AF Daily - Monday November 22

[choppersmom]

AF Daily - Monday November 22

Good Morning everyone! I hope everyone had a fabulous weekend. I didn't get a chance to post over the weekend, as I was having to much fun with my son, DIL, and the grandson. Oh the joys of living a sober lifestyle! I absolutely love it.

It's cold here today as well and there is supposed to be snow for the afternoon commute! It should be an interesting drive home, because if one flake falls here everyone panics!

I'll check back in over lunch to catch up with everyone!

On a quick note ~AFM ~ I just left a relationship similar to your situation. It was the best move I ever made. Much strength and peace to you. PM if you need too!

Love and hugs to everyone else. Talk to you in a bit! Have a happy, sober Monday!

[Choochie]

AF Daily - Monday November 22

AfM - I am voting for getting rid of the fuckhead!! Life is to short, girls, to have bad men in our lives!!

Big hugs,
Choochie:l

[Lavande]

AF Daily - Monday November 22

Afternoon Chops! Be careful outside in the snow

AFM, I'm sorry you had a bad time yesterday, really. I totally understand the misery caused by a chronically negative partner. That's exactly what led me to making the shitty decision to drink many years ago. I am & always have been a fairly positive & hopeful person. Unfortunately his negativity & depression beat me up emotionally. I stupidly hung around thinking he would eventually improve, see the light, feel the love. NOT! I hope you take good care of yourself first & foremost.

Time to get some things done

[Lavande]

AF Daily - Monday November 22

Hi Choochie!
You are not kidding!!!!

[universal]

AF Daily - Monday November 22

AFM

:l:l:l:l

Don't beat yourself up, It's not worth it. Just jump back on the wagon - we have plenty of room.

:h

[bear73]

AF Daily - Monday November 22

Hey all - AFM - I drank on Saturday as well.

I need to find a way of putting my wishes first and keeping that constantly in my head - I can't drink needs to stay in my head. I was at a friend's house - she was having some wine BUT not pressuring me at all.I have not drank many times with this friend.

I didn't sleep well/felt awful next day - didn't drink a lot either and felt horribly drunk very quickly. I don't even like the feeling of being drunk now.
I am away at a rollerderby bootcamp this weekend - NO temptation there as I have 2 solid days of skating to contend with.

Onwards - cycling every day this week.

[Accountable for Me]

AF Daily - Monday November 22

Thank you all for being supportive. BF is definitely negative dead weight these past few weeks. Every time I get excited about something he takes the wind out of my sails. I have had 'talks' with him in regards to his negativity. The man simply has no soul. No aspirations, get's excited about shit-all. and.......... our non-existent sex life sucks too! :H

I feel better. I have eaten a couple bowls of chicken noodle soup with soda crackers and a couple cups of green tea for breakfast. Had a good chat with my Nana. She can't stand the man and really has always felt he brings me down. She is very old school. Told me as she sees it! :wow:

I know what I need to do. If I could kick him out today, I would. But I am not that mean. So, after Christmas he better have his plan in place. I am starting the New Year off happy.

I'm OK. Onwards and upwards. :l

[Accountable for Me]

AF Daily - Monday November 22

:l to you bear. It really sucks! Drinking is such a waste of health. I am feeling the complete shits/hungover. I certainly do NOT miss this feeling!! Riddled with regret and anxiety. Aged myself 1000 years over night. :H

Back to the drawing board for us, my dear!

[Choochie]

AF Daily - Monday November 22

AFM - I find a lot of peace in solitude. I used to get lonely, but I don't now. I'm married but my husband is gone a lot and I've learned to love being alone.

Sending you big hugs - I know it's not easy breaking up with someone - even if they are bad news. I hope you can do it, though. It will be much better for you in the long run.

If something happened to my husband, I would take Sam's attitude and remain alone!

Sending you peace and strength,
Choochie:l

[Accountable for Me]

AF Daily - Monday November 22

Choochie;1008903 wrote: AFM - I find a lot of peace in solitude. I used to get lonely, but I don't now. I'm married but my husband is gone a lot and I've learned to love being alone.

Sending you big hugs - I know it's not easy breaking up with someone - even if they are bad news. I hope you can do it, though. It will be much better for you in the long run.

If something happened to my husband, I would take Sam's attitude and remain alone!

Sending you peace and strength,
Choochie:l

Thanks Choochie! I feel bad now that I have whined all morning on this thread.

I am typically a positive, fun, person. I know a lot of my whining is due to the fact that I am hungover. I am feeling shitty today all around.

I have been alone a couple of times in my life. I liked it. Sometimes I think being in a dysfunctional relationship can be more lonely than being alone. Although, technically I still do have children, so not completely alone.

It's just weird. He was so supportive of when I was not working much and being with my dad almost every day. Then this last month when I wanted to get going in life again; he has done a 360. I asked him if he is depressed, but I get nothing out of him... I dunno.

Anyways, I completely apologize for bitching about him so much today. :l

[Choochie]

AF Daily - Monday November 22

AFM - don't apologize. I think it's great that we can talk about our problems and that someone will be there for us!:l It's part of what I love about this site.

[Brigitte Bardot]

AF Daily - Monday November 22

AFM, I'm so sorry sweety, I just read this all now. I think you're making the right decision, for someone to make you this badly that it drove you to drink again it's time to kick the jerk out. You'll do much better without him. And it may have been your choice to drink, but outside influences do attribute and I don't know anyone who can't be affected by them in some sort of way. Make your plan to take out the trash and start a new. Being single is not really all that bad. I would be rather be alone then be stuck miserable with someone I didn't want in my own home.

Love you girl ♥ ♥ ♥ from me and Little Gia ♥ ♥ ♥

[ItsJustMe]

AF Daily - Monday November 22

Afternoon Dudes!

I tried a new twist today. Hit the gym before work (Hell, before daylight). That was an interesting concept. I actually took my clothes for work, toothpaste, etc and got ready for work there. The cool part is that there is about half the population there as there is in the evening when I have been going. I was also a good boy at breakfast ? two hard boiled eggs and wheat toast.

I blew it at lunch ? thought I was being good getting Chilis Monterey Chicken ? heck ? baked chicken right? 29 FREAKING WEIGHT WATCHER POINTS!!!!!!! I only get 38 for the entire day!!!! Guess I will be eating a salad leaf for dinner. Anyone know how many points a bat turd is? By dinner I will be hungry enough to eat one.

I am seriously glad I got rid of all the empty calories from Al. I would really be fighting an uphill battle.

AMF ? sorry to hear about your guy trouble. Open up an entire can of whoop butt on him. Cooch! I am shocked at your reaction. It cuts me pretty deep! :wow: Not all guys are F*&%heads! I?m a pretty upstanding dude. I treat Mrs. IMJ like a queen. I can count on one hand the number of disagreements we have had in 24 years. This comes from us both knowing who is boss?. And I love my boss!!! Actually we pretty much complement each other. She is the more mature one. She is the one that made me study and skip frat parties in college so I could graduate and we could get married. If it wasn?t for her, I?d still be trying to pass World History with a hangover!

I thought you ladies had those magazines like Cosmo that was supposed to tell you how to make a bad man good?.

Bear and AMF ? don?t be hard on yourself. No one is perfect. So you slipped up. Determine where you went astray, put that in your tool kit and give it another try. I failed a butt load of times before I came here. Heck, there are times I still could fold but I have to fight it.

BB ? dry heated air in the wintertime always makes my nose bleed. One thing I think would help would be for you to go back to a more provocative avatar? :whee: Ok, that would not help you but I would sure enjoy it?

Alright, got to get back to work but I leave you with today?s thought from IMJ: Why do psychics have to ask you for your name?

Hi to everyone on the thread today! Have a great Monday!

[Choochie]

AF Daily - Monday November 22

IJM - hunni - I in no way meant to imply that all men are FHs - only to get rid of one if he is. I'm married to a wonderful man, so I know they're out there. I also believe, though, that it doesn't do any good to try to make people into something they're not!! So, big hugs to you - I think you sound like a good guy!!

[ItsJustMe]

AF Daily - Monday November 22

I?m pretty good (that?s what she said?..). :blush: I do think that if you have a pile of horse crap and you try to make it into a cheeseburger that in the end you will have a stinky sandwich! Hugs headed back your way!