AF Daily Monday 4/11

[momof3]

Good Morning Everyone

Up early to get a little work done then off to yoga class. It is supposed to be a beautiful day here in Virginia. I'm going to do a little work then continue packing for Florida.

M3

[Sarasmiles]

AF Daily Monday 4/11

Hi Momof3! I cross-posted with you, so we have two daily threads started! I don't know how to delete my thread...I'm sorry! If anyone can tell me how, I'll do it to clear up the confusion! In any case, I've copied it here.

Hello Ab-Fabbers!!

I had a busy weekend, and just now had a chance to read back a bit. Lav, I adore the pics of chicks and especially of the new baby. He's gorgeous! DG, the rental property sounds like a potentially exciting venture...Hope it works out, and good for you for setting your limits on maintenance and repair up front!

Hi to everyone else! I had a great night last night. I didn't go to the Sunday night SMART meeting, but instead met up in person with a woman I'd met at SMART on line. It was amazing to connect with another local mom with very similar issues, concerns and drinking history.

Last week was a bad one for my premenstrual/menstrual moods...So crabby at times! But I didn't turn to alcohol to try and escape it, and I'm very, very glad of that. Went out to a dinner theatre on Saturday night with Hubby and friends, all of whom drank beer and wine. I had seltzer but hit the dessert buffet hard! I've started using the "Spark People" website to record food and calorie intake. It's making me more aware of what and how much I'm eating. I chose to exceed my calorie limits on Saturday, I guess as compensation for not drinking. I aim to not always do this, but it helps for now in social/restaurant settings. I don't feel the need to do it at home at this point, so I guess that's a start.

Have a great AF day everyone!!

Sara

[momof3]

AF Daily Monday 4/11

Good Morning Sara. Looks like we both started a Monday thread at the same time. Happy to hear that you had a good weekend.

[mylife]

AF Daily Monday 4/11

Good morning guys!

Sara, if you have to hit the dessert bar a little at first on those social occasions where you're avoiding AL, I say do it. The diet can come later. Good job on enjoying your weekend AF!

M3, sounds like you have a fun trip planned. You're making me want to go on vacation! I could use one.

I had a good nights sleep last night and am ready to start my Monday. But, I do need a vacation here at some point. Maybe I'll start planning that this week!

My husband came home yesterday after being out of town for a couple weeks. We had a nice evening, but he said I seemed a little distant. I said No, just tired, but the reality is I do feel a little distant. He has no idea what this struggle has been like and never will and is so Happy go lucky all the time it can drive me nuts. (Sigh) All in all, though I was happy to have him home.

Hope everyone has a wonderful AF Monday.

[Guitarista]

AF Daily Monday 4/11

Hiya Moma, Sarah, My life, and Fab Abber's everywhere!

Have a great day everyone. To the AF folk, keep your sobriety going, and remember you gotta work it, but at the same time reflect, enjoy, and be proud of who you are!
To those folk's struggling, be proud of who you are too, and remember that the fact you are here on this site, means you are in the arena fighting. Take your life back with gusto and pride, and go for it!

Best wishes folk's.

[Lavande]

AF Daily Monday 4/11

Good morning Abbers!

I like G's advice ~ Take back your life with gusto & pride

Slept like an exhausted Grandma last night but ready to take on a new day :H

Hope everyone enjoys a fabulous AF Monday!
Lav

[Doggygirl]

AF Daily Monday 4/11

Hi fabbies! Sara & M3, thanks to you both for giving us an early start today!

Sara, I smiled reading about your meetup with your new friend in recovery. Will you be seeing each other again? Sounds like you did extremely well on your night out Saturday night. Good for you.

M3, I want to go with you to Florida. That is all.

Mylife, are you able to talk honestly with your Mr. about the challenges of getting AL out of your life? For me, it really helps that I can talk honestly about all the ups and downs of my recovery with my spouse. (but I know it doesn't work out tha way for everyone)

G-man - always wonderful to see you here with great words of wisdom!!!!! I was just reading something you posted on another thread and wondering if you would post here!

I am grateful today to be free of AL's grip on my mind and my life. That is all.

Hello to all fabbies yet to come today!

One thing is for sure...

DG

[Guitarista]

AF Daily Monday 4/11

In the mood for______________________________________? :h:h:h

Anyone?

[greeneyes]

AF Daily Monday 4/11

Always, G..... always.....:bigwink:

[universal]

AF Daily Monday 4/11

Morning abbers!

I'm doing okay, still struggling a bit but I am finding my biggest struggle of late has been plain old exhaustion! No matter how much I sleep, I just want to go back to bed and sleep some more! It really sucks actually.

But it's a beautiful day (warm) although I believe we are going to be getting a big thunderstorm. Which is okay with me because I love thunderstorms!

I have to do some work today on my recovery and go to my therapy appointment this morning. Laundry is also on the agenda (yuck) as is groceries.

One thing is for sure for today.

[Hippy Chick]

AF Daily Monday 4/11

Evening all.

Havent had much time to myself over the last few days and am suffering from MWO withdrawal. In desperate need of support at the moment as had a few things thrown at me regarding me not drinking from husband and supposed best friend. Neither of them encouraging comments. Not going to go into it again, just spilt my guts in the newbies nest. Let's just say, I know I wont be able to rely on support from those closest to me!
I am trying to change myself and the way I handle sobriety so it doesnt have an adverse affect on people as I know it did before. I sulked before cause I couldnt have a drink, but I am trying to turn it around this time and make it a positive experience. But I think my husband has already made his mind up that he doesnt like me sober.
Anyway enough of that BS....
I pop into the newbies nest as well as here and I have to admit that the new starters we have are doing so fantastically well. There is alot of support and enthusiasm there at present and it is lovely to see/hear. They are all trying so hard.
My sister in law goes back to England on Monday. Not looking forward to that as it is probably the last time I will ever see her as her cancer is well advanced. I have really enjoyed having her here with us for the last three weeks. I am so pleased that I found my sobriety again while she was here as the first few days I was drinking and blacking out so I didnt remember things she said. But now I will have them in my memory forever.
Well, going to find a furry bedmate and snuggle up with my kitty to watch TV for a bit.
Catch you tomorrow.
Hippy

[Doggygirl]

AF Daily Monday 4/11

Guitarista;1096113 wrote: In the mood for______________________________________? :h:h

Anyone?

Menopause sucks in my world. That is all. (but so glad Greenie is up for it! :H:h)

Hi Uni! What sort of recovery work are you up to today? (if you care to share - if not that is fine too. I'm just always interested in that stuff)

Greenie, what else are you up to today besides thoughts of _____________?

HC, I loved reading about the sober time you have spent with SIL, and how much better that is than early in her visit where AL was involved. I am so sorry that you don't have support right now from DH and from close friends. :l I'm so glad you have us here! If you feel you need face to face support that you are not able to get in your existing circle of family / friends, is there AA or SMART F2F in your neck of the woods? Even WITH the support of my DH, I get a lot of positive from the face to face support of other people who are "just like me" and whose very lives depend on staying sober. I would rather saw my own arm off with a butter knife than drink again - no matter what anyone in my close circle thought about it. :l Keep reaching out to find whatever support you need. It beats the alternative I think.

DG

[bear73]

AF Daily Monday 4/11

hey all just whizzing in - HC sorry you having a hard time with those closest to you - it's frustrating but great that you have MW.
just back from work then off to skating (to watch and listen to a talk - hurt leg)

Horrible first day at work - rest of management meeting in tears - our manager accused us of using her as an emotional punchbag - I'm not taking that - that's about her and her avoiding her management role. It's the first piece of constructive feedback I have given her(and was pushed by her to - I said I'd rather wait until one to one tomorrow ).

Really glad I'm sober - just completed my first week now I have lost my smart and mindfulness books and need to re-buy they keep me on the straight and narrow mentally.In the meantime I log into smart website

anyway - off I pop, good evenign all - will catch up tomorrow

[LVT25]

AF Daily Monday 4/11

Hello friends,

Just a quickie from me (you wish) as I need to get to work. My first day back at the cemetery after a long winter break. The sun is trying to shine today, and the forecast is pretty crappy for the rest of the week--so I better get out there.

Hippy, I'm sorry you don't have support from those close to you. I didn't either. I'm pretty sure my hubby wishes I'd start drinking again, although we don't discuss it much. My close friends just kind of looked at me like they didn't understand why I quit. And they probably didn't. But I tend to spend more time now with people that either don't drink, or they don't drink much at all--unless I am forced to spend time with my in-laws who drink like fish. Hang in there, it won't be easy at times, but it is so worth it. I also love the story about the memories you're creating since sober--how wonderful!

I was gone from 9 am until 10 pm yesterday and was exhausted when I got home. It was a good day though. I'm having some more teenage son issues, that I wish would just go away. He made the mistake of leaving his cell phone on the charger and on when he left for school this morning. I don't force him to let me look at his phone, there are some things I'd rather not see, but I did take the liberty to invade his privacy this morning. And, there were a couple of text messages that disturbed me. He wants more freedom, but I am afraid he maybe lying to me. I can't decide if he says these things to be more cool to his friends, or if they are drinking. He seemed fine when he came home Friday night, but apparently there was a party. I called the mom to discuss it, but she hasn't called me back yet. I wish it was easier to detach from the situation. UGH!

Ok, I am off for the day. Have a great sober week all!:h

[Doggygirl]

AF Daily Monday 4/11

LVT, I cannot even imagine how difficult it must be to parent teenagers. I know what I was like....nuff said. :l PS - I am so glad you and Uni brought up the Mandalas. I ordered a book from Amazon that has lots of spiral bound pages to color, and also a text part of the book explaining a bit about Mandalas, etc. I think this is going to be a really nice hobby / relaxation activity for me. Thanks to you both!

Bear, you sound so good right now even in the face of the challenge with your boss at work. You may not be exactly where you want to be, but from an outsiders point of view, you seem much farther along than where you were not too long ago. Definitely re-buy the materials that are helping you! Have fun tonight.

Had fun working lunch at the mission today. I'm a nut, so I fit right in. We had much silliness going on today. I try to always speak to the guests having lunch as though they are at a buffet in a 5 star restaurant. It seems a bit of that is rubbing off on the grumpy nun who always works this shift, as well as a few of the guys in the program.

One thing is for sure...

DG