sat 28 may af daily

[bear73]

hey all - I am 8 weeks af today - so pleased.
I feel so good physically and much calmer and happier mentally, able to take things in my stride.

I have had mad week at work so not got on here much - 4 days off now, woop.
Plan to hit gym today and tomorrow and also do some gardening, need to catch up on cleaning and tidying too.No plans for today apart from that BLISS!

To anyone struggling keep focused on the day you are in, and don't worry about the future. Last night OH had glass of wine - the sound, the smell - intense cravings for 2 minutes then I carried on.

good day all to come

[greeneyes]

sat 28 may af daily

:happy:CONGRATULATIONS ON 8 WEEKS AF, BEAR!!!:happy:
You clearly are much happier for it too!

Can someone reach in here and pull me and Lav out of the suckhole, please?

Remember the visit from the friend passing through town last fall...and it was not a real positive experience for me? Well.... perhaps this is part of my negative state lately. She and husb (I only met once) are coming today for a self-invited weekend visit. I KNOW better than to allow myself to have preconceived notions of a negative experince but dammit, I can't seem to shift! Why didn't you just say no, greenie? Because I SUCK at that. Where is the gratitude aspect of this? OK, I'm going to do a grounding meditation and visualize all kinds of positive stuff and do affirmations and wave my magic wand and smudge them when they get here. (kidding about the smudge part, Lav ) Sorry to be memememememememememe, but thanks for listening anyway. (I deleted most of it :H)

Happily there is yoga this AM! Have a glorious day!

[papmom3]

sat 28 may af daily

Egg sandwich alert!

Bear!!! You Rock! CONGRATUALATIONS!!



The difference in you has been amazing!! You are solid in your journey now I believe-no more wish washy/oh poor me someone was mean to me so I'll drink/I just can't say no. You have your tools and your are using them to their fullest capabilities and you have become so strong and insiteful!! Keep up the good work-I'm so excited to be celebrating this with you! When I hit my 60 days I went to my one and only AA meeting to celebrate and they gave me a chip!! I still have it and I still remember how proud I was of myself! Be proud Bear, be Proud!!

Kas-so glad you're back in your element where you belong. Sorry about the suitcase tho-yep, send 'em back. They'll never forget a piece of equipement again!:H

Greenie-I have no idea how you're going to turn this visit into something positive but there must be a reason you didn't say no. You could try Wayne Dyer's trick and chant-"How can I serve today? How can I serve today?" You just never know what can be if your heart and mind is fully open to receive. Believe me I know how freaking hard that is to do but if anyone can do it, you and Lav can!!

Lav!!! Poor piggy swissy! Oh my I can't even imagine how painful that must have been! What are they going to do to prevent it from happening again or was it a very freak thing and WHY? did it happen? Our fur babies are soooo stoic! :l going out to you and miss Piggy.

While anyone is at it, please suck me out of this hole too. I am really trying to break everything down into manageable pieces but it's all so overwhelming. I sent off the the application for a loan modification yesterday. I must say the process is SOOOO much easier and not at all degrading like it was 2 years ago (go Obama!!). 2 years ago I couldn't even complete it. It made me feel like the most worthless human being. The questions and documentation they required were humiliating. I don't have high hopes that I'll be approved and the thought of walking away and finding a rental in the country somewhere that will accept 5 pets has crossed my mind. Does credit mean anything anymore? You get penalized for the smallest things now. I used to have excellent credit, now its only good and my CC company refuses to lower my interest rate because of it ? That's the way to do it-charge the ones having the hardest times meeting the minimum payments the hightest rate. Gotta love this country!!
I couldn't get motivated to do anything but return extremely overdue Library book-cha ching! I keep looking on line to see what I owed. I never have cash on me and there is a $5 min to pay by debit card so i was waiting for it to get up to $5. It was taking such a long time and I was tired of having all these books in the house that I obviously wasn't going to read so I headed to the library. $15 dollars later!! Didn't get a very good explanation for why the total I saw wasn't correct but my debt is paid (at least one is!!) and I limited myself to 2 new audio books for the commute and ONE, just ONE book to try to get through at nite in the next 6 weeks. I stopped next at the pet food store and got enough cat food to get them through next week and then off to the junk yard for the scissors jacks which I found, no problem. Then because I was near, Super Walmart for the tow light kit and some RV cleaning supplies. 3 hours later....... Are you kidding me? By the time I got home it was 5pm and HOT HOT HOT!! It got up to 86 degrees and it was very humid. I did nothing the rest of the evening but collapse. Until 10pm that is when I decided to change my sheets and then oh, it's pretty dusty under and behind the bed, I'll just do a quick vacuum. An hour later the back of the house is vacuumed and it's time to fall into bed and hope it cools off. It did.
New day today, unhung and have many possibilites. It's cool and overcast and I hope it stays that way but no rain. Gotta mow the tundra!!

[Lavande]

sat 28 may af daily

Good morning Abbers!

CONGRATS on your 8 AF Weeks bear
I am very happy for you & enjoying reading your positive posts!

Will someone please throw a rope for me, greenie & papmom????

I can't help but feel like this is some sort of big test! Do we really need to be tested like this? Maybe....I don't know.

Waiting for a call from the Vet so I can figure out how to handle today

Wishing everyone a good AF Saturday!

Lav

[cuckoosnest83]

sat 28 may af daily

Good morning and thank you all for your warm welcome from yesterday.

Day 3 AF for me. Last night was very rough. I left the shelter around 6:30 pm and driving home, the chatter started full time trying to convince me to stop at the liquor store. Right before I left for the shelter, I read something posted on spiritual river’s website about there is never a perfect time to quit drinking other than right now. I kept focusing on that post and was able to make it home without stopping.

DG, hope your basement is drying out and as always, thank you so much for sharing your story and for all of your encouragement.

Marshy, you posted on a thread about the first few days of going AF to treat yourself as if you have the flu and be gentle with yourself. Thank you for that advice.

Bear, congratulations on 8 weeks AF. I'm so happy for your achievement.

Greenie , Pap, and Lav, sorry you are having a rough patch. For some odd reason it seems this year has been a tough year for quite a few people I know.

Lav, I hope Maxie makes out okay. What a freak accident for her. I hate to see my pets in distress so I can well imagine how you felt when you saw her hurting.

Kas, thanks for the recommendation of the tall glass of 7-Up and OJ. It sounds very refreshing especially with these hot/humid days. I plan on going shopping today and will pick up the ingredients for this.

Jenn, I hope you were able to enjoy your alone time last night and NewGrange hope you enjoy your visit today with your granddaughter.

Det, thanks for the welcome and hope you get some rest. I feel like the walking dead because I haven’t slept well since going AF but I know that will come in time.

Again, thank you all for making me feel comfortable posting on this thread

[Doggygirl]

sat 28 may af daily


:yougo:CONGRATULATIONS BEAR ON 8 WEEKS AF!!!:yougo:


Your transformation is a joy to watch!! Enjoy your 4-day weekend.

:big strong rope: being thrown for Greenie, Lav and P3!!! :l I hope fabulous mojo returns very soon for everyone!!

Lav, that is strange with Piggy Swissy! :egad: I hope all is well. Let us know the status when you get the call. That sounded so scary reading about it!!! I would have been freaking out.

(((Greenie))) I have so been in that place where I feel cornered (by my own hand), having said "yes" to something I strongly regret. There are a lot of things I am willing to give to the universe, but for me, having house guests is a very very very very difficult thing. I hope the meditation this morning helps center you, and I hope the weekend turns out surprisingly wonderful. :l

((((P3)))) Today is a new day and I hope you have a wonderful time sprucing up your Paphut! Is a room mate an option? (I'm sure that's been asked and answered before - and for some reason my mind is blank. Being 29 - the mind is the first to go!!)

We lost a long time customer last week. We are so fortunate that we don't lose many customers but it's always hard. Even though she was a PIA and many times we talked about whether we should fire her. Oh well - that is business. Mr. Doggy was really mad, so he came up with a great idea (IMO) for a new web site capitalizing on the migration to mobile device optimized sites. As soon as he is ready to launch it I will link it here to see what you guys think - especially the doggy lovers. The service offered will be free, and we hope to build a lot of traffic and then sell advertising. One never knows until one tries with this sort of stuff.

Cuckoo, I hope you will check in today.

Det - hope you are having fun at the shoot out.

Kaslo - it's so good that you "had enough" before things started getting bad in your professional life. The cover up is impossible to maintain forever for people like us.

Jenny, Your MIL and SIL aren't fit to wipe your shoes. That is all.

Uni- hope you are doing well while holding for treatment.

Hello to anyone else I missed yesterday!!!

Since Mr. D was up all night working on his new site, he is taking a nap right now. But I will be waking him up at 9AM to go out and plant rose bushes and a few other things - hopefully we will beat the storms! I ordered some yellow knock out roses for a sunny spot left where we had to bring a big tree down last year. I think they will be really pretty there! Also orders a few other miscellaneous things to be suprised by. Will have to figure out what to do with that!

One thing is for sure. AL has NOT place in my lfe today!

DG

[cuckoosnest83]

sat 28 may af daily

DG, I think we were cross-posting.

[papmom3]

sat 28 may af daily

First of All-Missed business:

Cuckoo-
We're so glad to have you with us! We're serious about our AFness but will stick with you and support you the whole way even when you stumble!! I think you will fit it great!

Det-Bang Bang! Hope you're having a blast!! (sorry!)

Jenny-What DG said. What bioches!! Huh.

Uni-hanging in there? Keep posting!

DG-I LOVE LOVE LOVE Apps!! I can't wait to see this one! I'm so impress Mr. Doggy can do this sort of thing! A little jealous too I'm sorry to say. I know basic SQL but no other programming language and don't have the time or money to learn at this point. Sorry you lost a good customer-blessing in disquise maybe? Have fun planting!

I'm heading out to rid the yard of the Tick party. Maybe if I get the veggie garden weeded and cleaned up I might be motivated to plant a few of my favs. Tomatoe will NOT be planted. I've always felt obligated to plant them in the past even tho I hate them. Not anymore! One hill of zukes and one hill of summer squash and some beans and I'll call it a day. Maybe.

Thanks for all the hugs guys. I wish I knew what the universe was trying to tell me. A month a go I was on cloud nine thinking I would be able to choose between 2 jobs and my money problems would be softened if not over. Now I'm scared of foreclusure, need to find a part time job which is proving very difficult for some reason and am seriously having buyers remorse about the camper. Technically my sister bought it and if were to sell it I would give her the money back. Technically I only have about $400 into it. I won't make any rash decisions. I'll clean it up, make believe I can take it out whenever I want and hope that the Universe will lead me to more money and a tow vehicle I can afford. In the meantime I will not put any more money into it. I'll get anything else I need off of freecycle or the free section of craig's list and enlist family and friends to do any technical work that needs doing, like my brother wiring the tow lights and figuring out why one outlet and light don't work.
That's my plan!!

OK, off to eradicate the nasty little buggers!!

[Kaslo]

sat 28 may af daily

Congratulations Bear on 8 weeks AF, that is a great accomplishment and you should be very proud.

Congrats Cuckoosnest on Day 3..thats HUGE! Making it past the store is a sign you are starting to learn how to break out of the pattern.

Greenie, what is with self-inviters? I too have someone who swooped down on me for a few years there, with her talk non-stop blathering husb, drove me nuts. Last time I just said sorry, I wont be available to visit at all, I have a project due (my old AL excuse to not do anything but drink, was, I have a project I have to work on.... ha ha). Sorry you have to endure it, but maybe if you make a schedule for the visit that includes things YOU want to do, and lots of them. And they can tag along. Or not.

Papster and Lav, I certainly hope you two can sort out the issues, so trying. At least youse are not compounding it with our Friend...NOT. Wish I could help more than say stuff.

DG you continue to inspire me. Some of your hair raising stories of days of yore really got me thinking. Like the one about the boss and HR lady descending on you. Holy cow. Look at you now! Have fun with the rose planting. Such a hopeful thing to do. And a sunny spot is a gift.

As for moi, I have been travelling all over the province working and attending functions, and I have to say I am very glad to be home. But its a mess! The dear husband is kind of a slob, so the house is, well filthy. I will have to spend some time cleaning, something I dont mind doing actually. Since quitting AL cleaning is no longer a big chore, I actually enjoy the exercise. Its raining but I still want to get outside. I had such a nice day with my crew on two beaches (I am doing a beach vegetation study, what can I say, someone has to do it), and it was so nice to just be out among the dune grasses and rain, listening to the ospreys and vesper sparrows calling and watching the river roll by.

Here is a lagoon from one of my study areas on this river study I am working on for y'all this morning. Everyone in the US enjoy your long weekend!!

[papmom3]

sat 28 may af daily

Hey Kas, are you hiring????

[jennyneric]

sat 28 may af daily

here is your rope Greenie, LAV, and P3!

Guess who woke up on Saturday unhung! ME! Back in a min to say hi to everyone. The photo bucket thing wore me out!



OMG I did it! Woooo Help!

[Lavande]

sat 28 may af daily

Good afternoon Abbers!

Thanks for the rope jenny :H
Honestly, being sucked into the vortex of a gigantic suckhole is not fun :H

Maxie is home & OK, sleeping off the remainder of her sedation.
Turns out her lower cannine punctured the inside of her upper lip (on the side of her snout) & not the roof of her mouth as originally thought. The Vet said the tooth went in as far as it could go.........yuck! There was a lot of blood, mixed with a massive amount of saliva so it was hard to pinpoint the injury.
How did she does this???? No one knows but I think it probably has something to do with the way she drops herself on the ground (like a ton of bricks) - she doesn't move like a ballerina

Kaslo, your pictures are so beautiful & if papmom is going to work for you then I will too

I've invited my BF EB & his family over for dinner :l

[Doggygirl]

sat 28 may af daily

Hi again fABbies!

Cuckoo, we indeed were X-posting and I am SO GLAD to see you here today, and SO HAPPY FOR YOU in your victory over AL driving home last night. Having good wisdom fresh in one's mind is a help I think! I hope you keep reading all the wisdom around here and Spritual River and wherever else you are finding inspiration!

P3, it sounds like you are doing the best you can with what you have at the moment. Maybe that is what the Universe wants right now? I love how you git 'er done with tools like Freecycle and Craigslist. You have a lot of great skills! I'm doing something similar with my veg garden this year. No growing of stuff I don't really like (or like to process for cooking). No trying to grow stuff that I just don't do well with. I'm keeping it simple. We DO like tomatoes, so lots of tomato plants out. (hope the weather stops being 90 one day and 50 the next so the plants can GROW!!) Will can any tomatoes I manage to get. Also cukes for pickle making. A courgette plant. And my new strawberry patch - I just hope that takes hold so there will be strawberries next year. And my CSA share.

Kaslo, before I saw that P3 and Lav have offered to work for you, I was just thinking I would become an uninvited guest at your place. Can you tell who among us is lazy??? :H

Jenny - AWESOME "rope"!!! Good to have you with us unhung again today.

Lav I am so glad Piggy Swissy is OK!!! What a strange accident. It's amazing the sort of wierd stuff that happens with dogs. I hope you have massive fun with your BF EB tonight!!! (we need to find you an adult male BF....... so long as it's not Johhny you can have any other one you want!!)

Well, the roses and assorted other plants are all in the ground. Got that done (and a lot of weeding!) before the rain started. Now I'm goofing off. I hope the dogs don't kill all the new plants by some combo of peeing on them and digging them up. Sigh. That sort of thing is a real challenge around here.

Is M3 around? I need to ask her about my knee.

Is this the weekend LVT is on her frenzy agenda trip to DC? Hope you are having fun LVT!!

Uni??? Shouldn't you be checking in here everyday before you leave? :b&d:

Hi to all others!

One thing is for sure!!!!

DG

PS- Day 10 sugar free. :yougo:

[papmom3]

sat 28 may af daily

Well, it's been a very tough long day and the ticks get a days reprieve. This morning I took down the wire fencing and pulled out all the dead brush from my perennial garden, cut back the huge butterfly bush and took out some dead stuff from the veggie garden. made a trip to the yard waste center with 3 bags full. After lunch instead of mowing and trimming, I decided to put up the willow fencing that I got from my neighbor up the street and which sat in the yard getting moldy and yucky since November. This went up at the rear of my perennial garden to block off my neighbor's yard and her 2 dogs that make my dogs go wild if they're out at the same time. Not sure it's really going to work as it's somewhat see through. But it is 6 feet tall so LM can't get over the teeny 3 foot fence that separates the 2 properties. I had 3 six foot tall tomatoe stakes that I attached the fencing to with very colorful cable ties and then tied off the fencing to the smaller chainlink. I needed a 4th stake but didn't have one but did have a weed ash tree growing near my veggie patch so I cut that down, timmed it up and used it as a stake. I'm not sure my neighbor is going to be too thrilled when she see all this but I really don't care. It was a very dirty, smelly, painful job and I got way too much sun. I no longer have the veggie fencing in front of the perennial garden and although it makes the yard look so much bigger I'm not sure how I feel about it. I'm not sure if any of my plants are dog safe. I also trampled a ton of spiderwort, phlox, goldenrod and some other plants and I really don't care. I might just pull it all up anyway it's so weedy and over grown. Tomorrow I'll look at it with fresh eyes. I didn't see any ticks on me throughout this whole process and so far none on the dogs but I just know they're out there!!
I'm exhausted, headachy and dehydrated. Over a year ago I would have capped off a day like this with a bottle of wine (didn't I deserve "a" drink after all that work?) and suffered a major hangover the next day due to the dehydration. Thank god for this AF life!!

[Doggygirl]

sat 28 may af daily

:lP3. That sounds like a killer day. I bet you will love reflecting on your handiwork tomorrow.

Ticks. Ughh. That is all.

DG