Jubilant January - week 4

[Cassia]

Jubilant January - week 4

Hi all

Interesting to read about the sugar addiction. I had a discussion with my trainer about it this morning. His wife is a nutritionist and he was saying that if i want to lose weight i need to reduce my sugar in take drastically as sugar fuels insulin which in turn encourages fat storage and messes about with your metabolism. Not good! I definitely have a sugar addiction though although its a creeping addiction - you sometimes don't even release it.

Lav - snow is just awful - I hate it! I hope the chickens are ok!

Chill - Have a great time with your friend this weekend!

Star - work people are just so ugh sometimes - I am sorry that you have been put into a position that you have to look for another job - its not easy out there. I am trying to job hunt from abroad at the moment and it has been pretty difficult - its hard to know the right people to speak to. You are definitely on the right track with the whole networking idea. It's always good to get out there and find out what is happening in your industry. Plus, it saves prospective employers fees on recruitment consultants if they can meet people out with the actual process.

Hello to everyone else - I hope you have all had a good Wednesday. My day was fair to middling - I feel like I am constantly fighting fires at work and trying to get anything positive accomplished can always be a struggle.

xx

[Dewdrop]

Jubilant January - week 4

I?m going to be quick tonight as I have friends coming soon, made vegetarian chilli with soya and beef chilli with chunks of choritzo sausage, tomato & red onion salad, crusty bread and a dish of grated mature cheddar to sprinkle on top; I?m also doing brown rice and lentils an idea from a recipe on MWO.

The meditation group last night was lovely, I was actually feeling very stressed and anxious after work we had a team update meeting all day which was very challenging and confrontational (Paguy I am on your wavelength!) and I was late getting home ? not a good start! However once I had put on the stove and coal fire, lit some candles and changed out of the suit into comfy clothes I started to feel better and once they arrived it was just such a relaxing, peaceful night and I was so happy to have all these lovely people in my house. I went to bed very content and happy ? how precious is that? Chill have a fabulous weekend, what a lovely time to have someone special come visit.

Right need to fly and check on the rice & lentils

Dewdrop :h

[rebirth]

Jubilant January - week 4

Hi cassia, hi Dew.

Rustop that sounds heavenly!! I am gonna have to omit the red wine though cause I may be tempted to drink whats left over..wonder if that matters. Will let you know.Who is Mary Berry? Is she american?

[papmom3]

Jubilant January - week 4

Hi JJers!
Well, I was able to do both meditations last night before bed and they were wonderful!! It's the first time I've EVER tried meditating and I fell in love with it!! I got up extra early this morning to do Day 3 but the link was broken and kept going to Day 2. I guess I should have just repeated Day 2 but my OCD part of me said "it's Day 3, I need to do Day 3 on Day 3" :H
So I will do Day 3 tonite.

The snow started around 4pm today just as I was leaving work as tonite was agility nite. Got the cancellation phone call around 4:10. It was tough getting home. Visibility was bad and the roads were very slick. got home safe and sound tho.

I want to share something that happened today. I got an email from the people who run the facility where we do agility. It was a group email asking who was interested in doing six more weeks of level 3. Then the next paragraph was addressed to me saying my trainer wanted me to go back to level 3 (I had moved up to level 4 at her request). I was pretty peeved and embarrassed as I had just been demoted in front of my former classmates and my trainer had never told me she thought I would do better back at level 3!! A year ago I would have stewed and whined and bought a couple of bottles on the way home to drown my mortification and hurt feelins. Instead, I shot off a very nice but very firm email to my trainer explaining that I did not feel I had been treated very respectfully etc etc. I got a very nice apologetic email back from her saying she had no idea they were going to tell me in a group email and she was very sorry she hadn't taken the time to tell me herself. She explained that because DD can't do weave poles very well yet I should probably go down a level. But, I can choose whichever level I want. She felt very badly but I felt very proud of myself for taking a stand even tho I wasn't sure how she would react. All i good-We have 2 more classes at this level and then I can make a decision. I think what I'll do is practice very hard the next 2 weeks at home and make sure he has weave poles down by the start of the next session.

Lav-I forgot to tell you that my SIL is thinking seriously of getting some chickens!! That means of course that my bro now has to build her a super coop so the coyotes and fox don't get them!!

Chill-how wonderful that Wanna is coming for a visit!! I really hope that I get to meet some of you in the near future!!

Star-good luck with the job hunt. I just submitted an application to a school I have been trying to work at for the past 10 years!! Maybe number 6 is the charm????

Rustop-neat recipe. RB-please let us know how it turns out without the wine. Can't you get non AL red wine to use?

Cassia-your trainer's wife is so right!! I know it's a full blown addiction because once I have a sweet, I can't stop and I want more and more. right now I want a whoopie pie but no way am I going out in this weather. Plus, I've been tracking on WW online for 3 days straight and I need no help from sugar things to use up my points :H!

Dew-your chili sounded heavenly!! I'm finishing up what my brother sent me home with tonite. Maybe Sunday I will make a crockpot full. Maybe.

Hi Sped-where I went to college was one hour west of that time zone I think you might be in. I was in IL. All I remember is that it was very confusing!!

John-did I forget to congratulate you on your 8 miles? Wow!! I have to yet again delay the Couch to 5K training as my foot still is tender. Sigh. Hopefully next week will be the one!!

Oh Rusty!! Where are you???????

[sdlovespackers]

Jubilant January - week 4

Quick fly by....still here....just SUUUUPPER busy....weren't things suppose to slow down after I got down with classes?!?!?! Hopefully I can jump on tomorrow at work....dinner is just about done!!! ((((((((((((((((Big HUGS everyone)))))))))))))))))
Maybe Rusty is busy preparing for the SUPER BOWL!!!!!! GO PACKERS!!!!!!!!!
SD:l

[Rusty]

Jubilant January - week 4

Hi Jubilant Friends,

Thank you, Rebirth and Papmom, for the PMs. I have enjoyed a few days of a lovely vacation in Carmel and Monterey, CA with my nephew and his family. He is in the Marine Corps and is off to South Africa in a couple of months. It was heavenly, but, in my haste to get to the airport Saturday, silly early a.m. I forgot my laptop power cord.:upset: I haven't done that in 6 years. The hotel's computer would not allow me to log onto MWO

Star-a while back, you reached out to us and asked what advice we had on how to handle difficult people at work. I read your post about your difficult co-worker giving you a hard time about vacation days. Here's the best piece of advice I've ever received in my careers...I say careers...because I've changed careers several times. Back in 1995, I was in a sales position, and the woman who hired me was 30 years older than I was....no college degree....raised 6 kids with an alcoholic husband, but worldly beyond her years. There were 2 women whom we worked with who were toxic....devious...always trying to undermine her...her name was Patti. They were jealous of her because she was so well-respected by the company's owners and these two women took every opportunity to make her look bad while pretending to be her friend. She told me, "with people like that, you can't confront them and tell them they're devious, because then they'll deny it, and make things twice as miserable for you...and they dig their heels in." She said, just stay one step ahead of them...meaning...project their next move, and think like they would think...but then never let onto them that you know what they are doing. This advice has carried me since then. Wishing you good luck in your job search. Have been in your shoes many, many times before.

I have to travel again tomorrow. I'm exhausted now. Will check in later.

[papmom3]

Jubilant January - week 4

thanks for checking in Rusty and SD!! So glad all is well. SD-you are ZOOMING girl!! Any time for the meditation challenge? I have my Hot Cocoa all ready and then after that it's to bed and Day 3!! Can't wait!!

Rusty-safe travels!!

:l

[Lavande]

Jubilant January - week 4

My Greater Swiss Mountain dog refuses to stay out in the snow - I think the thunder freaked her out :H:H
Thunder snow is just ridiculous!

Good to hear from you Rusty. Monterey is one of my all time fav places

I'm learning a bit about web design & right now my eyes are killing me from staring at the computer all day

My neighbors have been taking turns plowing my driveway today - guess I should strive to be more neighborly when they come stealing firewood.......

Have a cozy night everyone!
Lav

[paguy]

Jubilant January - week 4

Good Evening Friends:

Lav - Yes, the thunder snow was incredible earlier this evening. I was driving home from the gym and saw a flash of lightning in near blizzard conditions. Then I started to hear thunder. I'm not sure I ever experienced this before - very strange.

Yes, we are in the midst of another snowstorm and Papmom, I know Massachusetts is supposed to get slammed again. I feel so sorry for you. I remember my days when I lived in Vermont and Massachusetts and 6 months of snow can be so depressing.

Papmom - Good for you in your thoughtful response to your trainer. Isn't it amazing when you think back of how you would have reacted before being AF? The typical response to situations like the one you described would be for me to make sure I had plenty of liquor in the house. And in the end, no problem was solved and no progress was made. Congratulations!

Star - I have always said the hardest part of any job is the people you work with. I guess it's human nature but there are just so many miserable people out there who have their own agendas and are determined to make everyone else feel as miserable as they do. Good luck with your networking and job search.

Lav and others - I have dabbled with creating web sites. There are so many free sites and services that provide you the tools and templates to create web sites, blogs, etc. Here are 2 sites that I've used:

Squidoo : Welcome to Squidoo
www.blogspot.com

The Squidoo site allows you to create websites or 'lenses' that you can add advertising to and any income that is generated can be donated to your charity of choice; or, be an extra source of income for yourself.

The Blogspot site is hosted by Google and enables you to create your own blog.

Depending on how much snow we get tonight and how late into the evening and early morning it continues to snow, tomorrow may be a work at home day for me. I hope the electricity stays on!

Lav - I hope you adorable chickens are safe and sound in this miserable weather.

Rusty - Sounds like you are enjoying a well deserved vacation. How many airline miles do you log each year??

Well, gang, that's all for now..... Hope everyone has a peaceful evening....

[Stargazerlily]

Jubilant January - week 4

Good morning all....

Well, my fellow worker again tried to throw me under the bus....to our new supervisor, by an out and out lie. She confronted me during our meeting and I stuck to my guns, telling her that I can take time off without checking with her. So, do I say something to my supervisor, or just let it go? I have been afraid in the past that this person is trying to ruin my career. She wants to be my boss, and is not. She is a bully. Someone told me to tell our supervisor that she leaves during the day, and I am the only one who knows....what a positionI am in. My gut tells me to just leave it be, do my job, and look elsewhere. Any opinions? Rusty, I appreciate your input, I just never know how to be a step ahead of her because I don't think like that, and I am too busy at work to have time to create drama over mickey mouse crap. I also have a fear of going to a new job and it being even worse....that happened to me in the past.

Lav and John, you will get through this storm, next week is February. That is what I am telling myself. There is a snow storm coming my way, too.

Sped, I live in the time zone area too, and we never know what time it is.

I am feeling really strong regarding being AF. I have plans this weekend that do not involve any alcohol, feel well physically and more able to manage my life. This is a gift and I plan to hold onto it.

To all, a great AF day.

[rebirth]

Jubilant January - week 4

Rusty There you are! Nice to see you back. x

Star- what a difficult situation. Why do people have to be so nasty?? I personally would speak to your advisor confidentially. Explain the behaviour from your work colleague and how its making you feel. Bullying in the wrokplace is an offence. Remember that the law is on your side. Grit your teeth and stand your ground ( like P3 did). Go kick ass!

Wow, you guys are having alot of snow!

[Cassia]

Jubilant January - week 4

Star-

I have an idea. If she is in the habit of leaving during the day, you should schedule a meeting with your supervisor perhaps on a weekly basis at the times she is normally not there. Make sure you can meet somewhere so your supervisor can see that your colleague isn't around. She can the figure it out for herself.

I don't know the history behind you relationship with this crazy woman but have you sat down and had a clear the air meeting? Ask what her issue is and put her on the back foot. Maybe say to her that you want to resolve it between the two of you before taking further action?

Look for another job in the meantime too.

X

[Rusty]

Jubilant January - week 4

Hi Everyone,

I have to travel for work again today. Thank you again for your concern.:h

Star-I know you don't know how to think like that person...but you can probably figure it out. The beauty of SILENTLY or SUBTLELY staying one step ahead of that person is that you don't create any drama....you're just protecting yourself. Just know that this toxic person does this to everyone....not just you. If you like your job and want to stay, then I think I would meet with your supervisor privately, and just explain what this woman is doing and let your new supervisor know that you'll do everything in your power to work with him/her. If you just go to your supervisor and say she leaves during work hours, then it looks like you're tattling. I'm offering my input because I've been in your shoes and truly want to help.

:welcome: Cassia! It's wonderful to have you on our thread.

Chill-have fun with Wanna this weekend. I like her. She's a great gal.

Rebirth-how are you, Asian beauty? What happened to Ms. Psycho?

John-I'll e-mail you later. I just love your posts-you're always so helpful.

Papmom...all I can say is :goodjob: on handling that e-mail so maturely, calmly, and with a clear head. I admire you so much! You are right...if you had been drinking, who knows what would have happened.:upset: I know when I was drinking at its worst....anything would have set me off. I AM PROUD OF YOU!

Hi Dew-what time is dinner?:H Your meal sounds fabulous.

Lav-I promise...your Barcelona gift will be in the mail on Saturday.

SD-I was wearing my green and gold Packer rally beads when I was flying to CA last weekend, and some guy at the Dallas airport offered me $20 for them. I said, "NO WAY." :-)

Gotta run. I love you guys.

[paguy]

Jubilant January - week 4

Good Morning Folks:

15 inches of fresh snow is out there this morning. At least it has stopped. The cleanup begins.

Star - During our planning meeting the other day at work, our boss stepped us through a triangle called the '5 dysfunctions of a team'. Lack of trust and fear of confrontation are at the base of the triangle. This all leads to a lack of commitment and no results. It really is a shame when there is 1 person on a team that can cause so much turmoil. I like Cassia's idea of 'setting up' your co-worker by scheduling meetings with your supervisor during the times when the troublemaker has stepped out of the office. I feel for you as I have worked with people I did not trust and it just makes for a bad situation. Also, as Cassia suggested, confront her and get the issues on the table. I had to do this with one of my peers 2 years ago. She was lying and mis-representing the truth and I called her on it. She learned quickly that I wasn't going to take it. Although we never developed a 'friendly' working relationship, she knew her boundaries with me. Confrontation can be very difficult and uncomfortable - but, when you take a stand, people will respect you.

The guy who does my snowplowing hasn't shown up yet so I'm not sure what I'm doing yet for work today....

Have a good day everyone....

[paguy]

Jubilant January - week 4

Hey Rusty - Good Morning!