Hello

[merry]

Hi all
back from camping
Now have 62 days af still coming to terms with it nerves give me curry and can't concentrate or get motivated to do anything even thou I have heaps to do
hopefully it will wear off
but I'm still sober thats the main thing
had to point out to hubby he didn't like my drinking (gave him the excuse to blame me for everything ) but as I have been sober his attitude was still the same weather I drank or not I guess the reason I started drinking is still there and I look at things differently being sober where before I would just have a drink
I find it hard to socialise when others are drinking and can't relax ( I guess my body or mind is still trying to get used to the idea of not drinking or I'm frightened I'll get tempted and give in )
thanks everyone for being there and for the help

[Lavande]

Hello

merry,

Great to hear from you & Congrats on 62 AF days - that's huge

What you just said about your husband........
that's exactly what I went through! He wasn't happy when I was drinking & he wasn't happy when I quit. Now he's just gone......it was his choice, not mine.
Give yourself time to get used to living AF ~ doesn;t happen overnight but it will happen. Think of how great you feel now, hangover free, guilt free, etc. I figured it was going to take a bit of time to get to know myself as a non-drinking, non-smoking adult & it did but the wait was worthwhile

I'm very happy for you & wish you continued success

Lav

[FlyAway]

Hello

Congrats on 2 months AF! :cheering

[Doggygirl]

Hello

Congrats Merry on your 62 days AF and also your success at staying AF on your camping trip! I'm sure that wasn't always easy, but you proved to yourself that you CAN DO IT!!

There was a lot of shifting dynamic in my marriage too after I quit. Even 3 years later I am still growing and learning and building confidence in myself as a person and as a wife. I am thankful that in my case, my husband DOES want to be in a healthy, happy marriage and so we both work on it. If my situation were more like Lav's, where I was willing to work on it but he wasn't....well....a "relationship" of the quality I want required both parties to be actively involved.

This will all sort itself out in time. I think the important thing is to keep working on moving YOU in a positive direction.

I'm no longer a door mat due to my guilt and shame over drinking, that's for sure.

DG