November Nurturing - Week 4

[Chillgirl]

November Nurturing - Week 4

:yougo: :yougo: Our RAV is 1 YEAR AF! :yougo: :yougo:

So proud of you Rav, you are a wonderful example of the pure joy of sobriety and to see you embracing life the way you do is an true inspiration......:l

[Lavande]

November Nurturing - Week 4

:yay::wd: WOW, CONGRATS ON YOUR 1 YEAR AF RAVEN!!!!!
Very happy to be a part of your journey
Keep up the great work!

[Stargazerlily]

November Nurturing - Week 4

Congrats Raven on being AF for a whole year. Great job.

Chill, sounds like a great day.

Sped, difficult situatiion, what do you want to do?

I am feeling sick and just want to rest. Good night all.

[paguy]

November Nurturing - Week 4

Good Evening Folks:

Rav - Sorry I don't know you - I am John (Paguy). I've been hanging around here since July. Awesome job on your 1 year AF anniversary - Congratulations!

SD - Your dog sounds like a little terror :H They can be so darn mischievous, can't they? And what is it about them having to shake everything that they put in their mouths that they aren't supposed to have? I think they know it is their job to make the biggest mess - LOL!

On Saturday, we had a dinner party for my partner's birthday and our dog got so much attention it exhausted him. I was cleaning up in the kitchen at 11pm wondering where the dog was (he is usually at my side licking the plates as I stack them in the dishwasher) but he was nowhere to be found. I took a walk upstairs and there he was in the master bedroom, sprawled out in the middle of the bed curled up sound asleep. He had enough - It was bedtime! I just love the little fellow :h

Sped - I will be with my company 18 years in January. My plan is to 'retire' in March 2012 - at that point I'll have 20 years (if I make it). At that point, I hope to do some contracting/consulting for a couple of years. Very tired of the responsibility and stress that comes with my position and the BS that gets pushed down from our leadership. Similar to my dog who needed some rest after a busy day - I have had enough.

Chill - Sounds like you are finding a nice balance with McDreamy. I'm really happy for you!

Start ? Get some rest and hope you are feeling better.

I finished reading my latest novel over the weekend, ?The Secret Scripture? ? check out my review: https://www.mywayout.org/community/f4...rry-46317.html

It?s amazing how much I am enjoying reading once again. I have read more books in the last 2 months than I have read in the past 5 years. Yet another benefit of my sobriety for which I am thankful.

Well, friends, that?s all for now?. Hope you all have a pleasant week?

[papmom3]

November Nurturing - Week 4

Raven.joy!! Great achievement!!

John-you've got to hang in there for 2 more years (not even!!). It will be so worth it don't you think? If you leave now it's all down the drain isn't it? I do know how difficult it can be. Some days I have all I can do to keep from walking out. I'm definitely a 9 to 5er now-my outside/personal life is so much more important to me than this job but I do what I have to to keep it. Hang in there!!

Star-feel better girl!

Sped-yes, what do you want to do?

SD-what would happen if you said you were not going to spend christmas with the family? Sounds like it will be soooo stressful!!

Sooty-we'll take care of ourselves for ya!!

Chill-I agree. Your relationship with McLibra has really taken an interesting and very zen like turn. Very chill girl!! Have fun!

John-I've been reading a lot lately too. Unfortunately it seems like recently I can only read a page before I fall asleep. It takes forever to finish a book now!!

Speaking of sleep-i need to hit the hay. Busy day today! Hugs to anyone else I missed.

[spedteach]

November Nurturing - Week 4

You guys, it's so funny to spend the day alone but constantly have a dialog of you all going on in my head. Do you know what I mean? Lav would think this, John would love to eat this, Pap would love this kitty antic. Rust would enjoy this quote. I appreciate you all so much.
My sister comes tomorrow. Our plans were to do Thanksgiving dinner at my friend's. Guess Im waiting for my sister to get here but have already decided that I do not want to spend Thanksgiving at their place.
The whole removing the al incident has made me so uncomfortable. I feel like I drank and made a scene, embarrassed, guilty when I did nothing wrong. Awful feelings. Also feeling quite betrayed by my friend. Chill, they only live about a mile from me. My sister's place is 2 hours north, into the mountains.
Think it's time for mindless TV.
My made up soup today: okra, blackeyed peas, spinach, tomatoes, sweet potatoes and wild and crazy spices. Will serve it to my sis tomorrow night with cheesy chili cornbread.
Night all.

[Raven.joy]

November Nurturing - Week 4

Thanks guys. It is amazing to have gone a year. After years of drinking daily I had spent 6 months trying o give up and not managing. A few days sometimes a night off then back on the bender. Last year nov 20th I got so drunk I was really mean to my wife, shouted and swore lots threw cup that smashed on garden path and she made me sleep in another room. It was awful at the time but a wake up call. It is part of why I shudder when I think of drink now and the awful places it took me to.
I joined this site at just the right time. a short time before I went AF for good and it has helped me lots. Connecting with others who understood the madness of alcoholism, some at my stage and others who had made it long term sober with advice and tools etc. all helped me dry out.
I am confident I will not return to drinking.
My life is healing and full of all the right things now this all depends on being AF. I read on another thread on this site "if love is blind, friendship is clairvoyant" on hind sight i can see at a time I really needed new friends, guidance into AF culture/mindset I found mwo.

[Guitarista]

November Nurturing - Week 4

Greeting's everyone,

A huge well done, and congratulation's to you Raven for one year alcohol free! That is a magnificent achievement, and i'm sure not only you, but your family too, are very proud. Keep it going friend.

Bravo!

[Stargazerlily]

November Nurturing - Week 4

Good morning!

Raven, you are so right, "My life is healing and full of all the right things now this all depends on being AF." Being AF makes all the difference in the world: our relationships with others and ourselves. If you get a chance, could you share with us some of the positive changes in your life in the last year?

PAguy, you are so lucky to be thinking of retiring in the foreseeable future. Thanks for sharing the good read.

Sped, hope you do what you want on the holiday....I always have for the most part. In my younger days I tried to please everyone and guess what - I was not happy. So, now I just do what is best for my husband and I. I feel that you have to make your own happiness and fun.

I am reallly struggling this morning, achy, congested and just feeling lousy. I will make it through today and then if I am still feeling like this, call off tomorrow. I rarely call off, and hate to, but I will if I have to. I know if I could just rest for a day I would get better. Having a cold makes me feel depressed, does anyone else get depressed with a cold?

Anybody shopping on Black Friday? I would but don't particularly need anything and don't have anyone's Christmas list. I read today that Kohl's opens at 3 a.m. Crazy but fun.

One more thing, I am so happy I do not have to fly anywhere. I would have a really hard time being invasively searched. It was bad enough before, I could never get the right size plastic bag, always felt nervous as though I would say the wrong thing and not be allowed to get on the plane or something. Anyone fly lately? Is the media exaggerating as they have a tendency to do?

Have a great AF day.

[rustop61]

November Nurturing - Week 4

Good morning

Raven - Congratulations on 1 year AF, what an amazing achievement.

Star - Hope you soon feel better. Having a cold just makes me miserable and cranky. Have not had one in about eighteen months so keeping my fingers crossed I dont get one any time soon.

This is just a quick check in as the girls finish school early today so I have an early pick up. Wishing you all a wonderful AF Tuesday.

Rustop

[Chillgirl]

November Nurturing - Week 4

Good Morning Everyone!

Rav isnt it wonderful that you "got it" Im so grateful that something in my head finally triggered after so many years of lying to myself. I look around at others who are still in the miserable clutches of AL and wonder why I got it and they havent yet.

Paguy - I love your story about your dog being flaked out on the bed, they are such funny characters...

Sped - I dont know what cheesy chilli cornbread is but it sounds delicious!

Star - Our expert flyer is Rusty. I didnt know of any increased restrictions, maybe its just in the US. I hope you feel better soon, i know what you mean about feeling down, I think its natural when we feel sick and incapacitated. The thing about a cold is that we know its nothing serious but its so hugely debilitating. I find the best way it not to fight it and be extra nice to yourself.

Rustop - 18 months without a cold is fantastic! What do you put it down to?

I have a very close friend who lives in Libya, her husband is in very high up in the oil business and they mix in the international diplomatic and embassy circles. She knows of my finacial situation and is trying to strongly persuade me to go and live with them in Libya! Dog and all, they live in a huge compound for international residents. It is a part of the world I would love to visit but living there is something very different. It is wonderful however to know the option is there should I ever need it.

My husband mentioned to me yesterday that he is meeting with his lawyer this week to discuss ways of avoiding me being responsible for his debts as apparently there are some big ones coming his way. He told me he has some kind of bond in place for my home which will safeguard it for the next 12 months. There is so much to take in and once I know what he has in mind I will have my businessman friend in London look over it all before I sign anything. I was quite touched he is thinking this way and it breaks my heart to see him so broken.

Its my best friends birthday today and I have a lunch planned for her with some of our girlfriends. No wine of course for me im sure they will drink my quota.......

[dill]

November Nurturing - Week 4

Good morning!

Grrrrr!!! I just wrote a long post and it got lost! Now I have to get ready for work. Oh, well. Just know I am thinking of you all and am glad you are here!

[Lavande]

November Nurturing - Week 4

Good Morning everyone!

Sunny now but rain is supposed to move in later - boo hoo.

Shelley, you're reading my mind now?? Ha, Ha!!!

Chill, gosh I hope things work out in a good way for you. I don't think anyone could get me to move to Libya - but that's just me. My sense of adventure seems to have dwindled.

Star, hope you feel better soon. My symptoms dragged on & on but I refused to give in to them

Raven - you rock! Congrats again!!!

Hey there G! Hi Dill!

John, your little dog sounds cute! I'm grateful that my 97 lb. dog is unable to jump up on my bed

Time to go, I have a customer stopping in early.
Wishing a wonderful AF Tuesday all around

Lav

[sooty]

November Nurturing - Week 4

Raven well done.

I've had another busy day but not actually achieved very much - hey ho that's the way some days go I find. Did bang into an old colleague while out shopping, that was lovely cos I haven't seen her for about 4 years so it was great to catch up.

Very cold weather forecast for us, possibly even snow! How exciting.

See you all on the humpday - take care one and all

love Sooty

[spedteach]

November Nurturing - Week 4

Good afternoon all,
I am in cleaning mode, my sister who is 8 years older than moi is more of a surrogate mother to me than a sib. Want everything to be "perfect" for her. Uh oh, OCD coming on. Does anyone else get obsessive about cleaning.

Chill, Libya?? Is that a little bit scary? Would you live with this family? Have you been to Libya, do you know people there? I watched a little of the Amazing Race last night and concluded I would be the worst traveling companion anywhere, anyplace, anytime!!!!!!!! I feel so uncomfortable just watching those people rush to make planes, equivalent?

Lav, I do believe we will meet each other soon and do believe that we may finish one another's sentences. How about hooking up in a B&B in westenr PA? Can you just imagine our chattering about our LB/HB/sons/food. Sounds like heaven, think bout it.

Wonderful afternoon here in NM, 50's, blue skies, bright , bright sun. driving back to Indiana soon after TG. Bring it on, clouds, rain, snow, sun dashing in and out.

Must try to remember that things that look dirty to me never look dirty to others!!!
RELAX SHELLEY