daily af sunday 5 dec

[AAthlete]

daily af sunday 5 dec

Great to hear Choochie, and it's worth noting that it is a spiritual program, not necessarily a religious one. The definition I've always been told is 'religion tells you what to believe, spirituality says it doesn't matter what you believe as long as you believe in something.' I fully admit that God is that something for a majority of people, but I also know of those that believe in Buddha, Mother Earth, etc. In the end, take what you can from it, and free to come up with your own concept of a higher power and you'll be okay.

AFM, sorry that you are going through all this, and that peace (in whatever form) comes to both you and your father soon.

[Chief]

daily af sunday 5 dec

Hi All,

Day 5 here. Doing well, just concentrating on changing my lifestyle to be the one I want.

AFM, I really admire you for how you're dealing with all this. We're going through the same thing with my FIL. It's a tough hand to be dealt......but you have to play the hand you're dealt in life. I'm so impressed and proud of you for doing it sober....:l

Don

[momof3]

daily af sunday 5 dec

Accountable for Me;1017435 wrote: Good morning,

I wish my dad would pass along. I hate saying that, but he is truly suffering. I told him yesterday that I want him to be at peace and to not suffer anymore. He said that he really wants the same. I think when we were alone for those few minutes and I started to cry when telling him that I feel so helpless, etc, it sent him into an anxiety attack. I feel bad. But I needed to tell him that it was OK for him to go, and that I would be OK.

AFM. It is so great that you are being honest with yourself and him. I had a similar experience with my dad when he was dying of cancer and preparing to leave this world. There was a point that I just knew and he knew that it was time. I believe that the process of death is like labor. Just as it is difficult to enter this world; it is also hard to leave it. In order for him to move on, he needs to know that you will be okay. I'm happy you told him that. :l And you are staying sober and present. Amazing AFM. Amazing.

Choochie, good to hear that you tried AA. How was it?

LVT. It sounds like you have way too much going on. Stay your strong self.

Lav. I am so sorry that your husband is still causing you so much grief and pain. I know I would feel the same way if I was in your position, but would also know that in order to take care of myself, that I would have to let go and accept that it is his choice/his life. I would have to ask myself if one more day, one more conversation, etc. was going to change the person or the situation. Easier said than done I know but so necessary for your health, happiness, and well-being. It is that simple and that complicated IMHO. :l

M3

[Determinator]

daily af sunday 5 dec

Happy Sunday ABland!

it seems several hugs are in order xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
my heart goes out to all my friends here in these various challenges.

Coochie, this has been a highly transformational year for me in terms of how I see a higher power myself. It sounds like you have a healthy attitude towards the issue and I agree that no one system has it all figured out. I'm now a secular humanist and even still I have no trouble accepting and even appreciating the AA's program to help folks achieve sobriety.

Breakfast calls..... be well everyone

[Accountable for Me]

daily af sunday 5 dec

Choochie, it is wonderful you had a great experience at AA! I, too, am in the need of finding 'sober' friends. I think that AA is a real blessing for many. I truly believe we need to nurture our spirit, soul, or whatever one calls it. It is essential in recovery. Once things calm down in my life, I am going to find a group as well. I am truly inspired thanks to DG, yourself, and many others here. xo

Gia, love you lots girlfriend!

Don, thanks so much. So happy to have you here with us again. Sending out hugs to you as well. It is a horrible thing to go through.

Momof3, Det, and everyone else, thanks for your support. I feel better today. Lots of ups and downs and all arounds, but I am trying my darndest to stay on somewhat of a positive frame of mind. Have to. I also think that my not drinking is also because of all of this. I sincerely want to stay sober for not only myself, but for him as well. Sitting on the edge of my seat waiting for that call. If I were drunk, and his wife called me saying it was time - I would really, really, really, really, hate myself and be overcome with so much guilt and grief.

Lots of love everyone. I have to put the sick one into a bath. Poor thing.

[ItsJustMe]

daily af sunday 5 dec

Great Sunday Afternoon all!

It?s an absolute beautiful day here in God?s country! 39 degrees and windy. Just got back from the gym and have a nice cozy fire built. Mrs. IMJ is still in her PJs! She?s just as pretty in them as a ball room dress in my eyes!

Dinner at the Fondue place last night was awesome. I didn?t even think about Al ? not even once. Well once ? they poured some kind of Al in the chocolate and lit it. I wondered if it would cause my Antibuse to go ape crap. It didn?t. Dinner was three hours!!! Well two hours then an hour just sitting around laughing with our friends and telling stories. That is the way to spend a Saturday evening!

I?ve got 10 days to go to my next goal ? 60 AF days. It seems to get easier and easier. I am really hoping that something is not waiting for me around the corner. Usually when things start coming easy then I set myself up for disaster. Just when I least expect it, wham! Thoughts on relapse around the 60 day mark? Things to expect?

Pap and M3 ? on the couch to 5K I moved up to week two on the program today. It was a butt kicker. I found that if I get some really good music playing with it I can sort of zone out the fatigue. I?m dating myself but my workout playlist contains some Kansas, America, Frankie Goes to Hollywood, and Boston.

Well, gotta get productive. Here is wishing everyone a great start to the week. As my AL Free idol Doggie says?. One thing is for sure!

Oh, and the IMJ thought of the day? Here's my least favorite four stripper names: Edna, Bertha, Gertrude... George

[papmom3]

daily af sunday 5 dec

OMG IMJ!! Kansas?? What a blast from the past!! I was in LOVE with that group! Saw them live at Eastern Illinois University my first weekend there as a transfer. Had no clue who they were (blind date that was set up) but I was hooked from then on!! I must find them on Itunes and not be scrooge for one. Maybe I'll ask for an Itunes card for Xmas (hint hint AA!!)
For my 60 day anniversery I went to my very first AA meeting. it happened to fall on a Thursday, there was no agility that nite and there was a small woman's group the next town over from me (my hometown actually) and it was right at 6pm so it worked out great for stopping on the way home. It really helped to keep the momentum going even tho I never went back.

AFM-I cannot even imagine what you are feeling right now. It is my worst nightmare to have my dad get sick on me. I know I should be more grown up about it (I am 54 for heaven's sake) but I still feel like I'm his little girl. You have shown such strength this weekend and such selflessness. I'm so proud of you for staying AF. You are absolutely right-you must be stone cold sober when the call comes. Many :l and pings going out to you, your dad (may he pass peacefully) and your little one who is so sick and miserable right now. Wish we could all be there to give you a massive hug!!

BB-great job for you too! And Bear!! You're on the right track putting your sobriety first. It really does get easier, I promise!!

Hi G-tsk tsk we are a nosy bunch but since you can't control that and we're not gonna chance, you might as well spill!!

Chief-nice job on day 5. You're on a roll now!

LVT and LAV-you've had a horrible weekend too but you're handling everything so well. You guys are pillars of strength! I hope number 1 son gets his head in the game of life soon LVT so he stopped giving you heart attacks! Lav-I think M3 had some very wise words. Remember the serenty prayer. :l :h to you both.

Chooch-glad you're sticking with us! You're a busy gal too! congrats on your first AA meeting!! Glad it was better than you expected.

M3 and DG-No envy here with all your remodeling woes. DG, glad you're in the move back in phase. M3-you're sounding much better since you had the talk with the contractors. Good for you!

Gaia-sounds like you are a true morning person. Nothing wrong with that at all!! Now if you ever get a job working the graveyard shift you might be in trouble!! :H

Pride-you so crack me up!! I'm all outfitted for walking in the winter weather too but I can't seem to find the motivation to get going!! I thought my dogs would do it for me but they hate the cold too!!

Busy weekend for me. Worked yesterday and today I went to that teacup trial nearby. It was fun and I wished I had entered but I've got to stick to my budget. It was nice tho to be there fully to support my friends. For the dog lovers on the thread, one of our friends had this great sweatshirt on and we found the website-I'm so going to be ordering stuff from there for my dog friends for christmas!!

dogs

No financial interest obviously!!

I'm home now and doing some chores. Seems like I don't spend a lot of time home anymore. tomorrow I start WW in earnest. I'm a little disappointed they did away with the slide rule (said they couldn't fit 4 categories on it) and I don't like the digital points calculator they are trying to push on us. I found an app for my droid phone but you still have to enter each food separately as he doesn include a database so it's the same as the calculator (except I don't think you can store food in the calculator). I tried to sign up for etools but for some reason my "Getting Started" booklet didn't have an access code in it. Shot of a not so happy email to customer service who of course do not work on weekends (WTF?). Right now WW is batting zero with me but I will persevere. At least I can stick with the foods labeled with a triangle and know I can't go wrong. Tomorrow I also start back up with the walking and PF-no excuses!! IMJ-I'll have to check out the app you're talking about. I'm hoping it will make the treadmill less painful!!

time to do more laundry so will say bye for now.

:l

[Lavande]

daily af sunday 5 dec

Good evening friends!

I'd like to take a vote - who thinks 58 is too old for a mid-life crisis?
I think YB is tiptoeing into some early dementia - I really do!!!

Thinking through the day today about some of the things he said yesterday..........
I really don't want him coming here unless it's absolutely necessary. If he would answer his damn phone or respond to an email once in a while but he just insists on being uncooperative, a real pain in the butt.

Well, I did have a better day today & I ate my dinner before my pig dog could get to it :H
She was rather disappointed :H

LVT, you really need a hug too girl :l
I hope your son pulls his head out of wherever it is before he hurts himself.
I don't want either one of us having a heart attack any time soon

AFM, hope you are OK too!

It's only 6 pm but I can't wait to go to bed & end this weekend

[Choochie]

daily af sunday 5 dec

Lav, maybe he's a later bloomer in his mid life crisis?? I still think you need to check for girlfriends. Has he bought a Corvette yet? BTW, are you guys actually divorcing or just separating? How are you coping with him gone? Now, if these questions are too personal, just tell me to feck off.

[Lavande]

daily af sunday 5 dec

Choochie :H

He started this BS behavior when he turned 42. I thought fine, have your problems because at 41 I had my own to deal with, you know?

I am 99.9% sure there is no girlfriend. Judging by the way he looked yesterday (growing a full, almost totally gray beard), crappy hair, etc. Who the hell would go near him??? He's got nothing to offer a girlfriend because he can't afford to get rid of me :H:H

On a brighter note I decided today that I will make a diaper cake for my daughter's baby shower next month! I looked into buying on online & refuse to drop $100 for a bunch of diapers & ribbon. I printed up instructions & just need to run out to buy the necessities.

Happy things help me keep my mind off the things & people I can not change

[Choochie]

daily af sunday 5 dec

Lav, you are a hoot, girlfriend. I really get a kick out of you. Now, good luck on that diaper cake - save some money and then be able to say you made it. Homemade is always better!!

xx,
Choochie

[Doggygirl]

daily af sunday 5 dec

Hi again all! I have enjoyed reading everyone's posts. Pride, you indeed have a way with words (love it!) and you too IJM. Your fondue night sounds awesome.

Lav, 58 is def too old for mid life crisis. Have you considered changing the locks? Or maybe he always knocks?

Funny - our dog trainer is getting divorced. I noticed yesterday that he went from scruffy to cleaned up, in an "old hippie" sort of way. Seems like that is the sign of girl watching - not the other way around. But who knows. :H Love the sound of the diaper cake. Is there a poopy pants cake? That would be the perfect gift for YB I think.

Nighty night all. I'm so happy to have spent this day free of AL.

DG

[ItsJustMe]

daily af sunday 5 dec

Pap ? Check this out ? last year I saw Kansas perform with the Atlanta Symphony Orchestra at an outdoor amphitheatre. That sounds like a very odd combination and I was wary about going. Turned out to be one of the most awesome concerts I have ever been to.

So, tonight I downloaded Season 8 of the Biggest Loosers from Amazon. I watched the first three episodes. It has totally inspired me to hit the gym. I have been doing Tues, Thurs and Sun. I?ve decided I am going in the morning as well. Not sure if I will be this motivated at 5AM but we will see.

Lav, not sure if 58 is too old or not for a mid life crisis. I?m 29 + 16 and I think my mid life crisis is kicking in. Not the bad infidelity stuff (Mrs. IMJ is the center of my universe and always will be) but I did buy a Corvette last year (an old one that I am restoring so not sure if that counts or not) and am planning on some plastic surgery next year if I can get the weight off ? I added some extra money to my FSA account just in case. I even looked at a box of hair color for men to cover my gray ? but I discounted that idea!

[Determinator]

daily af sunday 5 dec

dare I ask...what is a diaper cake?

so...somebody told me I'd really like the tv show Dexter. they're right! I've watched 6 episodes so far today. I think my eyeballs are going to fall out.

clunk

[Choochie]

daily af sunday 5 dec

Det - I love Dexter - have watched the whole series. Can't tell you much about the diaper cake - Lav will have to weigh in on that one.

but I did buy a Corvette last year

- Lav, did I call that or what? No offense IJM, but you guys are a tad predictable.