sun 19 june af daily

[bear73]

hi all - still here sober and happy - with a cold - but sober and happy.
Off to the gym in a bit for a steam and sauna and workout.Then visiting two friends - need a bit of house tidying and grocery buying too.

Not much to say really - AF and happy - reading rational recovery book - very interesting - I like the approach as well as the SMART. I know we're all different but this suits me and my brain more than AA approach.Have a great sober day everyone.

[Doggygirl]

sun 19 june af daily

Good morning fABbies and thanks Bear for starting things off today. The important thing is that you find whatever works for YOU to stay sober, IMO.

Happy Fathers Day!!!

P3, enjoyed reading about your day with family and niece. It's great you are so close to her!

Det, good that you enjoyed the shooting. Bloody hands? Oy. But I know you like to live on the edge. Our brains are wild places, eh?

Nelz, soda out of a beer bottle?? Whatever works!!! :H Pop in here more often why don't ya?

Hello to everyone else that I missed from yesterday.

Today I'm going to weight watchers, then to the gym for whatever torture class is being offered today, and then maybe to a farmer's market. I went to visit my own Dad on Thursday since today is also me and Mr. Doggy's 13th wedding anniversary. Not sure what we are doing - if weather permits we might go fly kites or something.

One thing is for sure.....I'm mighty grateful to be sober and unhungover today!

Wishing a good day to all fABbies whatever you are doing.

DG

[greeneyes]

sun 19 june af daily

Fabbies!

Good threads the past couple days!
M3, glad the party went fine - eye opener at the end, eh? Have a summer vacation planned?
P3, love your awesome resiliance!
Det, glad you're back on track ~ "home on the range" eh? :H
Jen - I agree that caution be advised with the pot. I am accutely aware of my addictive tendancies.
And inchy, there is no judgement
DG, happy anni!! Hope you get to fly kites - that sounds like a blast! I go see my dad today. i need a big tally ho from marshy I have to go back to the store on the way there because I ate his ice cream last night. BAD greenie!!:H (see remark about addictive tendancies above)
Marshy I was impressed that your mom changed her mind - her feelings must change from time to time to time in this unfamiliar territory and I think it's good she's in touch with
that and doing what she's comfortable with
AA did you do any racing? My swimming has fallen off - must get back to it
bear - thrilled to see you doing so well!
nelz - I'm sure there's stranger things than sparkling water in AF beer bottle. Maybe :H
Lav, crying and whining at the yard sale.. LOL!
kazlo, how'd your day turn out? I couldn't get a take on how you were feeling about it.
LVT, phew.. what an experience for your son! You really hit the ground running after DC! Zoom award!
Loppy, really good to see you back posting. Hope your tapering is going as planned.

Think I'll go to the river before it gets hot. I'd like to ride my bike , but my wrist is really bothering me. I need to figure out what to do about that.

So, have a superb sunday!

[Lavande]

sun 19 june af daily

Good Sunday morning Abbers!

Happy Father's Day too!

bear, good to hear you are on track again. You seem to catch a lot of colds ~ I firmly believe in the power of Vitamin C (although research says it doesn't really work)

Happy Anniversary DG! Hope you two can find something fun to do :H

Greenie - what's up with your wrist? Have you had it X-rayed? I'm on a steady diet of Arthritis strength Tylenol every 8 hrs - keeps me moving along with Glucosamine 2X/day. I really prefer Motrin but can't take much of it these days (doesn't mix well with my B/P med). Hope you figure it out & get relief soon

Looks like rain on the way again so I probably should direct my energy into moving some dust & dog hair around in my house - lovely.

Wishing everyone a wonderful AF Sunday!
Lav

[momof3]

sun 19 june af daily

Good Morning All,

Quiet cloudy day here on the home front.

Had a fun end-of-the year celebration for my Girl Scout Troop last night. I'm still feeling unsettled about Friday evening though. I have been very careful about not forming relationships with heavy drinkers (I used to actively seek them out so I could blend in) so how did this happen? Perhaps I'm overthinking it.

We were going to go white water rafting today for Father's Day but I think we will do something less ambitious like the pool. Over the past year, I have been very interested and involved in research related to the emerging field of NeuroLeadership and I am offerring a leadership development course next week that incorporates many of the findings and concepts.

NeuroLeadership Institute

It is very exciting but daunting at the same time since some of the managers in the class are scientists. It will be 12 hour days for me next week. Hubby has kid duty.

Happy Anni DG. Kite flying sound romantic and playful (and chemical-free)!!!

Neltz and InChains. Happy to see you here. Stay close to this forum. There are lots of great folks her and our desire to live a life free of alcohol is contagioius.

Greenie, Hope that wrist feels better soon.

Hope Universal is doing well in rehab.

Where's AFM these days?

M3

[Kaslo]

sun 19 june af daily

Good morning Fabstinestas and Fabineros....

Bear I must have a read of that, too. I am looking for something, anything, that makes sense of this whole thing.

DG Happy Anniversary, have a nice day.

Greenie a wrist injury is a pain, and difficult to heal, its suprizing how important that joint is. And in answer to your Q, it was more the whole week...lol! As a home based independant science consultant, and a female I sometimes am the recipient of some aggression and mysogyny by other senior male consultants in large firms, government and even the client base wanting someone to kick about and denigrate, with no consequences for them. Its something I havent gotten used to, but at least I recognize it for what it is. Its still a drag. So I took some shit this last week. Have to get over it. It never pays to do anything about it, believe me. Thanks for asking. you are a sweetie.

Lav, I too suffer from arthritis (another reason to quit drinking, it interferes with Arthrotec...have you ever tried that...? and given up because it wrecks your stomach?) > I may try that again with the Glucosamine chondritin MSA thing again. Ole Arthur he is a pain isnt he?

Edited to extend greetings to M3 who posted above...tell us more about neuroleadership...? BTW I think ALs have somewhat obsessive personalities, so trying to still figure out what happened with the two pissers at the end of your evening is possibly you just still working through it. I would have had a hard time with that, to the point where I am not sure those two would be welcome again, but then I wonder how many times I made a total ass of myself in someone elses place...alhough I was mainly cryptic and secretive about my little issue with the fluid. To the extent that at parties I was the one who abstained and did the driving. Almost all of my friends do not know. Maybe one or two. but then maybe a lot more than I think.

So everyone have a great AFF day. I for one have dusted off my bike, but with two ceramic hips I am not keen on shattering them. So it wont be a very challenging ride down one of the mountains here or anything.

[greeneyes]

sun 19 june af daily

My wrist....remember when I fell on the ice in Jan? The elbow and shoulder got better but the wrist just below the thumb is hanging on. I know I need to quit caffeine, and follow an anti-inflamatory diet and some other stuff, but I'm such a shrew about giving stuff up. Well DUH! what a shocker, eh?? I'll do some ultrasound and cold laser on it and work on the coffee and diet. And I did get a brace last week to keep it straight, but it's still in the box.

Dr. M3 - awesome about you offering a course! What's the setting? About the pissers..it could have been just a one-time thing. Give them the benefit and let it go. :crowned:

Kazlo, smart of you to not take on other's "stuff". Recognizing it for what it is often times is enough. If we could just leave it alone after that, eh?

Been sending uni postcards - I hope she's getting them. Hopefully AFM is happily rolling along with her new sober friends. Would like to hear it though.

Ok... moving in the direction of father's day.....:sulk:

[InChains]

sun 19 june af daily

Hey all, having a rough day today, fathers day is never good round here anyway, my brothers taken it hard and started smoking pot again recently to cope with relationship and daddy issues, I caught him today but there's no persuading him its a bad idea. He doesn't know about my own addiction issues, nobody other than my fiancee does IRL actually, I sometimes wish I could explain to him why I know whats best for him right now...

speaking of my fiancee he is currently away for a week, i'm not a very sociable person but without him here it's very easy for me to just slip into passing the time we'd usually spend together (thats at least 5 hours a day) drinking. It's gonna be a rough week.

DG: congratulations on your anniversary! hope it you and other half had a lovely day
Happy fathers day to all the dads out there

xIC

[Doggygirl]

sun 19 june af daily

Hi again fABbies!! So far today, I have been to Weight Watchers, Step Aerobics and the Farmer's Market. I have weeded the garden and am reviewing some AA stuff in preparation for first meeting with new sponsee tomorrow. Mr. Doggy has been working for a client and has also retrieved the two dogs who exited a large hole in the fence.

No kite flying or other anniversary shenanigans yet. But there is still daylight! :H :h

Inchy, I found it helpful to think ahead for situations where I might be at a loss of what to do besides drink, and make a list. That way I didn't have to think when I would get a craving - I could just grab my list and pick something. There was everything on my list from clean a closet to visit a museum. And spend a lot of time here reading and posting.

Only you can know whether it is the right time to talk openly with your brother.

Kaslo I am so sorry you had such a rough week last week. It's hard getting kicked around by men in our business worlds "just because they can." Chicken poops. Enjoy a little biking!

Greenie bean, I hope your mojo is fully back soon, and that your wrist heals, and that together we can keep our mitts off the ice cream. :l Hope your Dad afternoon goes well.

Wow M3. You are one smart cookie. I can't wait to look at that link. I hope you find time this week to pamper yourself at the end of those long days!

Lav, I hope you end up doing something more fun than dusting.

OK - back to my books.

DG

[Determinator]

sun 19 june af daily

Arrrriba ABatistas across the wild pampas!

sore and happy today slept in til 7:45 which as a marvelous treat.

Greeneyes, from my research I don't think there is much that quitting coffee will do for your joints, but sugar as well as grain and legume-based lectins are HUGE causes of systemic inflammation.

Kaz, I'm thinkin about pulling the trigger on a Canon T3i since it has the HD video as well as 18mp CMOS sensor. thoughts?

Doggygirl, you are totally kicking bootie! way to go

Ichains hang in there! sometimes all you can do is just set a good example and be there for your brother if he reaches out.

well, just to be weird I made Greek meatballs and garlic-yogurt sauce for breakfast. yummmmy

be well everyone and all to come

[greeneyes]

sun 19 june af daily

The visit wasn't that bad! I must learn to raise my expectations - or stop the pre-visit negative imaginative escapades.

I think my mojo is doing pretty good! I'd been having energy work done and come to find out the 3rd day is supposedly a toughie - which was my stabby day. Feeling pretty even keel since. Normal enough to go to Home Depot and look at fixtures and paint. Arrrrggghhh!! Stuff like that is agony for me! But I did it. so good on me.

Det, thanks for the input - I don't remember where I got coffee from. I'll be happy if I imagined it. I was thinking no caffeine, no niteshades - maybe it was arthritis I was looking at.

OK I looked. It was arthritis I was looking at. I remember my hands bothering me a long while back and I eliminated caffeine, dairy, nightshades and sugar. Did some other things along with and relsoved the problems, one of which was trigger thumb and I cancelled the surgery appt. It's completely gone. But alas, I am slack again in things I should avoid so I must put the shrew back in the closet.

[scottish lass]

sun 19 june af daily

OK - trying again...Day 1 all over - why can't I learn from past experiences, it is just no good...Would love to get a month under my belt..

April 22 days
May 19 days
June 13 so far...

[momof3]

sun 19 june af daily

Kaslo, You're onto something with the OCD tendencies. I can get obsessive or "over think" things.

Greenie, Thanks for the "let it go" advice; very helpful.

For those who asked. Neuroleadership is the application of what we know about the brain's physiology and applying it to the field of management and leadership development. I'm most interested in problem solving/decision making (particularly in crisis situations) and conflict management. Alot of my work is with first responders and law enforcement types. Being able to problem solve, make sound decisions, and work through conflict in high stakes/stressful situations is critical. There is lots of research on what happens to the brain in situations such as these and how to manage your own and others' behavior. The group I'm working with this week are not first responders. They are government workers who oversee public health policy initiatives, medical research (e.g., cancer, HIV/Aids), and health programs to name a few.

Scottish Lass, Keep coming back and keep trying. We have all been where you are. For me, I finally got sick of having so many "day ones" and I honestly didn't know how many more I had in me.

Inchy, sorry you are so out of sorts. My brother was (perhaps still is) addicted to pain killers. I told him about my drinking problem a few years ago. It really helped for us to talk about it since my father was an alcoholic. He is constantly in and out of psychiatric hospitals and rehab. It is very sad that he has not found a way out of the prison he is in. I am feeling melancholy over my dad today too. Can't believe it has been 12 years since he died.

Greenie, Happy to hear that you are feeling better and have an understanding of why you were out of sorts. What kind of energy work did you have done?

Hello DG, Lav, Det, Bear.

Off to have dinner and then to bed early.

[Determinator]

sun 19 june af daily

Mom3, how fascinating. my clients and training partners being law enforcement/hostage negotiators/first responders etc could really use help in that department. sadly they just don't get enough training time and/or budget.

Scottish Lass, hang tight and post often ok? whats on your mind?

[greeneyes]

sun 19 june af daily

Inchy, have you a plan for the time your finace is gone? That would be helpful!

Scottish lass, how about your plan?

M3 is was physical energy work. Domancic Method of Bioenergy to be specific. I could actually feel it happening, but the jury is out on the end result (knee).

Bed.