AF Daily ~ 4th March 2011

[Cassia]

All

Had to share this quote. Thoughts?

"The purpose of our lives is to give birth to the best which is within us. -Marianne Williamson?

Xx

[jennyneric]

AF Daily ~ 4th March 2011

Good Morning Abbers!

The error is human, to forgive Divine. . .

I've been saying that to myself all night. Hasn't helped. . .

Today is Friday! It's gonna be a wonderful day! I have a huge project at work that is fun and will keep me busy. I love busy! Not sure what tonight will bring. Probably more Dexter and catching up on my shows that I have missed cause I've only been watching Dexter. LOL

Hope everyone has a great day!

One things for sure. . .

[Lavande]

AF Daily ~ 4th March 2011

Good Friday morning Abbers!

Cassia, thanks for the quote & I feel I am a work in progress :H

Jenny, I am sorry that your SIL causes so much trauma & drama in the family.
It really is hard to watch someone so destructive & even harder to watch people continue to enable her. Step away if you can & protect yourself, she needs to live out her drama :l

I plan to hurry thru a bit of work today so I can go do some baby holding this afternoon

Have a great Friday everyone!
Lav

[Gaia]

AF Daily ~ 4th March 2011

Hello Abbies!

Happy Friday. Lav I think that Lily is just the bees knees. What a joy.

Cassia thanks for the quote. Well I agree with it. I have never heard Williamson speak but she seems popular. I know weight loss, I mean real weight loss not just getting the scale down by 5 pounds, is a real issue for many. I think it seems little obvious, though. Flip it and it sounds ridiculous:

The Purpose of our lives is to give birth to the worst in us.
The Purpose of our lives is to kill the best in us.

Nah.

I like to think of it as karma. As you may have heard, all love given returns. I hope that's true.

With love,
T.

[Gaia]

AF Daily ~ 4th March 2011

Hi Jenny - I didn't want to leave you out.

[Doggygirl]

AF Daily ~ 4th March 2011

Hi fabbies! Running late so gotta zoom zoom. Wanted to take a quick moment to say hi to everyone. And Lav, to thank you for that good advice about family drama. That applies to me too right now and I can use every reminder I can get to keep my nose out of it and let others do what they gotta do.

(((Jenny)))) - sounds like we might be on similar pages here (I am not caught up from yesterday)

Love you guys one and all. :h One thing is for sure..

DG

[Mstall]

AF Daily ~ 4th March 2011

Morning Abbers!

I'm in a bit of a rush this morning. I love that quote Cassia - I have a book from her and that quote has prompted me to start reading it.

I get to pick up my computer glasses this morning before work. I'm very excited as i did a lot of typing for our attorney yesterday and my neck is killing me.

Getting a hair cut tonight and then I'll catch up with everything going on here. See you all later. have a great sober FRIDAY!!

[greeneyes]

AF Daily ~ 4th March 2011

Yo Bitches! (had to)

Thanks for the start cassia! Regarding the quote, if that is so.... I've had some major labor pains over time! :H

Lave a daily dose of baby-holding has just got to be the cure-all, eh? (happy & clean baby, that is )

Jenny, I read your remarks about your SIL. I'd like to refer you to Sheri's thread called "letting go: the art of detatchment" or something like that which is in the What We Believe section. Lav is right. Stay out of the drama. And I know you don't like Fridays and you have dealt with them in a superb manner so far (bravo!) If you use this as an excuse, it will be just that - an excuse. And I WILL give you an arse kicking. Make a good solid plan for today and stay away from that issue. It isn't yours. Serenity prayer. :l

I had lunch with relatives passing through town yesterday. "No thank you, I still don't drink" happened. I considered a NA beer with my sandwich, but I've never done that and decided to leave it that way.

I'm liking my new walking shoes. I hope my joint issues continue to improve. AA, I've done well with New Balance and I wear custom made orthotic inserts in them. Also, I walk on the ground VS the sidewalk as much as I can.

Shout out to all to come! One thing is for sure.

[greeneyes]

AF Daily ~ 4th March 2011

Hi mstall! You might consider therapeutic neck stretching exercises to do on a regular basis. Might consider a chiropractor to check the curvature in your neck. If the vertebra become unstable in the loss of curve, they can begin to create calcification to fuse.

Hey DG - didn't see you fly by!

[LVT25]

AF Daily ~ 4th March 2011

Hello friends,

Jenny, I read your remarks about your SIL. I'd like to refer you to Sheri's thread called "letting go: the art of detatchment" or something like that which is in the What We Believe section. Lav is right. Stay out of the drama. And I know you don't like Fridays and you have dealt with them in a superb manner so far (bravo!) If you use this as an excuse, it will be just that - an excuse. And I WILL give you an arse kicking. Make a good solid plan for today and stay away from that issue. It isn't yours. Serenity prayer.
I concur.

Super quick check in today. I spent 3 hours with my pastor yesterday morning and did not get as much of my bookwork done as I should have. They are leaving in a month, and I guess I'm trying to take as much in as I can. I am an elder in the church so I will be right in the middle of this whole transition. I found out last night that there is real potential for misunderstanding and disagreements. This could be a real test for me.

I was a little angry with my DH last night. I suggested that he might want to have a man to man talk with our 16 year old son about sex basically. All he could do was grumble about how they never talk to him, they never want to help him, they never want him to teach them how to do things. (I thought to myself-like what-drink beer?) Anyway, I told him I would talk to him, but I thought it might be something that as a father he should.
He doesn't understand that we have such different ways of parenting, and obviously the boys spend way more time with me and therefore feel more comfortable talking to me. So many of the "conversations" he has with the boys are when hes mad at them or he is barking at them about something or running down their music or calling them lazy. I don't like to be around him when he's like that, why would they? And when he's not doing that, he is asleep in his chair or bed. He loves them very much, but they simply do not come first in his daily life, like they do mine. I guess I better decide what I am going to say in this sex talk.

This weekend should be fun and productive I hope. #2 son has a basketball tournament, but only 3 games total and it is here. So, I should be able to put this house back in order and get my own bookwork done. We are in a winter weather advisory again. :upset: Yesterday felt like spring though, we are getting close!

Have a great sober weekend all!!! Hi to everyone! (Love the quote Cassia--keep em coming, I collect them!) :h

[jennyneric]

AF Daily ~ 4th March 2011

Thanks for the advice. I need to read that thread. Maybe that is what I will do tonight. Also I think I will either go visit my best friend in jail or go to my husbands bosses house for a little baby holding of my own, they have a 3 month old boy. They drink tho, non of them drink vodka so it won't be there but I have left their house many a night and headed straight to the liquor store so maybe not tonight. I'll work on my plan today. I will not allow myself to fail.

[universal]

AF Daily ~ 4th March 2011

morning everyone!

I literally just woke up an hour ago (10:30am). WTF? Obviously my body needed the sleep.

I need to catch up too but to everyone dealing with challenges today - stay strong, you are not alone.

I am outta here, got lots to do today and since I slept in I am behind the 8 ball. I'll check back later.

Love and hugs,
Uni

[Doggygirl]

AF Daily ~ 4th March 2011

Hi everyone. LVT, I will not suggest what I first thought of - sending those teens to Northwestern University to learn what they need to know about the birds and bees. :H (I'm assuming that incident made the news beyond Chicago???) Anyway...all joking aside - best wishes to you for the talk. I'm figuring you probably have a clear idea of how you think the message might be delivered, so maybe you are the best person for the job??? :l Mean time, have fun at the bball tourney.

Jenny. AL is CUNNING. BAFFLING. POWERFUL. Please do not go to your husbands bosses house tonight. That is all. Don't underestimate things. You are doing great, and were SO WISE to post your thoughts of where this has led before. Reading Sheri's thread will be enjoyable I think. A much better option. (visiting the jail is probably a good option too - just sounds so odd to say it! I'm sure your friend is very grateful that you are willing to spend time there with her)

I am so mad at my accountant right now I could spit. F'd up our Feb Payroll which caused some other problems and cost $$$. I am trying to use this as an opportunity to practice patience, and give him a chance to respond and offer some appropriate amend (or not) rather than just fire him right now. Maybe if I live to be 150 I will become a more patient person. In sobriety, I can see how this impatience and reactionary nature serves to make ME miserable - not the other person. Resentments are a killer.

In more fun news, I'm off to deliver a Mary Kay order. Special service which will make my client's daughter VERY happy. It's nice to be able to do that!

Curves too. I need to burn off some steam. This should be a killer crazy great workout.

DG

[momof3]

AF Daily ~ 4th March 2011

Good Morning all.

Love Marianne Williamson. Here is one of my favorite quotes that I have posted on the wall between my daughter's bedrooms:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

LVT--Sorry to hear about your husband. I am reminded of how a person with an addiction takes no responsibility for him or herself. FYI, I don't know if you belong to a church, but our Unitarian Universalist church offers a human sexuality program called O.W.L. (stands for Our Whole Lives). They have programs at the Kindergarten level all the way up to Adulthood. My 13 year old is currently in the middle school version. She is learning EVERYTHING. I like the program because it goes beyond standard FLE (Family Life Education) and focuses on the social aspects...communication, assertiveness, the responsibilities that come with having a sexual relationship, etc. We have had some amazing conversations.

Jenny. Please listen to Greenie and DG (even though they are only 29 years old). When I reflect on my many relapses, I realize that for each one, I KNEW when I was vulnerable to drinking but put myself in that situation anyway. It has been a big lesson for me in listening to my inner voice (in all aspects of my life).

DG, I admire you for your patience and for not reacting to your book keeper. Just think, if you were still drinking you would have already unloaded on him and there would be little or no chance to repair your relationship with him!! Now, you are only thinking about what you would like to say to him instead of actually saying it. Big difference!!

Big week for me next week and I am pretty anxious. I'm piloting a leadership program on M - Th. I never would have considered doing this when I was drinking because I would have been an anxious mess.

M3

[jennyneric]

AF Daily ~ 4th March 2011

So far so good. I am still obsessing about the email my SIL sent me last night but I deleted it so I could not read it over and over so the words are starting to fade. I am considering going to the court house and having a looking at the court records from today to find out what happened, however, no matter the outcome I will not be happy with it so maybe that is a bad idea and I should just try to leave it alone. Very hard for me.

I have had no drinking thoughts, I have not made any plans to drink. I have called my hubby and said I would be home at 5:30 so I would not have a chance to say yes to a happy hour invite or get side tracked by a social gathering. I think I will go straight home on this night, change into my PJ's have something yummy for dinner and dessert and watch some tv and read up here. If I don't leave my house I can drink cause there is nothing there to drink. Honestly I am really not having a problem right now but because I am very emotional currently I know I am at high risk and I want to nip any problems in the bud. That's all. Thanks for the support!