AF Daily-Tuesday, November 23, 2010

[bear73]

AF Daily-Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Hi everyone - just zooming in - decided not to go to gym in the end, in pjs, ready for big bath and dinner of microwave low fat lasagne and low fat oven chips - yum. I have finally allowed myself to buy low fat ready meals - if I have with veg/eat my fruit quota that day.
I think a couple of times a week can't hurt me. Got to be better than buying a takeaway(which is alternative when I can't be bothered to cook).
I've always aimed to cook everything from scratch - I think that standard can slip for a bit!

I just don't have energy to cook every night at the moment (even my easy 30 min recipes) Thursday though I am making sausage and bean stew with lots of veg and there will be enough for 2 nights.

I'm booze and cigarette free - I just want to stay in and laze about tonight.
DG thanks for suggestion about AA - got to be worth giving serious thought.

Happy Tuesday all to come - getting very excited at your Thanksgiving food - I love turkey and green bean casserole mmmmm.

[Accountable for Me]

AF Daily-Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Doggygirl;1009497 wrote: LvT!!! :l I can't imagine how difficult it must be to not STEP IN and try to do everything / make every decision for and on behalf of your children. VENT VENT VENT!!

AFM, DD will take on a new meaning here at AF Daily.

May we all survive the holidays. I don't even have anything overly stressful going on, yet I said to someone just this morning "I wish we could just fast forward from today until january 1. :H (well, I guess I shouldn't laugh because I'm serious!)

DG

K, DD it is!

Gosh, to be perfectly honest with you; if I didn't have kids, I would seriously consider avoiding Christmas all together. I like the lights and the look on the little kid's faces when opening gifts - that is it though! I honestly hate the upset, stress, the expense, etc... It has to be the most painful time of the year. For me anyway. It is EXTREMELY hard to muster the energy, the enthusiasm, and the BS that goes along with it. Bah hum bug.

[Accountable for Me]

AF Daily-Tuesday, November 23, 2010

bear73;1009500 wrote: Hi everyone - just zooming in - decided not to go to gym in the end, in pjs, ready for big bath and dinner of microwave low fat lasagne and low fat oven chips - yum. I have finally allowed myself to buy low fat ready meals - if I have with veg/eat my fruit quota that day.
I think a couple of times a week can't hurt me. Got to be better than buying a takeaway(which is alternative when I can't be bothered to cook).
I've always aimed to cook everything from scratch - I think that standard can slip for a bit!

I just don't have energy to cook every night at the moment (even my easy 30 min recipes) Thursday though I am making sausage and bean stew with lots of veg and there will be enough for 2 nights.

I'm booze and cigarette free - I just want to stay in and laze about tonight.
DG thanks for suggestion about AA - got to be worth giving serious thought.

Happy Tuesday all to come - getting very excited at your Thanksgiving food - I love turkey and green bean casserole mmmmm.

Good to see you back on track, bear! :l

[Lavande]

AF Daily-Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Thanks DG, LVT, AFM & everyone!

I think I was fearing EXPLODING on YB when I see him & making a diaster on Thanksgiving Day. Better that I had my melt down here & now. Thank you

I really do love the holidays! I love the family gatherings & the warmth generated by it all! I never really let myself get overwhelmed with too much shopping, cooking, decorating, etc.
I just need to figure out how to not let YB aka FH put a damper on this season for me with his cold-hearted selfishness!

One good thing has happened though. Over the past 7 months (since he left) I've lost 11 pounds!
I'm happy about it - it's menopause weight that I've been carting around & couldn't budge. You have to be grateful for unexpected surprises.

LVT, I hope we both find the strength we need to get thru these issues unscated!

[peacenik]

AF Daily-Tuesday, November 23, 2010

hugs to you lav, i would be PISEED too if i were in your shoes!!!
we are here for you girl!
afm, in our family, we make gifts for the extended family. it's a nice way to show we care and not feel resentful about spending money on my third cousins 6th kid!
lv, i stay up nights worrying about my daughter (i'm not a worrier in general), and i really don't have a reason to. i think it's normal to take on our kids struggles as our own. we are so deeply connected, how can we not?!
CHOOCHIE! WOOHOO, 50 days is great!:goodjob:

i have been having drinking thoughts, but am being proactive and trying to just feel it and get through it. it is easier with almost a month of sobriety under my belt.


thanks for the well wishes everyone. i eat a vegan diet, and don't overdo the fat, so i don't have to change the diet. i believe he said it's a malfunction, not stones or an "itis", so in order to make it less apinful, i'd have to not eat :H, i KNOW that won't happen!

:thanks:

have a good day all!

[Determinator]

AF Daily-Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Happy Tuesday ABeroooooos!

Peace be careful with the low fat. Contrary to our media over the last 20 years low fat and low protein diets have a clear association with depression/anxiety and a huge host of diseases. I myself had horrible URQ (upper right quadrant) pain when I drank. when I went AF the pain/swelling subsided quite on it's own. now the only times that it flares up is when I eat sugar or if I fall off the wagon. Incidentally I try to get most of my fats from olive oil, fish and fish oil, coconut oil, and nuts.
When I turn to the comfort foods of carbohydrates (especially simple carbs) I get bloated and depressed, have trouble sleeping and become very susceptible to turning next to alcohol. I've found when I up my protein to at least .75grams per lb of my body weight I am alert, happy and sleep like a rock at night. I encourage everyone to experiment with their protein/fat intakes and not buy the media hype pushed and financed by the big agricultural outfits with an agenda of promoting their cheaply manufactured grain-based carbohydrate diet garbage.

in other news: I'm snowed in with Dx! so there's plenty of snuggling on the couch to catch up on.

IJM, thank you for the movie warning.

a movie I do recommend is "Megamind" it's really cute and funny.

Cooochie, huge kudos on the 50!

be well everyone

[Determinator]

AF Daily-Tuesday, November 23, 2010

some followup reading on the whole dietary fat thing:

Eat fat, lose fat: lose weight and ... - Google Books

note several paragraphs down the observation that women in particular need higher cholesterol levels to maintain health. Women with very low cholesterol having a 500% increased mortality rate!

[Guitarista]

AF Daily-Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Lavande;1009468 wrote: DAMN!

I have to admit something - my resentment level (towards YB) is growing like crazy due to the upcoming holidays!!!!

Flipping thru the channels on TV last night I ran across a Christmasy song & it put me in tears.
Out running errands today I found myself crying in my car. THIS SUCKS!
I'm exhausted trying to manage my thoughts & put them where they belong. I guess I'm still very hurt at being used for 37 years then tossed aside.

I'm not looking for pity friends. I just need people to hear how pissed off I really am!!!
OK, that's over!

DG, I am going to roast a turkey, make stuffing, a sweet potato dish & a pumpkin chiffon cake to take to my son's house. My son will be doing the rest. It's his 30th birthday on Thursday - he shouldn't have to spend the whole day in the kitchen I will enjoy having dinner with my son, my DIL, EB & EB's other grandparents.
I'm not even a little happy that YB has been invited as well. That prick will just show up & pretend like nothing is wrong, nothing has changed. That pisses me off, to say the least.

I will figure out some way to get thru this without going crazy or drinking - that's for sure!

I hope I didn't depress anyone.

You are never depressing Lav. You are awesome, and absolutely rock! So keep it going.
Have a great week everyone. You rock too DG!

[Choochie]

AF Daily-Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Det - really good nutrition advice here from you. Thanks!

[Lavande]

AF Daily-Tuesday, November 23, 2010

I am feeling ~somewhat~ better now after my rant earlier!

I do want to apologize if I offended anyone with my choice of words.
In the future I will reread what I've typed before hitting the submit button

Hey G - thanks

[Choochie]

AF Daily-Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Lav, please don't feel bad about ranting. That's one thing I love about this site - that we can share feelings and that others will listen and let us talk! It's so funny, I don't know you or the other people here (technically), but I'm so fond of you guys. So strange how that can happen without ever having been in the same room. But, it's getting to "know" everyone (and ranting and sharing problems is part of how that happens) that makes all of this possible.

:lChoochie

[Brigitte Bardot]

AF Daily-Tuesday, November 23, 2010

I'm lost on what YB and EB are short for? Either way, ranting is good Lav!

I've had a very long day on cutting white pine and making swags, wreaths and garland to either give away to family and friends, and to keep for my home and my mothers. We decorated some of my mothers house for Christmas, I pulled Little Gia all around in the sled with the snow we got until it warmed up and took it away.. I've got balsam all over my hands and it's not coming off. Does anyone know a good way to rid myself of this without having to go outside and wash my hands in gasoline?

Det, I'm a huge fan of eating healthy. I'm not big on carbs at all, I don't like white bread. If I do eat bread it's normally the whole grain with lots of healthy seeds and grains that I can actually see. I'm going to get my own breadmaker so I can make my own since I don't eat a lot anyway I can make what I want. I buy almost all of my meat from a local farmer and it's hormone free and fed off the land; or wild meat like venison, moose, duck and things like that..love fresh caught fish like trout, salmon and haddock, flounder, mackeral..and I love smoked salmon, mackeral. Olive oils, avocado's, nuts and everything. I'm such a foodie.

I did have some drinking thoughts today, but pushed them aside and started thinking about going back to Costco and getting some new hot chocolates that they have out in gift packs for Christmas. I'm going to get those.. I'm feeling too good to sabotage myself for no reason really.

BRB, Little Gia is asking me to come over because she needs a smooch she says..lol..love that kid.

[Doggygirl]

AF Daily-Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Bear, good that you are taking some pressure off yourself in other areas. If your main goal right now is to stay AF and NF, then I would definitely say cut yourself a break where it makes sense in other areas. (remembering that exercise helps and sugar hurts the AFness, if you are anything like me....)

Lav, when it comes to menopause weight loss, who gives a &$^% how it happened. FLAUNT IT!!!!!! Oh - you would have to color up your posts X100 to offend me. Actually, probably X1,000.

Peace, do whatever you gotta do about the drinking thoughts. They definitely happen it seems, especially at this time of year. Just don't drink.

Choochie, I know what you mean about MWO friends. I can't even tell you how often I'm just driving around or sitting in a meeting and something happens and I think "I can't WAIT to tell those guys about it!" Crazy, eh? a GOOD crazy I say.

Hi G-Man!!

Det, so glad you and Dx are enjoying the snow in!! I hope you have a nice cozy rest of the week, holiday, weekend, etc. Thanks for the great reminder on the diet front. I am like you. I do SOOOOO much better low carbing (and high fatting) it with regard to cravings for ....whatever. AL, sugar, salty snacks, chair legs, you name it. I was just thinking today about posting some of my conclusions from my own dietary adventures over the last year. Results are not good weight wise, but I have confirmed what does and doesn't work for me. "High Protein" doesn't even work for me if it's too low fat. I gotta have the fat. My weight and eating circus really started around the holidays last year. I was so happy to have maintained my weight loss for a year that I started letting sugar and starch creep back in. For a month or two things weren't too bad. But like another substance I know, it quickly started escalating in terms of cravings.

The trainer I worked with for a couple of months got me back relatively low carb, but was higher in protein than I was used to and MUCH lower in fat. I was a craving machine with that too. By then, sugar and starch had the hooks in me. Weight Watchers worked for me when I was able to stick with the points. But once again, I was eating "treat foods" (sugar and starch) and like another substance I can think of, I am just not able to "moderate" those foods. Especially sugar. I really respect Weight Watchers. I love the group support and may get back going again, but just working the eating plan in a way that works for me. (the nice thing about WW is they don't tell you what your menu plan is supposed to be).

I've been revisiting some old books I've already got on the shelf. Within the last week or so I had a "aha" moment when I realized that for me, just as important as keeping the sugar out is keeping the fat in. I know it flies in the face of the food pyramid, but that's what works for me. I haven't managed to get 100% back on board with my old eating style, and probably won't be 100% until we get through the holidays. But I'm already seeing a difference in craving and hunger levels. Just have to walk away from the "comfort food." I'm with you on my response to that Deter. And for me, it just sets up a cycle of "more" that feels eerily familiar.

My Thanksgiving dessert, low carb cheesecake is in the oven. I must say it's a great way to get back to "more fat." :H

Anyway...I'm just glad that my nutty cravings of late are not for AL. (although like Det said, I get uncomfortable with how closely related the sugar / AL thing is!)

Anyway...that's what's new in my (not) exciting day!

DG

[Accountable for Me]

AF Daily-Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Bring on the fat! :H

Mmmmmmmm love fats. Good healthy ones. I, never 'use' to eat much bread or sugar. The bread thing started creaping in when my dad got sick again in June. I was grabbing sandwiches while I was making dashes out the door. Ate like complete shit. Sometimes I wouldn't even eat and come home and gorge. I would boil up spaghetti noodles (lots) and add garlic, olive oil and cheddar on it. I love 12 grain, and also flax seed bread. Unfortunately, the BF likes the white. So, while I was in the midst of father upset, he did the grocery shopping. I was gorging on white bread and spaghetti noodles.

I have gained almost 10 pounds in the last 5 months. Not happy at all. Thankfully people thought I was 'too' skinny for their liking. I wasn't - I would say a good weight for my height.

Now that dad is 'relatively' stable for the moment, I have been trying to eat better. I certainly can feel the effect of poor eating. I feel 'heavy', 'cranky', and no energy. I still eat too many noodles...... but not much bread anymore. I have also made a conscience effort to buy fresh vegetables again. Oh well, what can ya do? Just get back to it, I say.

Yes, I agree that protein and fats are what my body responds to best. I have to have the carbs too, just not the bad ones or too many of the good ones either.

I just got back from the Vitamin shop. I also noticed that I have been very negligent on keeping my vitamins up. I was taking them religiously until June as well. So, I bought B50, Cal/Mag/Zinc, and Vitamin D. These short days are kind of getting to me, so I need to start taking the D again for sure!

[Marshy]

AF Daily-Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Lav - I'm not surprised you're angry and resentful. Sounds like YB would try the patience of a saint. Have you thought about counselling (just for you, not the two of you)? I hope you have a lovely time with your family.

I certainly don't envy you across-the-ponders the pressure/stress of Thanksgiving and then doing it all over again at Christmas.

Hello to everyone! Just in from the cinema with XNGF and off to bed. The cinema had normal seats and some sofas, so we had a sofa and a waiter served us cheesecake and hot chocolate. Film was OK, sofa was great!

Oh, one last thing...

Choochie;1009402 wrote: Can you believe how filthy bathrooms in the U.S. are?

Worst two loos I've ever been in - airport in Egypt, railway station India. The one in India was so bad I almost threw up - and that would have improved the general ambiance. Hope no one is eating while reading this