Jubilant January ~ Week 1

[Stargazerlily]

Jubilant January ~ Week 1

Feeling good although I woke up around 4:00 a.m.!!!!!! Crazy. But I have been feeling good and go all day, so I guess I need to try and stay up longer, or something.

Talk about snow, upon waking up, I can see we already have 8-10 inches, with snow predicted all day today, tonight, and tomorrow. I am going to exercise this morning, then go to the store and make something healthy and good to eat. I refuse (working hard) to let the snow get me down.

Last night, my husband and I had a long talk about being AF. He mused that the alcohol deadens your feellings, and I thought of the quote from PAguy's book about likening being drunk as the closest thing to being dead, while still alive. He also talked about the guilt and shame, which I thought was interesting, as he has never really delved that deeply into the whole cycle.


Hello to all, will try to check in later.

[paguy]

Jubilant January ~ Week 1

Good Morning!

Star - I am getting an early start today, although not as early as you! I am feeling a bit more energized and I'm not going to let the winter weather hinder me, either. It's off to the gym and I think I'll make a nice pot of lentil soup today

Interesting, last night at dinner my partner openly admitted that his drinking and smoking is out of control and that it's going to kill him. In typical fashion, he headed down the path of "Well, I'll just have A glass of wine." I gently reminded him that he can never have just A glass of wine. What I am going to suggest tonight is that we start off one night a week (tonight) where we go out to dinner and he has NOTHING to drink at all and let him capture how he feels at the end of the night and more importantly, how he feels the following morning. We'll see how it goes....

Papmom - Congrats on your 8 month AF anniversary. You are such a positive and supportive voice here, I really enjoy your presence. Take time to be jubiliant today and relish your accomplishments.

Going to get ready for the gym - I hope to hit the 5 mile mark on the treadmill today!

Have a great day folks!

[cyntree]

Jubilant January ~ Week 1

Dearest Jubilators - good morning from the desert - I can't believe that I missed a day of posting - it felt quite strange, but I am glad to be able to read up on everyone's journey this (Sat) morning. Big, long full days here -- Inspection went fairly well on the house, have a couple of electrical and roofing issues to sort out. I am trying to guard against deep fatigue; so many things going on in every category of life at the moment. I'm thrilled to be AF and thrilled that it seems no longer any part of my life -- that's a cause for celebration (Trader Joe's sparkling cranberry bev!) I like the idea that we are building a new life where AL is not at the center. PA- what a loving, sensible approach you are taking with your partner, I hope it goes well. Star - wow what a conversation - you two are building a substantial ark to stay safe in together...

Rusty - hope your flight is going well, and that you found 'Shadow'....

Lav - good luck with your poochie. I had a serious scare with my girl last week - turned out to be gastr-enteritis, but she was a really sick pup. Have you read anything about feeding raw? Doesn't work for my dogs, but others swear by it - some dogs get their best nutrition that way. (And yes, you really are one of the most generous people on this site - bless you). When I move east, I'll be right over to help with your workspace...

Dewdrop, mylife, so wonderful to have you on here. Dew - a Buddhist retreat in Scotland? Two of my favorite things combined? Wow - I would love to be a little mouse packed in your lunch-bucket -- and btw your food sounds delish.

RB - I have a long story about someone who publicly harassed my HB for years...will tell you more about it later, but we found that the only real possibility was to ignore, though it was the hardest thing. Good luck - maybe it's another one of those major Detachment excercises.

Chill - you are amazing. Brava on how you are handling everything.

Sped - where are you? How are you?

Mr G - always great to hear from you, glad to know you are safe and sound there on the other side of the world. Rusty - why not just keep flying east from Barcelona until you find Mr G? Get a preview of the special birthday outfit.

PMom, SD et al - good luck with the snow, take care of yourselves with your long days and the cold...

Sorry if I missed anyone - must dash now, lots to do before we look at rental properties here -- will fill everyone in on our move plans at some point -

sending warmth and light ------

[sdlovespackers]

Jubilant January ~ Week 1

Good Afternoon!!

You all do such a good job of addressing everyone, I wish I was better at that!! By the time I read everyone's post, and get to typing my own, I can only remember 3 or 4 things I was going to comment on!:H And I always know there is more!!!

Star-I'm curious where youare in the Midwest (and I'm almost certain you've said before)? We didn't get any snow today :wow: (what a shock) but it is once again bitter cold and very windy. Many schools weren't open yesterday (because of the high winds and blowing and drifting snow)...we ended up closing at 1:00!! Winters sure get long!!!

Lav-hope your pup is feeling better. My dog is weird (I may have mentioned this a time or two):H but is this normal??? She burps!! And I swear when she does it she looks at my with a twinkle in her doggie eye...(it's a huge pet-peeve of mine...I've been cracking down with on my son!) Cute when he was little...maybe. He's 9, not so cute anymore! Now the dog does it!!!:H

Paguy--I like that approach to your partner. Sounds like he's at the point we all got to>>"the realization and questioning" phase! That's a good thing!

mylife-I have to be honest...I had HUGE cravings last night. They almost made me mad!! I did all the self talking in my head...actually thought about what Chill must have told herself that first month a year ago (and now look how far she's come!!!). Got through last night, AF and am glad I did. I would have been upset with myself today if I hadn't. I had some friends ask me out and couldn't go, as usual (no babysitter)...and was feeling sorry for myself...haven't been "out" with adults since last New Years. Promised myself I wouldn't be a home body this year! Thought I "deserved" to have "fun" too and watch the Texas/LSU game with some beers. Dumb!!

Dew--this is probably a dumb question and I apologize but what do you do at the Buddhist Center? Is it an all day Meditation thing? What's it like? I'm VERY unfamiliar with all the above (as you probably can tell...sorry).

Cyn--Congrats on the selling of your home...isn't moving, albeit nerve racking and stressful...so exciting at the same time!!!??

I'm going to have to echo cyn here...Sped, hope you check in soon!! Miss you!!

Dill--Are you getting snow there?? How was your first week back to school?? Mine (((UGH)))!! Again, not the kids...adults!! We just have such a toxic staff, it's sad really!! I'm going to start applying for principal jobs around here..if for nothing more than experience interviewing. I know there will be an opening in our district starting next year, as one of the principals is resigning on Monday. Highly doubtful I'd get it..word on the street is the Super already knows who he wants to hire. Our school runs on the 'Good 'ol Boy" System here!! SO SAD!!!

Wishing everyone a fantastic Saturday...going to do some cleaning and then taking my son to his first hockey game...yikes...I hope he doesn't EVER want to do this sport...he has such a beautiful smile and nice set of teeth!!:H

Rusty--FOOTBALL...GREEN BAY.....TOMORROW!!! WOOT! WOOT!!
SD

[Chillgirl]

Jubilant January ~ Week 1

SD - Get your ass over to week 2!!!!
and dont panic you can copy and paste.......:H