AF daily sat 5 March

[bear73]

Morning all - sat here with coffee - trying to register for a roller derby bootcamp with a page that is meant to have a link but doesn't - aaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrgggggggghhh!

Load of washing in the machine and just had a book delivered that I ordered 'anti aging beauty bible' road tests tonnes of products on 1000s of women and tells you which ones really work - also have 'beauty bible' too and 'beauty bible steals' - invaluable!

Apart from that reading, pottering, lazy breakfast and chilling - gym and steam later but no rush there.Loving AF life - still have to take day at a time - I want to make the forever commitment but it scares me - I think because I have failed before and I feel I could set myself up to lapse. Does that make sense?

It's not that I am entertaining the idea of drinking,but if I say never this part of me instantly tries to trip myself up (same with diets). I think i am more likely to achieve never if I do one day at a time for now. I know that some of you successful long termers committed to never again straight away - did anyone take my approach initially?
I am so happy being AF I feel so much clearer headed, motivated and relaxed, able to deal with whatever is thrown at me.

[Doggygirl]

AF daily sat 5 March

Bear, I too struggled when I thought I needed to make the "forever" committment. I started out thinking ODAT was crazy. After learning my lessons the hard way, I came to see the tremendous sense and value of ODAT. I think you are on a good path there!

For me the day will be AA, errands, desk cleanup. I also got a call about starting training at Weight Watchers! (won't start today but will follow up!) Need to go visit Dad this weekend. I'm thinking I should just do that today.

Can't do any of it drunk, that's for sure. And one drink sends me off to the drunken races. So...one thing is for sure. There will be no AL for this girl today.

DG

[universal]

AF daily sat 5 March

Morning everyone! Bear thanks for starting us off and it is so good to see you so happy! Sober life is the life for sure. I also like taking things ODAT. After all, today is all we have. There is a great poem called yesterday, today and tomorrow. You can google it - I love it - really helps live the day ODAT.

I am up early today which is funny since yesterday I was so tired and today I am up with energy. My body is so confused! LOL.

I found out I am getting a nice refund back on my taxes which is great. I think I will finally be out of debt! (except for my mortgage of course). Nice feeling.

The girl has hockey today at a town a couple of hours away so today is pretty much all about her. That's okay though, it's fun to watch her play. It's raining and miserable here today - that part sucks!

I hope everyone has a great Saturday - one thing is for sure!

[universal]

AF daily sat 5 March

Bear - found it - here you go.

YESTERDAY TODAY AND TOMORROW…

There are two days in every week about which we should not worry, two days which should be kept free from fear and apprehension.

One of these days is Yesterday, with its mistakes and cares, its faults and blunders, its aches and pains. Yesterday has passed forever beyond our control.

All the money in the world cannot bring back Yesterday. We cannot undo a single act we performed; we cannot erase a single word we said. Yesterday is gone.

The other day we should not worry about is Tomorrow with its possible adversities, its burdens, its large promise and poor performance. Tomorrow is also beyond our immediate control.

Tomorrow’s sun will rise, either in splendor or behind a mask of clouds – but it will rise. Until it does, we have no stake in Tomorrow, for it is yet unborn.

This leaves only one day – Today – Any one can fight the battles of just one day. It is only when you and I add the burdens of those two awful eternities – Yesterday and Tomorrow that we break down.

It is not the experience of Today that drives us mad – it is remorse or bitterness for something which happened Yesterday and the dread of what Tomorrow may bring.

Let us, therefore, live but one day at a time.

[momof3]

AF daily sat 5 March

Good Morning All,

Good to see AFM, EW, Bear, Mylife back and AF!

Jenny, congrats on making it through yesterday. I know you must feel very proud of yourself.

Bear. My personal opinion was that one day, one minute at a time worked especially well in the early days when I made a COMMITMENT to being AF and accepting that there is no one drink or modding for me. I say this because my experience of taking it one day at a time, "playing it day by day" and making decisions around being AF (or not) did not work if there was not commitment there. I hope this makes sense.

[Lavande]

AF daily sat 5 March

Good morning Abbers!

Today I tackle the the outside poop situation! Isn't that a lovely plan for the day :H
But, the weather is supposed to be mild & I will enjoy the sunshine

bear, so glad to hear your progress, terrific!
I have not regretted my decision to go AF - not even for a second

Hope everyone has a great AF Saturday!
Lav

[momof3]

AF daily sat 5 March

Thankful of My Disease

Today I am reminded once again that I am thankful for this disease, disorder, affliction called alcoholism because I can do something about.

My neighbor, whom is the same age as me and has a 10 year old son who goes to school with my girls, is dying. She has ovarian cancer. Over the past year, our entire neighborhood has rallied to bring her to doctor, chemo, and radiation appointments. We are making meals for her family; the most lovely family. Each time I see her, she looks older and sicker yet this radiant beautiful smile remains on her face. She is an amazing, lovely, kind woman who always asks everyone else how they are doing. Her husband sent an email to me today asking everyone to make the meal portions that we send them smaller. She is no longer able to eat. She cannot get out of bed.

I share this because it puts alcoholism/alcohol dependency into perspective. It is a life threatened disease that not only robbed me of my health for a long time, but it also was taking my soul. I am thankful that I have had the opportunity to regain my life by simply not drinking.

M3

[mylife]

AF daily sat 5 March

Good morning AF Gang!

What a lot of wonderful posts today already! Mom3, your post brought tears to my eyes! You are right, and I have felt the same way many times, we are so lucky we have a disease we can directly do something about! There are so many others who don't share this luxury, and I'm reminded of that every day right in my own home with a DH who is chronically ill with diabetes he's had since childhood.

Bear and DG, I am right there with you on the ODAT. I never realized the value of those words until I applied them to myself. The NEVER thought sent me right back to drinking many times and I have really had to embrace ODAT. Great poem Uni! I think I'll print that out as a thought for the day!

Lav, and all others to come great to hear from you and have a wonderful AF Day!

[EnglishWriter77]

AF daily sat 5 March

Hello All,

Hope you're doing well - I've had a bit of a stinker with the freezer packing up, but on the bright side tonight is TV/Films and a FEAST!

You're all welcome

EW

[Mstall]

AF daily sat 5 March

Morning All!

Great poem Uni. I have to agree about the never forever thing. I take it ODAT because today is the only day I have to worry about, and I can make sure that today I will remain AF.

Off to meet a girlfriend for lunch and then I'm going to have a pyschic reading. My girlfriend bought it for me for my birthday and I'm finally going to go. Never had one before so it should be interesting.

Then it's spaghetti and meatballs for dinner with my daughter. she's working her first 8 hour day at the health club. I expect she will be exhausted and excited about her favorite dinner.

Have a wonderful sober weekend all!

[greeneyes]

AF daily sat 5 March

Yoga and then a walk the woods by the river.... can't beat that for a start to a day!

I think I'll go to EW's tonight for films and feast! That or weasel in at Mstall's house.

I'm OK with never forever. I find it sort of comforting.

Rented a movie last night and at the very end, Robert Duvall's character gives a speech that explains the whole movie. Turns out that's right where the DVD had a nick in it. I mean fecking really!

[Doggygirl]

AF daily sat 5 March

momof3;1070576 wrote: Today I am reminded once again that I am thankful for this disease, disorder, affliction called alcoholism because I can do something about.

My neighbor, whom is the same age as me and has a 10 year old son who goes to school with my girls, is dying. She has ovarian cancer. Over the past year, our entire neighborhood has rallied to bring her to doctor, chemo, and radiation appointments. We are making meals for her family; the most lovely family. Each time I see her, she looks older and sicker yet this radiant beautiful smile remains on her face. She is an amazing, lovely, kind woman who always asks everyone else how they are doing. Her husband sent an email to me today asking everyone to make the meal portions that we send them smaller. She is no longer able to eat. She cannot get out of bed.

I share this because it puts alcoholism/alcohol dependency into perspective. It is a life threatened disease that not only robbed me of my health for a long time, but it also was taking my soul. I am thankful that I have had the opportunity to regain my life by simply not drinking.

M3

M3, what a powerful post. I am truly blessed - there are far worse things that could happen to me than alcoholism. Thank you for the very real reminder of that. And I am with you on the importance of committment. While my focus is on today, I am ABSOLUTELY 100% COMMITTED that I will not drink today. Period. No wavering on that decision. That's what it takes for me too.

Uni, thank you so much for sharing that reading on Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow. For me, worrying over "tomorrow" and creating scenarios in my head about what was going to happen (bad, of course!) what people were going to say (bad, of course!) etc. was my undoing. I was even worse with that than I was with fretting over the past. Today really is the only day we know we have! And it's the one day where I have the chance to be all that I can be. Enjoy hockey!!!

Mylife, I am so sorry about your husband's diabetes. That is one mighty disease. I assume your DH is Type 1? (because it's since childhood - just curious?) My Dad is Type 2 and has subsequently developed all kinds of other problems. Not sure how much longer he will have. It's so sad to watch. :l Hope your DH has a good quality of life. I guess that can vary a lot with diabetes.

EW - what are you doing with your freezer / food? (probably missed something from yesterday or before!)

Mstall, I can't wait to hear about the psychic reading!!!!! I've only done that a couple of times but man some strange stuff happened!

Lav, I do not envy you cleaning poop. Even in the sunshine. That is all. I sure would love a blue egg omlette though. How is Lily today?

I hope I didn't miss anyone! If I did - HELLO!!!

I start training for my part time receptionist job next Thursday.

Life is good. Off to go visit dad now. One thing is still for sure...

DG

[EnglishWriter77]

AF daily sat 5 March

Hello Again,

Freezer food is all cooked up and ready to go - I have eaten a whole bag of chicken dippers....UGH.

Still waiting for the cavalry to arrive!!!! Come on people

EW

[Cassia]

AF daily sat 5 March

Hi all,

I still have to go back and read the post but I just needed to share my triumph today. I went on my first hen weekend. We did some activities during the day and then for lunch and then to see mamma Mia. I was feeling pretty down cuz everyone was drinking and I wasn't. I felt very left out. Not that anyone actually cared or pressured me to drink but because of the occasion. I was so frustrated that I nearly started crying. I had a chat with my husband on the phone about it and we discussed how far I had come. I am not far off ninety days and I knew if I had a drink I would have undone all of hard work. I just didnt want to go back to day one.

It is also incredible how u sometimes get a sign. After the interval I noticed how drunk the people were in front of me, particularly one woman who was there with her daughter. The steward had to go over a number of times and tell her to be quiet. Her young daughter was clearly agitated and not enjoying it and that made me sad. At the end, the woman had a huge fight with her friends and stormed off. I just thought to myself, I don't want that to be me. I felt better. I had chosen af and I was thankful.

The girls all went out clubbing and that would have meant huge temptation for me. They decided to go to a really crappy nightclub so the decision was made for me. I went home.

Just had to share.

Xx

[mylife]

AF daily sat 5 March

Good evening guys.

DH is off for a walk and I'm taking a break from cleaning the house and winding down for a Saturday evening.

DG - yes he is Type 1 Diabetic. It's a very scary disease either way, but much harder to control with diet etc. when it's Type 1. We just take it day by day and you are right there are lots of complications, I'm sure that's one of the reasons I started drinking so heavily a few years ago when I really realized the seriousness of this disease.

Mstall, I used to go to a place called the "Psychic Bookstore" with my friends when I lived in LA in my 20's. We got all kinds of great psychic readings. Can't wait to hear how yours goes!

Cassie, I said it on another thread already but Great Job at staying AF!

Green - sounds like a lovely morning to me!

EW I'm jealous. I want a feast and a bunch of great movies!!