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    #46
    Joyful June - Week 2

    Good morning all...

    I have an interview on Friday, I talked to the human resources person and the job sounds interesting, but probably not for me. I would be chained to a desk all day on the phone. I had a job like that in the past and after a year thought I would lose my mind. However, regular hours and benefits are a perk, and maybe a necessity?

    Another topic I would like to bring up this week is risk. Most things in my life that I have that I treasure, were the result of taking a risk, not playing it safe. Going out of my comfort zone, trying new things, new experiences. Maybe failing at first, or changing the original path, but continuing till I got it right. Some things worked out, others did not, or not the way I expected. Being in a relationship, getting an education, having kids, moving, changing jobs, going AF, quitting smoking, even trying a new hairdo. It is all a risk. How about you, what risks have you taken that have panned out or not?

    Lav, I too am left handed and feel proud of it, as it is part of being unique, who I am. I wonder about your view that everyone just got As without studying. That has not been my experience at all. I though that only about 2% of the population is that smart, the rest of us have to work our butts off too. Look at Rusty studying for her exam for weeks, I did the same for my work too. I feel that it is our view of things that is so important. I decorated my bedroom in 2008, spent about $600 dollars on stuff and it was sooooo worth it. I am enjoying the decor to this day. I love the colors and comfort. So have fun creating a new space for yourself. I feel that this is a risk and a big step for you. Creating your own space and accepting or making the decision that your husband is out of there and you are moving on. How wonderful that your daughter wants to be part of it, I think that is symbolic in some way.

    Chill, how exciting for you, remember, everything is working in divine right order. Can't wait till you have more time to tell us more.

    Dew, I really appreicate your comments about your views, I feel close to you in that I also need time to recharge and reconnect during my time off.

    Mylife, so great to have you on this thread. I agree that exercising in the morning is the only way for me too. I just cannot exercise at night. Indulge your musical gifts with a guitar. I love the music and find it a great comfort and necessary part of my life.

    Papmom, it is fun to watch sports games and root for a team.

    To all, have a great AF day.
    Formerly known as redhibiscus

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      #47
      Joyful June - Week 2

      Good Morning Friends,

      My apologies for not addressing everyone on this post just now....will add more later when I get home from work.

      Star-I'm glad you decided against the desk job. I'm with you....ugh....I had a job like that once and I thought I would go bananas! You asked about my best friend. She was a lot older than I was but she died of breast cancer in 2003. I was so angry with her for YEARS after she died because about six months before she died, she admitted she had known about this lump for FIVE years but didn't do anything about it because she was scared. For about 9 years, we were inseparable, especially on the weekends...going to the mall, out to lunch, taking walks, and her death left a HUGE HUGE HUGE void in my life. Regarding risk, I have always been a risktaker...I changed careers 4 times in 13 years, and the biggest risk I've ever taken is starting my own business and developing it, and maintaining it...all on my own. However, it has been the most rewarding move I've ever made, financially and personally. Now, I have to find ways to enjoy my life when I'm not working. Here's my opinion on risk....you won't grow spiritually, financially, and emotionally unless you take risks to improve....but a few people I know hate change and are too afraid to take a chance. I also find that people who are not risktakers are pretty boring. Ok, time to get off my soapbox.

      Chill-I hope the job works out for you!

      Lav-I'll just keep you guessing. My housekeeper is 27, covered with tattoos all over his neck, and wears gold neckchains. I tell him, "Sporting your Mr. T Starter Set today, aren't you?":H Regarding painting the bedroom and the new furniture, GO FOR IT! It will help you heal. You may remember me telling you that my brother's wife left him....well, surprise surprise....there was a 3rd party involved....someone who works at my brother's company. I saw my brother at the wedding and he looks horrible. He's lost 45 pounds, he's gaunt and he's hurting but his therapist told him, "if you want closure, have her come and pick up ALL her stuff and get it out of your house. All it does is add to your pain to see memories of her everywhere." My brother also is going to do some remodeling and I think it will be good for him. I'm also glad that he is seeing a therapist. How many men are willing to say, "I need help. I'm hurting." I'm proud of him.

      Mylife-great to see you! I agree with everyone here. Get the guitar....it will be relaxing. My ex-beau, at the age of 60, decided to start taking violin lessons.

      Dew-I enjoyed reading about your skiing trip....very interesting.

      Ok, I'm off to the gym. Have a wonderful AF Thursday and I will be back!

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        #48
        Joyful June - Week 2

        Hi everyone

        Just a quick check in to say hello. Dont have much time to post but enjoy reading all your posts, this is such an interesting thread.

        Lav - good luck with the decorating. What colour scheme are you thinking about? My girls are great experimenting with different colour schemes. Lemon and lilac, mint green/purple. My room is a golden cream and paprika which is a burnt orange colour. Have two walls of each.

        Daughter is finishing her exams today. Will be so glad when it is all over.

        Have a great day everyone.

        Rustop

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          #49
          Joyful June - Week 2

          Morning all!

          Clouds outside my window today but that's OK, the veggies will appreciate some rain! The zucchini has been pretty darn good! Can't wait for some tomatoes to go along with them

          I know I sounded like a giant moaner yesterday, sorry!
          I have worked very hard for everything I've achieved in my life & I don't regret any of it - I don't. I've never been able to understand the 'inequity', the roadblocks, the differences in people I guess - we're all working toward the same goals such as health, wealth & happiness. I really am realitively easy to please & don't want anything unusual. The FULL MOON just knocks my socks off & Cyn knows it :H :H Please just ignore my babbling now

          I'm not going to rush into my redecorating project but I'm definitely going to get it done. I think it will bring me a lot of emotional relief & I really need that. I'm thinking about relaxing shades of blue which will be nice as my bedroom is still the original builder's off white right now.

          I have been blessed with enough work to keep me busy today & tomorrow so I'll get to it now. Have a terrific AF Thursday everyone.

          Lav
          AF since 03/26/09
          NF since 05/19/09
          Success comes one day at a time :thumbs:

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            #50
            Joyful June - Week 2

            Hello Guys,

            Just checking in again to this interesting thread! Okay, Star, you are hitting the point again with Risk! When I think back the most rewarding things in my life happened when I took risks that I now think of as HUGE. I think I have become risk averse in my old age (I'm 48 now) and maybe that's the problem! I have moved from one side of the US to the other a couple of times with no money and a vague plan and things turned out great each time. I think at some point I just got too comfortable and that's when things started to go downhill. I used to change jobs at least every 2 to 3 years and now I've been with my company for 10 years. Okay, the company has been bought out several times, but still I have not moved into anything really new for quite some time.

            Rusty, I have given a lot of thought to starting my own business lately also. The problem is, that I have two role models in my life who had their own businesses and failed miserably. Okay, one of them is still struggling, but she makes it appear to be pure hell... - anyway it scared me. Also, the Health Insurance thing has held me back...but I'm still dwelling on it.

            Yes, I have definitely decided to get a guitar. I'll let you all know when I have my first concert. Really, I have this vision of learning to play classical or spanish guitar pieces...we will see!!

            Have a wonderful AF day everyone!

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              #51
              Joyful June - Week 2

              Where is everyone tonight?

              Nice to see you again mylife & I'll be the first in line for tockets to your concert

              Had an incredibly busy day but got a lot done & still had dinner with the grandkids
              The little ones are changing almost daily - so great to see.

              The cloudy skies of this morning are now dumping a whole lot of rain. Guess I'll be weeding the garden this weekend.

              Have a good night!
              Lav
              AF since 03/26/09
              NF since 05/19/09
              Success comes one day at a time :thumbs:

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                #52
                Joyful June - Week 2

                Good morning everyone

                Absolutely lashing rain here. What is it with this weather? Still got my walk so thats always a good start to the day.

                Star - Good luck with the interview. What will be will be. You are in a good place right now. Regarding risk, I have found that it is usually worth it but very scary beforehand. I hate the stage of deciding what you are going to do, weighing everything up. Once I have made the decision, I usually feel much better. As I get older I am much more inclined not to worry, what will be, will be. Taking it one day at a time is good for everyday life not just drinking. I am not really looking forward to the next two months but rather than dwell on it I am adopting the ODAT approach. In the past I worried, drank and all in all felt 100 times worse.

                Mylife - welcome. Good luck with the guitar. Having been very busy the past number of years rearing my girls I am now looking forward to the next stage of my life and getting back to doing all the things that I enjoy. The younger one has 2 more years in school but I am already doing my wish list.

                Lav - Feel free to have a good moan any time at all. Personally I think you have the patience of a saint. I so admire how you have turned your life around and are there for your kids and now your grandkids. They appreciate it as well, you can tell by the amount of time they spend with you.

                Everyone else big hello. Exams now over so I have two teens underfoot for the next 2 months!!! Hope you all have a great week-end.

                Rustop

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                  #53
                  Joyful June - Week 2

                  Early morning thunderstorm but no rain!
                  'Breakfast, every hour, it could save the world.' Tori Amos

                  "Turn a stumbling block into a stepping stone."

                  AF since 23rd December 2010 - progession is paramount! :truce:

                  "don't be sad because it's over, smile because it happened!"

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                    #54
                    Joyful June - Week 2

                    Good Friday morning everyone!

                    Lav - Great idea re-doing the bedroom - I bet it will make a huge difference! I'm considering getting new furniture as well - we've had the same stuff for 25+ years - time for a change!

                    Rustop - been there with 2 teens in the house for the summer. I was always expecting (by some mircale) to come home and find the house perfectly clean, dishes put away, clothes picked up - DIDN'T HAPPEN but now that I only have one left at home, I'm learning to just accept it cause I know my time with her living at home is probably short-lived.

                    Cassia - good to see you!

                    Now as to this whole risk issue, I'd have to say I am not a risk taker - been at the same job for 28 years - same husband for 28 years - not much has changed - feeling like maybe I need to challenge myself a little. I too would love to learn to play the guitar but don't know if I want to invest all that money if it ends up just sitting in the corner somewhere. Would also like to buy a bike - think that's next on my list.

                    Happy Friday to Star, Dew, Mylife, Papmom, Rusty - scary story about your friend - one thing I'm not afraid of is going to the doctor if I think something's wrong. Found a lump many years ago and luckily it turned out benign but it's very sad that your friend knew about it and didn't have it checked out.

                    Well - hope everyone makes it a great AF day!
                    Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

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                      #55
                      Joyful June - Week 2

                      Good morning to all....

                      Great feedback about risks, I appreciate all the discussion. Writing it out gives me time to think about what I want to say, so let's keep the conversation going.

                      I have decided NOT to go on the interview, I am calling and cancelling this morning. There is no way I could be chained to a desk all day.....I talked to three different people at length, and two said, that does not sound like you at all. The other person said,what would it take, moneywise, to take that job, and I said no amount of money. So, after thinking through that part, I am going to stay where I am at. I love the four day work week anyway, and so, that is that.

                      Rusty, I am so sorry about your friend, what a loss for you. Good friends like that do not come around too often in a lifetime. We are all such good friends on this thread, too bad we don't live closer so we could socialize. The amount of risk you have taken is amazing, appears you had to do it for yourself. I appreciate your input about being chained to a desk, it is just not for you or me.

                      Chill, what is up? Looking forward to the latest from the lass in Scotland.

                      Lavande, I think it is great that you feel comfortable venting when you need to. Sounds like you had a great productive day, filled with all kinds of activities.

                      Rustop, yes, you will be busy with them home and underfoot. I remember those days, sleeping late and staying up even later. What a blessing you can be home to supervise, I always arranged my life to be home most of the time as my kids could be up to who knows what!!!!

                      Greetings to Cassia, mylife and all to come. Have a great AF day.
                      Formerly known as redhibiscus

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                        #56
                        Joyful June - Week 2

                        Jolie-The Freecycle Network. signing up is free and you won't believe what you can find on it!! People will give away anything!!!
                        New Birthday: May 8, 2010

                        "Because dwelling from, not upon, the space you want to inherit is the fastest way to change absolutely everything."[/i]-The Universe

                        KO the Beast!!

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                          #57
                          Joyful June - Week 2

                          No sun again

                          Happy Friday everyone!
                          I have a bit of work left to do then it's me time
                          The first thing I want to do is track down my cell phone - where the hell did I leave it yesterday???

                          Wishing everyone a Fantastic AF Friday!

                          Lav
                          AF since 03/26/09
                          NF since 05/19/09
                          Success comes one day at a time :thumbs:

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                            #58
                            Joyful June - Week 2

                            Good Morning June Friends!

                            A cheery hello from sunny Wisconsin and TGIF!!

                            Rustop-I love how you described the colors in your home...so warm and inviting. Two teens underfoot for 2 months? You made me smile.

                            Jolie-I think it's great you've been married 28 years and have had the same job. :goodjob:
                            I hope you get a bike. I'm going to go look for one tomorrow.

                            Lav-My Latino housekeeper is working on Sunday. Would you like us to Skype you so we can have a 3-way? Chat, that is!:H Hope you find your phone. Maybe it will ring so you can find it. Try the chicken coop. hahahah!

                            Star-good job for turning down the desk job.

                            Papmom...you have to be the most resourceful person here to find Jolie a link for her to buy a bike.

                            I'm working a long day today then having dinner with my mom. I think we will be rehashing the wedding.

                            Next week, I have four days off in a row. I will be car shopping. Enterprise Rent-A-Car offers great deals on their used rental cars. I'm looking at trading my SUV in for a 2010 Ford Explorer.

                            Have a great AF Friday, everyone!!!

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                              #59
                              Joyful June - Week 2

                              Thanks for the offer Rusty but I don't think I'm in the mood for a 3-way :H :H

                              Found my cell phone on the bathroom counter underneath yesterday's clothes.
                              That should teach me to clean up after myself........

                              My daughter worked for Enterprise the first year out of college. She wasn't thrilled because they wanted her to shovel snow in a business suit & heels They do have good car sales though - hope you get what you want!

                              There's been several quick storms here today but the sun pops out in between so I guess that's good. I'm heading over to help my DIL early tomorrow morning. She's participating in a Boro wide yard sale. She did pretty well last year & wanted to get rid of more stuff this year. I'll likely chain EB to my wrist so he doesn't wander off

                              Have we seen our bus driver Sooty lately???
                              Seems like we are missing quite a few fellow travelers.
                              AF since 03/26/09
                              NF since 05/19/09
                              Success comes one day at a time :thumbs:

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                                #60
                                Joyful June - Week 2

                                Apologies for my absence, I have had one hell of a week!

                                Only got back from London on Tuesday evening and since then I have had 5 interviews and another two scheduled for the beginning of the week. The interviews have gone well but the concentration required has been intense and exhausting. I have a hectic weekend planned catching up with friends and family and need some chill time badly!!
                                "In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer ."
                                AF - JAN 1st 2010
                                NF - May 1996

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