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**mylife** · April 28, 2011, 04:51 AM

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Good morning Abbers!

Thanks for everyone's feedback yesterday on long-term abstaining! I have read about people relapsing after many years of sobriety and always wondered how that could happen. Although I have also heard of many who don't. I hope to be in the 2nd category!

Determinator - I need to start working on the sugar/carbs thing as well. I basically ignored that this last month, but I need to focus on my overall health more this upcoming month. So that will be another goal along with no AL of course.

Have a fantastic AF day all! :l

**Doggygirl** · April 28, 2011, 05:32 AM

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Hi fABbies!!! Happy Thursday. It's Men's Free Skating this morning so all is good in the world.

Bear, you sound fabulous once again and I bet your kitchen is going to look GREAT. I try to imagine what sort of "style" people have from their personalities here, and I can definitely imagine you with that cute hair! Even a pink version! Something like this? http://brusimm.com/wp-content/upload...na-Flowers.jpg Hope it turns out great.

Mylife, When I relapsed at 60 days AF, the scariest part is how the decision to drink just snuck up on me. It happened so fast. On the surface anyway. I suspect the "planning" to drink had been going on for quite awhile in my subconscious. How do I know this? There was a bottle of vodka in my house. I of course was very well aware of the advice to get booze out of the house. But somehow I thought that advice was for other people, not me. Well, AL won that round. And like Uni I REALLY struggled to get back on the wagon after I fell. 8 months of up and down - mostly down. I just need to make sure I am humble. What AL does to other people AL can easily do to me. I am not above it.

Greenie, good luck on your interview today! And P3 - you too for tomorrow! How was agility last night?

Lav, could YB court me too? My garden is not tilled up yet.

Seriously, I hope things are moving in a good direction for YOU. Actually we are having SO much rain we can't mow or till or anything. And it just keeps raining. We are going to be in a jungle before we can get the equipment out!!!

Uni, I love your spirit and determination. As mentioned above, I can relate to the difficult struggle after relapse. For me, once I eventually "clicked" with AFness, that experience makes me even more determined to never take it for granted. So in some strange way, maybe what you are going through right now will serve you well in the long run. That plus Boo & mandalas.

Are you still writing?

Sara, I had quite a pang too just reading about your sister falling asleep and missing it. That's the kind of stuff I did a LOT. Never got a DUI, but suffered a lot of guilt and remorse over the pain I caused others and myself with my drinking.

Det, I was thinking about starting a Whole 30 Challenge thread in the fitness section for any Paleo people. A challenge to do a totally clean 30 days. Would you be interested if I started a thread? LOL I spent $39 on the (short) e-book from Whole 30. It has some good info but $39 seems a LOT on the surface. However I am now invested and not willing to blow my investment. So mentally it's good for me!! And it's the cost of one monthly pass to WW.

Day 3 of Whole 30 for me and feeling really really good in my inards. I did re-injure the bicep tendon a couple days ago. Drat. It's painful.

Well, Men's Free Skate and Pairs Free skate are today. I'm missing one of the US guys right now so gotta go! One thing is for sure...

DG

**Marshy** · April 28, 2011, 06:03 AM

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Hi bear, mylife, DG and all to come,

I spent half an hour trying to upload a pic of me and my GF running wild on the New York Subway but can't do it for some reason. Maybe coz it was taken with an iPhone? I dunno, I'm about 20 years out of date with technology. Anyway, we had a fantastic time - went up the Rockfeller Centre, visited Moma and the Guggenheim, Central Park etc (we've both been quite a few times before and have already done the touristy stuff so we had a nice time just strolling around). We stayed in Connecticut and got the train into the city on a few days and on other days stayed in CT, went to the beach at Westport, shopped (!) and hung out with my friend who lives there.

The flight there was BAD! We diverted to Boston because of thunderstorms at JFK and ended up finally getting to my friend's house about 3 o'clock in the morning, seven hours late!

When we got back to Blighty last week we went to Devon for a long weekend, so had two very different holidays.

Back at work now, wishing I was still on holiday!

Good luck with the interview Greenie! Dunno what it's for but you're bound to impress them!

DG - enjoy the skating!

Mylife - I wonder if part of relapsing after a long time is simply about forgetting over time what a hellhole it was - the memory fading.

Have a good day all!

**universal** · April 28, 2011, 07:57 AM

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Hi guys,

DG, took a break from writing for the rest of this week - just need to have some me time. I have an appointment with my therapist today so that will be good.

Boo is on my lap as usual as I am writing. It is insanely windy out today, I am waiting for a funnel cloud to form at any time!

Have a good one!

**Doggygirl** · April 28, 2011, 08:07 AM

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Marshy, so happy you had a great vacation!! I am trying to transition my brain to think of XNGF as GF. That was a long time ago when we all thought "GF" and you thought "no!" :H XNGF will forever be in my brain I think!! I hope you are able to figure out the piccies!! If you can e-mail them to me I can upload to photobucket and post if you want.

Uni, good that you are taking me time. Writing about your life must be very taxing!!!! Good that you are going in an eb and flow with it. I love the idea of Boo on your lap.

Brian Joubert looks totally awesome in lace, sequins, and very tight pants. That is all.

DG

**universal** · April 28, 2011, 08:42 AM

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Can everyone who lives in the areas devestated by the tornados check in to let us know you are okay?

**LVT25** · April 28, 2011, 08:53 AM

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Hello friends,

Just a quick check in here. Uni--I have been wondering about our MWO friends in the south US. I hope everyone is ok. What devastating storms! Feel so bad for them.

The boys and I came home last evening so they could go back to school and get caught up. My son needed to pick up his tux for prom as well. I'm taking care of some things as well.
We made the arrangements for Terry's service and I put together a slide show--hope and pray that goes well. My BIL wanted to wait until Saturday morning so his family and friends from out of town had a chance to come. Makes for a long week, but that's ok. I feel so bad for him. They have been married 40 years--no kids, just each other. He is so sad, but glad she is done with the suffering and pain. Anyway, we'll head back that way in separate vehicles so I can spend more time and hubby will bring the boys back in time for Prom.
He has been really great lately. Taking care of teacher stuff with the boys and other stuff. He's been AF for 2 weeks now. Not sure what is up with that, but I'm not complaining.

No thoughts of drowning my sorrows. thank God. I'm grateful for that, also helps that there hasn't been any al around. The only big drinker in my family is my brother, and he went home. But, I've had plenty of sugar this week! UGH!

Take care everyone, and thanks again for your thoughts and prayers.

**Lavande** · April 28, 2011, 08:55 AM

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Morning Abbers!

I'm currently hunkered down, ready & waiting for the storms to roll thru here

Severe thuder storm & tornado watches & warnings on the TV right now - geez!!!
Hope my chickens don't get blown away.

I'll be back later

Lav

**daisy45** · April 28, 2011, 09:38 AM

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Hello to you all. A big thank you for the Welcomes and words of advice - much appreciated. DG I have 4 children, 15,16,18,19. Because they're so close in age I find the downside to this is they seem to need me less and less - suddenly and all together - I feel kind of redundant as a mother! The sad thing too is that it is only now when they are older that I have decided to 'catch myself on' with the drinking. I carry so much guilt about memories I have given them....friends tell me I've been a good mom but I know the reality - could have been so much better and shown them a good example!
I've been reading a lot of inspirational books since my al-free time - 3 months. Had my first drink Christmas day. Off and on since then. I too thought I could moderate but found old habits die hard and was falling into the same old patterns, losing precious time and not being the person I want to be. Even when I drank I still worked, got everything done, done a maracycle last year, but always fearing for my health somewhere in the background.

The happiest I have been was during my al-free time - I felt proud of myself and that life was good. I want that back! As do you all! Ready to climb that mountain with all of you on here! Day 7 for me and don't know if I would be here without your kind words and encouragement. :thanks:

**Determinator** · April 28, 2011, 11:07 AM

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a lighting-quick AF heyo!

zoom zoom

**momof3** · April 28, 2011, 11:37 AM

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Hello All,

A quick check in and a special message for DAISY45

DAISY, My dad was an alcoholic. He stopped drinking when I was about 21 years old and although it wasn't the best situation growing up, I draw my strength from him because when he died, he had over 20 years of sobriety. So, it is never too late to stop drinking and your children will learn so much from your strength and your decision to stop drinking.]

M3

**InChains** · April 28, 2011, 03:33 PM

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evening all, just a flying check in from me before i get on with my mighty to do list for the day/night. On day 4 today and still AF, hope to catch up with everybody soon

xIC

**daisy45** · April 28, 2011, 06:19 PM

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Thanks for that M3. And :goodjob: Inchains. Every day is another step forward!

**universal** · April 28, 2011, 06:59 PM

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Where's Greeny?

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