daily af sunday 5 dec

[bear73]

morning all - well stayed in last night to avoid temptation to drink. slept lots and read 'tao of sobriety' really great - couldn't get into it first time round, really good book.
Today plan is to go off out for lunch then skating then Christmas decorating house.

I'm aching from gym yesterday - but in a good way. I'm off to the gym tomorrow and having a spa day with massage and pedicure.

feeling good - feel i have cracked cigarettes but alcohol still need to keep riding out cravings/change lifestlye for a bit

[Guitarista]

daily af sunday 5 dec

G'day Bear, and Abber's to come,

Got that book myself. Yep, it's worth a read to be sure. Another good book, and a bit of an old classic that's good to refer to now and again is 'The power of now' by Eckhart Tolle.

A safe, sober weekend to everyone.

[Brigitte Bardot]

daily af sunday 5 dec

Good morning Bear and G-man and all other peeps!

Had a great night just relaxing in my silk jammies last night snuggled on the couch with my two doggies watching TV. I could have kept my babysitter to stay to the dance, drink some if I wanted and I even had a drive home if I wanted it, but I was a good girl and enjoyed my evening another way..avoided the money loss, the potential hangover and all the guilt that comes along with it. I feel good. My Mom was a little upset that I didn't stay with her, but I really didn't want too..I told her probably the next one.

I think we have a Santa Parade to go to today, just a small town one but Little Gia will love it all the same. We have Santa coming to the house too Christmas Eve, so I have a present all made up for him to give to her..she will be so excited.

AFM, I hope you're doing okay today. I can't imagine what you're going through, but please know that I am always here for you. I'll send you my number and if you want, feel free to call me anytime..lots of love honey.

[Doggygirl]

daily af sunday 5 dec

Good morning fabbies! Happy Sunday. It's a beautiful snow covered world here in DG land today. The sun is just coming up and the only prints in the yard from my current view are from animals. That and the snow covered tree branches....geez. Did I wake up on a Norman Rockwell Holiday Plate?

Bear, good for you making the choice to stay in and putting your sobriety first. This gets eaiser down the road, but if you don't stand firm in the early days, then you get caught in the viscious relapse cycle, and can never REACH the easy part. Enjoy your spa day tomorrow!

BB, good for you as well doing the same thing! The Santa parade sounds like fun. Sometimes I want to borrow a kid.

G-Man, One of our clients gave Mr. Doggy a copy of The Power of Now. What a good reminder for me to go find it and add it to the reading list! So you never told us. Who was the lucky girl?

Special :l for you AFM, and hello to all fabbies yet to come today.

Got a bit of stuff moved back upstairs last night, but barely a dent. I have too much stuff. WAY too much stuff. I really need to get more critical about the older clothes I am keeping, and also stop with the retail therapy. I have enough stuff for a large extended family. Will be back to working on the moving once I get home from AA. Am going to a breakfast then speaker meeting that I've never been to. The woman speaking is quite colorful so it should be good. Another AA friend is meeting me here and we'll drive together. I love having sober friends to do things with.

Life is good, and one thing is for sure. I'm not ruining the good stuff today with AL.

DG

[Gaia]

daily af sunday 5 dec

Happy Sunday,

Hi Bear, how ya doing? Thanks for starting us off. Have a great skate. Tao book sounds interesting. Hi G man.

AFM you are going through a tough time. But you are doing it sober. That is a great gift. We were meant to go through painful times without anesthetic, I think. One day at a time.

BB your evening sounds lovely. I think you are doing great!

DG streamlining closets is tough. I mean, don't we all wish we had the female equivalent of Micky Rourke's closet in 9 1/2 weeks? OK it's a little creepy. But it would be great to have only say 10 choices, and each of them is lovely.

A friend of mine paid someone to help organize her closet a few years ago (frivolous if you asked me but that's her style...) and here's what the person said. If you haven't worn something in the last 2 years, get it out. After your dramatic weight loss, have you already donated all the old big clothes? Also, if anything scratches or 'just doesn't feel right' get rid of it. Dont save it just because you bought it - save it because you LIKE it. Get rid of anything you don't really like. Good luck!

I am finding that my creativity has increased in the past month. I seem to have lots of IDEAS. They may not be popular ideas, but at least I have them. I am worried about sundown dementia, though, as every day at about 7:00 my brain just sort of shuts down.

Off to the races.

[Pride before Fall]

daily af sunday 5 dec

AFM, jeez Louise. Boyfriend moved out Friday, Dad struggling on his birthday (and you were so excited about the pjs), daughter sick--three ribbons for you on the mojo tree at church this morning. Who do you have around you for support in RL? You need some tea and toast. SO impressed with you for maintaining your sobriety through this undeniable shit spot in the road.:l

BB and Bear, way to make your health a priority no matter the pressures and cues. :goodjob:

I wish I was fitter than my better half, fellow exercisers, but the better time was largely because I'm a strong swimmer (the first leg of the sprint), and he isn't. He's really strong on the bike, which I'm not keen on; don't like racing along at high speeds in traffic.

HOWEVER--for some reason, they write participants' ages on the back of the calf before the race. So I'm toodling along prudently on the bike...and I notice the woman ahead of me is 30(!). NO WAY was I going to come in after her. According to the odometer, I got up to 30 mph on the downhills--a first ever. :H:H I had next to no juice left for the run, but I was able to coax my legs into some kind of a Charlie Chaplin shuffle to the end.

M3, I'm in New England so not great for running outside in the winter, but I'm going to give it a try year. I got lined tights and a windbreaker last week. So far, there's been no snow. I run on trails v. the road, not sure if that'll be easier or harder once the white stuff arrives. I have a treadmill, but find it pretty boring to run on. I usually set it at an incline and walk instead, listening to a recorded book.

Gaia, send some of those creative juices my way, please, I could use them.

Lav, so wish Yeti Breath would stop pulling you into his angst vortex. Pass this along from me please. :moon:

Taking care of the babies at church this morning--love that! Cuddle them, rock them, build stuff with blocks, then hand them back to their parents. Better get goin'.

xoxox Pride

[Pride before Fall]

daily af sunday 5 dec

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[LVT25]

daily af sunday 5 dec

Hello friends,

Super quick check in this morning, I haven't even had time to catch up on everyone yet.

It's been a pretty shitty weekend for me. #1 son was in a 1 vehicle rollover accident Friday night. Everyone is ok, but he is in deep doo doo with us, because he made a bad choice and lied to us about it. Quite a stressful even, but oh so ever grateful he and everyone else is still with us. It could have been really, really bad. (No alcohol that we know of, but for some reason NO ONE called the cops)

Then yesterday morning my best friend called and said her husband (my "boss" at the cemetery) has colon cancer. He is younger than me. I feel so bad for them and helpless too. Just praying for a good outcome there.

Well, I'm in charge at church today, so I better get ready. I will be the son's taxi for awhile since he's grounded, so it will be a challenge having to get him up and going as well.

[Lavande]

daily af sunday 5 dec

GM Abbers!

Sunny & cold but no snow in Lav's yard! Good!!!!!

Yesterday was terrible, I will not have another day like that!
YB came over here looking like a freakin caveman with the beard thing, yuck! His cold hearted behavior left me in tears, then the dog ate my dinner - I was thoroughly insulted, no kidding!

Today will be better - no matter what! I think I'm just going to hop in the car & disappear for a while

Gaia, it's OK to be tired by 7 pm! I'm sure you have dozens of years left before you have to worry about Sundowners Syndrome. Enjoy your creativity

Wishing everyone a great Sunday!
Lav

[momof3]

daily af sunday 5 dec

Good Morning All,

Kudos to BB and Bear for putting their commitment to being AF first. But geez BB, I wish your mom would cut you some slack. Does she know/understand that you have a drinking problem?

Gaia, 7pm. I'm impressed. My brain usually leaves me when the sun goes down. I chalk it up to the Winter.

Pride, There is no how, no way that I can run on a treadmill. It is so boring/painful. I am thinking of joining a gym for the winter though but find that quite painful too.

Last day of solitude, peace, and quiet for me. Kids are on their way home from NY. Watched "Frida" last night with Selma Hayek. Awesome movie. I admired her spirit, her creativity, and her bravery. She had such a painful life in so many wayl but she lived it fully and on her terms.

M3

[AAthlete]

daily af sunday 5 dec

Morning everyone and happy Sunday! Big congrats to Bear & BB as well on sticking to your plans for staying sober - never an easy thing but you both did a great job...

LVT and Lavande, sorry to hear that your Saturdays were so challlenging - life always seems to have a way of throwing us curve-balls but it's how we handle them that is important.

Nothing exciting in my neck of the woods today. Need to clean out the shop and put together my Christmas shopping list - anyone need anything?

[Choochie]

daily af sunday 5 dec

Hi All - just stopping by to give you all big hugs - busy busy yesterday and today. Have taken up golf and went to my first AA meeting.

Sending peace and strength to you AFM - trying time I know. Wish we could help make it better.

Lav, I think Mr. Lav is going through something mental - maybe male menopause or middle aged crazies.

:hto you all.

Choochie

[AAthlete]

daily af sunday 5 dec

Awesome news about your first meeting Choocie - what were your initial thoughts and did you get out of it?

[Accountable for Me]

daily af sunday 5 dec

Good morning,

I had a great cry last night. My Nana is coming up today to hang with me for a couple of hours. She has always been a great support system to me. Little AFM threw up on my bedroom carpet last night. So I am off to clean that properly in a moment.

I am sorry for being such a dragatha these days. I appreciate your support, I truly do.

I wish my dad would pass along. I hate saying that, but he is truly suffering. I told him yesterday that I want him to be at peace and to not suffer anymore. He said that he really wants the same. I think when we were alone for those few minutes and I started to cry when telling him that I feel so helpless, etc, it sent him into an anxiety attack. I feel bad. But I needed to tell him that it was OK for him to go, and that I would be OK.

I will be OK. It has been a long few months with so many ups and downs. I cannot even imagine what he is going through. The Hell of it for me is one thing, but for him, man, oh man!

Well, I should shower and do up the dishes that I did not do last night before Nana comes. Thanks again, everyone. The weirdest thing is that I have absolutely NO desire to drink. Which really bewilders me! Seriously!

How was your first meeting Choochie?

Hugs to you LVT - I cannot imagine how scary that must have been for you!

And hugs to you Lav!

[Choochie]

daily af sunday 5 dec

My meeting was an unbelievably pleasant surprise. It's funny, I really thought I would just stick with MWO, but I haven't been able to get AA out of my mind. I kept putting it off because I didn't want to deal with the religious part of it. But, by the same token, I think lacking a spiritual component to one's life really fuels alcoholism. I'm going to eventually read a book called the Tao of Sobriety because I think it address this exact subjet. My problem with religion is that I don't think anyone has the truth with a capital T. I know AA was founded on Christian principals, and while I think we should all be able to choose how we worship/what we believe in, I was reluctant to go to AA because it's based on a religion that thinks it has the truth with a capital T.

Sorry, to have gone on a diatribe, but I'm trying to give some background into my thinking and how it relates to AA.

NOW, having said all that, I decided to go anyway. I read something by someone in AA (I think it was Bugz) and he talked about just sort of biting the bullet and getting over that and going to AA anyway because he had gotten the benefit of making friends with sober people. THAT'S really what clicked for me. That, regardless of everything else, AA would help me be face to face with others who understood alcoholism and were working to stay sober. Doggygirl's posts also have made me see AA differently and want to try it.

SO, I'm going to go every Saturday and I'll be posting what I learn on the AA Monthly Abstinence Thread. AFM I'm thinking of you - so want you and your dad to find peace.

Hugs,
:hCoochie