AF Daily ~ 20th Feb 2011

[Cassia]

Morning all,

I hope everyone had an awesome Saturday!!!

I had a terrible dream last night that I actually woke up crying (I had been crying in the dream). It got me thinking about our nocturnal dreams. What are they? Do they mean anything? Cam we take anything from them? Should we worry about them?

I would love to hear your thoughts.

Xx

[one2many]

AF Daily ~ 20th Feb 2011

Hey Cassia and Abberooneys!!

I think dreams play a very significant part in our lives and hold symbolic messages for us. I have started to pay more attention to mine, funny that the ones that i am most upset in, usually mean something good!

Had a nice dinner last night but had to send my dessert back (unheard of for me as I am hopeless at complaining). I knew if i didn't I would be pissed off all night. Big stride for me.

Having a lazy day at home today, filling up the last of the skip and playing with the kids, so many Sundays of the past were really an endurance test of getting thru the day with a hangover and feeling shite. As many of you may remember, after a long time AF, I decided to "mod" and altho I did not go overboard, the measuring, mental battle, waiting, deliberating, wishing and pretending was such a noose around my neck that I KNEW that AF was the only way for me. it would have escalated back to previous levels as time went on, nothing surer than that. AF is the only way. Happy and heathy.

Hope you all have a fantastic Sober Sunday!

[jennyneric]

AF Daily ~ 20th Feb 2011

Good morning Cassia and Oney and all to come.

Why can't I sleep past 6? It's really annoying!

Anyway today is #9 double digits tomorrow! yeah baby!

Cleaning and shopping today. Then to bed early for work tomorrow. Same ol' same ol'! I love it!

Oney what is a "skip"?

One things for sure . . .

[one2many]

AF Daily ~ 20th Feb 2011

This is a skip....decluttering the house....altho peeps are taking stuff out of it when we are in bed but thats a good thing!

[Lavande]

AF Daily ~ 20th Feb 2011

Good morning Abbers,

WOW Oney - now that's what I call decluttering the house :H:H Have fun with that

Cassia, I too have woken tears on my face lately. Sad because I am a happy person but true because of my idiot husband. It started after he ran out on me last April after 37 years of marriage. Very, very hard on me emotionally. I'm still trying to process the whole thing & the stress is going to come out one way or the other. I'm firm in my quits though, I will not smoke or drink beacuse of that asshole.

On a brighter note, I'm baking a batch of Labor Cookies for my daughter today :H
Apparently they have been effective in bringing on labor for some people - so why not try? My daughter said YES, please bake them :H

Have a greatr Sunday!
Lav

[greeneyes]

AF Daily ~ 20th Feb 2011

Morning fabbie abbies!

Oney... erm... that's a shite load of clutter! :H In USA sometimes people get (rent I guess) one of those when there has been a flooding, fire, major renovation.....

Jenny I am an early riser but I enjoy it. I like morning time of day best.

Cassai, I think there are lots of ideas about dreams. I have been told that they are just our subconscious mind sorting things and they are no big deal. On the other hand, some guidance or insight might be gleaned from them on occasion, but I wouldn't view them in a bothersome or worrisome way.

Oney I hear ya on the noose around your neck! Geeez, NOT drinking was as consuming as drinking when I thought I would try to drink normally. What a waste of time and energy! Not to mention that it DID take me back to previous levels. I know you've realized a lot more free time having kicked the ciggies too, right?

Well.... time for a smoothie and my All One befor I OD on coffee.

Savor your sober sunday!

[greeneyes]

AF Daily ~ 20th Feb 2011

X-post Lav! What's in those labor cookies? :l :l to you regarding the processing. I continually wish a place of peace for you surrounding that.

[one2many]

AF Daily ~ 20th Feb 2011

LMAO, we only got the smallest size which is tiny compared to the pic above. Wob had to clearout the shed and all his rubbish and crap from the garden, my house is like a new pin tho!.

Lav, great to see how solid you are in your quits, you are an inspiration on how it CAB be done even when you have overwhelming sadness....hope the stork comes today.

Greeniebum, I do notice a lot more time since I kicked the smokes..in fact since smoke and booze went out of my life, I wonder WTF was I thinking wasting time doing either!

Wob is like a porn star with no dangly bits today because he has a hangover, he won't admit it tho.....I never did either when I was drinking, otherwise I would have to admit there was a oproblem and it was affecting me negatively, I would have rather died than do that!

[Mstall]

AF Daily ~ 20th Feb 2011

Thanks for starting us out Cassia! Hello all you fabulous Abbers!

I'm not sure about the dream thing, i find most of my dreams to be mixtures of real life and fantasy where i wake up thinking "really?"

Oney - i can so relate to drinking as being much more stressful than just abstaining. Nothing to think about and frees you up to get on with the day.

((((Lav)))) - I did not know about your husband. I feel that your future will be brighter down the road and he will come to regret walking away from you.

Labor Cookies! I think you could market that!

and i'm with Greenie on mornings! it's my favorite time of day, all to myself before my teenager wakes up.

Will be cleaining house today as another snow storm is supposed to show up this afternoon. Thankfully February is almost over!!

Have a super sober Sunday all!!

[one2many]

AF Daily ~ 20th Feb 2011

I got this in my inbox this morning and thought I would share.It certainly hit a note with me..

Letting Go.



To "let go" does not mean to stop caring,

it means I can’t do it for someone else.

To "let go" is not to cut myself off,

it’s the realization I can’t control another.

To "let go" is not to enable, but to allow

learning from natural consequences.

To "let go" is to admit powerlessness,

which means the outcome is not in my hands.

To "let go" is not to try to change or blame another,

it is to make the most of myself.

To "let go" is not to care for, but to care about.

To "let go" is not to fix, but to be supportive.

To "let go" is not to judge, but to allow another to be a

human being.

To "let go" is not to be in the middle arranging all the

outcomes,

but to allow others to affect their own destinies.

To "let go" is not to be protective, it is to permit another

to face reality.

To "let go" is not to deny, but to accept.

To "let go" is not to nag, scold or argue, but instead

to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.

To "let go" is not to adjust everything to my desires,

but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.

To "let go" is not to regret the past, but to grow and live

for the future.

To "let go" is to fear less and love more.

Louise L. Hay

[jennyneric]

AF Daily ~ 20th Feb 2011

one2many;1063220 wrote:
Wob is like a porn star with no dangly bits today because he has a hangover, he won't admit it tho.....I never did either when I was drinking, otherwise I would have to admit there was a oproblem and it was affecting me negatively, I would have rather died than do that!

LOL, no dangly bits!? That is a new one to me! I love it!

[Mstall]

AF Daily ~ 20th Feb 2011

To "let go" is not to adjust everything to my desires,

but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.

I LOVE THAT LINE! Thanks Oney!

[Cassia]

AF Daily ~ 20th Feb 2011

Ok - just lost my post - LAME!!!! Also, feeling a wee bit sick since I overindulged in Nestle Tollhouse cookies...you also might want to make yourself a panini - this is a long post.

Mstall - great to see you and fingers crossed that the snow stays away

Greenie - what kind of smoothie did you make?

Lav - I am so so sorry to hear that - I knew that there was a bit of aggro between you and your husband but I didn't envisage for a second that he had walked out of you after that length of time married - what a dipshit (sorry language). You are so right though - he is not worth your sobriety and you really are an inspiration to us all. I won't even attempt to empathise as I have no idea what you are going through. What I will do though is light a candle for you at mass next week in the hopes that your happy self returns soon.

Oney - love the letting go post - particularly the final one about the future - it's so important to let go of the past - you can't change it so no point in holding on to it. Also, well done on complaining!!! I am impressed.

Jenny - here's to two digits tomorrow!!! I know what you mean about same old same old but isn't it comforting?

So, I reach 60 days some time this week and I am feeling good. I can't remember if I told y'all last night but my friend said something that kinda wound me up last night (and this is my best friend too). We went to the pub before going to the cinema and I told her that it was the first time I had been in the pub since I quit drinking. And she was like, that's not good - you should be able to go to the pub and not drink. And I thought - hang on a minute here - I have had no reason to go to the pub since I quit drinking for PRECISELY that - I don't drink. I don't shoot guns either so should I go and hang out at a shooting range. It was just so odd. Anyway - she seems to think I am heading to moderation no matter how much I tell her that I ain't drinking. We will see....

On a brighter note - just emailed two UK based recruitment consultants that focus on global recruitment. I am trying a new tact. Hopefully they can help.

xxx

[LVT25]

AF Daily ~ 20th Feb 2011

Hello friends,

Thanks for sharing the bit about Letting Go. I've read it before but it is a good one for me. Something I constantly have to work on. Oney I'm glad you joined this thread.:h

Its funny you guys mentioned dreams this morning. I had a dream last night, that I was tired of watching everyone drinking those cold bottles of beer around me and announced that I thought I was going to just start drinking again. I was concerned however that I would immediately start smoking too. Glad it was just a dream.

Let us know how those labor cookies turn out Lav.

[universal]

AF Daily ~ 20th Feb 2011

Hi guys!

I went to an awesome meeting this morning - very great way to start a Sunday.

That was an inspirational quote - thanks Oney!

Hope the labour cookies work - if they do let me know - my sister in law is ready to pop!

I am just popping in quick as I have to run out the door again - just wanted to say hi.

Oh, and you can all have the handyman today - he's in a pissy mood! LOL - He's all yours!


Love and hugs,
Uni