Jubilant January ~ Week 1
Greetings, JJ's,
Paguy, I think you should just revel in your "no drama going on at work at the moment". It seems so rare to have a period of relative peace. And as far as "a fire drill lurking around out there ready to happen", just keep your fingers crossed for milder weather when it comes! We had a fire drill yesterday when the temp was hovering around 30F and the wind was blowing pretty good. You're not allowed to go get your coat for a fire drill, so I stood with a class of preschool children, shivering in the breeze. We decided to all squeaze together like the penguins do, and the teachers stood as a wind break. It was quite the endurance test!:H
Papmom, you sound like a busy, busy lady. I am curious what kind of work you do. If you shared that already, I must have missed it. Or maybe you don't want to share that and I am just being nosey! (Rusty, I'm taking over for you!
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Dew, it really is amazing how resilient the little ones are. I bet it was harder on you having to look at her bruised little face than it was on her. I hope she heals quickly.
Star, I have been visiting the Just Starting Out and the General Discussion threads and you can feel the pain as you read. It is a therapeutic reminder of where we DON"T want to be. I have been trying to join in and offer encouragement there, but time is so limited! I am glad Mr. Star is on board with your AF efforts. I remember when you started out that his support was tepid. It is indeed a journey, and he should be grateful to you. You are like Moses leading him out of the dessert.:H Think where he would be without you!
Rusty, you have such a wonderful family!!! The not being "present" and being unreliable was exactly what Mr. Dill found so disturbing as well. He is so relieved those days are fading away.
Regarding going through this process alone or with a partner: I have often thought it would be easier for me to go through it alone. Especially early on, one's nerves are frayed and the mood swings are almost unmanagable. It seems it would be a benefit to be on my own so I'm not having to hold myself in check so as not to hurt Mr. D's feelings. Of course, when I snap at Mr. D or go for hours or days simply withdrawn from him and all the world, he can't help but take it personally. But it isn't really meant to be directed at him. He is just caught in the line of fire, a casualty of the battle. That happened often early on, thankfully it is only occassionally now, but it still does happen sometimes. Well, at least, that has how it has been for myself. Others may have completely different experiences!
Mr. G, are you affected by all the horrible flooding going on down under? I pray not.
Warm wishes Chill, Cyn, RB, SD, LBH, Lav, Mylife, Sooty, Sped and Rustop.
Greetings, JJ's,
Paguy, I think you should just revel in your "no drama going on at work at the moment". It seems so rare to have a period of relative peace. And as far as "a fire drill lurking around out there ready to happen", just keep your fingers crossed for milder weather when it comes! We had a fire drill yesterday when the temp was hovering around 30F and the wind was blowing pretty good. You're not allowed to go get your coat for a fire drill, so I stood with a class of preschool children, shivering in the breeze. We decided to all squeaze together like the penguins do, and the teachers stood as a wind break. It was quite the endurance test!:H
Papmom, you sound like a busy, busy lady. I am curious what kind of work you do. If you shared that already, I must have missed it. Or maybe you don't want to share that and I am just being nosey! (Rusty, I'm taking over for you!
)Dew, it really is amazing how resilient the little ones are. I bet it was harder on you having to look at her bruised little face than it was on her. I hope she heals quickly.
Star, I have been visiting the Just Starting Out and the General Discussion threads and you can feel the pain as you read. It is a therapeutic reminder of where we DON"T want to be. I have been trying to join in and offer encouragement there, but time is so limited! I am glad Mr. Star is on board with your AF efforts. I remember when you started out that his support was tepid. It is indeed a journey, and he should be grateful to you. You are like Moses leading him out of the dessert.:H Think where he would be without you!
They know I have beaten myself so many times about not being "present" and totally unreliable when my drinking was at its worst....and that those memories STILL haunt me, and they would just like me to move forward with a smile on my face and enjoy my life AF.
Regarding going through this process alone or with a partner: I have often thought it would be easier for me to go through it alone. Especially early on, one's nerves are frayed and the mood swings are almost unmanagable. It seems it would be a benefit to be on my own so I'm not having to hold myself in check so as not to hurt Mr. D's feelings. Of course, when I snap at Mr. D or go for hours or days simply withdrawn from him and all the world, he can't help but take it personally. But it isn't really meant to be directed at him. He is just caught in the line of fire, a casualty of the battle. That happened often early on, thankfully it is only occassionally now, but it still does happen sometimes. Well, at least, that has how it has been for myself. Others may have completely different experiences!
Mr. G, are you affected by all the horrible flooding going on down under? I pray not.
Warm wishes Chill, Cyn, RB, SD, LBH, Lav, Mylife, Sooty, Sped and Rustop.
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