SD's 'open marriage' query)

[sooty]

November Nurturing - Week 4

ok SD you win! Its going to be 28F with us apparently that's -2C. I can't imagine how cold -10F could be. Are you on the Russian Tundra?

Going to watch some dvds and eat popcorn with my daughter now - have a good day everyone. Night night sleep tight

love Sooty

[Chillgirl]

November Nurturing - Week 4

SD - :H open marriage!
I'm sorry I realize you weren't around when I have explained my situ before, we have been apart for 7yrs but never divorced. I was happy to allow him to take care of our investments and I received an income from his business. Sadly earlier this year he more or less lost everything in this recession and our investments are now worthless. Anyway I still love him dearly but he is with someone else and has been for 5 years now. I worry about him so much as he is drowning his sorrows in AL and has had a drink issue for many years which is only getting worse. That's a quick summary. (sorry to the rest of you who have heard all this before)

Mr G I know exactly what you mean, my husband is deep down the best guy I have ever met but he has sadly lost his way and sight of what is important in life. He has always measured success financially and I'm hoping out of all this he discovers what greater gifts life has to offer...

[Stargazerlily]

November Nurturing - Week 4

I had to leave work as I feel so lousy. Just stuffy, chills, achy, dizzy, etc., and it is too hard to interact in the work environment like this. So, what better activity then lurking on MWO?

Chill, what a lovely post. I always feel that alot of marriage is about luck. I mean, we all change over time, and if we don't go in the same direction, it just doesn't work out. It is a testimony to your sweet and loving nature how generous you are in your view of the demise of your marriage. I hope things work out for you. I agree with Lav as to feeling cautious about Libya. But hopefully you will have at least a year before you have to make any major decisions.

Sped, it seems to me that the more I clean my house, the dirtier it looks to me. I start to notice that this and that need cleaning, too. Saturday, my good friend came over and she assured me my house was very clean. So, yes, I do know what you mean. My mother was the cleanest person, our house was always pretty spotless. I could never live up to that standard. I just feel good when my house is spick and span.

SD, -10, that is cold. Too cold. Do what is right for you at the holidays. You have been under tons of stress for several months and it is priority that you nuture yourself. Being AF means setting boundaries for ourself and others. It is OK to say No if that is what is in your heart.

Will try and check in later, see ya.

[Rusty]

November Nurturing - Week 4

Good Early Morning Friends,

I'm in a bit of a rush today and my apologies for not addressing everyone individually.

Raven-Congratulations on 1 Year AF:goodjob: That is amazing and I'm sure your wife is glad you're AF. Your relationship with her must be on a whole new, magical level.

Shelley-I think you and your sister should do something on your own for Thanksgiving-maybe go to a nice restaurant or plan a long run/bike ride....something off the beaten path. No pun intended. I don't blame you for feeling betrayed by your friend and I would just call her and tell her how you feel, calmly, of course. If you seem TOO upset, it will raise a red flag and then she'll suspect you're being defensive because you're in denial (this is based on my experience of meeting some devout AA people over the years....including between 1991-1994....when I didn't even drink). It's her loss....she is losing a really good friend. I will PM you a little later today.

Star-I hope you're feeling better. To answer your question, having a cold doesn't depress me, but it makes me feel so rundown, and the worst part for me is when I'm at work, interviewing people and my nose starts to suddenly run. :upset: It's happened to me a few times. To answer your question about airline travel.....I've been pat down before....it's always a woman who does it. The pat downs and the increased screening (going through a second security booth) depend on the airline/airport.

SD-I agree with everyone here. You do what's best for you and your son at Christmas. You did mention in a previous post that your dad as an AL problem, and his behavior is so typical then....he blames everyone else but himself for his actions. How sad!

Chill-Libya? Ummm.....I would really think about that....especially since you seem like a blythe spirit who is very openminded. You might find the Libyan culture to be very chauvenistic and uncomfortable.

Hello Mr. G. Please note that I've ceased flirting with you. I have been very subdued and well-behaved lately. Ugh....it feels like I'm wearing a pair of pants that are wayyy too tight!

Bear-thanks for dropping in. Is there any particular reason that you stopped by-we love having you here.

A chirpy hello to Lav, Dill, Ladybird, Sooty, Rustop, Papmom, Cyn, and anyone I have missed-have a wonderful AF Wednesday!

[rustop61]

November Nurturing - Week 4

People are like stained glass windows: they sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but
when the darkness sets in their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light within.
--Elizabeth Kubler-Ross

Good morning everyone

Lots of lights within in this thread and I think we have had a great month nurturing our inner lights.

Star - Hope you are soon feeling better. Lots of TLC and extra vitamin c.

Chill - You were asking why I have not got a cold in so long. I put a lot of it down to the exercise. My friend feels the same, she is the same as me and rarely gets a cold since she started walking every day. I have also been taking my supplements much more diligently the past year and I am sure that helps.

Another busy day and the girls are finished school early again!!! Very frosty this morning but the woods were beautiful, especially the colours and there is a huge waterful in the middle of it.

Welcome Bear and big hello to everyone else. Dont have time to address everyone individually but hope you all have a great hump day.

Rustop

[dill]

November Nurturing - Week 4

Good morning Nurturers!
SD, No, no school for me today. Thank goodness! I have a lot of catching up to do after my whirl wind weekend with my brother and his family.
Chill, you asked why my brother went AF. He definitely had a serious problem with al and needed to stop. He did it on his own. I asked him once how he managed it and he smiled and said "I played a lot of bingo with Aunt Janet!" I guess he substituted a bingo hall for a bar room!:H
Star, I don't plan on flying until the craziness stops with all the new security measures. It's madness!
Thinking of you all, Rusty, Rustop, Lav, Sped, Cyn, LBH, Papmom, PA, G, bear, Raven, Sooty, and all dear lurkers!

[Lavande]

November Nurturing - Week 4

GM friends!

Happy Humpday to Ms Sooty & everyone!

I slept well last night, guess I needed that. I had a bit of a meltdown on the Daily Thread yesterday which some of you may have seen. I've been battling some overwhelming emotional stuff related to the upcoming holidays & my personal situation. Hurt vs. Anger..........still not sure where I am on that topic.

I'm not even turning my machines on for the next couple of days. I'm going to plant myself in the kitchen today & do some prep work for tomorrow's dinner. That's my plan

Dill, enjoy your day off. Star, I hope you feel better soon. My cold (or whatever it was) took it's good old time going away but I'm OK now.

Greetings to Rusty, Rustop, Papmom, Chill & everyone who drops in today!
Have a great AF day

Lav

[Rusty]

November Nurturing - Week 4

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, PAPMOM!:bday3::bday7: You are such a positive person, AF, healthy, and unselfish. You are a very cherished member of this thread, and I hope you have a fantastic birthday!!

Lav,:l I saw you venting on the Daily Thread....you have every right to be royally p-o'd and hurt. Just know that you are loved here. :h You can sound off to us anytime and we will be there to listen. It sounds like Mr. Lav is incapable of loving anyone because of the damage his mother caused. It's so sad that he couldn't let that go. I'm sure it has nothing to do with you. The media and Hallmark Cards put so much pressure on the holidays as a time for families to be together and enjoy a peaceful meal....as a family. Well, we all know it's not like that, but between the media and Hallmark, the expectations for families to love one another and be together during the holidays is so unrealistic. My two closest friends come from dysfunctional families and they would like nothing better than to skip Thanksgiving and Christmas altogether and do something totally unconventional, but they can't because of my their boorish, hateful mothers-in-law and their relatives. The suicide rate in the US is the highest between Christmas and New Year's, because the holidays stir up so many painful memories for a lot of people.

Enjoy your Thanksgiving, Lav, as much as you can despite YB's presence. We love ya!:h

Paguy-What are you and Mr. Partner doing for Thanksgiving? Are you cooking? If so, what time shall I present my bobblehead at your doorstep?:H

[Stargazerlily]

November Nurturing - Week 4

Morning to all. I decided to stay home today, still all achy and not up to snuff. Finally, a whole day alone in my own house. It is a real treat. The plan is to rest all morning, then go to the store to get some cold medicine, then rest some more. Later, some baking. I need to rest so badly, and today I will.

It is cold here, in the 30s, and feels very like the holidays to me. I am looking forward to Thanksgiving, eating good ole family recipes and just hanging out. I am so thankful for so many things: health, family, home, job, pets, food, and of course being AF.

Lav, so good you vented, I read your posts and say vent away. I cannot imagine the strong emotions you are going through.

Rustop, beautiful description of nature on your walks......

Rusty, what is new with you? I forgot your plans for tomorrow.

Dill, your brother filled his time with new activities, just like we are trying to do. Enjoy your day.

[Choochie]

November Nurturing - Week 4

Hi Everyone - just stopping by to share a little humor - couldn't we all use it during the holidays!!

[Rusty]

November Nurturing - Week 4

Choochie!

I love it!:H Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family!

[sooty]

November Nurturing - Week 4

Choochie, that's fab thanks for making me smile.

Happy humpday everyone, sorry I'm late logging on - internet iffy again - I'm sure its the weather!

Chill I see general strike on the cards for Portugal and student riots here today, methinks things are going to get much tougher for us all.

I think I'm going to bed early with my hot water bottle and library book tonight. Its going to be cold ... well cold for us anyway

See you all tomorrow folks
love Sooty