AF Daily - Wed 3/16

[Lavande]

AF Daily - Wed 3/16

I wanted to share this 'old' photo of Lily taken when she was 8 days old by one of her paternal aunts (professional photographer). She is now a whopping 20 days old :H

[Rusty]

AF Daily - Wed 3/16

Hi Uni,:l

I have a lot of baggage due to my dad, too, and I am 50. Sending you good vibes and strength and I am happy that you are taking action to keep yourself mentally right.

Lav: I don't pick up the phone anymore when I see an asshole is calling . Is that why you don't pick up the phone when I call you.:H

[Rusty]

AF Daily - Wed 3/16

Lav-Cross Post! Lily is beautiful and I love the black and white background.

[Lavande]

AF Daily - Wed 3/16

Rusty :H:H:H

[universal]

AF Daily - Wed 3/16

Oh Lav - so beautiful - thank you - I really needed to see that picture.

[one2many]

AF Daily - Wed 3/16

Hey Lav, what a completely beautiful little girl,I could eat her.

Uni, I am so so sorry you are hurting, we can choose our friends but we cannot choose our families ..
The guys are right, it really is your Dads problem let him deal with it, you have enough on your plate.
Concentrate on yourself hon and your little family, and your family here are only a click away, don't forget that. xxx

[Sarasmiles]

AF Daily - Wed 3/16

Hi Uni,

The story you told about your dad and the strippers is not a little thing. That was a form of abuse. When parents have no boundaries, they hurt their children, confuse them and cause a lot of stress. I don't have any great words of wisdom except that we can't change other people, we can only change ourselves. Your Dad is not likely to change, no matter what you say to him. It's absolutely NOT your fault that he's an ass. You didn't make him that way, and you can't change him. "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference." Right?


He is minimizing your feelings and experiences, probably because he can't deal with the unconscious (or conscious) guilt of having behaved so badly. You know the truth; that no little girl should be subjected to any of that. But he isn't going to parent that little girl now. You are. You are going to take care of that dear little girl and love her and treat her well. You are going to nourish her and watch her grow. Look at Lav's beautiful grand daughter, and remember that you were a beautiful baby once, too. Love yourself as you would an innocent baby. Would you feed alcohol to a little girl? No. Would you criticize her and say hurtful things to her? No. So don't do that to yourself. No poison. No put-downs. Only what's healthy and nourishing and loving.

Oh, and don't pick up the phone when he calls, okay?

Big Hugs,
Sara

[Determinator]

AF Daily - Wed 3/16

whew! big day of driving in the snow but I'm back home with my ear Dx.

Jenny, glad your back and ok. maybe try increasing your L Glutamine?

Lav, what a darling you have there

sorry for the cursory post. late and tired. zzzzzzzzzzz