AF Daily - Easter Sunday 4-24

[Lavande]

Good morning Abbers!

Well I'm up before the chickens this morning :H
Short, short night for me, don't know why!

Looking forward to some sun today after yesterday's downpours - enough. Looks like I am hosting dinner for my DIL & two kids & YB! My son is at work today, my daughter & family with be with her in-laws. Should be an interesting event

Wishing everyone a good AF day with friends & family!
Don't OD on chocolate

Lav

[papmom3]

AF Daily - Easter Sunday 4-24

Good Beautiful Spring Morning everyone! The sun is shining and it's down right balmy out there!! Finally!
I wish I could enjoy the gorgeous day but unfortunately work beckons as it's crunch time. It didn't go well yesterday and I am behind in my goal I set for myself. I'm due over at my sister's around 2:30 so I need to get cracking.

I did manage to read all the posts late last nite but the memory is slow to return this morning. Please know I keep all of you close by me every minute.
Now off for tea and breakfast, a quick read of the paper and then down to work!! Tomorrow is the second interview for job #1!!

[Hippy Chick]

AF Daily - Easter Sunday 4-24

Evening Abbers.

(from yesterdays thread) Thanks Doggy for your story. It is good to know that there are others out there who know what it is like.
I actually broke the ice with my husband this morning and talked about what is going on with his drinking and my not drinking. I asked him about the incident with the police pulling him over last night for a RBT. He didnt even remember telling me that he had been pulled over. He didnt get stopped because there is NO way they would have let him go. He had made it up to try and tell me that he was "sober enough to drive his mate home". He drove my car on a major freeway just because his mate was too drunk and didnt want to get his wife to pick him up! He did admit that he has been having a lot of black outs lately and it is taking less and less AL to blackout. He is worried.
And he actually agreed that the common denominator in him getting really pissed (and obnoxious and cantacerous) was his mate. I know my husband has to take responsibility for putting the glass in his hand however this mate knows exactly what buttons to push to get a reaction from him.
So finally we might be able to do this together and support each other rather than me get cranky with him and him getting annoyed because I dont know how to have (drug induced) fun anymore. I feel much better now. My sobriety was never in danger, but it is nice to know that maybe I will get support now rather than criticism for not drinking.

Hope your Sunday is going as well as mine.

HC

[universal]

AF Daily - Easter Sunday 4-24

Happy Easter abberoos!

I am up having my coffee and getting ready to tidy the house. Just my BF and me for Easter today but I bought a small turkey breast so am going to cook that with some stuffing, mashed potatoes and corn. There will be way too much food but at least we will be together to celebrate Easter.

I'm sorry that you are having such troubles with your hubby HC but glad that you guys had a good talk today.

It's rainy and miserable here - hard to get motivated to do anything. Boo is eating my housecoat as we speak - LOL - so I guess I better play with him for a while!

Hope everyone has a great day.

Love and hugs,
Uni

[Doggygirl]

AF Daily - Easter Sunday 4-24

Morning fABbies! Happy Easter! I was disappointed when I first got up this morning. The sun wasn't up yet but it had rained (AGAIN) and the sky looked cloudy. But now the sun is out and it should be a nice day! :yougo: I'm going to put my new running shoes on in a bit and do Run 1 - Week 2 of Couch to 5K. There will be more than 8 minutes of running this time so I'm sure I will feel it! Did I mention there are hills in my neighborhood?

Lav, thanks for getting us started today! YB for dinner, eh? I KNOW you will have fun with the kids. Let us know later about YB, K?

P3, hope your busy day goes smoothly! GOOD LUCK FOR THE INTERVIEW TOMORROW!!! Somebody at the MK party the other night mentioned a Pap. I thought of you! I even said "I have a friend who does agility with them!" Cool how we think of each other as friends even though we haven't met in person!

HC, I am so glad you were able to open that dialogue. The road might have some bumps (or maybe not!!). But getting the conversation opened is such a big step. Good for you!! Are the penalties for drunk driving as stiff there as they have gotten in the US? Nothing to mess around with here.

Uni, imagining Boo trying to chew up your robe put a smile on my face for sure!!!! I hope you and BF and boo have a very nice day. Dinner sounds great!

NO SUGAR FOR ME TODAY. And of course no AL either. That is all. I will be glad when dinner with Dad is over. I hate to say that. It's just really hard to look forward to visits with a grizzly bear. I need to work on my attitude. He won't be here forever.

One thing is for sure....

DG

[momof3]

AF Daily - Easter Sunday 4-24

Good Morning All,

Happy Easter,

I'm still in bed sipping coffee. We had company come in from out of town late last night.

I went to a dinner party last night with my daughter who is a gymnast. It was a small gathering of families of the girls my daughter has competed with for several years. When I arrived, the drinks were already flowing. I was reminded of how "normal" this is and it is typically the first thing one is asked when they arrive, "What can I get you to drink?" After chatting for about 1 hour, we moved to the dining room. All of the wine glasses were already placed at the table and the hostess went around to pour wine. I covered my glass and said, "no thank you." Later in the dinner, the wine bottle was getting passed around and I said "no thank you" again. By the time I left, at least two of the parents were feeling no pain (but I'm sure they will in the am). When I arrived home after the dinner party, my out of town guests and my husband were sitting in the kitchen drinking wine. It wasn't really an issue for me and I am rarely exposed to drinking such as this but I realized that if I were newly sober, it would have been so very easy to just let the glass get poured (and so hard to say no). I am happy that I avoided such events early in my sobriety.

HC. My husband is a normal drinker and he has been very respectful of my sobriety. However, when I quit drinking for good, the dynamics between us changed drastically. It makes alot of sense to me given that I met him/chose him as a husband when I was a drinker. Although he is a normal drinker, there were alot of other dysfunctional behaviors that he "got away" with when I was drinking. I am not so tolerant of those anymore. When I stopped drinking, it forced him to look at his own behavior.

DG, I liked your story about the two different perspectives of the teenagers at the MK event. When I was drinking and even early in my sobriety, I found that my perspective was more drawn to the drama and to the negative. It has been quite astounding to me how those things no longer bother me and it really confirms for me how alcohol causes changes in the brain.

M3

[piper123]

AF Daily - Easter Sunday 4-24

Happy Easter to all. Two of my children are home from school. They'll be leaving later this afternoon. Exams start next week so they'll be in the library as soon as they get back. My son requested ham and mashed potatoes so I indulged him and the ham is in the oven as I type. I'm not a big ham eater, but I love my kids so much...I love making them happy. Plus they'll be able to take it back to school with them and have it for the rest of the week. He wanted rigatoni for dinner last night so I made a double batch and that will go back with them too. At least they won't have to worry about cooking while they are studying.

As for myself, I'm going to take it hour by hour. I have got to get myself on the right path. My anxiety and depression are through the roof and I hate it. I didn't get a job that I really wanted because I know I didn't interview well in the second interview. And I really really need to get into some sort of therapy but I can't until I have a job with benefits.

[Doggygirl]

AF Daily - Easter Sunday 4-24

Hi M3! What a good post and good point about how difficult it would have been in early sobriety to make it through an evening like that without just giving up and ending up with a glass of wine in hand. And "a" glass of wine would spell a rapid descent into oblivion for me. I too avoided that stuff early on.

My husband and I had a really twisted start. He really wanted to be left alone about his pot smoking. I really wanted to be left alone about my drinking. So we were perfect for each other, in the sickest kind of way. I am so thankful that we both sought recovery, are sober from our substances, and are growing as people. And the people we are becoming still like each other. We are very very fortunate - it doesn't always work out that way.

DG

EDIT: X-post piper. Welcome to the Daily AF crowd. It sounds like you love your children lots and I bet they appreciate all that good food! Until you can get in to see a doctor, have you tried any of the supplements that might help depression? I think there is a lot about this in the holistic section. I'll see what I can find and bump anything that looks good.

DG

[Lavande]

AF Daily - Easter Sunday 4-24

Lav again.........

piper - I have to jump in & tell you what helped me kick the crippling anxiety/depression in the butt!!
Rx ADs were awful, made me feel like crap & didn't do a thing to lessen my desire to drink! I finally dumped them when I found an herbal product called Amoryn. Worked miracles, quickly with no side effects whatsoever

AMORYN Mood Booster | Natural Antidepressant | Supplement for Depression & Anxiety

Once I had the anxiety & depression under control I was able to jump on the wagon & quit drinking once & for all. I have stayed on a straight course, regardless of anything else going on in my life. I feel so much better today.

I just realized that this is my 3rd sober Easter

Happy Easter everyone!

[Doggygirl]

AF Daily - Easter Sunday 4-24

Hi Lav. Have you ever started a thread about Amoryn in the Holistic Healing section with that lnk? If so, could you find it and bump it up? I did searches for "Anxiety" and also "Depression" but don't think anything about Amoryn came up. Now that you posted about it, I recall seeing posts from you about it before, and how helpful it was for you. I just think it would be very beneficial to have that info where we can all easily find it!

Third sober easter!! :yougo::yougo::yougo: Me too, now that you mention it!

DG

[universal]

AF Daily - Easter Sunday 4-24

By the way guys, I am writing a book on depression

[universal]

AF Daily - Easter Sunday 4-24

don't know why that kicked in. sorry - what i meant to say was i am writing a book on depression and alcoholism - right now DG is my agent (LOL) i mean my therapist, conductor, editor, whatever you want to call her. When i'm done i am hoping to get published but if i donm't maybe it will help some of us.

[piper123]

AF Daily - Easter Sunday 4-24

Thank you Lav...is it something I can get in a health store?

ETA: Just did a google search and in my currently unemployed situation, I am probably not going to be able to afford this supplement.

[Doggygirl]

AF Daily - Easter Sunday 4-24

universal;1104561 wrote: don't know why that kicked in. sorry - what i meant to say was i am writing a book on depression and alcoholism - right now DG is my agent (LOL) i mean my therapist, conductor, editor, whatever you want to call her. When i'm done i am hoping to get published but if i donm't maybe it will help some of us.

:h You all better be nice to Uni or I'll be right there with the :b&d:



DG

[Cassia]

AF Daily - Easter Sunday 4-24

Happy easter all! I hope you have had a great day.

P3 - I will be thinking of you tomorrow and I know you will be smashing! Good luck and I want a full run down of the whole process. Will say a prayer for you tonight!

Lav - thanks for kicking us off today and I hopethe weather has improved! How was your dinner with dil and the kiddies?

Hippie - sounds like you and your hubby have made some real progress. Long may it continue. Communication is so important and the fact that he opened up about the blackouts and his concerns is a step in the right direction. I hope you can both build from today. It sounds like your sobriety is having more of a positive impact on him then you maybe thought.

Uni - enjoy your dinner tonight with your bf. I am glad you are spending quality time together.

Dg - how was your run? How did dinner with your dad go?

M3 - my sister was a competitive gymnast until she was 15. It really instills discipline and it is such beautiful support. Isn't it great to look back on a night and see the progress you have made with your sobriety! You must have felt great this
morning.

Pioer123 - great to see you here. Stick with is and post often. I am sorry you didn't get the job. Did you get any feedback? Depression was a part of my life on and off for 15 years, starting as a teen and fully culminating a couple of years ago. Giving up al was a massive part of my recovery ( even though I did have another go at drinking before I quit 4
Months ago). Other things that helped me were exercise and cognitive behavioural therapy for dummies. You can get the book and the workbook. The workbook is great for making u work thru issues and learning to react in a different way.

So I actually don't have that much chat for a change. The big goodbyes have started. I don't think it has quite hit me yet that I will be back home 3 weeks today. I spent three hours trying to work out the American personal two system for married couples. I think I got it but might meet with hr block just to be sure. I need to register to do my CPA exams. I have never filled out a w4 before and I really don't want to get landed with a huge tax bill but equally need as much money as I can get for the first six months. We will see. I don't like not understanding tax but I will get there.

Xx